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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just been stood up. Arranged to meet a lady for a coffee this morning. But because I haven't messaged in the last couple of days she's made other plans.

She rightly or wrongly thought me to be a time waster, such a shame the real time wasters are having such an impact on genuine people.

Rant over, happy Sunday.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just to clarify my frustrations are not with the lady in question but with the time wasters she's encountered.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Just to clarify my frustrations are not with the lady in question but with the time wasters she's encountered. "

and yourself for not staying in contact

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By *aramelMINXWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

When someone goes quiet before an arranged meet, it's probably a fairly easy assumption to make. You don't need to be constantly messaging but dropping a line to say 'looking forward to Sunday' might be smart in future. You can't blame other people for your lack of communication.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tbh iv done the same

I had a meet planned but he hadn't replied to.my message even though he had read them and has been online on here too

Looks like he didn't get a better offer he messaged me thisor nine iv cancelled

I'm no one's 2nds"

How do you know he was holding out for a better offer? Seems a tad extreme to just cancel because you think that.

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By *aramelMINXWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

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By *aramelMINXWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire


"When someone goes quiet before an arranged meet, it's probably a fairly easy assumption to make. You don't need to be constantly messaging but dropping a line to say 'looking forward to Sunday' might be smart in future. You can't blame other people for your lack of communication. "

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

this is one of the situations that differs across the genders, if a guy looks for a possible 2nd meet because he hasn't had confirmation and he posted here, he would mostly be condemned. A female, it sways the other way.

I don't see anything wrong with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a meet go quiet on me , but she told me before hand she was working and would meet after work, she turned up as promised, she was only quiet for that day, perhaps if you let people know you wont be in touch and why.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

10am sunday coffee ....... wow I'd need a hoist just to get me out of bed before 12!

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

If people don't keep in contact I assume lack of interest

I'd have done the same as her

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I'm of the same mind as other posters.

I like the reassurance of confirmation messages, not a see you next week.

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By *aramelMINXWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire


"Just been stood up. Arranged to meet a lady for a coffee this morning. But because I haven't messaged in the last couple of days she's made other plans.

She rightly or wrongly thought me to be a time waster, such a shame the real time wasters are having such an impact on genuine people.

Rant over, happy Sunday."

Keep in touch next time lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Fair points, I could have assumed the same though as I have also had no communication from her. However I didn't, I trusted she'd turn up.

Life's a beach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fair points, I could have assumed the same though as I have also had no communication from her. However I didn't, I trusted she'd turn up.

Life's a beach "

You live and learn mate

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Fair points, I could have assumed the same though as I have also had no communication from her. However I didn't, I trusted she'd turn up.

Life's a beach "

communication is 2 way, I take it she didn't communicate with you

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands


"If people don't keep in contact I assume lack of interest

I'd have done the same as her"

This .

Had a meet arranged with a lady, who went quiet on me 4 days before the meet and didn't answer a confirmation text on the day, even though she was online here. Had good verbs too

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

If someone hadn't been in contact for a couple of days before a meet I would just assume it was off. Nothing to do with time wasters but lack of interest

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

If someone goes quiet on me I assume they have lost interest as well, that they were only in it for the chase.

And yes I have encountered this a few times as well.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"When someone goes quiet before an arranged meet, it's probably a fairly easy assumption to make. You don't need to be constantly messaging but dropping a line to say 'looking forward to Sunday' might be smart in future. You can't blame other people for your lack of communication. "

this..

give yourself a kick up the arse OP..

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock


"Fair points, I could have assumed the same though as I have also had no communication from her. However I didn't, I trusted she'd turn up.

Life's a beach

communication is 2 way, I take it she didn't communicate with you"

I would agree with that, but somehow on here its always the guys fault. I'm not in the habit of constantly bombarding proposed meets with messages. Just set a date and then meet on that date, i prefer to keep things simple.

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock


"Fair points, I could have assumed the same though as I have also had no communication from her. However I didn't, I trusted she'd turn up.

Life's a beach

communication is 2 way, I take it she didn't communicate with you

I would agree with that, but somehow on here its always the guys fault. I'm not in the habit of constantly bombarding proposed meets with messages. Just set a date and then meet on that date, i prefer to keep things simple. "

I would add i've never had anyone drop out of meeting either becasue they thought it was lack of interest. It did happen once with a club meet but i was'nt fussed becasue there was a club full of other people there to play with.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"When someone goes quiet before an arranged meet, it's probably a fairly easy assumption to make. You don't need to be constantly messaging but dropping a line to say 'looking forward to Sunday' might be smart in future. You can't blame other people for your lack of communication. "

Just to clarify... this is relevant for both parties.

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