FabSwingers.com forum: Single males and 'person above' threads

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On any of thread that encourages people to pay some sort of compliment or at least make a positive observation about the person above them, I doubt I'm the only one who's noticed that getting the typical single male to actually interact with other males in the spirit of the thread is extremely unlikely. In a fast moving thread, post skipping is understandable, and yet I've often seen males posts left for several minutes getting ignored by guys desperate to interact with a hottie single woman or one in a couple who posted 15 minutes ago.

Whilst I have done it myself on a number of occasions, I do try and have enough character to try and say SOMETHING positive about other guys as the thread requires, and have seen a handful of other guys do the same, but that's it, a handful.

What does this say about the male mentality in general?

(I wonder how long it will take the trolls to show up this time...?)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That they're more interested in getting a female's attention than another males? For a swingers site that sort of makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A well written post.....and last time I looked a decent cock too!

There you go SB.....sorted.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That they're more interested in getting a female's attention than another males? For a swingers site that sort of makes sense. "

But choosing to do it on a thread that actively encourages participation with the people above you?

Not so much.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Oh, I don;t have a problem with this...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

.?? Just realised I can't see SBs profile any more..... Odd?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That they're more interested in getting a female's attention than another males? For a swingers site that sort of makes sense.

But choosing to do it on a thread that actively encourages participation with the people above you?

Not so much."

It's only a daft game! Are you really that desperate to here what a random stranger thinks of you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is quite funny watching someone (if ten couples do it too) skip about 15 posts to reply to someone from ages back.

I like the sexually under tones of these forums they make the dynamic very different to others, makes for more interesting people watching.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I post randomly on those when the mood takes me. Quite often it's someone I have no interest in meeting due to geography, preferences etc. but I never assume anyone will get the wrong idea because I say something nice about them. I find the removed by poster sections on those threads quite funny; as if paying an accidental compliment to a guy when you are one means you might catch the ghey. Really?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On any of thread that encourages people to pay some sort of compliment or at least make a positive observation about the person above them, I doubt I'm the only one who's noticed that getting the typical single male to actually interact with other males in the spirit of the thread is extremely unlikely. In a fast moving thread, post skipping is understandable, and yet I've often seen males posts left for several minutes getting ignored by guys desperate to interact with a hottie single woman or one in a couple who posted 15 minutes ago.

What does this say about the male mentality in general?

(I wonder how long it will take the trolls to show up this time...?)"

Second pic, looking good fella

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find the removed by poster sections on those threads quite funny; as if paying an accidental compliment to a guy when you are one means you might catch the ghey. Really?!"

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I like the sexually under tones of these forums"

*Under*tones??!

Overtones, surely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I participated in one of those threads the other day. It felt weird fabbing a cock pic. Was it a fabbable cock? I really wasn't sure

The point of the thread was to fab the person above though so that's what I did.

Weirdly I do have a cock preference in t-girls. For whatever reason I like them to look like mine

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What does this say about the male mentality in general?

(I wonder how long it will take the trolls to show up this time...?)

Second pic, looking good fella

Thankyou, but I still need more thickness in my pecs...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I post randomly on those when the mood takes me. Quite often it's someone I have no interest in meeting due to geography, preferences etc. but I never assume anyone will get the wrong idea because I say something nice about them. I find the removed by poster sections on those threads quite funny; as if paying an accidental compliment to a guy when you are one means you might catch the ghey. Really?!"

The gehy is highly contagious, people are right to take precautions.

But frankly "removed by poster" is like putting a band aid on a bullet hole, going UNLOS is the only way to be sure you won't catch the gehy after complimenting a guy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I participated in one of those threads the other day. It felt weird fabbing a cock pic. Was it a fabbable cock? I really wasn't sure

It's good that you participated in the thread as intended, but personally if the poster above me had no pics I felt were fab worthy, I simply wouldn't post.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

The gehy is highly contagious, people are right to take precautions.

But frankly "removed by poster" is like putting a band aid on a bullet hole, going UNLOS is the only way to be sure you won't catch the gehy after complimenting a guy."

Shit. I'd better stop complimenting straight women then in case they catch my touch of ghey...

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

It's all self self self in here

I have to say though that I rarely give the ladies a compliment,people trip over themselves to do that in here and I think we get more than enough attention as it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I have never seen the point of those types of thread, but many people seem to enjoy them. I am quite happy to leave them to enjoy it in their own way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally, I have never seen the point of those types of thread, but many people seem to enjoy them. I am quite happy to leave them to enjoy it in their own way."

Same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The gehy is highly contagious, people are right to take precautions.

But frankly "removed by poster" is like putting a band aid on a bullet hole, going UNLOS is the only way to be sure you won't catch the gehy after complimenting a guy.

Shit. I'd better stop complimenting straight women then in case they catch my touch of ghey...

As a carrier of the ghey you really need to keep in check those wild ghey urges to convert the straighties.

Like a rabies victim should try not to bite others.

It's hard but it's your duty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally, I have never seen the point of those types of thread, but many people seem to enjoy them. I am quite happy to leave them to enjoy it in their own way."

They're a bit of a giggle and can be a nice ice breaker for a chat.

Plus sometimes you get the more involved pro and con/ profile suggestion ones where you can actually get a bit of insight into how people see you. Or at very least get a handy spell check :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As very new to the forum and notice very few males interact it maybe as there is lots of threads repeated,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I participated in one of those threads the other day. It felt weird fabbing a cock pic. Was it a fabbable cock? I really wasn't sure

It's good that you participated in the thread as intended, but personally if the poster above me had no pics I felt were fab worthy, I simply wouldn't post."

That's a very fair point.

My thinking was maybe they were fabworthy as its likely subjective and I probably wouldn't find any guy pics fabworthy.

Also that I would otherwise have to wait for a female to post in order to properly participate.

But yeah you're right. I probably won't bother next time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also meant to add it is a sex site not a site to find bingo buddies

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Perhaps I'll have to post another 'compliment the person above' thread and prove my point.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"Perhaps I'll have to post another 'compliment the person above' thread and prove my point."

I just did post on one as an experiment (it's been a while). And got skipped. So maybe it's not just the single guys who get left out...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Perhaps I'll have to post another 'compliment the person above' thread and prove my point.

I just did post on one as an experiment (it's been a while). And got skipped. So maybe it's not just the single guys who get left out..."

How long after you posted did the person who skipped you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why post a thread to prove a point, what the point in that point

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"Perhaps I'll have to post another 'compliment the person above' thread and prove my point.

I just did post on one as an experiment (it's been a while). And got skipped. So maybe it's not just the single guys who get left out...

How long after you posted did the person who skipped you?"

A couple of minutes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps I'll have to post another 'compliment the person above' thread and prove my point.

I just did post on one as an experiment (it's been a while). And got skipped. So maybe it's not just the single guys who get left out..."

I'm always getting skipped on those threads...not that I bother with them much

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"Perhaps I'll have to post another 'compliment the person above' thread and prove my point.

I just did post on one as an experiment (it's been a while). And got skipped. So maybe it's not just the single guys who get left out..."

I do think that they can go so fast that posts get missed,as lots try to respond to one person some times

I never think that women are intentionally ignored like men are

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Perhaps I'll have to post another 'compliment the person above' thread and prove my point.

I just did post on one as an experiment (it's been a while). And got skipped. So maybe it's not just the single guys who get left out...

I do think that they can go so fast that posts get missed,as lots try to respond to one person some times

I never think that women are intentionally ignored like men are"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Perhaps I'll have to post another 'compliment the person above' thread and prove my point.

I just did post on one as an experiment (it's been a while). And got skipped. So maybe it's not just the single guys who get left out...

How long after you posted did the person who skipped you?

A couple of minutes?"

Interestingly Ligeia, I just saw one of your posts on another such thread that did indeed get skipped, only for someone to then skip a couple of posts to specifically compliment you.

Such treatment a single male would likely never get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've stopped posting on the "fab a person blah blah blah" threads as it shatters my already fragile ego.

I often find after posting, that my profile gets loads of visits from bi and ghey men and I'm frankly petrified of catching the ghey, even by proxy.

Editors disclaimer; some, all or none of the above post may be factually accurate.

Or not.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps I'll have to post another 'compliment the person above' thread and prove my point.

I just did post on one as an experiment (it's been a while). And got skipped. So maybe it's not just the single guys who get left out...

I do think that they can go so fast that posts get missed,as lots try to respond to one person some times

I never think that women are intentionally ignored like men are"

Some women are....we aren't all gods gift

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"Perhaps I'll have to post another 'compliment the person above' thread and prove my point.

I just did post on one as an experiment (it's been a while). And got skipped. So maybe it's not just the single guys who get left out...

I do think that they can go so fast that posts get missed,as lots try to respond to one person some times

I never think that women are intentionally ignored like men are

Some women are....we aren't all gods gift"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps I'll have to post another 'compliment the person above' thread and prove my point.

I just did post on one as an experiment (it's been a while). And got skipped. So maybe it's not just the single guys who get left out...

How long after you posted did the person who skipped you?

A couple of minutes?

Interestingly Ligeia, I just saw one of your posts on another such thread that did indeed get skipped, only for someone to then skip a couple of posts to specifically compliment you.

Such treatment a single male would likely never get."

I have skipped back on posts like that to comment on single guys who have been skipped. But I only do it when the skip wad intentional rather than accidental (because of too many posts at once).

I think people do it because they use the thread to signal to people that they are interested (I often get winks from them). But I only see it as a bit of fun. Perhaps it is a situation of people having different reasons for posting that create this scenario?

-Courtney

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

".?? Just realised I can't see SBs profile any more..... Odd?"

You are not alone. How strange

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over a year ago

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

What you really can catch the ghay

Fook this im off

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I can't remember the last time I posted on such a thread. Years ago probably.

The sheer volume of them, along with the 'fab a pic' threads on a daily basis reduce the fun element and it's been a long while since an original idea cropped up.

There will be people sitting waiting for the right gender to appear before posting - probably several people - hence the sudden 'removed by poster' gaps. Add in the number who'll dive in simply because someone has tits/a fanny/a large cock/a six pack and it tends to become simply an opportunity to fawn and generally suck up - often the only opportunity folk will get due to message filters.

Given the nature of the site, the ratios of men to women and message filters, is it any wonder that guys will skip other guys to heap praise on a woman rather than the guy above?

But if these threads are simply harmless fun, with no other hidden agenda - does it really matter in the slightest?

Is being skipped the end of the world? Or is it just another thing to add to the list - messages being ignored, being blocked, not getting views - that some folk get upset about and take too personally?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Perhaps I'll have to post another 'compliment the person above' thread and prove my point.

I just did post on one as an experiment (it's been a while). And got skipped. So maybe it's not just the single guys who get left out...

How long after you posted did the person who skipped you?

A couple of minutes?

Interestingly Ligeia, I just saw one of your posts on another such thread that did indeed get skipped, only for someone to then skip a couple of posts to specifically compliment you.

Such treatment a single male would likely never get.

I have skipped back on posts like that to comment on single guys who have been skipped. But I only do it when the skip wad intentional rather than accidental (because of too many posts at once).

-Courtney"

You're probably right, although any kind of 'attention seeking' is seen as heretical on here, despite this being a site where you ideally seek to be noticed to the people who may be attracted to you become aware of your existence and so you might get a chance at meeting them...

The reason I'm pulling up guys for skipping each other, is how they hammer home the rat race nature of sites like this.

(waits the influx of people claiming they don't see the site this way, in order to try and present themselves as above it and thusly of a higher, more meet worthy quality than those who do

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I just play the game ocassionally if I'm bored

I'm never going to meet anyone off the back of them but I like the way they're an easy to join in fun game for everyone to play,I've seen lots of newbies find their feet in these threads over the years which is nice

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By *ethepeopleMan
over a year ago

Near you

Popped onto chat !!! Now that is a game of compliment leapfrog, what a joke

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