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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Anyone else struggle? Since the crash I've not bothered with the gym and my diet has gone to he'll.

Really struggling getting motivated to actually sort things out.

Life seems to consist of sleeping nearly every hour of the day I'm not in work.

Tips or techniques for dragging yourself off your arse and doing stuff?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A rocket up your arse?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you all better now OP? Did you get the bike fixed/ a new one?

Can you go back to planning your trip? That might motivate you.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

You may be still in recovery mode.

Work on setting yourself a teensy task and build up from there. Don't let the depression genie rub it's lamp.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found talking to a counsellor helped load.. put everything in order in my head. Felt like a weight was lifted...went and did some shopping. Good clean food. Looked up some recipes...started lifting again..snowballed from there.

Good luck fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much my daily struggle ... Every day off or early Finish from work I think of all the things I'm going to do and then a voice in my head says "yeah right" and shut my eyes and I go to sleep until I have to get up for work when I'm happy I'm really happy life and soul of a gathering but when I'm down there really is no way up not that I can control anyhow ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take each day as it comes, maybe set a task to help motivate yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What stuff are you struggling to do?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Baby steps, instead of sleeping make yourself get up even if you don't do anything, don't beat yourself up, every step is a step in the fight direction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My default setting is lazy.

I do lists of 5 personal tasks and mark them off so I'm completing things.

My last 5 were..

Change bedlinen

Hang up ironing in wardrobe, not the doors

Make hairdressers appt

Buy a waterproof mac for work

Chocolate treat

I managed!

Small victories help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else struggle? Since the crash I've not bothered with the gym and my diet has gone to he'll.

Really struggling getting motivated to actually sort things out.

Life seems to consist of sleeping nearly every hour of the day I'm not in work.

Tips or techniques for dragging yourself off your arse and doing stuff?

"

Have you considered starting off by cleaning up your diet? You say yourself it's poor right now, why not try slowly adding a little fruit and veg, and see if it gives you a boost?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op can I ask a question and feel free to not answer or answer privately ... Do you have any OCD type things going on .... ??

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

If there's a rocket going spare...

I'm seriously lacking. I know I'll feel better if I pulled my finger out but I don't seem able to put myself into any sort of action. It's pathetic.

I need a highly motivated exercise junkie who lives in Edinburgh and needs a project!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I bought a book today, I usually use the kindle, OK I've only read 10 pages but I feel like I'm doing something

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Gyms are difficult places to go back to once the routine has been broken. It's purely psychological. Go once and plan the next trip and stick to it.

Easier said than done I know.

C...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a very long rope. tie one end of the rope to your bed, and the other end, you tie to your neighbours car, who goes to work at 7.30 in the morning. And if you don't get up in time to, untie it from his car, you are going to look like Mary fuckin Poppins. The moral of this scenario is !!! Think positive, not negative, have happy funny thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Op can I ask a question and feel free to not answer or answer privately ... Do you have any OCD type things going on .... ?? "

Oh hell no I'm messy disorganised and have no real pattern to anything.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Get a very long rope. tie one end of the rope to your bed, and the other end, you tie to your neighbours car, who goes to work at 7.30 in the morning. And if you don't get up in time to, untie it from his car, you are going to look like Mary fuckin Poppins. The moral of this scenario is !!! Think positive, not negative, have happy funny thoughts. "

I get in from work at 6:30am :p

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Op can I ask a question and feel free to not answer or answer privately ... Do you have any OCD type things going on .... ??

Oh hell no I'm messy disorganised and have no real pattern to anything."

Well if it makes you feel any better at all, I think you have a fabulous body, your scar umps uber sexy and if I were 20 years younger...

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Umps?! Wtf! Is not umps!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Set your alarm for Tuesday earlier than you would normally get up, then go sort something in your gaff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get a very long rope. tie one end of the rope to your bed, and the other end, you tie to your neighbours car, who goes to work at 7.30 in the morning. And if you don't get up in time to, untie it from his car, you are going to look like Mary fuckin Poppins. The moral of this scenario is !!! Think positive, not negative, have happy funny thoughts.

I get in from work at 6:30am :p"
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Night shift!

Is that a permanent thing! If so look no further, alot of people struggle with night shifts really badly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get yourself a gym buddy

Training with someone else will give you the motivation to get down to the gym.

Once you're over the doorstep everything will seem easier.

I know from personal experience, after a serious knee op, that it's much easier to get out of a habit than getting back into it

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Sometimes we just need a break. 've just had a month off. Don't get me wrong - I haven't been face smashing a black forest gateau every night, but I have had a very fun filled July and thought it pointless to carry on my 5:2 when I couldn't get to the gym. Back at it with a vengeance tomorrow!

I agree with DirtyGirl though. You have nothing to worry about. I would, if I was your type.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Get a very long rope. tie one end of the rope to your bed, and the other end, you tie to your neighbours car, who goes to work at 7.30 in the morning. And if you don't get up in time to, untie it from his car, you are going to look like Mary fuckin Poppins. The moral of this scenario is !!! Think positive, not negative, have happy funny thoughts.

I get in from work at 6:30am :p.

Night shift!

Is that a permanent thing! If so look no further, alot of people struggle with night shifts really badly"

Yeah I love nights though for work.

Normally it fits my sleeping pattern perfectly

Just not having a bike seems to have sapped me of the motivation, got all the videos to start insanity meant to start it last Monday but just can't work up the motivation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op can I ask a question and feel free to not answer or answer privately ... Do you have any OCD type things going on .... ??

Oh hell no I'm messy disorganised and have no real pattern to anything."

It's not always about being tidy I'm probably the messiest person I know but fuck me if I think I have to do something or bad will come of it I have to do it and that can be something as stupid as touching something a set number of times or even just completing a task before an advert or song finishes ... Sound stupid but It's surprising how many people deal with this sort of thing daily when you talk about it ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get a very long rope. tie one end of the rope to your bed, and the other end, you tie to your neighbours car, who goes to work at 7.30 in the morning. And if you don't get up in time to, untie it from his car, you are going to look like Mary fuckin Poppins. The moral of this scenario is !!! Think positive, not negative, have happy funny thoughts.

I get in from work at 6:30am :p.

Night shift!

Is that a permanent thing! If so look no further, alot of people struggle with night shifts really badly

Yeah I love nights though for work.

Normally it fits my sleeping pattern perfectly

Just not having a bike seems to have sapped me of the motivation, got all the videos to start insanity meant to start it last Monday but just can't work up the motivation"
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A guy I've just worked for spent 14 years doing night shift, but was told he should stop because it was making his depression worse!

Not sure myself as I've never done a night shift in my life unless it involved a lock in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op can I ask a question and feel free to not answer or answer privately ... Do you have any OCD type things going on .... ??

Oh hell no I'm messy disorganised and have no real pattern to anything.

It's not always about being tidy I'm probably the messiest person I know but fuck me if I think I have to do something or bad will come of it I have to do it and that can be something as stupid as touching something a set number of times or even just completing a task before an advert or song finishes ... Sound stupid but It's surprising how many people deal with this sort of thing daily when you talk about it .. "
I know I sound like a fruit loop I'm not lol but when my depression hits me hard it sets off little anxiety triggers ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've wanted to get into running for years. But I run on default lazy when it comes to exercise.

Annoying as I can clean the house faster than Kim and aggy on speed!

I tend to throw myself in and do loads of exercise for weeks or months and then nothing for 12 months.

Each year I get a little fatter so if you crack this one let me know. I'm beginig to think it's about making it fun but I'm not quite sure how to do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op can I ask a question and feel free to not answer or answer privately ... Do you have any OCD type things going on .... ??

Oh hell no I'm messy disorganised and have no real pattern to anything.

Well if it makes you feel any better at all, I think you have a fabulous body, your scar umps uber sexy and if I were 20 years younger... "

Definitely agree with this ! (except maybe the umps bit)

Doesn't help at all I know, but baby steps

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Firstly, never be hard on yourself. Punishment doesn't provide lasting motivation, merely insult.

From near inactivity, only plan and take small steps. They are massive compared to nothing.

Resist going ott, just keep it fairly easy. Better to plan a total of 30 minutes in a week and no more, than exercising every other day.

Developing a routine helps, as it gets things normalized and habituated over time.

Only do exercise that you like. Studies show adherence is more successful in the long term.

I've focused on exercise but these principles apply to introducing new stuff into your life.

And ensure you're taken care of emotionally. Not isolated etc. Meet with people who care for you.

And add more fun into your life. You're not designed to become stale. Get involved with stuff that's light, invigorating and where you can laugh more often.

As with steering a ship, changing course by just one degree makes a radical difference to both your route and end point.

Be easy, small steps and let us know how you get on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Firstly, never be hard on yourself. Punishment doesn't provide lasting motivation, merely insult.

From near inactivity, only plan and take small steps. They are massive compared to nothing.

Resist going ott, just keep it fairly easy. Better to plan a total of 30 minutes in a week and no more, than exercising every other day.

Developing a routine helps, as it gets things normalized and habituated over time.

Only do exercise that you like. Studies show adherence is more successful in the long term.

I've focused on exercise but these principles apply to introducing new stuff into your life.

And ensure you're taken care of emotionally. Not isolated etc. Meet with people who care for you.

And add more fun into your life. You're not designed to become stale. Get involved with stuff that's light, invigorating and where you can laugh more often.

As with steering a ship, changing course by just one degree makes a radical difference to both your route and end point.

Be easy, small steps and let us know how you get on. "

I love your posts.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Firstly, never be hard on yourself. Punishment doesn't provide lasting motivation, merely insult.

From near inactivity, only plan and take small steps. They are massive compared to nothing.

Resist going ott, just keep it fairly easy. Better to plan a total of 30 minutes in a week and no more, than exercising every other day.

Developing a routine helps, as it gets things normalized and habituated over time.

Only do exercise that you like. Studies show adherence is more successful in the long term.

I've focused on exercise but these principles apply to introducing new stuff into your life.

And ensure you're taken care of emotionally. Not isolated etc. Meet with people who care for you.

And add more fun into your life. You're not designed to become stale. Get involved with stuff that's light, invigorating and where you can laugh more often.

As with steering a ship, changing course by just one degree makes a radical difference to both your route and end point.

Be easy, small steps and let us know how you get on.

I love your posts."

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get your T levels checked. I went through the same experience after some leg trauma. Now on the holy grail of private prescriptions and never felt better and more energised.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Thanks Frisky and Scarlett - I'm at a low point this evening, and reading your thoughts has perked me up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've wanted to get into running for years. But I run on default lazy when it comes to exercise.

Annoying as I can clean the house faster than Kim and aggy on speed!

I tend to throw myself in and do loads of exercise for weeks or months and then nothing for 12 months.

Each year I get a little fatter so if you crack this one let me know. I'm beginig to think it's about making it fun but I'm not quite sure how to do that."

Take up an exercise that you can enjoy on several levels. Learn a skill...dancing is good, martial arts, mountain biking...something where you can get out and interact...being in a group can be a great motivator. I must admit traditional cardio bores the piss out of me

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