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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was thinking the other day when sat opposite a woman in the sauna, we'd both been in for several minutes, both being quiet, then I let out a deep breath and remarked 'hot today' - next we're having a conversation about a number of things.

Now I'm the kind of guy who's out and about a lot, and can't help but feel isolated, even when in busy public areas. All these people milling around going about their business, yet all strangers to one another, unfamiliar faces maintaining their distance and staying in their space.

How often do you feel the urge to say hello to someone you've never spoken to, or rather, what is it that makes you decide you're going to jump across that stranger gap for them, and how do you approach?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"How often do you feel the urge to say hello to someone you've never spoken to"

I don't randomly accost people with HELLOO!!

They tend not to like it.

But perfectly happy to chat to strangers, people at bus stops, parties, gatecrash parties, end up cavorting with naked women in shop windows...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I talk to anyone and everyone. I get bored easily and it relieves the boredom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was thinking the other day when sat opposite a woman in the sauna, we'd both been in for several minutes, both being quiet, then I let out a deep breath and remarked 'hot today' - next we're having a conversation about a number of things.

Now I'm the kind of guy who's out and about a lot, and can't help but feel isolated, even when in busy public areas. All these people milling around going about their business, yet all strangers to one another, unfamiliar faces maintaining their distance and staying in their space.

How often do you feel the urge to say hello to someone you've never spoken to, or rather, what is it that makes you decide you're going to jump across that stranger gap for them, and how do you approach? "

I hardly approach to be fair, I will smile and respond if they speK or smile at me. I'm quite shy.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Apropos.

Went to Tescos to buy something minor for the dinner... there was a chap giving free samples of pear & fruit cider away, looking rather bored.

He was very cute so I stopped and we had a natter... and half an hour later I said to him, 'The only thing I don't know about you is yr telephone number.'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I strike up conversations with most people. Can't help myself. I find people interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Apropos.

Went to Tescos to buy something minor for the dinner... there was a chap giving free samples of pear & fruit cider away, looking rather bored.

He was very cute so I stopped and we had a natter... and half an hour later I said to him, 'The only thing I don't know about you is yr telephone number.'

"

What happened next?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand what your saying completely.

I will always have a natter with the girls at the checkout in the supermarket. When the pooch and I are out walking we always say hello to fellow walkers. I have noticed people out walking will always chat.

There was a scheme a few years ago. National Hello Day. People were encouraged to say good morning to people and boy it was brilliant.

In big cities every one seemes to rush by in their world. When in London I chat to people on the tube, guess what ? They cant wait to chat back.

We have a built in natural propensity to be with others , so guys , share your smiles and say hello. You may make some ones day .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I strike up conversations with most people. Can't help myself. I find people interesting"

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Having spent a lifetime working with the public it has become second nature to me to initiate conversation. How depends on circumstances, surroundings and opportunity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Move to wales op! Here a trip to the shop at end of street can take about 2 hours coz everyone talks to each other!!

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Apropos.

Went to Tescos to buy something minor for the dinner... there was a chap giving free samples of pear & fruit cider away, looking rather bored.

He was very cute so I stopped and we had a natter... and half an hour later I said to him, 'The only thing I don't know about you is yr telephone number.'

What happened next? "

He gave me his number and I called him. Dark haired, handsome, a little shorter than me but hey, built, ex-dancer.

Ran a mile when I mentioned the missus & kid but hey ho. If you don't ask you don't get.

That's the kinda shit that NEVER happens. Certainly not in Somerset.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When am in the sauna I end up chatting to people of all different ages, 18 - 60

Just random conversations, Some give you a one word reply some don't shut up once you say something, Bit like fab really

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

I say morning to quite a few people on my way to work in the early morning.People appear more relaxed at that time. I just smile and say hello or morning. I have the opposite as people always talk to me ,I think I have a sign over my head whilst out as people chat away to me. Whether in a queue or shopping. I remember when I was little I used to ask my mum, Who was that, do you know them, as she would be nattering away. Usually reply was no. I will chat to anyone if I have the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In general work situations I can talk for England with anyone about anything, But in shops or other public places am normally a shy quiet person

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Get a dog.

I chat to total strangers on a daily basis walking the woof.

And top tip for single guys - if you've a cute puppy on a lead, sat outside a coffee shop you'll be a veritable fanny magnet with the ladies.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get a dog.

I chat to total strangers on a daily basis walking the woof.

And top tip for single guys - if you've a cute puppy on a lead, sat outside a coffee shop you'll be a veritable fanny magnet with the ladies.

A"

This I agree with! When I walk mine loads come and talk, to the pups mostly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love chatting to random ppl brightens the day

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I talk to most people, jay tells me off for it as it takes us ages to get anywhere

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By *arkestDesires666Couple
over a year ago

linconshire

I don't mind talking to random people at all, but i don't normally approach them they always seem to approach me aha, then we engage in convo, and it's actually excillerating if am honest!!.. Am never rude to anyone as that isn't me, am always there to help people or even just listen which I've had a few older men at say a bus stop talking about there wife's... Sometimes everyone wants someone to listen to them!!.. And am normally that person aha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get a dog.

I chat to total strangers on a daily basis walking the woof.

And top tip for single guys - if you've a cute puppy on a lead, sat outside a coffee shop you'll be a veritable fanny magnet with the ladies.

A"

Noted.....

I've got a cat. Hates being on a lead........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i talk to anybody and everybody - bore the pants off them probably - in my job some people cannot communicate verbally so chat on with no response - used to it

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I love chatting to random ppl brightens the day "

Yea, I'm actually fairly anti-social most of the time, but if something tickles me I just start talking as if I know them already, people don't seem to mind if you're obviously having a lark.

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By *ammykingMan
over a year ago

Lisburn

I'll happily chat to anyone if we're in the same situation like being stuck in a queue or the like

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I love chatting to random ppl brightens the day

Yea, I'm actually fairly anti-social most of the time, but if something tickles me I just start talking as if I know them already, people don't seem to mind if you're obviously having a lark. "

This is me too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll happily chat to anyone if we're in the same situation like being stuck in a queue or the like "

Me too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'll happily chat to anyone if we're in the same situation like being stuck in a queue or the like "

This being England, I doubt you're ever short of opportunities then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't often get the people who do survey's stopping me or the ones selling sky or insurance,

Just one of the few benefits of looking younger then I am

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By *ammykingMan
over a year ago

Lisburn


"I'll happily chat to anyone if we're in the same situation like being stuck in a queue or the like

This being England, I doubt you're ever short of opportunities then."

Queueing is a thoroughly British sport

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I talk to people if they talk to me first, or if I have to. I do push myself sometimes to make chit chat, but it's hard to do something when it doesn't make sense to you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I talk to people if they talk to me first, or if I have to. I do push myself sometimes to make chit chat, but it's hard to do something when it doesn't make sense to you"

I find that too, hence why it's often hard for me to meet new people, simply because I don't 'get' them and they don't get me.

I find it's much easier if those you're chatting to are either on a similar wavelength, or simply find you interesting rather than strange - this is another reason why I like talking to intelligent people. Of course, with practice you find you can chat to almost anyone, it just doesn't come as naturally to people like us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely initiate conversations.. I'm not interested in random strangers...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just for an experiment, I'm going to try and start a conversation with a complete stranger today (in the real world) and see what happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I actively seek out people to say hello to but if there's something which brings two people together to converse over, I fit in to that camp.

Like when on a tube and something happens which you then catch the eye of another person who has noticed and smiled back at you or you talk about it. Yes that's me.

I can talk to anyone and I think that shows when anyone at a checkout or a waiter or anyone says "hello, how're you?" I just see it as manners to ask how they are back. The amount of people who seem shocked when you ask the, it's quite amazing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get a dog.

I chat to total strangers on a daily basis walking the woof.

And top tip for single guys - if you've a cute puppy on a lead, sat outside a coffee shop you'll be a veritable fanny magnet with the ladies.

A"

Also effective if you have a cute baby!! Especially if you're not wearing a wedding ring!

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