FabSwingers.com forum: Why do some people

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Think they can get away with sending horrible messages to people and expect to get laid?

Chatting to one of my lovely forumite friends, she mentioned she gets countless degrading messages such as 'hey bitch, wanna fuck?'

If it happened in public you would probably expect a slap or a bollocking.. why do it on here and expect anything different.

Makes me kind of sad that people dont treat others as human beings..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think they can get away with sending horrible messages to people and expect to get laid?

Chatting to one of my lovely forumite friends, she mentioned she gets countless degrading messages such as 'hey bitch, wanna fuck?'

If it happened in public you would probably expect a slap or a bollocking.. why do it on here and expect anything different.

Makes me kind of sad that people dont treat others as human beings..

Immature wankers it always surprises me when ppl get those that ppl think that will work??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the context its sent. I'd occasionally send a message like that to my fuck buddy as we know each other well and she knows I'm having a laugh but to a complete stranger, its highly inappropriate. I guess those that do it think it will stand out in the sea of messages women get. It probably does, but for all the wrong reasons.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As a first message?

Luckily I think a lot of them go UNLOS pretty quick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find filtering out newbies has stopped a few wanna fuck & UNLOS messages.

The most effective way is to scroll down the wall of yellow and press delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not cool as a first message x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get messages every 2nd day, of that nature.I just assumed that's how the site works

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

It certainly opened my eyes a when I've had ladies stop at mine for a couple of days to see the kinds of messages they've received. It does make you wonder sometimes what the sender is expecting to get out of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But did it work?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Definitely not cool. I always treat people as actual people not as a piece of meat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get messages every 2nd day, of that nature.I just assumed that's how the site works "

Sorry, I thought you liked them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just delete and move on if a first message was of that type

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

It doesn't work with many.

It will work with many.

Maybe it's a good way for certain blokes to get the type of women they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just remebered one I had that cracked me up from another site...

I want to make you my cum loving fuck toy...

Needless to say I declined on that occassion pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people must think the safety of being sat behind a computer screen affords them the luxury of loosing touch with all acceptable social skills and that obviously those that they message are gagging to fuck a halfwit!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find filtering out newbies has stopped a few wanna fuck & UNLOS messages.

The most effective way is to scroll down the wall of yellow and press delete."

A wall of yellow? Now you are just bragging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get my fair share of non newbies sending those kind of messages too. I just delete unread. If they keep messaging I block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A think It has a lot to with what public pics you have on show, yes it right you would not go up to a stranger in a pub and ask to fuck, then again you would not have your cock or tits out in a pub, in my case lol tits and cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Works for us.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wanna blow me cock snot up someone's fart pipe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wanna blow me cock snot up someone's fart pipe.

At this time of the morning? ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wanna blow me cock snot up someone's fart pipe.

And who said romance was dead?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find filtering out newbies has stopped a few wanna fuck & UNLOS messages.

The most effective way is to scroll down the wall of yellow and press delete.

A wall of yellow? Now you are just bragging

Hahahahaha.....I was referencing an untidy inbox really as most chancers go UNLOS by the time I get around to scrolling down....

I'd prefer a wall of pink tho or am I now bordering demanding female territory...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wanna blow me cock snot up someone's fart pipe.

And who said romance was dead?"

It's alive and kicking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A think It has a lot to with what public pics you have on show, yes it right you would not go up to a stranger in a pub and ask to fuck, then again you would not have your cock or tits out in a pub, in my case lol tits and cock"

I disagree. There are ways of messaging someone to say you are interested in meeting them for sex without being rude or abusive.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Some guys actually seem convinced that all women on this site want to be used and treated as dirty sluts.

I got a lengthy message a while ago describing in detail how the sender would use and degrade me. He finished by asking if I could imagine how much of a dirty slut that would make me feel.

Not really, as it happens as I'd have been furious long before the end of his scenario.

My profile says I'm kinky, admittedly, but it also says I'm not in any way submissive. There's nothing in there to suggest I might want, or enjoy, being treated that way.

The guy, for some reason, however, seemed convinced he was offering me my heart's desire.

Men and women, particularly horny men and women, speak totally different languages sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still get "wanna fuck" messages, even with plenty of filters on. Sometimes you can't get away from the arseholes.

I just delete and move on.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Shit messages are a useful filter.

I love them.

So does our block button.

They don't bother me in the slightest.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

"Definitely not cool. I always treat people as actual people not as a piece of meat. "

That's the only way to be as far as I'm concerned...a bit of respect goes a long way

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Shit messages are a useful filter.

I love them.

So does our block button.

They don't bother me in the slightest.

They used to bother me but much less so now. I'm just used to it. I'm still incredulous at some of them but shake me head or roll my eyes and hit delete.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find filtering out newbies has stopped a few wanna fuck & UNLOS messages.

The most effective way is to scroll down the wall of yellow and press delete.

A wall of yellow? Now you are just bragging

Hahahahaha.....I was referencing an untidy inbox really as most chancers go UNLOS by the time I get around to scrolling down....

I'd prefer a wall of pink tho or am I now bordering demanding female territory...

Sorry. Dont mind me....just having a moment.

Back in the room

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With filters set I still get fancy s fuck ? Messages or give us a tit wank babe messages

One guy I declined told me to go and kill myself.

After a report and a block he went unlos. I'm sure he's back already with another profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wanna blow me cock snot up someone's fart pipe.

And who said romance was dead?"

Said at the right time in this jokey manner by someone I knew. This would crack me up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had "wanna fuck" messages & I've replied saying they won't get very far on Fab with messages like that & they've apologised.

I think some men try the nice, friendly way, get nowhere & then try the direct "Wanna fuck" method

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"With filters set I still get fancy s fuck ? Messages or give us a tit wank babe messages

One guy I declined told me to go and kill myself.

After a report and a block he went unlos. I'm sure he's back already with another profile. "

He'll still have the same attitude though and still won't be getting meets. Don't give him a second's further thought.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've had "wanna fuck" messages & I've replied saying they won't get very far on Fab with messages like that & they've apologised.

I think some men try the nice, friendly way, get nowhere & then try the direct "Wanna fuck" method

But then if they start out with the 'wanna fuck?' Get a wrist slap then you get the 'but im not like that really' do you believe them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think at some point most females will recieve at least one of those messages. Iv had a few, since being on fab. It just another filter for me to use. I just block that person and move on to the nice decent guys fab has to offer

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

What I don't understand is that we all have the same inbox so everyone knows that the first five words can be previewed without even opening the mail. Unless those first five words are worth reading, why would you bother with the rest?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had "wanna fuck" messages & I've replied saying they won't get very far on Fab with messages like that & they've apologised.

I think some men try the nice, friendly way, get nowhere & then try the direct "Wanna fuck" method

But then if they start out with the 'wanna fuck?' Get a wrist slap then you get the 'but im not like that really' do you believe them?"

Depends on their following messages. They're just frustrated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All these that go UNLOS; why would they be interested in the United Nations Law of the Sea ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had "wanna fuck" messages & I've replied saying they won't get very far on Fab with messages like that & they've apologised.

I think some men try the nice, friendly way, get nowhere & then try the direct "Wanna fuck" method

Sorry I don't even give them a chance to explain or apologise. They get blocked end of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*sobs* why dont single men get em......mind u knowin my luck it would be from a big black man called bubba who wanted to destroy me bum bum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*sobs* why dont single men get em......mind u knowin my luck it would be from a big black man called bubba who wanted to destroy me bum bum"

Oi bitch, let's fuck.

There, happy now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*sobs* why dont single men get em......mind u knowin my luck it would be from a big black man called bubba who wanted to destroy me bum bum

Oi bitch, let's fuck.

There, happy now?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Last time I sent a fancy a fuck message, he laughed

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

"Last time I sent a fancy a fuck message, he laughed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*sobs* why dont single men get em......mind u knowin my luck it would be from a big black man called bubba who wanted to destroy me bum bum

Oi bitch, let's fuck.

There, happy now?

runs off to have a wank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think they are sent with any other objective but to annoy\upset,

Small minded actions but most are just getting a little ego boost from putting down others,

For many I would apply this and just forget them,

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

http://www.fabswingers.com/content/forum-rules

Don't post actual messages please or you could end up not posting for a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we put on our status that we are out looking for fun , we geta few messages like these .

And as a result of saying yes we do , we've had lots of great meets .

So in some cases , especially with slurs like us it does work

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Makes me kind of sad that people dont treat others as human beings..

They probably think they are. We have never had a mail like that, but if we did, it is easily ignored. If people do find it a problem for them, they could always use mail filters and look for who they want to meet themselves.

A question, are you just irate on your friends behalf or see this as a way to show that you won't be sending " wanna fuck" messages?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"What I don't understand is that we all have the same inbox so everyone knows that the first five words can be previewed without even opening the mail. Unless those first five words are worth reading, why would you bother with the rest?

1. Hello 2. there. 3 Do. 4. You . 5. Like .... taking huge cock up your arse ?

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

1. Hello 2. there. 3 Do. 4. You . 5. Like .... taking huge cock up your arse ?"

Yes but you see the 'you' is usually 'u' and there we have it!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

There's that fucking

again!

*asks Santa for thinner fingers*

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Think they can get away with sending horrible messages to people and expect to get laid?

Chatting to one of my lovely forumite friends, she mentioned she gets countless degrading messages such as 'hey bitch, wanna fuck?'

If it happened in public you would probably expect a slap or a bollocking.. why do it on here and expect anything different.

Makes me kind of sad that people dont treat others as human beings..

Learnt behaviour, at a guess.

If it works once, you'll do it again. And even a 5% success rate is still 1 in 20...

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

I send pics of my turds with my messages saying "bitch you can eat this as I fuck you".

Surprisingly I've yet to receive what you,and the rest of the forumites would call a civilised,and enthusiastic response from the fab hoe bags...stuck up bitches if you ask me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just instantly block nasty offensive people now.

I use to give them my piece of mind but it's just not worth it as you get worse nasty messages back

Block and move on.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"http://www.fabswingers.com/content/forum-rules

Don't post actual messages please or you could end up not posting for a while."

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

1. Hello 2. there. 3 Do. 4. You . 5. Like .... taking huge cock up your arse ?"

And I've just been to count and it's actually 12 words... so if the first twelve words are shite I hit delete!

*waits for someone to send: shite shite shite shite shite shite shite shite shite shite shite shite...*

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

I disagree. There are ways of messaging someone to say you are interested in meeting them for sex without being rude or abusive."

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

It does happen in public, sadly.

Most women will have a number of such stories to tell from their own experiences

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I guess the internet makes us accessible to types of people that we wouldn't normally come into contact with.

We may be surprised, yet others might not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never send degrading messages..im always polite! Not that it gets me far...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I never send degrading messages..im always polite! Not that it gets me far..."

It lets you know you are not the subject of the comments above.

It lets you know your mum would be proud of your bagging off skills.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending degrading messages a think is sadly part and parcel of theses sites sex messages are very different if you havevinteracted and happy for sex messaging, but a lot don't seem to know the difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

**Let me all reassure you all**

I have today informed the cock squad of you're concerns

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shit messages are a useful filter.

I love them.

So does our block button.

They don't bother me in the slightest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. Hello 2. there. 3 Do. 4. You . 5. Like .... taking huge cock up your arse ?

And I've just been to count and it's actually 12 words... so if the first twelve words are shite I hit delete!

*waits for someone to send: shite shite shite shite shite shite shite shite shite shite shite shite...*

You must have an upgraded inbox.... The most I could see on mine was 8 and three of the words were a, I and u

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

i am thankful for all those messages..if every guy wrote a beautifully presented, eloquent and attractive message i would feel so bad for not being able to meet all of them.. the single guys who make the effort consistently, stand out from them easily...and they get my attention..simple x

lots of lovely people who know how to communicate on here..btw..they are appreciated x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even if I get a fantastically polite message I don't reply straight away anymore. You'd be surprised how many follow it up with a nasty message only moments later. I think that shows their true personality

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

1. Hello 2. there. 3 Do. 4. You . 5. Like .... taking huge cock up your arse ?

And I've just been to count and it's actually 12 words... so if the first twelve words are shite I hit delete!

*waits for someone to send: shite shite shite shite shite shite shite shite shite shite shite shite...*

You must have an upgraded inbox.... The most I could see on mine was 8 and three of the words were a, I and u

I win! I can see 14 on one of mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even if I get a fantastically polite message I don't reply straight away anymore. You'd be surprised how many follow it up with a nasty message only moments later. I think that shows their true personality

I'm the same i maybe able to reply to a message when i first look at my inbox, then its like whoosh i cant reply quick enough...so i just go into chat rooms or on the forum. I have filters on my messages even have the one with no pictures on profile ! And i still get messages..

I enjoy being on here and have chatted to many people some amazing people to be honest, who's messages even now put a smile on my face, but the odd few spoil the site.

I have had abusive messages, and even offered cash to meet....pretty sure to my face hunny you would never do it so why as a keyboard warrior do you think thats acceptable behaviour?.

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