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By *lutterBi OP   Woman
over a year ago

bournemouth

My fuck buddy wants to bareback with me. He says he doesn't bareback anyone else. I trust I am safe with him swinging, but unsure regarding bareback. I get checked every 6 months anyway for my own personal peace of mind. The last time I barebacked was a number of years ago with my then, long term partner. I know only I can make that decision but I would like some feedback from others on here please x

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By *ap AdgeMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Both get tested same time be safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he is asking you who else is he asking x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

another thread hidden profile and no pic so not replying

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"My fuck buddy wants to bareback with me. He says he doesn't bareback anyone else. I trust I am safe with him swinging, but unsure regarding bareback. I get checked every 6 months anyway for my own personal peace of mind. The last time I barebacked was a number of years ago with my then, long term partner. I know only I can make that decision but I would like some feedback from others on here please x"

Not sure what feedback you want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not.sure what we could or should say..it's a personal decision to you and your fb. We don't know you or your situation. You know the risk level more than us and you also know what level of risk you're prepared to take. Don't do anything you aren't happy with.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"My fuck buddy wants to bareback with me. He says he doesn't bareback anyone else. I trust I am safe with him swinging, but unsure regarding bareback. I get checked every 6 months anyway for my own personal peace of mind. The last time I barebacked was a number of years ago with my then, long term partner. I know only I can make that decision but I would like some feedback from others on here please x"

Yeah do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go and get tested together, show each other the results, start from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nah . tell him rubber up or get ta fuk !

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

your health.... your decision...

at the end of the day the only person responsible for that decision and its consequences are you.....

the cynical part of me is saying "well if they are is asking that of me, how many other people are they asking that of?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can also play the Russian roulette so to speak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cringe at the thought that he's even asked .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not.sure what we could or should say..it's a personal decision to you and your fb. We don't know you or your situation. You know the risk level more than us and you also know what level of risk you're prepared to take. Don't do anything you aren't happy with."

-Courtney

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"You can also play the Russian roulette so to speak."

I think she'd be much safer barebacking to be honest Shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust comes first,then exclusivity, then clean, then bareback.

I've done the above, and not. Now I'm of the mind that if I'm unsure of a situation or person, I will say so, and probably exit stage right. One's health is not worth one little death...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can also play the Russian roulette so to speak.

I think she'd be much safer barebacking to be honest Shag."
Yes I recon so as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only you can decide OP.

If you do just make sure you at least gets regulary tested.

Are you being exclusive with each other, if so maybe you can go to the clinic together?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never understand the 'Russian roulette' statement.

I don't know the stats but I'd imagine the chances of getting a disease that is guaranteed to kill you are a hell of a lot more slim that the 1in6 chance of blowing your head off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cringe at the thought that he's even asked ."

Why. We don't know any couples even fb ones that use protection with each other.

I also in vanilla world know very few people who get tested before going bare with a new partner. I know I never have.

To the op. If you are meeting regular and you trust each other then do what you are comfortable with x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it doesn't feel right then don't do it. Get him to get tested if you want peace of mind. If he's your friend then he won't pressure you into going bareback if you don't want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never understand the 'Russian roulette' statement.

I don't know the stats but I'd imagine the chances of getting a disease that is guaranteed to kill you are a hell of a lot more slim that the 1in6 chance of blowing your head off.

"
Yes same here, never got it either and yeah hard to know the stats but as you said there, that's a good one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never understand the 'Russian roulette' statement.

I don't know the stats but I'd imagine the chances of getting a disease that is guaranteed to kill you are a hell of a lot more slim that the 1in6 chance of blowing your head off.

Yes same here, never got it either and yeah hard to know the stats but as you said there, that's a good one."

lol you wrote the russian roulette statement on another thread about bb, me thinks you need haribo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never understand the 'Russian roulette' statement.

I don't know the stats but I'd imagine the chances of getting a disease that is guaranteed to kill you are a hell of a lot more slim that the 1in6 chance of blowing your head off.

Yes same here, never got it either and yeah hard to know the stats but as you said there, that's a good one.

lol you wrote the russian roulette statement on another thread about bb, me thinks you need haribo"
lol cant remember but yes I need to atop up of haribos

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

There won't ever be a time for Shag to miss Haribos.

Op to miss bareback - your call, but I sense you're not comfortable, so don't do it if you aren't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask him to get tested and when clear Go ahead and do it. Get tested every 3 months in future.

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By *lutterBi OP   Woman
over a year ago

bournemouth

Thanx everyone, I have messaged him with a no and explained openly why, his reply was to delete him and forget he exists. His loss and I have thankfully made the right choice. I'm going to miss him but at least I can sleep soundly knowing I really did make the right choice

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

Do it if he is not also a swinger himself meeting other people for sex & get tested more regularly than every six months, every 3 months is a bit more regular but get tested together so you know he is safe too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to be honest I would never bareback with a fuck buddy simply because its not a relationship so what he does away from me is none of my buisness, its uneditable fuck buddies will be shagging other people too and he could have two or three fuck buddies on the go tell each of them he's not barebackibg with anybody else

Of course it's upto you what you do that's just my thoughts on the subject

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In an exclusive fb relationship , ie they only play bare with each other , there's no difference between them and any other married couple surely ?

Of course , now we know the outcome from the ops last post , that makes a mockery of this statement , but without knowing the whole story it's hard to judge .

If he was genuinely not gonna go go bare with anyone else , I don't blame him for his reaction . Trust is important in any relationship , and he obviously felt the op didn't trust him .

On the flip side , perhaps she was right in hindsight ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanx everyone, I have messaged him with a no and explained openly why, his reply was to delete him and forget he exists. His loss and I have thankfully made the right choice. I'm going to miss him but at least I can sleep soundly knowing I really did make the right choice "

Good riddance to him then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Better off wearing a British Army NBC (Nuclear, Biological, Chemical) suit next time in case anybody touches you. How dare he ask to have sex with you, if he's had sex with someone before he's probably got a maggot ridden blackened member that's just about to drop off. Hope you didn't touch the door handle after he'd touched it with his bare skin, better get to A&E just in case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanx everyone, I have messaged him with a no and explained openly why, his reply was to delete him and forget he exists. His loss and I have thankfully made the right choice. I'm going to miss him but at least I can sleep soundly knowing I really did make the right choice "

I think you've dodged a bullet. Sounds like a bit of a twat to be honest if he's willing to never meet you again just because you won't shag without protection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I trust that those who have sex with men who have foreskins insist on them washing their hands after putting on, or taking off, a condom.

Also the girls should wash their hands too before touching anything else after touching a foreskin penis. As we all know; chlamydia and gonorrhoea live in the smegma under foreskins!

Needless to say never let anyone near you if they have touched another guy's penis unless the old Hibiscrub has been well used.

Keep safe people!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow, you did the right thing, always take the safest route.

I agreed to go bareback with a lady I was FB with. We both got tested and the time inbetween waiting for the results we just drove each other wild teasing and discussing how good it would be when I did cum in her. The wait made it even more electric!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanx everyone, I have messaged him with a no and explained openly why, his reply was to delete him and forget he exists. His loss and I have thankfully made the right choice. I'm going to miss him but at least I can sleep soundly knowing I really did make the right choice

I think you've dodged a bullet. Sounds like a bit of a twat to be honest if he's willing to never meet you again just because you won't shag without protection."

about sums it up, and a guy with that attitude probably is shagging others bare too

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London


"Thanx everyone, I have messaged him with a no and explained openly why, his reply was to delete him and forget he exists. His loss and I have thankfully made the right choice. I'm going to miss him but at least I can sleep soundly knowing I really did make the right choice "

Sorry to hear that. His reaction was out of line.

Just a note: It's not uncommon that both men and women ask (I've been asked before) and it is something that you have to be comfortable with since you're both putting your trust in each other. Also, it depends on the nature of friendship/arrangement/relationship and how long you've been playing with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never understand the 'Russian roulette' statement.

I don't know the stats but I'd imagine the chances of getting a disease that is guaranteed to kill you are a hell of a lot more slim that the 1in6 chance of blowing your head off.

Yes same here, never got it either and yeah hard to know the stats but as you said there, that's a good one.

lol you wrote the russian roulette statement on another thread about bb, me thinks you need haribolol cant remember but yes I need to atop up of haribos "

I though you were on a haribos ban

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanx everyone, I have messaged him with a no and explained openly why, his reply was to delete him and forget he exists. His loss and I have thankfully made the right choice. I'm going to miss him but at least I can sleep soundly knowing I really did make the right choice

I think you've dodged a bullet. Sounds like a bit of a twat to be honest if he's willing to never meet you again just because you won't shag without protection."

Very well dodged there id say x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't read it as a bullet dodged. I read it as he wanted to take the relationship to a new level and this question was a way of finding out if she was on the same page. Her saying no was his answer so to protect his own feelings and to stop himself falling deeper in he cut ties. Might be wrong of course, just a possible way of looking at it.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London


"I didn't read it as a bullet dodged. I read it as he wanted to take the relationship to a new level and this question was a way of finding out if she was on the same page. Her saying no was his answer so to protect his own feelings and to stop himself falling deeper in he cut ties. Might be wrong of course, just a possible way of looking at it."

Just as valid. But then maybe he should have had more patience. His reaction was a bit knee-jerk!

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By *untimes6969Man
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"I didn't read it as a bullet dodged. I read it as he wanted to take the relationship to a new level and this question was a way of finding out if she was on the same page. Her saying no was his answer so to protect his own feelings and to stop himself falling deeper in he cut ties. Might be wrong of course, just a possible way of looking at it."

2 sides to every story - good point!

Trust and respect make a relationship and sticking to the relevant rules or guidelines. Throw in a bit of common sense and hey presto - hopefully it works!! Enjoy x

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

If your asking in this forum then it sounds like your looking to justify the NO feeling you have.

In which case you know what you should do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't read it as a bullet dodged. I read it as he wanted to take the relationship to a new level and this question was a way of finding out if she was on the same page. Her saying no was his answer so to protect his own feelings and to stop himself falling deeper in he cut ties. Might be wrong of course, just a possible way of looking at it."

I'm not being funny, but I think 'would you like to perhaps try something a bit more serious?' is more likely to indicate he was looking for a more serious relationship than 'wanna fuck bareback?'.

If you're asking people to be more committed by asking if they want bareback, you're most likely doing it wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do women ask for barebacking anyway,? Even if u wanna organise a small bang , women will be like do u go abareback because they want me to. Even on gang bang????????

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By *ching Heart 1Woman
over a year ago

Devon

Why gamble your heath on someone you really dont know, once you have caught something its way to late but that is up to you & your choice hun, This is a swingers sight hun hes not going to keep to one person even if he says he is & probably told you he only want you both to see each other & no one else.

When it comes down to it your the one who has to make up your mind if you want to go along with this no one else can do it for you but you have got a mind of your own & you can speak freely babe . But please think about the consequences if you happen to catch anything. Good luck in what you choose to do & hope all works out for you xxx

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By *eLorean_GreyMan
over a year ago

crewe

Bareback is something I call an exclusive privilege, Reserved just for one person.

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull


"My fuck buddy wants to bareback with me. He says he doesn't bareback anyone else. I trust I am safe with him swinging, but unsure regarding bareback. I get checked every 6 months anyway for my own personal peace of mind. The last time I barebacked was a number of years ago with my then, long term partner. I know only I can make that decision but I would like some feedback from others on here please x"

big risk, we wouldnt take the risk xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate to break it to the last few posters but the lady seems to have gotten her answer sorted 23 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't read it as a bullet dodged. I read it as he wanted to take the relationship to a new level and this question was a way of finding out if she was on the same page. Her saying no was his answer so to protect his own feelings and to stop himself falling deeper in he cut ties. Might be wrong of course, just a possible way of looking at it."

Haha, no! Just no!

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