FabSwingers.com forum: Blocking people without saying hi is it rude?

By *awtymarky OP Man
over a year ago

chester

Here is a question

You put time and effort into writing a email to a profile you're interested in. The person deletes your mail then blocks you without telling you why. Do you think this is rude as I do.

I don't mind the mail being deleted as I take it as a sign of "no not interested" but when a person blocks they have to tab to a different page and then block. Which is premeditated and dam right rude in my book.

I only block people if they are offensive to me not because I am not their type.

What's other people's thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's their way of saying thanks but no thanks.

I don't read it as rude, just that we're not for those particular people. Onwards to the next victim

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thats life as they say, forget them and move on

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

You sure you haven't repeat messaged?

Visited the profile multiple times?

Most likely they're just not interested.

The block button is a tool, just take it for what it is that they never want to meet you for whatever reason so are saving further contact attempts.

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

is that not the way of the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here is a question

You put time and effort into writing a email to a profile you're interested in. The person deletes your mail then blocks you without telling you why. Do you think this is rude as I do.

I only block people if they are offensive to me not because I am not their type.

What's other people's thoughts?"

No, it is not rude. Blocking is a tool the site provides. We use it so that we have no further contact with people in whom we are not interested.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

not rude at all....

just because you thought you may be for them.... it doesn't mean they thought the same....

i don't get what the difference between a block, or no reply, or "yey, woohoo, you go champ but not for us" is....... a no is a no is a no... and so many people trying to break it down or change their minds its like a fixation

i question the fragility of those people who take rejection or a no so personally.... if the "small stuff" wounds them so badly i hate to see how they cope with the "biggies" in life.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

If they're not interested, blocking ensures you won't message them again in the future. It's just how they run their profile. Don't take it personally, just ignore and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its utterly pointless trying to analyse the behaviour of site members that I'm not going to meet....

If someone blocks me .... I couldn't careless .....

It's not like my sex life will come to a juddering halt just because someone blocks me without providing a reason.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We block most people who msg and we're not interested in. Saves them messaging again and continually turning them down. There is nothing rude in it, this is just an internet site for goodness sake. Whats the problem with being blocked by people anyway? The fact you can no longer perv their pics?

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By *emini1637Woman
over a year ago

Warwickshire

I will do this if the person has messaged me more than once after I've politely told them I'm not interested from their first contact!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've blocked more people from things they've said in the forums than from messages being sent to me.

I use Fab to suit my needs, nobody else's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use Fab to suit my needs, nobody else's."

Spot-on.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's to stop people like you repeat messaging. You were obviously going to message again or you wouldn't have know you were blocked. I don't personaly do it but I've read enough posts on the matter

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

"I've blocked more people from things they've said in the forums."

I never bother with this, it's very unlikely I'll ever meet anybody from the forums due to distance etc. And blocking doesn't stop you seeing their posts.

I take each thread on its own. One thread I may fully disagree with a person while on another we could share the same view. It's all relative to the subject in the thread.

I can understand why somebody else would though if they meet people off the forums.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

People will run their fab accounts the way that suits them. Because you don't understand it and because they aren't doing what you do, or you want them to do, doesn't make it rude.

You decide to spend your time writing a message, you're not owed anything because of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

block block block

we all do it for various reasons, simple move on and forget

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've blocked more people from things they've said in the forums than from messages being sent to me.

I use Fab to suit my needs, nobody else's."

This.

Oh and you don't have to tab to another page. The option to block is there as you read it.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

"Here is a question

You put time and effort into writing a email to a profile you're interested in. The person deletes your mail then blocks you without telling you why. Do you think this is rude as I do.

I only block people if they are offensive to me not because I am not their type.

What's other people's thoughts?"
I do this a lot time op. It is not rude in any way, in many cases the opposite as someone has messaged me without bothering to read the profile first and expects a reply. You're owed nothing on here when you choose to send a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've blocked more people from things they've said in the forums.

I never bother with this, it's very unlikely I'll ever meet anybody from the forums due to distance etc. And blocking doesn't stop you seeing their posts.

I take each thread on its own. One thread I may fully disagree with a person while on another we could share the same view. It's all relative to the subject in the thread.

I can understand why somebody else would though if they meet people off the forums. "

It's really because I know I wouldn't want to meet them so it stops them being able to message me.

I've met a couple of people through the forums too & become friends with others too

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By *onyneMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

It cn lead to feeling a little crestfallen, for sure, but there are so many people here who don't seem to accept even the nicest of 'no thanks' messages, and so some people [coupes and single women in the main, I would think] use the delete and block system as a matter of course...You can see why this would happen if you have had abuse in the past

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do this. Normally when it's a fella offering me something (my filters are open to get messages from forum people).

Interestingly I had a lady block me yesterday when I wasn't responding enthusiastically enough to her messages.

But as people say, we all run our profile as we like, so don't take offence or try to understand someone else's motives; just accept and move on.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I tend to block men who have cock avatars if they message me. My profile says I will. I'm not interested in chatting to a cock.

I suspect that because plenty of guys with cock avatars still message me, they didn't bother to read my profile, or they ignored it. They probably don't know why when I block them and may well think I am rude. I don't really care. I think they're rude for not reading my profile and messaging me anyway.

My profile says in 2 places that I won't meet smokers. Loads of smokers message me anyway. Why should I not simply block them?

Are you absolutely sure you read the profiles of these people and fit what they were looking for? Or did you match partially and decide to try anyway?

Some men see what they want to see in a profile, (or don't read it at all), and message people who are clearly not looking for them. They probably don't know why they get blocked either.

The bottom line is I don't have to justify to anyone else why I'm not interested in them, or how I run my account here.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

As a couple, we always reply to messaged... and to date we've never had a rude response to a "no thanks". However unlike most of the single ladies, we don't get many messages (rarely more than 2 or 3 a day) so responding to them all us not a major task. If we got 20-30 a day, we'd have to take a different tack. Add to that the fact that some guys respond with malicious abuse when they're rejected, who can blame people for not wanting to engage with someone who they're not wanting to meet.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its just another filter.some ppl forget they have messaged you and send another a few weeks later.its not done to be unkind,but some ppl cant acept a no thanks.no one has to give reasons for blocking.

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I dont block much as dont see the point only when someone becomes abusive or too persistent. I dont consider it rude too though.

I was a little perturbed when a woman I was friends with blocked out of the blue but thats her choice. I probably inadvertently did something she didnt like. Im not losing sleep over it!

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

Sometimes we forgot and don't want mess you about. It's for your own good xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say 'no thanks' then block I'd their message was decent enough. Too many guys get abusive when they're not getting any.

Sometimes I just block because their message was cringeworthy.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Their profile their choice.

I'd use the time to find someone who wants to meet me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personal preference ...

Because they can ...

Accept it and move on ....

They don't want to know. I never reply to the Russian women that spam my email inbox telling me we met at a club last week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Demand your money back!!!...

Maybe they know you...if not, they definitely don't want to.

....Next

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rarely do we block someone after they've messaged even if not for us but snide/cheeky/disrespectful messages normally get a parting shot back before being blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here is a question

You put time and effort into writing a email to a profile you're interested in. The person deletes your mail then blocks you without telling you why. Do you think this is rude as I do.

I only block people if they are offensive to me not because I am not their type.

What's other people's thoughts?"

Think it saves a lot of repeat messages getting deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've blocked more people from things they've said in the forums.

I never bother with this, it's very unlikely I'll ever meet anybody from the forums due to distance etc. And blocking doesn't stop you seeing their posts.

I take each thread on its own. One thread I may fully disagree with a person while on another we could share the same view. It's all relative to the subject in the thread.

I can understand why somebody else would though if they meet people off the forums.

It's really because I know I wouldn't want to meet them so it stops them being able to message me.

I've met a couple of people through the forums too & become friends with others too

Whenever someone mentions blocking from the forum I always check their profile and you've blocked me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blocks save time and those who wont take no thanks as an answer

it amazed me how meny think they can change your mind tho grrrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've blocked more people from things they've said in the forums.

I never bother with this, it's very unlikely I'll ever meet anybody from the forums due to distance etc. And blocking doesn't stop you seeing their posts.

Typical hey ho

I take each thread on its own. One thread I may fully disagree with a person while on another we could share the same view. It's all relative to the subject in the thread.

I can understand why somebody else would though if they meet people off the forums.

It's really because I know I wouldn't want to meet them so it stops them being able to message me.

I've met a couple of people through the forums too & become friends with others too

Whenever someone mentions blocking from the forum I always check their profile and you've blocked me! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you think some folk are rude by blocking you,why does it bother you? Unless of course you want to meet with rude people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use it, its no doubt been used on me. I don't see it as rude at all. If anything, its quite polite. It saves you getting into a fruitless conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take this place too seriously.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Am I a total weirdo cause I don't have anyone on my block list?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I a total weirdo cause I don't have anyone on my block list?

Do you know where the block button is ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes it is so rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I a total weirdo cause I don't have anyone on my block list?

Challenge accepted.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Am I a total weirdo cause I don't have anyone on my block list?

Do you know where the block button is ?"

Yeah... I just never use it. I write funny little notes in the rude fuckers profile notes. Makes me chuckle when they message me again and I can tell them exactly why I said no thanks the three previous times.

I think because I hid my pics my traffic is way less than it used to be. My profile is designed to bore before the end. It works for me.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Am I a total weirdo cause I don't have anyone on my block list?

Challenge accepted."

Lib you're too cute to block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never understand why people take being blocked so personally. It's not some kind of punishment...just a tool to site gives you to stop unnecessary contact from people you're not interested in...unless it's the disinterest that bothers you and if people being uninterested in you causes such angst then you're probably in the wrong place...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I a total weirdo cause I don't have anyone on my block list?

Do you know where the block button is ?

I think because I hid my pics my traffic is way less than it used to be. My profile is designed to bore before the end. It works for me.

Started reading it,yeah,works for us too

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"yes it is so rude"

why?

been said before but do you personally reply to each piece of junk mail, spam or pain in the arse cold calls..?

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Am I a total weirdo cause I don't have anyone on my block list?

Do you know where the block button is ?

I think because I hid my pics my traffic is way less than it used to be. My profile is designed to bore before the end. It works for me.

Started reading it,yeah,works for us too

See?! Job done! Saves everyone some time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I a total weirdo cause I don't have anyone on my block list?

No, your not. We only gave about three on ours.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tend not to block as we will still chat to and in some circumstances socialise with people we wouldn't play with e.g. those out of our age range or those we've made friends with at socials or in chat rooms.

If anyone gets in any way abusive, disrespectful or doesn't respect a polite no thank you then it's an instant block.

Others use the site differently and that's their choice, no point getting upset about it, so spend your time searching for those who do 'click' with you instead of those who don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I a total weirdo cause I don't have anyone on my block list?

No, your not. We only gave about three on ours.

-Courtney"

** have not gave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only started using the block button this year, wish I'd used it earlier!

I only block people that are rude, way too persistent or have posted something really freaky in the forums.

I know I've been blocked for disagreeing with fellow forum users before which always amuses me.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I always think it's a bit petty to block fellow forum users. Is it cause they don't have the same opinion as you? I'm curious. People are utterly fascinating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always think it's a bit petty to block fellow forum users. Is it cause they don't have the same opinion as you? I'm curious. People are utterly fascinating.

I don't block because people disagree with me that's all part of the forum for me.

I would only block when someone had posted a thread or a comment that makes my stomach churn...

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I always think it's a bit petty to block fellow forum users. Is it cause they don't have the same opinion as you? I'm curious. People are utterly fascinating.

I don't block because people disagree with me that's all part of the forum for me.

I would only block when someone had posted a thread or a comment that makes my stomach churn...

Oh... haha! I didn't mean that question was directed at you.

I just think it's weird that you find yourself blocked cause of a forum post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to send a reply saying no thank you!

But now I block because the same guy will message me a week or month later!

I still dislike blocking, but saves my time and duplicate messages now!

Sorry if it offends anybody!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here is a question

You put time and effort into writing a email to a profile you're interested in. The person deletes your mail then blocks you without telling you why. Do you think this is rude as I do.

I only block people if they are offensive to me not because I am not their type.

What's other people's thoughts?"

I did this when a colleague messaged me, he had a profile face pic, he clearly hadn't recognised me (phew), but blocked in case. So, sometimes there is logic behind the block!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here is a question

You put time and effort into writing a email to a profile you're interested in. The person deletes your mail then blocks you without telling you why. Do you think this is rude as I do.

I only block people if they are offensive to me not because I am not their type.

What's other people's thoughts?"

I have tried a polite no thanks but invariably another message says why etc. So now it depends if married block as I do say single men

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

"I always think it's a bit petty to block fellow forum users. Is it cause they don't have the same opinion as you? I'm curious. People are utterly fascinating.

I don't block because people disagree with me that's all part of the forum for me.

I would only block when someone had posted a thread or a comment that makes my stomach churn...

Oh... haha! I didn't mean that question was directed at you.

I just think it's weird that you find yourself blocked cause of a forum post. "

It's to make themselves feel good I imagine, like they didn't like your post so they block you thinking yeah that'll teach them now they can't message or view me.

Even though it only stops profile viewing and messages and not seeing posts by that person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone posts stuff in the forums that I disagree with & that I know I would never want to meet that person, then, yes I block them.

They can put what they want in the forums- they are open to everyone, doesn't mean I have to let them message me or see my profile & I certainly don't want to see their profile.

I will carry on doing this whether anyone likes it or not.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If everyone got an occasional message, once in a blue moon, and we were all living together in a small town, knowing each other, things may be different and appear warmer.

It's not utopia, so we have the norms here and site guidelines. No reply and block means not interested. Blocks stop repeated efforts and potential harassment of others, who've been contacted uninvited.

To use fab and keep sane, you must accept this norm here.

There are suggestions in the site feedback area, which cover the option of an automatic notification of thanks, but no thanks, when blocking such messages and users.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"If someone posts stuff in the forums that I disagree with & that I know I would never want to meet that person, then, yes I block them.

They can put what they want in the forums- they are open to everyone, doesn't mean I have to let them message me or see my profile & I certainly don't want to see their profile.

I will carry on doing this whether anyone likes it or not."

I think everyone should do what's best for themselves. That makes total sense to me. I'm always just curious as to why folks do things which is what makes me ask questions. I like to hear the thinking behind it but I don't think you have to justify it. It's your profile, your account, therefore it's entirely up to you how you run it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone posts stuff in the forums that I disagree with & that I know I would never want to meet that person, then, yes I block them.

They can put what they want in the forums- they are open to everyone, doesn't mean I have to let them message me or see my profile & I certainly don't want to see their profile.

I will carry on doing this whether anyone likes it or not."

But I'm not looking to meet women so how can you block someone that doesn't even have any interest in you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here is a question

You put time and effort into writing a email to a profile you're interested in. The person deletes your mail then blocks you without telling you why. Do you think this is rude as I do.

I only block people if they are offensive to me not because I am not their type.

What's other people's thoughts?"

No.

I think its filtering.

If you consider it rude then you are unlikely to hit it off anyway so it doesn't really matter!

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I am pretty honest about who I block, both as a couple and as a single - my single profile is clear I only meet women one to one, so any man or couple who message or send a friend request are blocked - end of

Couple profile - if they are not for us, I will block, but may ask them first - what are they messaging for? Block for me means I am not nor would consider meeting - its not anything personal

I also block people who I think are unnecessarily judgemental or argumentative on the forums, but this does not include myself, as I give myself some slack there .... I am allowed to message myself, of course

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By *hattyman80Man
over a year ago

stockport

Tbh if someone blocks me if I send them a message I make the assumption I wasn't there type and move on. It's useful really because you can block them and then you don't waste your time trying to convince them again in a weeks time begging them to reply.

I always think just movin on and not dwelling on it will give you a better experience on the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone posts stuff in the forums that I disagree with & that I know I would never want to meet that person, then, yes I block them.

They can put what they want in the forums- they are open to everyone, doesn't mean I have to let them message me or see my profile & I certainly don't want to see their profile.

I will carry on doing this whether anyone likes it or not.

But I'm not looking to meet women so how can you block someone that doesn't even have any interest in you? "

Why are you so bothered then if you're not interested in meeting women, me blocking you shouldn't have any effect on you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get over it, plenty of people to message....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone posts stuff in the forums that I disagree with & that I know I would never want to meet that person, then, yes I block them.

They can put what they want in the forums- they are open to everyone, doesn't mean I have to let them message me or see my profile & I certainly don't want to see their profile.

I will carry on doing this whether anyone likes it or not.

But I'm not looking to meet women so how can you block someone that doesn't even have any interest in you?

Why are you so bothered then if you're not interested in meeting women, me blocking you shouldn't have any effect on you."

Just want to know the exact reason you did it because if I've said something on here to offend or upset you, bring it to my attention and I'll apologise for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone posts stuff in the forums that I disagree with & that I know I would never want to meet that person, then, yes I block them.

They can put what they want in the forums- they are open to everyone, doesn't mean I have to let them message me or see my profile & I certainly don't want to see their profile.

I will carry on doing this whether anyone likes it or not.

But I'm not looking to meet women so how can you block someone that doesn't even have any interest in you?

Why are you so bothered then if you're not interested in meeting women, me blocking you shouldn't have any effect on you.

Just want to know the exact reason you did it because if I've said something on here to offend or upset you, bring it to my attention and I'll apologise for it. "

I honestly can't remember!! I've unblocked you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone posts stuff in the forums that I disagree with & that I know I would never want to meet that person, then, yes I block them.

They can put what they want in the forums- they are open to everyone, doesn't mean I have to let them message me or see my profile & I certainly don't want to see their profile.

I will carry on doing this whether anyone likes it or not.

But I'm not looking to meet women so how can you block someone that doesn't even have any interest in you?

Why are you so bothered then if you're not interested in meeting women, me blocking you shouldn't have any effect on you.

Just want to know the exact reason you did it because if I've said something on here to offend or upset you, bring it to my attention and I'll apologise for it.

I honestly can't remember!! I've unblocked you. "

Now you've made me want to look on your profile at your pictures! Good bangers and if I were a dude I'd clap on dem cheeks and we could do the grown up!

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over a year ago

"If someone posts stuff in the forums that I disagree with & that I know I would never want to meet that person, then, yes I block them.

They can put what they want in the forums- they are open to everyone, doesn't mean I have to let them message me or see my profile & I certainly don't want to see their profile.

I will carry on doing this whether anyone likes it or not.

But I'm not looking to meet women so how can you block someone that doesn't even have any interest in you?

Why are you so bothered then if you're not interested in meeting women, me blocking you shouldn't have any effect on you.

Just want to know the exact reason you did it because if I've said something on here to offend or upset you, bring it to my attention and I'll apologise for it.

I honestly can't remember!! I've unblocked you.

Now you've made me want to look on your profile at your pictures! Good bangers and if I were a dude I'd clap on dem cheeks and we could do the grown up! "

Haha!! Thanks. What is the "grown up"???

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

If it is, then there are a few rude people on here. Just shrug it off and get on with having fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there were filters for height and build my block list would be very little (rude people). I like men over 5'10 with a good build so when the same guy who is 5'7 and thin messages me 3 times, even after a no thanks I tend to block to save time responding to same people over and over. If someone wants to block me I say good luck to them. Individuals can do what they want with their own account, you shouldn't let it bother you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here is a question

You put time and effort into writing a email to a profile you're interested in. The person deletes your mail then blocks you without telling you why. Do you think this is rude as I do.

I only block people if they are offensive to me not because I am not their type.

What's other people's thoughts?"

You can block and delete from the message, you don't have to go to another tab to do it.

I use this as a means of that person not messaging me again, otherwise it can start a tirade of abuse ' why wont you meet etc etc' blocking stops all that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Familiarise yourself with the site FAQ's OP.

The subject of not responding to messages has been covered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The block button is awesome

So no it isn't rude at all .

It would be great if it existed in real life too - imagine being able to wipe the twats you have to correspond and deal with in the pub / work / shopping etc ..... and never having to deal with them again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is rude but the fact you tried again may prove a point. Their is a little bit of snobbery on here with some posters. But there is hundreds of thousands of people on here. We all can't like everyone.

Just move on to the next person you fancy.

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By *is_irtygirlCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

"not rude at all....

just because you thought you may be for them.... it doesn't mean they thought the same....

i question the fragility of those people who take rejection or a no so personally.... if the "small stuff" wounds them so badly i hate to see how they cope with the "biggies" in life.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The block button is awesome

So no it isn't rude at all .

bloody hell that would be lovely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my profile says im not meeting, so currently anyone who messages, that's not someone I already talk to, or related to a forum post, I just block.

if the 2 lines of my profile were too much effort for them to read, then a reply pointing out what iv already written is a waste of my time so not going to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The block button is awesome

So no it isn't rude at all .

This is exactly what happens in Charlie Brooker’s drama 'Black Mirror: White Christmas'. It was shown on Channel 4 last December. If you can find it on catch-up or DVD, I would recommend watching - it's spooky stuff. Google 'guardian black mirror white christmas' to find a review.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone posts stuff in the forums that I disagree with & that I know I would never want to meet that person, then, yes I block them.

They can put what they want in the forums- they are open to everyone, doesn't mean I have to let them message me or see my profile & I certainly don't want to see their profile.

I will carry on doing this whether anyone likes it or not.

But I'm not looking to meet women so how can you block someone that doesn't even have any interest in you?

Why are you so bothered then if you're not interested in meeting women, me blocking you shouldn't have any effect on you.

Just want to know the exact reason you did it because if I've said something on here to offend or upset you, bring it to my attention and I'll apologise for it.

I honestly can't remember!! I've unblocked you.

Now you've made me want to look on your profile at your pictures! Good bangers and if I were a dude I'd clap on dem cheeks and we could do the grown up!

Haha!! Thanks. What is the "grown up"???"

Haha it's sex, it's a line from a song!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't accept messages from single guys but do sometimes block people who message that we don't fancy.

We do tend to block single guys who constantly view our profile or "like" every single picture in our gallery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I will do this if the person has messaged me more than once after I've politely told them I'm not interested from their first contact! "

I do too. In fact I did yesterday. Some people can't believe you don't want to meet them - no thank you means just that !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always reply to every message or wink we get.

We instantly block when :

1. Their opening message is rude or offensive.

2. The preferences and likes are completely different to ours which means they can't possibly have bothered to read our profile.

3. They send a friend request unsolicited.

We'll also block when after chatting we discover there's no attraction, (whether or call or theirs) so as not to accidentally repeat contact again in the future. We don't block if there is a conflict of likes or dislikes because those can change in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest, I would rather be blocked, than have mail go unanswered, but never deleted. That way, you know where you stand very clearly....Friends welcome by the way!!

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

Nothing at all rude about it, the block button is a tool not a weapon.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I do it with those I have previously blocked who somehow manage to get unblocked, or return with a new profile but the same pictures. I've already said no once in their previous incarnation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no its not rude to block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see how 'Hi, you're not my type so you're blocked' would make anyone feel any better.

Delete and block seems a better option to me and less time consuming

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By *hechairman18Man
over a year ago

Salford Quays , Manchester

Don't waste your time sending a message.

Send a wink instead.

If they are interested, they will return the wink.

Then, and only then,send a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I literally never look at winks, am I alone in this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

winks are lazy, anyone for a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people wink when they think you might not be their type, so a way of checking if you respond back. I think it's a subtle to them if there is no response.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Here is a question

You put time and effort into writing a email to a profile you're interested in. The person deletes your mail then blocks you without telling you why. Do you think this is rude as I do.

I only block people if they are offensive to me not because I am not their type.

What's other people's thoughts?"

What does RUDE mean ?

You don't think it's rude. You are angry but it gives you the moral high ground ( so you think ) to put another person down because they didn't want you. It salves your wounds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds more impulsive than premeditated.....

Anyway, you're gonna have to get used to people who don't know you - not being interested in you - and not giving a **** if that bothers you.

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