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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

...but....

why are there some many people on here that seem to have genuine split personality disorder?

I'm not trying to offend anyone but there's people on here that go out of their way to speak to you and then blatantly delete your messages after a good few hours or maybe days chatting.

if you aren't interested in somebody then it is not hard to say so.

I'm almost certain now that some people or on here for some sort of power kick and are straying away from the initial reasons for using a site such as this one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How does that behaviour mean they have such a disorder ?

Could be they formed a conclusion you weren't for them and to avoid awkward explanations, they just moved on. It's a quirky world in here but that makes it interesting.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

They have genuine split personality disorder????? How on earth can you tell that from someone's messages.

Sounds more like they've lost interest.

Not nice to label people with a serious mental health issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads of cock teasers I would say they are instead lol.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Is that you Sigmund ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'll reiterate for the heros...

'seem to'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A more plausible explation Op is that they just don't want to meet you. But if it helps your ego by preferring to believe they have a mental illness then hey, it's a good job you didn't meet them isn't it, as they might have enjoyed your liver, with a little chianti of course.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"...but....

why are there some many people on here that seem to have genuine split personality disorder?

I'm not trying to offend anyone but there's people on here that go out of their way to speak to you and then blatantly delete your messages after a good few hours or maybe days chatting.

if you aren't interested in somebody then it is not hard to say so.

I'm almost certain now that some people or on here for some sort of power kick and are straying away from the initial reasons for using a site such as this one"

If it's happening a lot and there's a pattern forming?

There's only one common denominator.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loads of cock teasers I would say they are instead lol."

I like Shags take on the situation

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I'll reiterate for the heros...

'seem to'"
do you know anything about split personality disorder?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'll reiterate for the heros...

'seem to'do you know anything about split personality disorder?

"

thought there would have to be an expert

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A more plausible explation Op is that they just don't want to meet you. But if it helps your ego by preferring to believe they have a mental illness then hey, it's a good job you didn't meet them isn't it, as they might have enjoyed your liver, with a little chianti of course. "

silence of the lambs fan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...but....

why are there some many people on here that seem to have genuine split personality disorder?

I'm not trying to offend anyone but there's people on here that go out of their way to speak to you and then blatantly delete your messages after a good few hours or maybe days chatting.

if you aren't interested in somebody then it is not hard to say so.

I'm almost certain now that some people or on here for some sort of power kick and are straying away from the initial reasons for using a site such as this one"

Maybe they were just using you to get off? Then figured they didn't need to keep chatting.

Bit like most of the guys round here really.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I'll reiterate for the heros...

'seem to'do you know anything about split personality disorder?

thought there would have to be an expert"
it was a question which you chose not to answer

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"...but....

why are there some many people on here that seem to have genuine split personality disorder?

I'm not trying to offend anyone but there's people on here that go out of their way to speak to you and then blatantly delete your messages after a good few hours or maybe days chatting.

if you aren't interested in somebody then it is not hard to say so.

I'm almost certain now that some people or on here for some sort of power kick and are straying away from the initial reasons for using a site such as this one

Maybe they were just using you to get off? Then figured they didn't need to keep chatting.

Bit like most of the guys round here really."

interesting point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is you can get chatting to someone. Then all of a sudden they decide the alloted amount of time has past and there messages change to a tact you don't like... but they get stressy at you like you've led them on.

I'm not looking to meet ppl atm as I have a fb. I always tell ppl that but they think they can persuade you cause there or hot or whatever....

It takes someone pretty special to change my mind

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'll reiterate for the heros...

'seem to'do you know anything about split personality disorder?

thought there would have to be an expertit was a question which you chose not to answer

"

I think everybody knows or has known somebody with split personality disorder. so yes... a few people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...but....

why are there some many people on here that seem to have genuine split personality disorder?

I'm not trying to offend anyone but there's people on here that go out of their way to speak to you and then blatantly delete your messages after a good few hours or maybe days chatting.

if you aren't interested in somebody then it is not hard to say so.

I'm almost certain now that some people or on here for some sort of power kick and are straying away from the initial reasons for using a site such as this one

Maybe they were just using you to get off? Then figured they didn't need to keep chatting.

Bit like most of the guys round here really.

interesting point"

Or maybe they just decided they didn't really want to fuck you. Swings and roundabouts.

It's still not cool to suggest that people have a mental illness just because they don't want to shag you.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I delete my entire inbox when I decide it's got too much in it. I generally save important mail. I wouldn't expect someone I'm chatting to to be offended by that. I just like a tidy inbox.

Or did you mean before it's been read? That's just plain rude. Complain to anyone who'll listen.

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By *nFairnessMan
over a year ago

The Four Corners


"I delete my entire inbox when I decide it's got too much in it. I generally save important mail. I wouldn't expect someone I'm chatting to to be offended by that. I just like a tidy inbox.

Or did you mean before it's been read? That's just plain rude. Complain to anyone who'll listen. "

thing is with split personality disorder is...well let my friend tell you fae? you herE?

yeah i'm here... so yeah split personality disorder is only a polarisation of duality... wouldnt you agree Mr?

I would Fae... i would... you summed it up nicely...

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We delete messages, just to keep our inbox tidy. Is that classed as OCD?

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I delete my entire inbox when I decide it's got too much in it. I generally save important mail. I wouldn't expect someone I'm chatting to to be offended by that. I just like a tidy inbox.

Or did you mean before it's been read? That's just plain rude. Complain to anyone who'll listen.

thing is with split personality disorder is...well let my friend tell you fae? you herE?

yeah i'm here... so yeah split personality disorder is only a polarisation of duality... wouldnt you agree Mr?

I would Fae... i would... you summed it up nicely...

Thank you.

"

See... I knew the voices would listen!

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"

Or maybe they just decided they didn't really want to fuck you. Swings and roundabouts.

It's still not cool to suggest that people have a mental illness just because they don't want to shag you."

suppose it makes a change from they are timewasting, teasers etc

it would appear that rejection is a real mind fuck for some..

oh the irony..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

when they're are the ones putting it on my toes first....then ignoring messages or one wording you.

hence split personality disorder.

i dont see the point in the first place... why isnt that understood?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the point is, there's nothing to understand. People do what people do for all manner of reasons. You can't change that. Some behaviour is odd yes, but not worth too much reflection.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"when they're are the ones putting it on my toes first....then ignoring messages or one wording you.

hence split personality disorder.

i dont see the point in the first place... why isnt that understood?"

It is understood.

They're fishing.

The get a bite.

They reel it in.

Then like many fishermen (or fisherwomen! )....they throw it back and go home.

No split personality required.

Just someone to fall for it

A

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"when they're are the ones putting it on my toes first....then ignoring messages or one wording you.

hence split personality disorder.

i dont see the point in the first place... why isnt that understood?"
the technical term is called losing interest, maybe the conversation bored them, maybe the conversation, who knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll reiterate for the heros...

'seem to'do you know anything about split personality disorder?

thought there would have to be an expertit was a question which you chose not to answer

I think everybody knows or has known somebody with split personality disorder. so yes... a few people."

Actually, it's extremely rare...so it's very very unlikely...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"when they're are the ones putting it on my toes first....then ignoring messages or one wording you.

hence split personality disorder.

i dont see the point in the first place... why isnt that understood?"

They don't know how they'll feel about you until they've talked to you/made a move.

Have you ever made a move on someone, then thought "actually...no" ?

It's a change of mind, that's all.

If they were really ill you'd know from the tone/inappropriate words etc. That's something totally different to them becoming bored/choosing someone more suited to them or just plain losing interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ouch, I'm guessing the post was tongue in cheek but the wrath of fab has been unleashed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To quote Sheldon

"Curiouser and Curiouser"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

some people on here need to have a minute.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"some people on here need to have a minute."

Hmmph... I'm sure I gave you more than a minute and you didn't even reply!!

Seriously... it's not the end of the world. Let it go and come be mental with the rest of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is that you Sigmund ?

"
yes mother

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think some people on here are very passive agressive.

and for the record I'm mental.

but logically mental none the less

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"some people on here need to have a minute.

Hmmph... I'm sure I gave you more than a minute and you didn't even reply!!

Seriously... it's not the end of the world. Let it go and come be mental with the rest of us. "

slightly witty haha

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I've lost count of the amount of times I have been having a friendly chat with someone, then they say something so there's just nothing further that can be said. its usually unexpected, nothing in their profile that states they have a particular interest, or so disgusting I just move on.

As said above, if its something that keeps happening, then maybe worth reviewing your messages to people to see what could have scared them off.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"some people on here need to have a minute.

Hmmph... I'm sure I gave you more than a minute and you didn't even reply!!

Seriously... it's not the end of the world. Let it go and come be mental with the rest of us.

slightly witty haha"

Slightly?! Pah! I thought it was hilarious!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've genuinely lost people I've found interesting. If say I've been talking to a few different people then suddenly wonder where they've gone but the messages are not visible coz I've had and sent too many recent ones

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"some people on here need to have a minute.

Hmmph... I'm sure I gave you more than a minute and you didn't even reply!!

Seriously... it's not the end of the world. Let it go and come be mental with the rest of us.

slightly witty haha

Slightly?! Pah! I thought it was hilarious! "

just about haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've genuinely lost people I've found interesting. If say I've been talking to a few different people then suddenly wonder where they've gone but the messages are not visible coz I've had and sent too many recent ones"

maybe its something to do with the amount of inboxes then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've genuinely lost people I've found interesting. If say I've been talking to a few different people then suddenly wonder where they've gone but the messages are not visible coz I've had and sent too many recent ones

maybe its something to do with the amount of inboxes then"

It could be to do with you? Who knows?i

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By *anchestercubMan
over a year ago

manchester & NI

Isn't one of the issues the fact that people can misinterpret forum banter?

Most of the time it's probably just the rapport of the forum in general but some people might misread that as being personally interested in more so they send a PM.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's break it down


"why are there some many people on here that seem to have genuine split personality disorder?

I'm almost certain now that some people or on here for some sort of power kick and are straying away from the initial reasons for using a site such as this one"

Stupid I'll informed generalisation guaranteed to get a response from people who have experience of or not happy with the blatant link between choice and mental illness


"I'm not trying to offend anyone but there's people on here that go out of their way to speak to you and then blatantly delete your messages after a good few hours or maybe days chatting.

if you aren't interested in somebody then it is not hard to say so"

People change their mind and due to experience of belittling aggressive responses from many to wanting to end communication it is easier to delete block than explain themselves

Summary-respect their choices and move on

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It is relatively easy to change ones mind, you don't even have to go into a changing room to do it.

If changing your mind is the definition of split personality disorder we're all doomed.

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