FabSwingers.com forum: Safe word

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm needing help finding my safe word..any ideas?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Blue parrots

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By *atcherofmyballsMan
over a year ago

hereford

Help

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Blue parrots "

Mmm i have a bird phobia so a possible!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Help "

Why didn't i think of that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haemaglobin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fruitloop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the traffic lights system

RED - Stop

Amber - bit much ease of

Green - ok carry on,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Haemaglobin "

Good for doc & nurse games!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

999?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deposit!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

All good ideas..but i'm looking for something a bit juicier

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By *aboo teenWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

What's wrong with stop?

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Drumnadrochit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Supercalafragalisticksexpialadocious

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What's wrong with stop?"

Tend to say stop it when i'm getting tickled but i'm really enjoying it!! So wouldn't work for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sausageandeggmcmuffin,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sausageandeggmcmuffin,"

Only works till 11am.

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

"I like the traffic lights system

RED - Stop

Amber - bit much ease of

Green - ok carry on,

So do I. ......simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm needing help finding my safe word..any ideas?"

Traffic lights work well and they are easy to remember and good for public play or playing with various people.

Don't use something complicated. When I'm playing, I can barely remember amber or red. I can barely speak.

An old safe word of mine was 'fo show no.' And It was impossible to say when I needed to say it.

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By *onyneMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

'Vault' is a good safe word...

Actually, the colour list above like traffic lights is as good as anything I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

squash

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get off my neck is ours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ouchie

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

Dothatagainandillripyourboloxoffandstuffthemdownyourthoat

Bit long maybe?

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Traffic lights works for me. Although part of me would like to choose 'banana' due entirely to one Family Guy episode. The BF and I also have a codeword when we play with others just in case either of us wants a verbal signal to the other to make our excuses. We've never needed it but it's good to have a system.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Otorhinolaryngologist

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Otorhinolaryngologist"

I can't read that never mind say it! What does it mean?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Dothatagainandillripyourboloxoffandstuffthemdownyourthoat

Bit long maybe? "

Just a bit but i like it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ouchie"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cabbage

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Traffic lights works for me. Although part of me would like to choose 'banana' due entirely to one Family Guy episode. The BF and I also have a codeword when we play with others just in case either of us wants a verbal signal to the other to make our excuses. We've never needed it but it's good to have a system."

Banana might come up in convesation anyway...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"'Vault' is a good safe word...

Actually, the colour list above like traffic lights is as good as anything I think"

Chubb??

I'm thinking traffic lights is a fav

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm needing help finding my safe word..any ideas?

Traffic lights work well and they are easy to remember and good for public play or playing with various people.

Don't use something complicated. When I'm playing, I can barely remember amber or red. I can barely speak.

An old safe word of mine was 'fo show no.' And It was impossible to say when I needed to say it. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try

"Didn't hurt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rumpelstiltskin

Beetlejuice Beetlejuice B**********

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good safe word is "take the fucking gag off".

What did you say? I can't hear you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A good safe word is "take the fucking gag off".

What did you say? I can't hear you!"

Haha ..good one!

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By *nFairnessMan
over a year ago

The Four Corners

"Otorhinolaryngologist

I can't read that never mind say it! What does it mean?"

something to do with the throat

Laryngopharynx orapharynx and nasapharynx are all parts of the cavity at the back of the throat.

So someone who studies the voice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like the traffic lights system

RED - Stop

Amber - bit much ease of

Green - ok carry on,

This is mine.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Traffic lights work just fine.

Though I did have a TV sub who liked to use 'custard'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A good safe word is "take the fucking gag off".

What did you say? I can't hear you!"

haha, good point, my fingers are never really not free so if gagged i will go from fist to stretched and keep doing it until noticed, 1 ease off, 2 stop take gag off let me hola at you,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's wrong with stop?"

Safe words are supposed to be words that won't be found during scenes. For example I will say no quite a lot if there's something new and perhaps a little more than I expected for the session. It doesn't mean no and it doesn't mean I won't do it, it just means I'm expressing myself. I use it in the same way I repeat f*** or yes.

If asked do you mean no I would also answer no, as I don't mean stop what you're doing at all... I just mean you're pushing my limits which is what bdsm is about for me.

Traffic lights is simple, gives a way to let your D know you're freaking before going too far when using Amber, also let's the D know when you love something too and you want more (mmmm a flogger).

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By *lovisMan
over a year ago

Twickenham

Jericho

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

The traffic light system (red, amber) is good especially for newbies. But I know several very experienced players who use it too.

Another is "rainbow" because it's something that is highly unlikely to pop up in a scene. Words such as "stop", "no", "aaargh" etc. are not good choices because they might legitimately be something said by the sub/bottom during play - and a part of their enjoyment.

In the end it is your choice. If you don't like the ideas here then think of something more personal to you. The only "rules" are it should be something you can remember, something you won't have to think about, and it shouldn't be a word that might naturally pop up during play.

I know from experience that my mind can be very focussed on taking pain when I am subbing, and "Red" comes to mind very quickly.

It might be worth mentioning that if you're ever gagged, a safe signal can take the place of a safe word. Such as being asked to hold an object, and to drop it when you have had enough. Or a bell to ring.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Kind of like "respect"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Joe pasquale. Sounds like a joke, and is, but the laughter is exactly what I need, if it's getting bad enough to warrant screaming "joe pasquale".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Otorhinolaryngologist

I can't read that never mind say it! What does it mean?

something to do with the throat

Laryngopharynx orapharynx and nasapharynx are all parts of the cavity at the back of the throat.

So someone who studies the voice?"

Not too shabby. It's an ear nose and throat doctor.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Haematoma!

I am going to die!

I have forgotten my safe word!

You twat!

wasn't you just supposed to come round for x-box!

Do I really look like I am enjoying this!

I am going to hit you with my shoe very soon.

Read my eyelids, it is Morse code for: "fooking stop now".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine used to be toast!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like the traffic lights system

RED - Stop

Amber - bit much ease of

Green - ok carry on,

Makes sense, easy to remember and not easy to be misinterpreted.

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

F*** you mistress.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we first started swinging we had the word "polo". As in "im just going to get a polo". But that word was never needed!! X

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By *ango0505Woman
over a year ago

Dumfries

"I like the traffic lights system

RED - Stop

Amber - bit much ease of

Green - ok carry on,

This works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Splodginousabound

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need help finding my keys?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cabbage"

Ditto!!!! Except we used the plural.

You are never going to say in a moment of happy sexual pleasure "ooooh, fuck! Great, oooooh, i need more cocks!! That is lovely! cabbages"

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"What's wrong with stop?"

Safe words are not usually stop or no etc as part of the D/s dynamic is pushing boundaries and so sometimes not meant etc.

The traffic light system is a common set of words used but some have a definitive safe word that all parties know and respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have chatted about this and have decided we know each other well enough to not need one - either alone with each other or when we are with others - granted we arent very extreme in our play and be easy enough to say sod that im outta here

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

More.

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