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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you think our Sexual insecurities/anxieties are self imposed or it is the result of others' criteria?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think our Sexual insecurities/anxieties are self imposed or it is the result of others' criteria?

I believe that any insecurities are a direct result of your own self-evaluation so self imposed. Others do have an influence, but only if we let them (her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think our Sexual insecurities/anxieties are self imposed or it is the result of others' criteria?

I believe that any insecurities are a direct result of your own self-evaluation so self imposed. Others do have an influence, but only if we let them (her."

agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Totaly agree with that

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Self imposed. Others have criteria I have no desire to accommodate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Define a sexual insecurity?

Not sure I have them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly agree but there was the one self imposition i made that i'd never thought of until the other party mentionned their criteria.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Define a sexual insecurity?

Not sure I have them?"

Sexual performance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Mostly agree but there was the one self imposition i made that i'd never thought of until the other party mentionned their criteria.

Has it become an insecurity ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have any insecurities of the sexual kind. I have things I can no longer do but plenty I still can. I do ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Define a sexual insecurity?

Not sure I have them?

Sexual performance "

Then no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Define a sexual insecurity?

Not sure I have them?

Sexual performance "
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But I've been satisfied by every performance I've done!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me

Sorry to hear that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me

That's body insecurities and I definitely think most people with them are due to other people and the media.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think at times its a result of my own hang ups and feelings of doubt. Sometimes those feelings have been triggered by others.

I also believe that what we feel we are worth is what we get even if it is not what we really desire.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly agree but there was the one self imposition i made that i'd never thought of until the other party mentionned their criteria.

Has it become an insecurity ? "

No, it's tighter than ever.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me

That's body insecurities and I definitely think most people with them are due to other people and the media. "

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me

Sorry to hear that "

Yeah... That was seven years ago, definitely left a lasting impression.

Though his moobs were bigger than MY boobs. Not a difficult thing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me

Sorry to hear that

Yeah... That was seven years ago, definitely left a lasting impression.

Though his moobs were bigger than MY boobs. Not a difficult thing

Your clit might be bigger than my cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me

Sorry to hear that

Yeah... That was seven years ago, definitely left a lasting impression.

Though his moobs were bigger than MY boobs. Not a difficult thing

Your clit might be bigger than my cock

God I hope not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me

That's body insecurities and I definitely think most people with them are due to other people and the media.

Totally agree"

Totally disagree.

That would be like saying that the solution to body insecurities is in the other guys hands/domain, someone you may never ever see again, or wish to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me

Sorry to hear that

Yeah... That was seven years ago, definitely left a lasting impression.

Though his moobs were bigger than MY boobs. Not a difficult thing

Your clit might be bigger than my cock

God I hope not

So do I... I would really have a sexual insecurity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, sexual insecurities comes from your self esteem and how you see your self.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me

That's body insecurities and I definitely think most people with them are due to other people and the media.

Totally agree

Totally disagree.

That would be like saying that the solution to body insecurities is in the other guys hands/domain, someone you may never ever see again, or wish to. "

I see your point and agree with it, yet you can't deny the fact the people's opinion have an impact on your self perception... plus the media adds the"perfect body image" to it...

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

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It's going to vary, with cultural and social influences but ultimately we create and perpetuate our own insecurities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me

Sorry to hear that

Yeah... That was seven years ago, definitely left a lasting impression.

Though his moobs were bigger than MY boobs. Not a difficult thing

Your clit might be bigger than my cock

God I hope not

So do I... I would really have a sexual insecurity "

I have a lovely PETITE clit thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me

That's body insecurities and I definitely think most people with them are due to other people and the media.

Totally agree

Totally disagree.

That would be like saying that the solution to body insecurities is in the other guys hands/domain, someone you may never ever see again, or wish to.

I see your point and agree with it, yet you can't deny the fact the people's opinion have an impact on your self perception... plus the media adds the"perfect body image" to it... "

I can and do deny it. Other people may comment but it doesn't formulate my self perceptions.

Re the media and perfect body, no it doesn't.

I find Vanessa Fetlz disgusting onthe TV ( bad enough the radio) but someone likes her.

That Carol Vorderman, celebrity, constantly searching for a decent body shape, but someone likes her.

Kate Moss, most would see her as skinny but someone likes her.

So, what is the "perfect body image" the media uses?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me

That's body insecurities and I definitely think most people with them are due to other people and the media.

Totally agree

Totally disagree.

That would be like saying that the solution to body insecurities is in the other guys hands/domain, someone you may never ever see again, or wish to.

I see your point and agree with it, yet you can't deny the fact the people's opinion have an impact on your self perception... plus the media adds the"perfect body image" to it...

I can and do deny it. Other people may comment but it doesn't formulate my self perceptions.

Re the media and perfect body, no it doesn't.

I find Vanessa Fetlz disgusting onthe TV ( bad enough the radio) but someone likes her.

That Carol Vorderman, celebrity, constantly searching for a decent body shape, but someone likes her.

Kate Moss, most would see her as skinny but someone likes her.

So, what is the "perfect body image" the media uses?

First of all, my bad I might have uncorrectly expressed myself cause I have the feeling that you think it was personal.

I should have used the personal pronun "We" instead of "You". It was more generally speaking.

Then I don't recall seeing a lot of voluptuous women in magazin? Is James bond attracted to Melissa McCarthy type or Claudia Schiffer type?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me

That's body insecurities and I definitely think most people with them are due to other people and the media.

Totally agree

Totally disagree.

That would be like saying that the solution to body insecurities is in the other guys hands/domain, someone you may never ever see again, or wish to.

I see your point and agree with it, yet you can't deny the fact the people's opinion have an impact on your self perception... plus the media adds the"perfect body image" to it...

I can and do deny it. Other people may comment but it doesn't formulate my self perceptions.

Re the media and perfect body, no it doesn't.

I find Vanessa Fetlz disgusting onthe TV ( bad enough the radio) but someone likes her.

That Carol Vorderman, celebrity, constantly searching for a decent body shape, but someone likes her.

Kate Moss, most would see her as skinny but someone likes her.

So, what is the "perfect body image" the media uses?

If enough people tell Vanessa Feltz her body is disgusting she will possibly end up insecure about it

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By *exyspecs and supermanCouple
over a year ago

A house, a very big house in the country

My wobbly bits but have learnt to love my curves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My wobbly bits but have learnt to love my curves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First of all, my bad I might have uncorrectly expressed myself cause I have the feeling that you think it was personal.

I should have used the personal pronun "We" instead of "You". It was more generally speaking.

Then I don't recall seeing a lot of voluptuous women in magazin? Is James bond attracted to Melissa McCarthy type or Claudia Schiffer type?

No probs at all, not taken it personally at all.

No voluptuous women? To mention just two, you must have heard of, if not seen, Gina Lollabrigida and Sophia Loren? THEY were curvy.

Funny you should mention Claudia, she was by far and away my fave model. Beautiful, plus she had decent tits. Afraid i don't know who or what Melissa McCarthy is or like.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

First of all, my bad I might have uncorrectly expressed myself cause I have the feeling that you think it was personal.

I should have used the personal pronun "We" instead of "You". It was more generally speaking.

Then I don't recall seeing a lot of voluptuous women in magazin? Is James bond attracted to Melissa McCarthy type or Claudia Schiffer type?

No probs at all, not taken it personally at all.

No voluptuous women? To mention just two, you must have heard of, if not seen, Gina Lollabrigida and Sophia Loren? THEY were curvy.

Funny you should mention Claudia, she was by far and away my fave model. Beautiful, plus she had decent tits. Afraid i don't know who or what Melissa McCarthy is or like.

How many curvy women are in magazin and how many hollywood type are?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First of all, my bad I might have uncorrectly expressed myself cause I have the feeling that you think it was personal.

I should have used the personal pronun "We" instead of "You". It was more generally speaking.

Then I don't recall seeing a lot of voluptuous women in magazin? Is James bond attracted to Melissa McCarthy type or Claudia Schiffer type?

No probs at all, not taken it personally at all.

No voluptuous women? To mention just two, you must have heard of, if not seen, Gina Lollabrigida and Sophia Loren? THEY were curvy.

Funny you should mention Claudia, she was by far and away my fave model. Beautiful, plus she had decent tits. Afraid i don't know who or what Melissa McCarthy is or like.

How many curvy women are in magazin and how many hollywood type are?

I honestly don't know. Is Jennifer Aniston not curvy? Angela Joile? That's curvy as in femine curves,not rotund.

Is the "Hollywood look" to be aspired to? And how many of they themselves have their own psychological self image issues?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*Angelina Jolie*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're talking about fat,stretch marked over hanging stomachs not curvy. No way could you call my body stunning,but men do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

First of all, my bad I might have uncorrectly expressed myself cause I have the feeling that you think it was personal.

I should have used the personal pronun "We" instead of "You". It was more generally speaking.

Then I don't recall seeing a lot of voluptuous women in magazin? Is James bond attracted to Melissa McCarthy type or Claudia Schiffer type?

No probs at all, not taken it personally at all.

No voluptuous women? To mention just two, you must have heard of, if not seen, Gina Lollabrigida and Sophia Loren? THEY were curvy.

Funny you should mention Claudia, she was by far and away my fave model. Beautiful, plus she had decent tits. Afraid i don't know who or what Melissa McCarthy is or like.

How many curvy women are in magazin and how many hollywood type are?

I honestly don't know. Is Jennifer Aniston not curvy? Angela Joile? That's curvy as in femine curves,not rotund.

Is the "Hollywood look" to be aspired to? And how many of they themselves have their own psychological self image issues?

It shouldn't at all... yet media have normalised that "Hollywood type" as the only type to be attracted to...

I am not, you aren't either but if you do a poll...it is the predominent type

Anorexia is partly due to the image almost all media extols of "The Perfect body image" "the Hollywood type" ...

And yes they certainly have their own psycological self body image but I am sure it is also due to their job.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think our Sexual insecurities/anxieties are self imposed or it is the result of others' criteria?

Both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me

This is why I get frustrated when I see people offering advice saying "it's only words......"

Words on a screen and words spoken are the most powerful tools we have.

They can support, empower, nurture, heal and destroy.

Let's all pause for breath before we type or speak.....

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me

His idea of proportions, not everyone else`s, he may have been insecure and that`s his way of bringing you to his level.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me

This is why I get frustrated when I see people offering advice saying "it's only words......"

Words on a screen and words spoken are the most powerful tools we have.

They can support, empower, nurture, heal and destroy.

Let's all pause for breath before we type or speak....."

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I always worry I'm a shit shag....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me

You look well proportioned in your profile pic. It's sad that someone has said such a hurtful thing to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me

It's funny how things that are told to you early on life stick with you for the remainder. For the record, I think you look great in your pics x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, I'm always very suspicious of people who compliment /want to sleep with me as I think they must be lying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While your insecurities are your own, they often germinate from someone else's negativity.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"While your insecurities are your own, they often germinate from someone else's negativity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah, I'm always very suspicious of people who compliment /want to sleep with me as I think they must be lying.

Why would they lie about wanting to fuck you?

I'd be more inclined to think, are they fucking me cause they really want to and really like me or are they fucking me because they have nothing better to do or just because, they can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have body insecurities. But during sex is the one time i forget them and just enjoy it x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah, I'm always very suspicious of people who compliment /want to sleep with me as I think they must be lying.

Why would they lie about wanting to fuck you?

I'd be more inclined to think, are they fucking me cause they really want to and really like me or are they fucking me because they have nothing better to do or just because, they can."

Now you got me thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah, I'm always very suspicious of people who compliment /want to sleep with me as I think they must be lying.

Why would they lie about wanting to fuck you?

I'd be more inclined to think, are they fucking me cause they really want to and really like me or are they fucking me because they have nothing better to do or just because, they can.

Now you got me thinking

When meeting at mine or a hotel, I only meet if I can sense and feel the other person really wants to meet me, to meet me! Not just fuck me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, sexual insecurities comes from your self esteem and how you see your self."

Agree with this with the addition of past experiences/life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah, I'm always very suspicious of people who compliment /want to sleep with me as I think they must be lying.

Why would they lie about wanting to fuck you?

I'd be more inclined to think, are they fucking me cause they really want to and really like me or are they fucking me because they have nothing better to do or just because, they can.

Now you got me thinking

When meeting at mine or a hotel, I only meet if I can sense and feel the other person really wants to meet me, to meet me! Not just fuck me. "

That's the complete opposite to the way I think. When I meet someone I assume it is because they want to fuck me. That is why I'm meeting them after all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always worry I'm a shit shag....

Could be you need to find the right man to get you going, this is not a cheesy come on btw,lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"While your insecurities are your own, they often germinate from someone else's negativity.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Do you think our Sexual insecurities/anxieties are self imposed or it is the result of others' criteria?

I think in my case they're self imposed anxieties. I'm confident about most things in life apart from relationships with women. This then gets more frustrating because I love women so much.

I have trouble even taking compliments. I still have a hard time coming to terms that there might actually be a woman out there that might actually want to spend some time with me or even talk to me. Plus now I've been out of the game for so long it makes it even harder. Slowly building the old confidence but it's taking time. Fab has been very good for me with that. And I've found some lovely understanding women.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you think our Sexual insecurities/anxieties are self imposed or it is the result of others' criteria?

I think in my case they're self imposed anxieties. I'm confident about most things in life apart from relationships with women. This then gets more frustrating because I love women so much.

Your socks helped ?

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

"Do you think our Sexual insecurities/anxieties are self imposed or it is the result of others' criteria?

Great question OP!

We'd all like to think that our insecurities/anxieties are not based on others' criteria but at one point or another (individual or society based), external opinions do play a part. Whether they develop and grow will depend on the individual and their own self-esteem. Some people have made peace or love their "flaws" while others are struggling to deal with them. So I believe they are result of others' criteria but we can choose whether or not to impose it on ourselves.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Do you think our Sexual insecurities/anxieties are self imposed or it is the result of others' criteria?

I think in my case they're self imposed anxieties. I'm confident about most things in life apart from relationships with women. This then gets more frustrating because I love women so much.

Your socks helped ? "

Weirdly the socks have helped! They've helped get me noticed and I've had messages from women who wouldn't have messaged me had it not been for the socks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think our Sexual insecurities/anxieties are self imposed or it is the result of others' criteria?

I think in my case they're self imposed anxieties. I'm confident about most things in life apart from relationships with women. This then gets more frustrating because I love women so much.

Your socks helped ? "

There his lucky socks

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Do you think our Sexual insecurities/anxieties are self imposed or it is the result of others' criteria?

I think in my case they're self imposed anxieties. I'm confident about most things in life apart from relationships with women. This then gets more frustrating because I love women so much.

Your socks helped ?

There his lucky socks

They must be. I am a very lucky man

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you think our Sexual insecurities/anxieties are self imposed or it is the result of others' criteria?

I think in my case they're self imposed anxieties. I'm confident about most things in life apart from relationships with women. This then gets more frustrating because I love women so much.

Your socks helped ?

There his lucky socks

They must be. I am a very lucky man

You wear them with class as well

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you think our Sexual insecurities/anxieties are self imposed or it is the result of others' criteria?

Great question OP!

Thank you

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