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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok totally non sexual rant but its really boiling my piss and need to vent..

Party in a community centre advertised 0-4yr olds but up to 6 yr olds if its a sibling..

i have a 5yr old and my lone child can not attend..

yes i get rules are rules but fucks sake makes me mad i didnt pop out another sproglette, Her friends can go as they have younger siblings..

phew... over to you lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lean six sigma....grrr.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Can you not talk to the organisers and ask if you don't ask you don't get...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Can you not talk to the organisers and ask if you don't ask you don't get...

I did ask.. they replied 0-4 year olds

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Can you not talk to the organisers and ask if you don't ask you don't get...

I did ask.. they replied 0-4 year olds

A bit of a silly rule tbf it kind of discriminates those who only has one child over 4

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

There is obviously a reason, rules are not made for fun or just to piss people off, as frustrating as it can be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should of said he was 4

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There is obviously a reason, rules are not made for fun or just to piss people off, as frustrating as it can be."

I know.. its just me being a grumpy mare lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lean six sigma....grrr."

Kanbans.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lean six sigma....grrr.

Kanbans.

Surely 'Kidbans' in this case!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is pretty ridiculous seeing as at the community centre near where I live the reason they put the age limit in place is because the over 4's or 5's tend to be a bit more boisterous and run all over the place and it intimidates the younger ones as well starting to get a bit dangerous.

Seeing as this would make that kind of thinking redundant it does seem nonsensical.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lean six sigma....grrr."

ok im daft.. whats that mean?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That is pretty ridiculous seeing as at the community centre near where I live the reason they put the age limit in place is because the over 4's or 5's tend to be a bit more boisterous and run all over the place and it intimidates the younger ones as well starting to get a bit dangerous.

Seeing as this would make that kind of thinking redundant it does seem nonsensical."

Guess im just irk'd because a lot of my daughters friends are going and because they have younger siblings they can go.. but she can't because she is an only child. Good job i didnt ask if she wanted to go because explaining the reason to her would be upsetting when she keeps banging on about having a brother or sister (i bought her a goldfish instead lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wonder how many msgs you will get now offering to help make her one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They have set the age range, what makes you special, it's clearly aimed at the under 4 and activitys will be designed for them,

If they say yes to one then they have to say to others, and it could take it away from the pre4 age group it's designed for,

The other hand could be parents complaining they took their 2 or 3 year old to a pre4 day, but had to watch them as a lot of the kids where 5 and 6 and a bit too boisterous,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Knowing what I'm like your not alone in feeling that way.

I'd be pissed right off ..because she can't go and also because rules I can handle if they make sound,logical sense..

But I'm struggling to see what their looking to achieve with that one.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Don't start me on age limits .. Grrr

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"They have set the age range, what makes you special, it's clearly aimed at the under 4 and activitys will be designed for them,

If they say yes to one then they have to say to others, and it could take it away from the pre4 age group it's designed for,

The other hand could be parents complaining they took their 2 or 3 year old to a pre4 day, but had to watch them as a lot of the kids where 5 and 6 and a bit too boisterous,"

I do accept there are rules.. im just frustrated. Never said i was special.

I can understand what you mean by the boisterous 5 and 6 yr olds running riot.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't start me on age limits .. Grrr"

they are bloomin everywhere... discrimintion i tell ya

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do accept there are rules.. im just frustrated. Never said i was special.

I can understand what you mean by the boisterous 5 and 6 yr olds running riot."

Appreciate the frustration but your really looking at it wrong,

The older siblings being allowed is a good thing it stops any 0-4 being excluded because of child care issues, plus they will be made aware this is for brother\sister and to take a step back teaching self control,

Your _iew you are excluded for having dropped a second sproglet is wrong and could stop siblings being allowed on future 0-4 days,

Get the craft books put and occupy her while her friends are away,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do accept there are rules.. im just frustrated. Never said i was special.

I can understand what you mean by the boisterous 5 and 6 yr olds running riot.

Appreciate the frustration but your really looking at it wrong,

Your _iew you are excluded for having dropped a second sproglet is wrong and could stop siblings being allowed on future 0-4 days,

Get the craft books put and occupy her while her friends are away, "

we do enjoy lots of arts n crafts x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

If its in a community centre why not suggest a 5-8 one and an 8-11 one and help organise them.

Your good at that sort of thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it bothers you that much organise your own party for 0-5 years so yours can attend.

I can't see why this would make anyone angry or why you would feel.an exception should be made for your child

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

It doesn't seem very community minded really?

If up to 6 years olds are allowed to go with a sibling then a lone 5 year old should be welcomed too

I doubt it would make a huge difference unless there was a baby boom 5 years ago in your area and they are running wild in the streets in packs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just stupid, should say 0-6 in that case. Can't you have a word with the ? Pretend she's 4?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If its in a community centre why not suggest a 5-8 one and an 8-11 one and help organise them.

Your good at that sort of thing.

We are in the process of starting up a community based group for this kinda thing

This specific event was being run by the 'childrens centre' (Sure Start) which is government lead i believe

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just stupid, should say 0-6 in that case. Can't you have a word with the ? Pretend she's 4? "

I did ask if my 5yr old could attend and the reply was 'Its and event for the babies to 4 year olds'..

Dont see the point in lying

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If it bothers you that much organise your own party for 0-5 years so yours can attend.

I can't see why this would make anyone angry or why you would feel.an exception should be made for your child

You dont have kids do you? lol

It made me frustrated that because my child is 5 years old she was excluded from an event which her fellow class mates could attend purely because they had younger siblings..

As i also stated i respect the rules still doesnt stop me feeling the way i do though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It doesn't seem very community minded really?

If up to 6 years olds are allowed to go with a sibling then a lone 5 year old should be welcomed too

I doubt it would make a huge difference unless there was a baby boom 5 years ago in your area and they are running wild in the streets in packs

We are actually a tiny community in regards to babies/youngsters. I did ask if my 5yr old could attend and they said babies to 4 year olds.. so just replied 'shame, but thanks for the reply'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it bothers you that much organise your own party for 0-5 years so yours can attend.

I can't see why this would make anyone angry or why you would feel.an exception should be made for your child

You dont have kids do you? lol

It made me frustrated that because my child is 5 years old she was excluded from an event which her fellow class mates could attend purely because they had younger siblings..

As i also stated i respect the rules still doesnt stop me feeling the way i do though "

What does the poster having kids have to do with you? Or this thread.

You obviously don't respect the rules, asking to be made an exception.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it bothers you that much organise your own party for 0-5 years so yours can attend.

I can't see why this would make anyone angry or why you would feel.an exception should be made for your child

You dont have kids do you? lol

It made me frustrated that because my child is 5 years old she was excluded from an event which her fellow class mates could attend purely because they had younger siblings..

As i also stated i respect the rules still doesnt stop me feeling the way i do though "

All of her classmates or some? And you clearly do think you are special or else you wouldn't have asked yhe organisersto make an exception

I'm not sure why me having kids is relevant in anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"It doesn't seem very community minded really?

If up to 6 years olds are allowed to go with a sibling then a lone 5 year old should be welcomed too

I doubt it would make a huge difference unless there was a baby boom 5 years ago in your area and they are running wild in the streets in packs

We are actually a tiny community in regards to babies/youngsters. I did ask if my 5yr old could attend and they said babies to 4 year olds.. so just replied 'shame, but thanks for the reply'

Maybe they'll do one for 4-8s in the future

I'd have asked if it was my child as well

I don't see it as disrespectful of rules,they may have said yes

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Life isn't always yes/no

I make exceptions all the time where I work,it depends on a few things but if it makes someones day then I'm happy to do so if it's possible

I don't assume the people asking think they're special in anyway or need to he treated differently to everyone else

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I do respect the rules or id have attended and took a chance,, they said no, i didnt attend

I said something along the lines of 'you dont have children do you' (or something to that effect) because i feel that as a parent a person might have been more sympathetic to understand my frustrations.. clearly i was wrong

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If it bothers you that much organise your own party for 0-5 years so yours can attend.

I can't see why this would make anyone angry or why you would feel.an exception should be made for your child

You dont have kids do you? lol

It made me frustrated that because my child is 5 years old she was excluded from an event which her fellow class mates could attend purely because they had younger siblings..

As i also stated i respect the rules still doesnt stop me feeling the way i do though

All of her classmates or some? And you clearly do think you are special or else you wouldn't have asked yhe organisersto make an exception

I'm not sure why me having kids is relevant in anyway.

I never mentioned ALL of her class mates, it does so happen quite a lot of her class mates do have younger siblings and therefore attended. They had a great time.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I guess if they made an exception, then possibly the floodgates may open and other 5 + would want to attend and if they say no, then it would be 'cute's child is attending and she is 5'

seems a shame though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a hard one isn't it ~ 'rules' versus attending an event that you know your little one would have liked as her friends were there.

I would have been inclined to say mine was 4years old as a one off occasion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I guess if they made an exception, then possibly the floodgates may open and other 5 + would want to attend and if they say no, then it would be 'cute's child is attending and she is 5'

seems a shame though"

And i did respect the rule.. i asked because im a cheeky bugger.

The frustration came from that other children of her age could attend based on that they had a younger sibling. Was like my child (and other children) were excluded because we didnt have more than one child yet up to 6yr olds could have attended.

Still the events over now, i hope it ran smoothly and that it was well attended.

Having re read my opening post im certainly not as annoyed now as i was at the time i posted,, but thats the purpose of a rant/vent

signed a calm n chilled C&S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think the point the OP was making when starting this thread was about any exceptions being asked for or possibly then being made.

I get the feeling it's just more about how stupid and contradictory the criteria for who goes and more importantly doesn't get to go seems.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think the point the OP was making when starting this thread was about any exceptions being asked for or possibly then being made.

I get the feeling it's just more about how stupid and contradictory the criteria for who goes and more importantly doesn't get to go seems."

yup,, that was it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crikey this got serious fast lol I thought cute was just having a little rant as we all like to and left it open for everyone else to have a Monday rant not asking should she be special

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Sometimes this is place is really odd as to why people get a hard time

To the OP...I can understand why they don't want lots of children over the age limit going, but I can also understand why they can't really expect people to get baby sitters so their under 4's can go alone so probably why siblings are included.

Probably frustrating if your child knows, but as she doesn't I am sure she won't miss it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a lot of stupid rules, people making them don`t think it through, and don`t listen when you complain, they don`t like to be seen as not getting things right, I`ve come up against a lot of this, the only time I become a bastard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand why you are pissed off, it would not be to bad if the organisers just said the age limit is 4 regardless. It does seem to make a mockery of their limits when they allow older kids in the place, just because they have younger siblings.

In case anyone wants to know I don't have kids, I have grandchildren.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lean six sigma....grrr.

ok im daft.. whats that mean? "

It's a business tool. A way of improving things. Make them lean... take out all the extra stuff that's not needed to make things run smoother and faster.

Just probably something else to rant about on a Monday.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Lean six sigma....grrr.

ok im daft.. whats that mean?

It's a business tool. A way of improving things. Make them lean... take out all the extra stuff that's not needed to make things run smoother and faster.

Just probably something else to rant about on a Monday."

Most of the managers. But they never want to hear that, for some reason...

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By *ex_OnTheBeachCouple
over a year ago

kent ( by the seaside )

Cute, I think I would be upset too, and does seem a bit silly that they allow siblings that are older than 4 years old, such a shame that your little one cant enjoy a community party with her friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the way..

If my three year old got knocked over by a rampaging 6 year old and bust her nose open as long as he or she had a younger sibling at the party and hadn't been allowed to attend as an "exception" ..I think might be willing to sort of overlook it..

Sound realistic..?

Before anyone flips their lid I am of course exaggerating/being sarcastic..but if safety were the reason for the criteria then what if?

I know my 2 and a half year old niece is very intimidated and withdrawn around the 4+ year olds because of the more active tendencies they exert at the play and learn type events held in my local area.

Her behaviour is totally different to when it's just kids of her age and probably up to about three.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you think that the perception might be that over 4's with younger siblings might have a gentler attitude to the younger ones?

Just thinking out loud x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could be..

But as the second oldest of four boys and sister youngest I'm sure that not always the case.

In fact if you listened to my mother she'd tell you that although it was just kids squabbling there was some pretty bad fighting at times.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you think that the perception might be that over 4's with younger siblings might have a gentler attitude to the younger ones?

Just thinking out loud x"

Could be.. sounds logical.

Im not trying to make my lil one sound superior here or trying to blag excuses but my daughter is very 'motherly' and nurturing to the younger children.

The school she attends her class (reception) mix with the nursery children and its the schools logic that the older year 1 children teach the reception class who in turn learn from the older year 1's...

same applies when reception look out for the nursery children,, who then learn from the reception children.

not sure if other schools run like this

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