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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If someone is stressed and you know they are lying how do u catch them out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Umm is torture an option?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you want to catch them out?

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Wouldn't that increase their stress level?

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By *o-jCouple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Notts

Stress & lies is that a new police drama ?

Jo x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"If someone is stressed and you know they are lying how do u catch them out?"

If you know they're lying say " I know you're lying" it's much easier than trying to catch them out. What's the connection between the lying and the stress?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

**band name alert!**

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cos some one I know is stressed I see the signs and 1+1=2 she is denying it she says no I'm not stressed, I call bull on that story.

Facts are facts signs are signs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them the truth. Point out that they should be doing the same, stressed or not honesty is always the best policy

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Cos some one I know is stressed I see the signs and 1+1=2 she is denying it she says no I'm not stressed, I call bull on that story.

Facts are facts signs are signs. "

Maybe she thinks it's none of your business. Why on earth would you want to catch someone out if you believe they're stressed? Wouldn't quietly helping alleviate the stress be a more friendly option?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Their actions don't correlate with their words is the easiest way to tell.

Usually there is a reason why you can't trust someone though. If you ask them about it and they lie then keep shtum until they slip up - which they will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cos some one I know is stressed I see the signs and 1+1=2 she is denying it she says no I'm not stressed, I call bull on that story.

Facts are facts signs are signs. "

Maybe she doesn't want your help & wants you to back off.

Tell her your concerns, be there as a friend but respect her decisions.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Their actions don't correlate with their words is the easiest way to tell.

Usually there is a reason why you can't trust someone though. If you ask them about it and they lie then keep shtum until they slip up - which they will."

The friend is saying they aren't stressed when the op believes they are.....this is lying in the ops eyes.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Cos some one I know is stressed I see the signs and 1+1=2 she is denying it she says no I'm not stressed, I call bull on that story.

Facts are facts signs are signs. "

maybe your questioning of her is causing her to be stressed or increasing it..?

help to alleviate the stress and then see how she is perhaps?

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

If they are stressed they have a problem or an anxiety. The last thing they need is someone trying to catch them out. They need a supportive person who is there for them, to help them. I take this view with the kids and with my partner - if all goes quiet, something is on their minds, so I just let them know I love and support them and eventually what is worrying them comes out and we deal with it together, as a family. They do the same for me as I get worried over things my partner can handle and he is the same - that is what support and love for partners, friends and families is all about. Not trying to catch someone out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Their actions don't correlate with their words is the easiest way to tell.

Usually there is a reason why you can't trust someone though. If you ask them about it and they lie then keep shtum until they slip up - which they will.

The friend is saying they aren't stressed when the op believes they are.....this is lying in the ops eyes."

Oh right. I didn't understand the OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cos some one I know is stressed I see the signs and 1+1=2 she is denying it she says no I'm not stressed, I call bull on that story.

Facts are facts signs are signs. "

What exactly are you trying to catch her out at? Lying or being stressed? If it is simply stress, offer support. Simple.

If you are trying to catch her out lying there are a myriad of ways...but generally there will be inconsistencies, bu if you go pointing this out the she will likely become defensive.

You need to work out what is more important, being right or being a friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Er, why would you want to 'catch her out'? If she doesn't want to talk to you about it you're being intrusive. Offer her an ear to listen or a shoulder to cry on, then leave her be. It's not your business until she makes it your business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a real bummer when you know someone is lying to you.

you don't really need to catch them out though, if you know that's enough. Then you decide what to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, you let HER decide what she wants. If she is the one struggling, give her the time and space to come to you if she needs help.

Anything else is purely self-serving.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So, the OP knows someone who appears to be stressed and is denying that they are stressed because:

a) they aren't stressed

b) they don't feel stressed

c) they don't want to admit they are stressed to themselves

d) they don't want to admit they are stressed to the OP.

Now, out of concern for his friend who is potentially stressed, the OP wants a way to trap this person in such a way as to prove that it is "d", which the OP sees as "lying".

Did I summarise correctly?

How about you back off and just let them know that you are there if they need anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One thing I can't stand is someone who keeps asking if I'm ok. If I have said I'm fine I am either fine or don't want to talk about it. Keep asking is just going to piss me off

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

This in spades

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To all I see x many of the tell-tale signs simple as that but I'll let it be, she is prescribed medications for it but wont take them.

I cared, but not now smokes like a trooper 100G smoked in what 2 weeks...

When I smoked 50g lasted me 2 weeks easily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Excuse me but wtf are you on about?

Stop talking in riddles man!

Obvs there is drug taking involved here so is this what its about?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Ask them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"**band name alert!**"
mmmm drummers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

are you the one stressing her out?

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