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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You was texting someone off here and you got a message saying 'this is (insert name here) Fiance?

How would you react?

I've replied as I feel bad. I never met the guy but he has two veris from two couples from meets on his profile.

It's starting to make me think that the last time we spoke when he was in a crash and then claimed he had his phone stolen was all total bullshit.

I just feel so annoyed. It's put me off fab and ever meeting.

She's now asking where I met him so I've just said online and told her to check his internet history!!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Ignore her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been there. Refused to get involved. I didn't answer her messages but just blocked her and the guy. It's not your problem.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've been there. Refused to get involved. I didn't answer her messages but just blocked her and the guy. It's not your problem. "

Yeah that's what I'm doing now. On what's app here and need to do the whole number in general on my phone.

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By *anchestercubMan
over a year ago

manchester & NI

I'd text back "yeah, well this is (insert name)'s wife"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That sounds like a nightmare. You should just do what you feel is right. It seems she already has an idea of his activities. The rest is probably between them. I would get away from it as fast as I can

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That sounds like a nightmare. You should just do what you feel is right. It seems she already has an idea of his activities. The rest is probably between them. I would get away from it as fast as I can

-Courtney"

Yeah I think she had. Well I've blocked his account on here. Blocked his number on my phone and whatsapp!! The rest is his problem now. I'm just glad I never met him. And glad I didn't send no naughty pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't get involved, you have no idea of their history they might not even have one ~ women can make up all sorts of shite too.

You've blocked all means of contact so now forget and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't get involved, you have no idea of their history they might not even have one ~ women can make up all sorts of shite too.

You've blocked all means of contact so now forget and move on."

Yes I am doing so!!

and yeah women are just as bad as men. Oh well he can't contact me now. And if he tries too then I'll just block that!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I only communicate with the people I'm interested in. Anyone else and I'd claim a wrong no/mistake or completely refuse to communicate with.

I move written communication into voice calls quickly after first exchanging numbers, so I'm able to verify the voice of the people I'm in touch.

Everybody else has no right to know about me or them.

I've had similar calls to the op before. Expect it and be on your guard. Don't trust anything that people you don't say. Keep your boundaries completely fixed and say nothing to them. If anyone ever calls asking who you are, just disconnect as it's improper behavior.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never get involved in anything like that. I wouldn't have answered the first text.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I only communicate with the people I'm interested in. Anyone else and I'd claim a wrong no/mistake or completely refuse to communicate with.

I move written communication into voice calls quickly after first exchanging numbers, so I'm able to verify the voice of the people I'm in touch.

Everybody else has no right to know about me or them.

I didn't tell her anything about myself. Which was a smart move! I just said that she should talk to him instead of me.

And I would have spoke on the phone but apparently he didn't like phone calls.

Adds up now. That would have been cause he was with someone. And why he kept asking to come round to mine when I clearly said I don't accom!!

Oh well I just know when he turns up in a few months times to just block him again

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would never get involved in anything like that. I wouldn't have answered the first text. "

I just felt really bad. It was over what's app I just saw his name flash up thought was a message from him. Turns out it wasn't. The ticks had already turned to blue. Oh well I've learnt a lesson tonight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would never get involved in anything like that. I wouldn't have answered the first text.

I know and it is difficult. What happens though is that they start talking again and you end up being the bad guy, she will prefer to believe your a wicked woman whose lured him with the promise of sex and sending him sexy pics until the poor guy is browbeaten into responding. And if she has your number or your username maybe she could start hassle for you.

It's just not fair that you have to get dragged in. Don't worry or give them any more of your time. You've done nothing wrong so continue to enjoy yourself on here

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

We go to York and stay over the other week we got in touch with a guy we meet form another site Looked at our friends said he was on line.Got in touch chatted then got a message back Thanks thats all i wanted to know i am his wife. He had never told us he was married He had left the site on or not cleared history

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"You was texting someone off here and you got a message saying 'this is (insert name here) Fiance?

How would you react?

I've replied as I feel bad. I never met the guy but he has two veris from two couples from meets on his profile.

It's starting to make me think that the last time we spoke when he was in a crash and then claimed he had his phone stolen was all total bullshit.

I just feel so annoyed. It's put me off fab and ever meeting.

She's now asking where I met him so I've just said online and told her to check his internet history!!

I would not engage with her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP it really isn't your problem, its his, or theirs, I,ve had a few problems like this from here and like others have said block and move on.

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By *hattyman80Man
over a year ago

stockport

I've had an angry husband message me before. I explained how I knew his wife and that I didn't know she was married. He was understanding with me but she soon deleted her profile.

It happens. Don't blame yourself you can't be responsible for someone lying to you. It's his problem not yours xx

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By *ark074Man
over a year ago

nottingham

Don't feel bad. You've done nothing wrong.

Me, I'd make up some shit just to teach him a lesson. Maybe reply " met your fiancé at a bi gangbang where he looked at me as he was being taken roughly from behind by a big, old guy and we just clicked".

I once bought a gay BBC DVD ( remember them) to put in my bedside drawer just to shock my snooping ex mother in law.

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By *emini1637Woman
over a year ago

Warwickshire

I had something similar happen to me in December! Was chatting to a bloke off a different site for 6 months, he told me some incredible things he'd been through, but like yours wouldn't exchange numbers just kik, so when I got a message asking if I had no morals chatting up a married man I told 'him' he never once told me he wasn't single, 'he' then told me it was his fiancé and was having his baby, sent me a picture of them together and apologised to me because he'd done it before! What I thought was incredible things that had happened to him were all shocking lies, including deaths of family members

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Don't feel bad. You've done nothing wrong.

I once bought a gay BBC DVD ( remember them) to put in my bedside drawer just to shock my snooping ex mother in law.

See I wouldn't do that, it's not the unsuspecting partners fault and I don't think they should be subjected to Torred lies as to how you met their otherhalf. I just don't like how the other person who the partner is cheating with gets the flack of it all...takes 2 to tango.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd text back "yeah, well this is (insert name)'s wife"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't feel bad. You've done nothing wrong.

I once bought a gay BBC DVD ( remember them) to put in my bedside drawer just to shock my snooping ex mother in law.

Did she find it?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her how to join Fab and learn not to be so possesive and jealous. she should Fuck other men.

Tell her if he, as an individual, wants better or more sex than she gives him it is time for her to walk away. Advise her that if she wants a relationship based on the unnatural state of monagamy she had better find another far less sexy man.

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

I got a 'round robin' from a guy's wife once. I was intrigued. She'd sent it to over 50 numbers she'd found, basically outing him as a cheat and a liar. He'd lived his life as straight and she found his profile with a shitload of verifications from other men and TVs and TS.

I replied, saying I'd not met him (true) and I was sorry he'd done that to her (also true). She was actually quite nice about it, but I did soon block the numbers and his profile on here.

It's a shame people just can't be honest about their desires. Ruins lives people!

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

"Tell her how to join Fab and learn not to be so possesive and jealous. she should Fuck other men.

I'm imagining this is sarcasm. If it's not I think you're twisted!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell her how to join Fab and learn not to be so possesive and jealous. she should Fuck other men.

I'm imagining this is sarcasm. If it's not I think you're twisted!"

Hrm? Interesting comment?

If she follows the advice in the first paragraph then she will not be bothered by his activities with other women and they will be happy as individuals.

If she does not want the former path then she should consider the latter. Something like 60% of men and 45% of women have extramarital sex. It may not be PC but if she wants guranteed fidelity try neutering him.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

You assumed she was telling the truth? Maybe she is maybe she isn't, I would ignore and block.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Tell her how to join Fab and learn not to be so possesive and jealous. she should Fuck other men.

I'm imagining this is sarcasm. If it's not I think you're twisted!

Hrm? Interesting comment?

If she follows the advice in the first paragraph then she will not be bothered by his activities with other women and they will be happy as individuals.

Or finding someone with the courage of their convictions who puts his relationship before his cock and sticks to the agreement they made with each other.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"You was texting someone off here and you got a message saying 'this is (insert name here) Fiance?

How would you react?

I've replied as I feel bad. I never met the guy but he has two veris from two couples from meets on his profile.

It's starting to make me think that the last time we spoke when he was in a crash and then claimed he had his phone stolen was all total bullshit.

I just feel so annoyed. It's put me off fab and ever meeting.

She's now asking where I met him so I've just said online and told her to check his internet history!!

Did occur to you that it's probably him ?

Such an easy way out.

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By *offee and Cream 2Couple (MM)
over a year ago

Loughborough

You missed a trick there girl!

You should have invited her round with him for a sexy FFM threesome!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there I apologized to her I didn't know he was playing without permission. Then I hit block x

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Ask why I wasn't invited to the wedding and do they have any cake spare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell her how to join Fab and learn not to be so possesive and jealous. she should Fuck other men.

I'm imagining this is sarcasm. If it's not I think you're twisted!

Hrm? Interesting comment?

If she follows the advice in the first paragraph then she will not be bothered by his activities with other women and they will be happy as individuals.

Or finding someone with the courage of their convictions who puts his relationship before his cock and sticks to the agreement they made with each other. "

Or that of course. But she has only a 40% chance of finding that guy.

Why is monagamy so important anyway? If we did not demand and expect partners and spouses follow this unnatural restriction on their life there would be a great deal less pain and suffering and, of course, far fewer unnecessary divorces.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ages ago on a different site

I had met a guy he said he was single

I got a call from his wife one day

I said sorry didn't know he married and I think you need to have this conversation with him.

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe

Make sure people can't search for you on Facebook by phone number. I only found out this was possible recently and is slightly disconcerting in circumstances like these

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Make sure people can't search for you on Facebook by phone number. I only found out this was possible recently and is slightly disconcerting in circumstances like these

This happened to me this very week. Someone I've been meeting was in the 'suggested friends' section on Facebook, and his profile pic was him with a woman, who of course was his partner. He admitted she doesn't know about his frequent meets with various people. I walked away from it as I don't want to be made complicit in any deceit. I felt pretty deflated though, as what I thought was lovely innocent exploration and fun turned out to be grubby and tainted. That's on him though, not me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I informed on my best friends wife when she was having multiple one night stands and even tried her luck with me when I slept over.

I put her fumble under my Duvet down to drink and stupidity only to find she'd been banging two men I knew well and my friend trusted as neighbors.

One I gave the chance to come clean to his missus or I'd do it for him .While the other was single and got a smack in the mouth and told to F%^k off or else.

When the shit hit the fan I'd already told everyone involved but his wife I figured that was his business.

Later that day he drove to my place were I was half way though a bottle of Scotch

He thanked me for telling him then drove home and I've not seen him in a decade after 30 years of close friendship from kids to the army then civvie street.

If I'd kept my mouth shut I would have still been his friend but how could I be his friend and not tell him?

Lose lose situation!!

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By *lirtyGirl1Woman
over a year ago

Northwest

"I've been there. Refused to get involved. I didn't answer her messages but just blocked her and the guy. It's not your problem. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell her how to join Fab and learn not to be so possesive and jealous. she should Fuck other men.

I'm imagining this is sarcasm. If it's not I think you're twisted!

Hrm? Interesting comment?

If she follows the advice in the first paragraph then she will not be bothered by his activities with other women and they will be happy as individuals.

Or finding someone with the courage of their convictions who puts his relationship before his cock and sticks to the agreement they made with each other.

Or that of course. But she has only a 40% chance of finding that guy.

Monogamy works fine for lots of people. Just because you are incapable of controlling yourself, doesn't mean other people can't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell her how to join Fab and learn not to be so possesive and jealous. she should Fuck other men.

I'm imagining this is sarcasm. If it's not I think you're twisted!

Hrm? Interesting comment?

If she follows the advice in the first paragraph then she will not be bothered by his activities with other women and they will be happy as individuals.

Or finding someone with the courage of their convictions who puts his relationship before his cock and sticks to the agreement they made with each other.

Or that of course. But she has only a 40% chance of finding that guy.

Monogamy works fine for lots of people. Just because you are incapable of controlling yourself, doesn't mean other people can't."

Being personally abusive is not answering the question.

In saying what you have you have included in your insult more than half the men in this country and nearly half the women. Monagomy works for less than half the people in this country.

Why can't some people address the issue without stooping to personal abuse?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell her how to join Fab and learn not to be so possesive and jealous. she should Fuck other men.

I'm imagining this is sarcasm. If it's not I think you're twisted!

Hrm? Interesting comment?

If she follows the advice in the first paragraph then she will not be bothered by his activities with other women and they will be happy as individuals.

Or finding someone with the courage of their convictions who puts his relationship before his cock and sticks to the agreement they made with each other.

Or that of course. But she has only a 40% chance of finding that guy.

Monogamy works fine for lots of people. Just because you are incapable of controlling yourself, doesn't mean other people can't.

Being personally abusive is not answering the question.

In saying what you have you have included in your insult more than half the men in this country and nearly half the women. Monagomy works for less than half the people in this country.

Why can't some people address the issue without stooping to personal abuse?

You said yourself it's not for you and you couldn't do it. How is that being abusive? Because I used different words?

It's not an insult just a fact.

Being "incapable of something" isn't abuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell her how to join Fab and learn not to be so possesive and jealous. she should Fuck other men.

I'm imagining this is sarcasm. If it's not I think you're twisted!

Hrm? Interesting comment?

If she follows the advice in the first paragraph then she will not be bothered by his activities with other women and they will be happy as individuals.

Or finding someone with the courage of their convictions who puts his relationship before his cock and sticks to the agreement they made with each other.

Or that of course. But she has only a 40% chance of finding that guy.

Monogamy works fine for lots of people. Just because you are incapable of controlling yourself, doesn't mean other people can't.

Being personally abusive is not answering the question.

In saying what you have you have included in your insult more than half the men in this country and nearly half the women. Monagomy works for less than half the people in this country.

Why can't some people address the issue without stooping to personal abuse?

The issue isn't about being monogamous or not. It's about lies and deceit. All different types of relationship are healthy as long as the people in them are in agreement and honest with each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I informed on my best friends wife when she was having multiple one night stands and even tried her luck with me when I slept over.

I put her fumble under my Duvet down to drink and stupidity only to find she'd been banging two men I knew well and my friend trusted as neighbors.

One I gave the chance to come clean to his missus or I'd do it for him .While the other was single and got a smack in the mouth and told to F%^k off or else.

When the shit hit the fan I'd already told everyone involved but his wife I figured that was his business.

Later that day he drove to my place were I was half way though a bottle of Scotch

He thanked me for telling him then drove home and I've not seen him in a decade after 30 years of close friendship from kids to the army then civvie street.

If I'd kept my mouth shut I would have still been his friend but how could I be his friend and not tell him?

Lose lose situation!!

Well I think you did more than just tell him, sounds like you went on a one man crusade.

It's a very difficult situation to be involved in as no one truly knows the dynamics of the relationship apart from the couple & some partners contrary to popular belief don't want to know. So by telling everyone involved you almost forced his hand into doing something about it.

If that was me I would have had a quiet word with the wife and told her the fumble with you & what you thought you knew about the other men was unacceptable & given her the option of telling her husband.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell her how to join Fab and learn not to be so possesive and jealous. she should Fuck other men.

I'm imagining this is sarcasm. If it's not I think you're twisted!

Hrm? Interesting comment?

If she follows the advice in the first paragraph then she will not be bothered by his activities with other women and they will be happy as individuals.

Or finding someone with the courage of their convictions who puts his relationship before his cock and sticks to the agreement they made with each other.

Or that of course. But she has only a 40% chance of finding that guy.

Monogamy works fine for lots of people. Just because you are incapable of controlling yourself, doesn't mean other people can't.

Being personally abusive is not answering the question.

In saying what you have you have included in your insult more than half the men in this country and nearly half the women. Monagomy works for less than half the people in this country.

Why can't some people address the issue without stooping to personal abuse?

You said yourself it's not for you and you couldn't do it. How is that being abusive? Because I used different words?

It's not an insult just a fact.

Being "incapable of something" isn't abuse. "

Where did i say it was not for me?

Some seem to follow monagamy as a matter of faith; never questioning its validity in the modern world. I was simply asking why, when more than 50% of the population do not comply, we do not question whether or not it is still a valid social construct. Monogamy is not and never has been a measure of love and affection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell her how to join Fab and learn not to be so possesive and jealous. she should Fuck other men.

I'm imagining this is sarcasm. If it's not I think you're twisted!

Hrm? Interesting comment?

If she follows the advice in the first paragraph then she will not be bothered by his activities with other women and they will be happy as individuals.

Or finding someone with the courage of their convictions who puts his relationship before his cock and sticks to the agreement they made with each other.

Or that of course. But she has only a 40% chance of finding that guy.

Monogamy works fine for lots of people. Just because you are incapable of controlling yourself, doesn't mean other people can't.

Being personally abusive is not answering the question.

In saying what you have you have included in your insult more than half the men in this country and nearly half the women. Monagomy works for less than half the people in this country.

Why can't some people address the issue without stooping to personal abuse?

The issue isn't about being monogamous or not. It's about lies and deceit. All different types of relationship are healthy as long as the people in them are in agreement and honest with each other."

Monagamy forces people to behave unnaturally. More than half fail. Why do we persist in imposing onerous restrictions on the ones we are supposed to love?

If there were no such restriction there would be no need for "lies and deceit" and many more marriages would survive and thrive based on the far more important relationship features.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell her how to join Fab and learn not to be so possesive and jealous. she should Fuck other men.

I'm imagining this is sarcasm. If it's not I think you're twisted!

Hrm? Interesting comment?

If she follows the advice in the first paragraph then she will not be bothered by his activities with other women and they will be happy as individuals.

Or finding someone with the courage of their convictions who puts his relationship before his cock and sticks to the agreement they made with each other.

Or that of course. But she has only a 40% chance of finding that guy.

Monogamy works fine for lots of people. Just because you are incapable of controlling yourself, doesn't mean other people can't.

Being personally abusive is not answering the question.

In saying what you have you have included in your insult more than half the men in this country and nearly half the women. Monagomy works for less than half the people in this country.

Why can't some people address the issue without stooping to personal abuse?

The issue isn't about being monogamous or not. It's about lies and deceit. All different types of relationship are healthy as long as the people in them are in agreement and honest with each other.

Monagamy forces people to behave unnaturally. More than half fail. Why do we persist in imposing onerous restrictions on the ones we are supposed to love?

If there were no such restriction there would be no need for "lies and deceit" and many more marriages would survive and thrive based on the far more important relationship features. "

But if more people were honest about their needs, non monogamy would quickly become more socially acceptable. It's people being deceitful that gives the pro monogamy camp ammunition against it.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

If I received a text like that I'd ignore it but tell the guy I'd got one

Then tell him to never contact me again

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

Monagamy forces people to behave unnaturally. More than half fail. Why do we persist in imposing onerous restrictions on the ones we are supposed to love?

If there were no such restriction there would be no need for "lies and deceit" and many more marriages would survive and thrive based on the far more important relationship features. "

You play as a couple, is this the male half or female? After reading your comments I'm assuming that it would be ok for one of you to meet someone alone without your partner knowing?

If something works for you then great but don't criticise people for being monogamous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell her how to join Fab and learn not to be so possesive and jealous. she should Fuck other men.

I'm imagining this is sarcasm. If it's not I think you're twisted!

Hrm? Interesting comment?

If she follows the advice in the first paragraph then she will not be bothered by his activities with other women and they will be happy as individuals.

Or finding someone with the courage of their convictions who puts his relationship before his cock and sticks to the agreement they made with each other.

Or that of course. But she has only a 40% chance of finding that guy.

Monogamy works fine for lots of people. Just because you are incapable of controlling yourself, doesn't mean other people can't.

Being personally abusive is not answering the question.

In saying what you have you have included in your insult more than half the men in this country and nearly half the women. Monagomy works for less than half the people in this country.

Why can't some people address the issue without stooping to personal abuse?

The issue isn't about being monogamous or not. It's about lies and deceit. All different types of relationship are healthy as long as the people in them are in agreement and honest with each other.

Monagamy forces people to behave unnaturally. More than half fail. Why do we persist in imposing onerous restrictions on the ones we are supposed to love?

If there were no such restriction there would be no need for "lies and deceit" and many more marriages would survive and thrive based on the far more important relationship features.

But if more people were honest about their needs, non monogamy would quickly become more socially acceptable. It's people being deceitful that gives the pro monogamy camp ammunition against it. "

I understand what you are saying and you are right. Where the difficulty lies is overcoming the indoctrination that starts in childhood that man and woman MUST be faithful to one another.

Raising this issue is almost as bad as one party in a deeply religious couple saying they do not believe anymore. If that is possible then well done. Most Swingers have done this but many still have reservations. For me it is better to seek to remove this pointless control mechanism.

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over a year ago

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"You was texting someone off here and you got a message saying 'this is (insert name here) Fiance?

How would you react?

I've replied as I feel bad. I never met the guy but he has two veris from two couples from meets on his profile.

It's starting to make me think that the last time we spoke when he was in a crash and then claimed he had his phone stolen was all total bullshit.

I just feel so annoyed. It's put me off fab and ever meeting.

She's now asking where I met him so I've just said online and told her to check his internet history!!

Just block and walk away!

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over a year ago

If I had any messages or communication etc I'd establish it was who they claim, and be honest. I can't say I'm an honest person if I was to shy away from such things just because it's not my life. Surely if someone is cheating and / or lying to their loved ones, then they should be entitled to know some details?

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over a year ago

"You assumed she was telling the truth? Maybe she is maybe she isn't, I would ignore and block. "

You have to remember this is the internet, people devise all manner of persona just to get off on the drama they cause... It May even have been him trying to scare you off!

You are best off out of it...

crash - phone stolen - fiance drama?

nah he's not who / what he says he is...

I met a guy a couple of weeks ago. His profile has 3 or 4 good verifications, one from myself ... His profile says he's a nice guy, but he is actually a gutless, lying, douche bag...

Veri's are usually written just after meeting someone when you're still basking in the glow - The cold light of day and a little time gives you better perspective...

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

"You assumed she was telling the truth? Maybe she is maybe she isn't, I would ignore and block.

You have to remember this is the internet, people devise all manner of persona just to get off on the drama they cause... It May even have been him trying to scare you off!

You are best off out of it...

crash - phone stolen - fiance drama?

nah he's not who / what he says he is...

I met a guy a couple of weeks ago. His profile has 3 or 4 good verifications, one from myself ... His profile says he's a nice guy, but he is actually a gutless, lying, douche bag...

Veri's are usually written just after meeting someone when you're still basking in the glow - The cold light of day and a little time gives you better perspective...

Wonder if we met the same man......

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Tell her how to join Fab and learn not to be so possesive and jealous. she should Fuck other men.

This is a joke, right?

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Tell her how to join Fab and learn not to be so possesive and jealous. she should Fuck other men.

I'm imagining this is sarcasm. If it's not I think you're twisted!

Hrm? Interesting comment?

If she follows the advice in the first paragraph then she will not be bothered by his activities with other women and they will be happy as individuals.

Or finding someone with the courage of their convictions who puts his relationship before his cock and sticks to the agreement they made with each other.

Or that of course. But she has only a 40% chance of finding that guy.

Monogamy works fine for lots of people. Just because you are incapable of controlling yourself, doesn't mean other people can't."

Sometimes I think people on here get a skewed _iew of life and monogamy - it does and can work

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I would of ignored the message and blocked any further contact. I have enough drama in my own life without getting involved in others peoples.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You was texting someone off here and you got a message saying 'this is (insert name here) Fiance?

How would you react?

I've replied as I feel bad. I never met the guy but he has two veris from two couples from meets on his profile.

It's starting to make me think that the last time we spoke when he was in a crash and then claimed he had his phone stolen was all total bullshit.

I just feel so annoyed. It's put me off fab and ever meeting.

She's now asking where I met him so I've just said online and told her to check his internet history!!

Did occur to you that it's probably him ?

Such an easy way out. "

The thought did cross my mind, as the last time he apparently was in some horrid car crash. On life support etc etc. what he didn't realise was a few weeks after that was supposed to have happened I was on a training course at a different store to the one I work and saw him at the bus stop. No cuts no bruises didn't look like he had been in a car crash. I'm just too trusting. And only gave him my number cause I was feeling low after the guy of my dreams finished me..

Never again though.

Thanks for all your advice. Some I have taken on board.

And I must say yes it takes two to tango. But never once did I say I was going to sleep with the guy in question. I said I would meet his for a social. A cuppa or a pint/glass of wine. He's the one that kept pushing for sex. I've blocked his number on my phone whatsapp and blocked his profile on here. Just need to change facebook settings then Should be okay!!

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over a year ago

Sometimes I think people on here get a skewed _iew of life and monogamy - it does and can work"

Ok, It can work for some but what is it meant to acheive? Why is it so highly valued when it has no purpose in the modern world except to inhibit the enjoyment of life of those they are meant to love?

It would appear to be a self serving condition set as a test. A man might as well tell his wife she must plunge her hand into boiling water once a month to prove she loves him.

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over a year ago

"You was texting someone off here and you got a message saying 'this is (insert name here) Fiance?

How would you react?

I've replied as I feel bad. I never met the guy but he has two veris from two couples from meets on his profile.

It's starting to make me think that the last time we spoke when he was in a crash and then claimed he had his phone stolen was all total bullshit.

I just feel so annoyed. It's put me off fab and ever meeting.

She's now asking where I met him so I've just said online and told her to check his internet history!!

I had a fiancé call me before from a supposedly single guy.

I answered as o didn't know who it was.. A barrage of abuse followed and was called a slag

I don't give my number out now.

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over a year ago

Sometimes I think people on here get a skewed _iew of life and monogamy - it does and can work

It would appear to be a self serving condition set as a test. A man might as well tell his wife she must plunge her hand into boiling water once a month to prove she loves him.

You are twisted.

It's sad.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Sometimes I think people on here get a skewed _iew of life and monogamy - it does and can work

It would appear to be a self serving condition set as a test. A man might as well tell his wife she must plunge her hand into boiling water once a month to prove she loves him.

Wow, you make it sound like such a chore - if anyone felt like that, they are with the wrong person, for sure - I know for a fact people can be totally happy and in love and have no need or desire to stray in any way, why insist it is unnatural

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over a year ago

Sometimes I think people on here get a skewed _iew of life and monogamy - it does and can work

It would appear to be a self serving condition set as a test. A man might as well tell his wife she must plunge her hand into boiling water once a month to prove she loves him.

You are twisted.

It's sad."

Please explain that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op dont feel bad, he was the one being dishonest..

To his partner and you...

Ive gave out my number and whatsapp in the past...

Learnt my lesson the hard way....

I never give my number out now...

Anyone I meet on fab, all my communication is done via fab...

Dont let this spoil your fab fun, there is actually plenty of honest single men on fab xx

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over a year ago

Can honestly say I wouldn't care a toss if I was in that position and wouldnt think twice about it.

All the responsibility for his behaviour and his conduct regarding the relationship with his fiancé lies 100% at his end.

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over a year ago

Sometimes I think people on here get a skewed _iew of life and monogamy - it does and can work

It would appear to be a self serving condition set as a test. A man might as well tell his wife she must plunge her hand into boiling water once a month to prove she loves him.

It IS a chore and an imposition to a majority of people but they are not allowed to say so; its not PC. That is why more than 50% of people "stray".

It is unnatural because our closest genetic relatives in the animal world, the chimpanzee and bonobo, both engage in lots of casual sex. Humans are the only branch that restricts its sexual activities. However, more than 50% follow their genetic traits at some time or other in relationships.

It is totally possible to love someone with whom you do not have sex or who is not monagamous with you. Likewise it is possible to have sex with others whilst in a relationship without harming your love for the main person in your life. Swingers know that very well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Op dont feel bad, he was the one being dishonest..

To his partner and you...

Ive gave out my number and whatsapp in the past...

Learnt my lesson the hard way....

I never give my number out now...

Anyone I meet on fab, all my communication is done via fab...

Dont let this spoil your fab fun, there is actually plenty of honest single men on fab xx"

Thanks and yes lesson learnt all communications are going to done via fab from now on once I decide to meet again!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep had this happen to me. I just ignored and blocked. Not my issue it's there's!!

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