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"My Dad was the Badgers Bollox..He made me the Committed Person i am today. And an endless source of Yellow Crayons Gimpus" You very much struck me that way. Hope its not to long before we meet again its been to long already dude | |||
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"My Dad was the Badgers Bollox..He made me the Committed Person i am today. And an endless source of Yellow Crayons Gimpus You very much struck me that way. Hope its not to long before we meet again its been to long already dude I know Mate its good to meet a fellow Loony Toon Gimp" Lets face it we both got the loon factor in buckets | |||
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"My Dad hasn't been the best but he certainly isn't the worst. My Stepdad however has been amazing took on when I was hitting puberty, worst time to akw on a teenage daughter lol. But he brought me up into the woman I am today of course with my Mum (who is the best in my eyes) because of him I don't I turned out to be a bad stepmum to the four I had before my break up." Truly awesome and hey don't ever worry about spelling with me or on here look at mine. If people judge you on that alone then its there intelligence at showing not ours | |||
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"My father was a horrible person Didn't work In and out of prison Bully Alcoholic So pleased my mum saw sense when I was 9 " Very sad i no but like me didn't it make you the person you are today ??? | |||
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"My dad wasn't great but was infinitely better than my psychotic stepfather. Well it taught me what not to put up with in a partner! My ex husband is a devoted dad. Couldn't ask for a better ex as the children always take priority, and we're best friends. He wished me luck on my first meet!" And isn't that the way it should be. I think in a break up its only to easy to forget the simple fact that although it may now be gone at 1 time you did love each other xx | |||
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"See my mum was both parents for me and I love her to pieces I'm a proper spoilt only child to her too..... My mum gave me away on my wedding day too " Again awesome sadly i had neither but as ive said no tears here anymore it made me the stronge level headed person i am now but at the same time made me focus on my own kids and do what ever was necessary for them to have a real childhood | |||
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"Bladey, this is really difficult topic to keep lighthearted. The nice thing I can say about my father is that he is generous, particularly to other people and their children, he never hit us and he worked hard. The rest fits into the say nothing category. " Thourally understood x but on the same hand as I've met you and no what a fantastic person you are didn't it also shape you into the person you are today ? | |||
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"My dad wasn't great but was infinitely better than my psychotic stepfather. Well it taught me what not to put up with in a partner! My ex husband is a devoted dad. Couldn't ask for a better ex as the children always take priority, and we're best friends. He wished me luck on my first meet! And isn't that the way it should be. I think in a break up its only to easy to forget the simple fact that although it may now be gone at 1 time you did love each other xx" We were friends for years before we got together so it's logical that we returned to it once the marriage was over. There have been tensions and upsets but the kids have been a priority for both of us, so we've managed to suck it up and sort our shit out for them. I know not everyone is lucky enough to fall out of love with such a reasonable and lovely person though! | |||
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"My dad wasn't great but was infinitely better than my psychotic stepfather. Well it taught me what not to put up with in a partner! My ex husband is a devoted dad. Couldn't ask for a better ex as the children always take priority, and we're best friends. He wished me luck on my first meet! And isn't that the way it should be. I think in a break up its only to easy to forget the simple fact that although it may now be gone at 1 time you did love each other xx We were friends for years before we got together so it's logical that we returned to it once the marriage was over. There have been tensions and upsets but the kids have been a priority for both of us, so we've managed to suck it up and sort our shit out for them. I know not everyone is lucky enough to fall out of love with such a reasonable and lovely person though!" Yep. I've had both sides of the coin and am happy to say i no which is better x | |||
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"Bladey, this is really difficult topic to keep lighthearted. The nice thing I can say about my father is that he is generous, particularly to other people and their children, he never hit us and he worked hard. The rest fits into the say nothing category. Thourally understood x but on the same hand as I've met you and no what a fantastic person you are didn't it also shape you into the person you are today ?" It certainly did: unable to have a long term relationship with any man. | |||
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"Biological dad,, met twice see him in the street occasionally but we blank each other. Im grateful that him n my mother met as they created me,, and i was blessed that he didnt bring me up as i had a great childhood as i think i turned out alright. Step dad (aged 3 til 15) - very much into his own son (my mum n him had a son) and as i got older i realized i was very muh at arms length.. this was confirmed when my mums marriage ended with him and we haven't spoken since the day i moved to Devon. Daughters 'dad'.. ermm yeah she doesnt hae one. So when it comes to men im cursed but hey ho such is life and im still here leading a happy life. At school i longed to be a daddys girl, but you often crave things you cant have. " Not can't have, but didn't have. I found my ideal father figure in a friend's husband. He was older than me and a great friend. When he died I realised that he filled the need I had for a father. Your 'father' may be out there still. | |||
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"My father was a horrible person Didn't work In and out of prison Bully Alcoholic So pleased my mum saw sense when I was 9 Very sad i no but like me didn't it make you the person you are today ???" Totally. I wouldn't let myself get into a relationship with someone like that. | |||
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"Mine wasn't exactly lighthearted.. Sorry " Your parents set examples, some of them you want to follow, some if them show you exactly what you don't want to be. Along the way through life we collect other family, people who will be just as important as the one's we're related to by blood or marriage. | |||
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"My Dad's fabulous All my school friends used to fancy him which was hugely embarrassing as they all used to go silly when they came round our house He good for a laugh,we got him a bungee jump for his birthday one year....he did it He got up and sang the song Crying in the style of only fools and horses a few weeks ago because I secretly put his name down Sorry Dad " Now this made me smile. Its obvious the apple didn't fall to far from the tree | |||
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"Mine wasn't exactly lighthearted.. Sorry Your parents set examples, some of them you want to follow, some if them show you exactly what you don't want to be. Along the way through life we collect other family, people who will be just as important as the one's we're related to by blood or marriage." I know how not to be a mother hopefully I won't make the same mistakes as my mum if I ever have kids | |||
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"Let's just say I'm the person I am despite my parents. My motto with my children and grandchildren is 'know better, do better'. " high 5 | |||
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"No one has the perfect dad , then again no one is shown how to be a dad " True ... | |||
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"So many sad storys and this wasn't my intention but glad it's still going. My storys are just as sad if not more so but im happy to say my gosts have been laid to rest and no longer bother me what my own scum perants did and sincerely hope that 1 day all those who have posted there own bad storys feel the way i do now. My inbox is open if anyone thinks i could help. We are all masters of our own destany always look forward past is past for a good reason xx" No ghosts as far as my father is concerned, I grew up without him, so can't miss what I didn't. I hoped to bring my kids up in a stable 2 parent family, it's not worked like that, but no point dwelling, just gotta do the best I can on my own, lucky to have an amazing supportive family, and some awesome friends, old and new, who know when I need my arse kicked.x | |||
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"I've just come back from seeing my parents I get on much better with my mum than my dad. I don't particularly like my dad as a person, but he's my dad. He's the one in the restaurant glaring at any child who makes any noise at all. Does my head in. I used to refuse to go out with the rest of my family when I was younger as I hated the worry of doing something wrong. My dad is a bigot, and is very sexist but he helped me out financially when I got divorced. That's his way of showing he loves his children. He can't do emotional love, anything regarding mental illness he can't deal with. The weird thing is I can see parts of him in me. " God, that sounds so familiar to me! Scarily familiar in fact We may love our parents, that can't be helped but that doesn't mean we have to like them. | |||
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"My Dad is someone I regret not being more patient and understanding with when I was younger. Being the youngest I always pushed the limits, challenged any boundaries and basically was a huge headache to him, largely because I saw him as the voice of authority, someone very straight laced and at the time he was everything I didn't want to be - middle management, 9-5 office job, crap company car and as predictable and dull as I thought was possible. I couldn't have been more wrong. He's worked his bollocks off all his life til being made redundant at an age where it was hard to get another job. He's always supported me no matter how much of a twat I've been. Now he's seriously losing his memory I'm regretting not spending more quality 1-2-1 time with him. Hindsight is a wonderful thing - if a little depressing. As for being a dad? I'm what I call an NBD (non-biological dad) and a late starter at it. Having spent most of my life never wanting kids it's surprised me how things have worked out. But I'm enjoying it immensely and having been such a prick to my own dad I'll be trying to avoid giving him reason to be the same. Every day is a school day. A *well - apart from these six weeks of 'daddy day care' bliss! " Obi ya knob what your doing is a real dad your doing it by choice thats the best dad in the world. Respect dude | |||
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"My Dad is someone I regret not being more patient and understanding with when I was younger. Being the youngest I always pushed the limits, challenged any boundaries and basically was a huge headache to him, largely because I saw him as the voice of authority, someone very straight laced and at the time he was everything I didn't want to be - middle management, 9-5 office job, crap company car and as predictable and dull as I thought was possible. I couldn't have been more wrong. He's worked his bollocks off all his life til being made redundant at an age where it was hard to get another job. He's always supported me no matter how much of a twat I've been. Now he's seriously losing his memory I'm regretting not spending more quality 1-2-1 time with him. Hindsight is a wonderful thing - if a little depressing. As for being a dad? I'm what I call an NBD (non-biological dad) and a late starter at it. Having spent most of my life never wanting kids it's surprised me how things have worked out. But I'm enjoying it immensely and having been such a prick to my own dad I'll be trying to avoid giving him reason to be the same. Every day is a school day. A *well - apart from these six weeks of 'daddy day care' bliss! Obi ya knob what your doing is a real dad your doing it by choice thats the best dad in the world. Respect dude " Agreed, taking on a child is more than deciding to have 1(Or not in a lot of cases! I won't date now, as I don't think I will ever find someone who can put up with me, aswell as take on my child. | |||
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"My Dad is someone I regret not being more patient and understanding with when I was younger. Being the youngest I always pushed the limits, challenged any boundaries and basically was a huge headache to him, largely because I saw him as the voice of authority, someone very straight laced and at the time he was everything I didn't want to be - middle management, 9-5 office job, crap company car and as predictable and dull as I thought was possible. I couldn't have been more wrong. He's worked his bollocks off all his life til being made redundant at an age where it was hard to get another job. He's always supported me no matter how much of a twat I've been. Now he's seriously losing his memory I'm regretting not spending more quality 1-2-1 time with him. Hindsight is a wonderful thing - if a little depressing. As for being a dad? I'm what I call an NBD (non-biological dad) and a late starter at it. Having spent most of my life never wanting kids it's surprised me how things have worked out. But I'm enjoying it immensely and having been such a prick to my own dad I'll be trying to avoid giving him reason to be the same. Every day is a school day. A *well - apart from these six weeks of 'daddy day care' bliss! " Taking on someone elses kid and treating them as your own is a wonderful thing to do! Any idiot can make a baby, takes a real man to be a father!! | |||
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" Taking on someone elses kid and treating them as your own is a wonderful thing to do! Any idiot can make a baby, takes a real man to be a father!! " A friend's son sent that in a card on Father's Day to his NBD. | |||
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"My Dad is someone I regret not being more patient and understanding with when I was younger. Being the youngest I always pushed the limits, challenged any boundaries and basically was a huge headache to him, largely because I saw him as the voice of authority, someone very straight laced and at the time he was everything I didn't want to be - middle management, 9-5 office job, crap company car and as predictable and dull as I thought was possible. I couldn't have been more wrong. He's worked his bollocks off all his life til being made redundant at an age where it was hard to get another job. He's always supported me no matter how much of a twat I've been. Now he's seriously losing his memory I'm regretting not spending more quality 1-2-1 time with him. Hindsight is a wonderful thing - if a little depressing. As for being a dad? I'm what I call an NBD (non-biological dad) and a late starter at it. Having spent most of my life never wanting kids it's surprised me how things have worked out. But I'm enjoying it immensely and having been such a prick to my own dad I'll be trying to avoid giving him reason to be the same. Every day is a school day. A *well - apart from these six weeks of 'daddy day care' bliss! Taking on someone elses kid and treating them as your own is a wonderful thing to do! Any idiot can make a baby, takes a real man to be a father!! " I did this with my last gf...She had a 16 yr old daughter who had met her dad twice as he is in prison. Even when me and her mum split (different issue) she told me that |I was the nearest to a dad she had ever had...I choked. I had to be the mediator, the calming influence, and helped her through her GCSEs. She still refers to my daughter as her little sister. I am glad I could make a positive influence on a young mind and help her on her way. | |||
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"I miss him every day He adored my son and I wish he could see him now. I wish he could see that I have finally reached a happy stage in life again. He died just after I had come out of a damaging and destructive relationship. My Mum told me he had said to her 'Where did my happy go lucky smiling daughter go?' Was so upset to hear that so Dad, J and I are ok and enjoying life again. We miss you x On a happy note my Dad would have laughed his head off on knowing that when young my son named a pet hamster after him because people didn't talk about his Grandad enough " Owwww wow thats so sad but so very sweet to and the hamster well thats just right. They may now be gone but they will never be forgot nor should they be. Massive hugs ms socks xxxxxxxxxx | |||
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"Sorry ladys lets get the mums on this too " My Dad is wonderful. I barely speak to my Mother. | |||
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"Sorry ladys lets get the mums on this too My Dad is wonderful. I barely speak to my Mother. " I'd never want to be 'best mates' with my parents though. IMO that wouldn't be very healthy. | |||
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"Sorry ladys lets get the mums on this too My Dad is wonderful. I barely speak to my Mother. I'd never want to be 'best mates' with my parents though. IMO that wouldn't be very healthy." Why wouldn't it be healthy. | |||
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"Sorry ladys lets get the mums on this too My Dad is wonderful. I barely speak to my Mother. I'd never want to be 'best mates' with my parents though. IMO that wouldn't be very healthy." why? | |||
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"Sorry ladys lets get the mums on this too My Dad is wonderful. I barely speak to my Mother. I'd never want to be 'best mates' with my parents though. IMO that wouldn't be very healthy. Why wouldn't it be healthy. " Because my best mates have a different kind of emotional bond with me to my parents. I don't really want to talk about sex or relationship problems or emotional stuff with my parents. And they have their own best friends for that. We also move in completely different worlds. My parents have no real concept of the world I live my life in, and their worlds are alien to me. Just totally different. They brought me up, but we don't share any more than that. We don't share our lives now in any meaningful way. My close friends and partners understand me far more than my parents do, and I understand my friends more than my partners! | |||
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"Sorry ladys lets get the mums on this too My Dad is wonderful. I barely speak to my Mother. I'd never want to be 'best mates' with my parents though. IMO that wouldn't be very healthy. Why wouldn't it be healthy. Because my best mates have a different kind of emotional bond with me to my parents. I don't really want to talk about sex or relationship problems or emotional stuff with my parents. And they have their own best friends for that. We also move in completely different worlds. My parents have no real concept of the world I live my life in, and their worlds are alien to me. Just totally different. They brought me up, but we don't share any more than that. We don't share our lives now in any meaningful way. My close friends and partners understand me far more than my parents do, and I understand my friends more than my partners!" Oh.. I find that a little sad.While I Wouldn't discuss my sex life with my children they do all come to Me if they want advice on things including that. And I'm there for my children emotionally.. I have a good laugh with my older children when it's appropriate and next year I am going away with my daughter and her friends on a holiday break to Ibiza. I was asked because her and her friends wanted me to go as the responsible but not overly embarrassing parent x To the original post. It takes more than biology to make a parent x | |||
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"Sorry ladys lets get the mums on this too My Dad is wonderful. I barely speak to my Mother. I'd never want to be 'best mates' with my parents though. IMO that wouldn't be very healthy. Why wouldn't it be healthy. Because my best mates have a different kind of emotional bond with me to my parents. I don't really want to talk about sex or relationship problems or emotional stuff with my parents. And they have their own best friends for that. We also move in completely different worlds. My parents have no real concept of the world I live my life in, and their worlds are alien to me. Just totally different. They brought me up, but we don't share any more than that. We don't share our lives now in any meaningful way. My close friends and partners understand me far more than my parents do, and I understand my friends more than my partners! Oh.. I find that a little sad.While I Wouldn't discuss my sex life with my children they do all come to Me if they want advice on things including that. And I'm there for my children emotionally.. I have a good laugh with my older children when it's appropriate and next year I am going away with my daughter and her friends on a holiday break to Ibiza. I was asked because her and her friends wanted me to go as the responsible but not overly embarrassing parent x To the original post. It takes more than biology to make a parent x" I guess it depends how you're brought up really. My parents (mostly my Dad) always encouraged total independence in me, which I think was a really good thing. As a result I have grown up not requiring that kind of support from them. I couldn't imagine going on holiday with my parents. We are such different people. My Dad met me in Paris earlier this year for two days and we just ended up arguing about the kind of art we'd go and see... it didn't really work! | |||
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