FabSwingers.com forum: Verifications

By *llNatural36F OP Woman
over a year ago

Denbighshire

hi all, just wondering how many others are like me. I've had regular fun with a friend from here and if we done verifications it would read the same week after week. I personally don't feel the need to be verified each time and yet I get comments (usually after a polite no thank you) about how I'm not meeting and I'm either fake or a liar.

Do you ask for a verification each time if it's with the same person?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

prefer discretion with intimacy, you don't have to shout it to the world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"prefer discretion with intimacy, you don't have to shout it to the world "

This ^^^

Very rarely give veris out or expect them.

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By *llNatural36F OP Woman
over a year ago

Denbighshire

"prefer discretion with intimacy, you don't have to shout it to the world

This ^^^

Very rarely give veris out or expect them."

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By *llNatural36F OP Woman
over a year ago

Denbighshire

"prefer discretion with intimacy, you don't have to shout it to the world "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't need to let the site know everytime you have sex. It's not compulsory to verify or show them. It's to show you are who it says on the profile and maybe a little bit about how lovely you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't ask for verifications full stop. I have no problem if someone feels the need to verify me again, but I won't display more than one from the same person. I don't see the point. I have no _iews on what others do. It doesn't concern me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The veris I give out are generally about the person, i make them fun. I like to hide things in them that are personal and will make them smile when they re read them...I dont do vulgar and I wouldnt display anything crude either. The English language is a beautiful thing when used properly. I wouldnt necessarily give or expect for repeat meets..

Though I have had a fab friend say she cried when she read a veri I did for someone else..

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Though I have had a fab friend say she cried when she read a veri I did for someone else..

awww bless, someone else playing with her toys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"prefer discretion with intimacy, you don't have to shout it to the world

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I'll verify more than once if a period of time has passed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Though I have had a fab friend say she cried when she read a veri I did for someone else..

awww bless, someone else playing with her toys

I share my toys with girls and boys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's an individual preference , and depends what you are looking for one the site .

Repeat veris are fine if they detail a different type of meet . Remember some use them to ascertain whether the person is compatible sexually .

Those who say discretion , no need to show , give , or receive veris are perfectly entitled to say so .

We prefer to display a few veris as it works for us . We get way more meet requests as a result of doing so , and meets are why we are here .

If you show too many repeat veris it kind of looks like the verifier seeks exclusitivity , so be wary of this .

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Though I have had a fab friend say she cried when she read a veri I did for someone else..

awww bless, someone else playing with her toys

I share my toys with girls and boys

that's good to read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you go down the pub and shout about everybody you've shagged and how often?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Though I have had a fab friend say she cried when she read a veri I did for someone else..

awww bless, someone else playing with her toys

No..it's because I wrote a poem for a veri..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not that I'm person verified yet haha however I think it's tacky and classless to have hundreds of veris, if anything it's a real turn off!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Though I have had a fab friend say she cried when she read a veri I did for someone else..

awww bless, someone else playing with her toys

No..it's because I wrote a poem for a veri.."

that's nice

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By *llNatural36F OP Woman
over a year ago

Denbighshire

Thank you for all your comments I appreciate them. It seems I'm with the majority, happy fabbing all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And Op, why does it bother you if they call you a fake and a liar if you don't want to meet them anyway?

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

"Would you go down the pub and shout about everybody you've shagged and how often?"

This is not the pub,this is fab.veris are a good way of knowing that someone is legit,and I know plenty of people who boast about their conquests.especially in the pub,and at work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you go down the pub and shout about everybody you've shagged and how often?"

What has that got to with anything ?

Do you really think everyone who shows and gives veris does that ?

It's a swingers site , and as I said veris can be useful for a variety of reasons .

Those who are here to meet may use them to see that the person is genuine , and that alone is a plausible enough reason .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you go down the pub and shout about everybody you've shagged and how often?

This is not the pub,this is fab.veris are a good way of knowing that someone is legit,and I know plenty of people who boast about their conquests.especially in the pub,and at work "

So do we , and those people are not swingers on a swinging site .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy reading veris

Personally too many veris is a turn off, not saying too much sex is though, just don't see the need to make it public every time you meet up....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's an individual preference , and depends what you are looking for one the site .

Repeat veris are fine if they detail a different type of meet . Remember some use them to ascertain whether the person is compatible sexually .

Those who say discretion , no need to show , give , or receive veris are perfectly entitled to say so .

We prefer to display a few veris as it works for us . We get way more meet requests as a result of doing so , and meets are why we are here .

If you show too many repeat veris it kind of looks like the verifier seeks exclusitivity , so be wary of this .

I have semi-regular meet ups, we dont display every meet..there are on occasions there has been something different about that meet...the previous veri could be how she sucked me off like a dyson, the next could be that we went to a massive orgy etc etc..

As pointed out, repeat verifications from only one member have an air of controlling/posessivness, and I bet most of those end up having awkward relationships from the multi-verifier not liking the fact they have met other people.

Questions like:-

"why didnt u meet me this weekend instead of that twat", or "I see you've met that slut..I'm not happy"

blah blah...I've no time for that pish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not too bothered about them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications are just that..someome else verifying you and your profile. Its a method of saying 'this person is who they say they are' amongst other things. As a guy this can be useful, especially if they are positive as it can give others a 3rd person perspective of you. There are a lot of arseholes out there (online, not necessarily fab) and a couple of complimentary veris can provide a little bit of reassurance for someone wanting to arrange a meet. Its very easy to be a keyboard sexgod..something else to actually rock someones world in person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And Op, why does it bother you if they call you a fake and a liar if you don't want to meet them anyway?"

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's irrelevant. None on show, 1, 10, 100, 1,000.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"And Op, why does it bother you if they call you a fake and a liar if you don't want to meet them anyway?

This.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

we don't actually read the content of veris for the most part, but we do use them as a barometer in some respects. If there were two identical profiles, one where the last very was 3 years ago, and another where the veri was 3 weeks ago, we would go for the most recent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not that I'm person verified yet haha however I think it's tacky and classless to have hundreds of veris, if anything it's a real turn off!"

Would you feel the same knowing someone had had hundreds of meets but doesn't have the verifications?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's irrelevant. None on show, 1, 10, 100, 1,000. "

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Verifications are just that..someome else verifying you and your profile. Its a method of saying 'this person is who they say they are' amongst other things. As a guy this can be useful, especially if they are positive as it can give others a 3rd person perspective of you. There are a lot of arseholes out there (online, not necessarily fab) and a couple of complimentary veris can provide a little bit of reassurance for someone wanting to arrange a meet. Its very easy to be a keyboard sexgod..something else to actually rock someones world in person"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont feel the need for more than one off the same person. Now ive got a couple to prove im real im not bothered about getting anymore at all to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why does what others think of you bother you if you're here having fun ? Some people are obsessed with verifications on here, like they're the be all and end all. Its almost as if some meet just for the veri rather than for fun. I find all this bragging about them somewhat distasteful. Who cares what a complete stranger says about another ? They're usually over exaggerated to probably get another meet anyway.

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

Most of mine are from social meets so I'll occasionally show one or two but most of the time I don't show any

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you go down the pub and shout about everybody you've shagged and how often?

This is not the pub,this is fab.veris are a good way of knowing that someone is legit,and I know plenty of people who boast about their conquests.especially in the pub,and at work "

And aren't the big mouths usually the ones who are actually having the least and worst sex?

One or two veris may help to confirm someone is legit but beyond that don't see much point. Would rather judge people for themselves and not from others. So none or 1000 makes no difference to us and regardless of how many people we meet we will never put any on. Doesn't seem to affect the amount of offers we get

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

All a verification does is prove that you're a 'real person' to other users. Whether you have one veri or a thousand is pretty irrelevant. Certainly what's said in a veri is essentially meaningless. A lot of it's overblown nonsense. You scratch my back I'll scratch yours stuff. All guys come across as a cross between a pornstar and Superman and all the women appear give the greatest blowjobs ever and are orgasming for England

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All a verification does is prove that you're a 'real person' to other users. Whether you have one veri or a thousand is pretty irrelevant. Certainly what's said in a veri is essentially meaningless. A lot of it's overblown nonsense. You scratch my back I'll scratch yours stuff. All guys come across as a cross between a pornstar and Superman and all the women appear give the greatest blowjobs ever and are orgasming for England

You missed the bit about treating with respect ! Goes without saying really.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I've been seeing one guy over 8 years now, once a year we leave each other a new verification, but most people I see often just have one or two verifications from them and that's it.

But its your business noone elses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easily said without a thought for the person who went to the trouble to verify . It's often the case that the excitement and thrill of a meet leave one wanting to write a veri as a means of thanks for the fun . And a reminder of the good time had .

There are two sides to it and there is no need whatsoever to belittle or chastise those who give and receive veris is there ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are two sides to it and there is no need whatsoever to belittle or chastise those who give and receive veris is there ? "

Bores me to tears re-reading the same gumf about verifications being some strangers overblown account of their time with another..

some have wanted to meet me on the account of others..from even the social accounts.

Only in the forums have I really seen people moan about other peoples verifications, to then later start accusing people of being indiscreet,too slutty,too graphic etc etc...you just cant fucking win.

A reason I listen to very little thats said on here..as it does not appear to have much standing with the people I meet,frequency of meets blahblah etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, only verify when I meet someone new and vice versa, my regular friends don't verify me nor I them. As for others verifications, I'm really not interested, I'd rather make my own opinion, the only time it influences me is if they have 100's, then it's apparent we aren't looking for the same thing. You play it how you want, and if someone doesn't like it, you don't want to meet them anyway

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofiaWoman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston

"hi all, just wondering how many others are like me. I've had regular fun with a friend from here and if we done verifications it would read the same week after week. I personally don't feel the need to be verified each time and yet I get comments (usually after a polite no thank you) about how I'm not meeting and I'm either fake or a liar.

Do you ask for a verification each time if it's with the same person?"

If you don't display verifications, you're a fake/time waster and if you do display them then you're bragging/showing off...can you really win and please everyone on here? No! Does it matter that a complete stranger thinks you're something that you're not? No! I personally don't ask for verifications full stop, if people choose to verify me after a meet then that's their choice and whatever they choose to put in the verification is their prerogative as it is mine of whether I choose to display it or not...I couldn't care less about what people think of my veris, how many I display, how many are socials etc it's my tiny space on the Internet and I'll do what I like with it...those that like my space, will get in touch...those that don't, won't! The infamous, overused four words of 'each to their own' fit perfectly!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Much like pubic hair, I genuinely don't care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The veris I give out are generally about the person, i make them fun. I like to hide things in them that are personal and will make them smile when they re read them...I dont do vulgar and I wouldnt display anything crude either. The English language is a beautiful thing when used properly. I wouldnt necessarily give or expect for repeat meets..

Though I have had a fab friend say she cried when she read a veri I did for someone else..

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This

Though no crying unless I've been singing

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

There are two sides to it and there is no need whatsoever to belittle or chastise those who give and receive veris is there ? "

Just giving my opinion that is all. I totally understand what you're saying. Couldn't agree more. Two people complimenting each other about the good time they had together. I totally get that. Means nothing whatsoever to an outsider though. I don't mean to belittle or chastise anyone. Will quite happily apologise to anyone I may have offended with my comments. Just giving my _iew that is all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are two sides to it and there is no need whatsoever to belittle or chastise those who give and receive veris is there ?

*I pointed out that it has meant something to an outsider...that then became one of the insiders...and the cycle goes on...

One of my more recent meets liked the fact that I dont appear to be the type that wants to come in get her knickers off then pump her asap.If she had only checked the pics,she might have thought yeah its all just sex sex sex.. she took the time to read the mixture of feedback(I'll add she doesnt really care for the sexual feedback)

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofiaWoman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston

Seriously? What's said in a verification is meaningless and only proves that you're a person? Maybe for some if they have lots of them but what if someone only has the one veri on their summary and it's not displayed? Yes, it proves that a person is behind the profile but what if it's a person of the opposite sex, nothing like what they described themselves to be like and actually describes a very bad experience or a warning to others?!? A veri isn't proof of anything really is it! I don't see it as proof but enjoy reading veris before sending a message of interest as they sway me...I also tend to stay away from those that only have the one veri and don't display it, my choice, my reasons...as I said earlier, those that like your space will come forward and those that don't, won't!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you ask for a verification each time if it's with the same person?"

I very rarely ask for them, if they do it off their own back, fine and I may or may it show it. Learnt over the years to not take much notice of them. I personally wouldn't write one of I didn't have a good time or if it was medioca. If I truly had a greT time it would come across in my verification. I generally always ask if they want one first too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I regularly see fellas over and over again. If we swopped veris every time I'd have, ummm, dozens and dozens! Once is enough on the whole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I regularly see fellas over and over again. If we swopped veris every time I'd have, ummm, dozens and dozens! Once is enough in my hole. "

hehehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I regularly see fellas over and over again. If we swopped veris every time I'd have, ummm, dozens and dozens! Once is enough in my hole.

hehehe

Oi!! Ruuuuuude!! :p

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

You're right a veri doesn't prove anything really. You could even fake one if you really wanted to. All veri's are positive. No one would ever show a negative veri. So in that sense they are a bit pointless. I can no longer show my one veri because that person is no longer on the site. It doesn't let you. Don't get me wrong I enjoy reading them but surely you take what they say with a pinch of salt. They have meaning for the two parties involved obviously but for an outsider they're just an interesting read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread is too long to read

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

If I have a new meet I ask if they would like one. But I've got to the point I'm not fussed if I get one, don't get me wrong it's interesting to see what they think of you but what happens on a meet is no one's business really, it's between me and the other person

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