FabSwingers.com forum: timewasters

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Spent 2 hours getting ready for a no show

no message or nothing .. what would you like to do with timewasters ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block and move on, there's lots of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hung, drawn and quatered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block em, report and onto the next.

Failing that, I employ a team of master sniper assassins to root them out and dispose of them quietly on my behalf. I then have them bring me the heads in a box for my trophy cabinet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shoot em

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Block and move on, there's lots of them "

too many to count

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Spent 2 hours getting ready for a no show

no message or nothing .. what would you like to do with timewasters ???"

I would like to be able to take a £100 deposit returnable if they turn up

Totally inpractical but there you go

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By *helbeeCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

I had a time waster yesterday i spent 2 hours getting ready an he turned up granted but he was offish with me when he spoke to me , cancelled the meet within 10 mins an said sorry my cousin has had a car accident an is in hospital he had the accident at 5pm conviently an hour before due to meet an bearing in mind the meet was at 6pm an said sorry family come first an cancelled the meet after 10 mins unbelieveable as an excuse always a sick relative or attack of the baby sitter is another excuse, in stead of being a man an doing the decent thing an saying look your not for me an thanks for meeting me, but he did the cowardly thing an use a bs excuse. What a poor excuse for a guy an a coward an isnt a man he chose to use e crap excuse. Yes he met me in person but why travel for over 10 miles to meet me in a neutral place an be like that with a offish attitide an a poor lame excuse instead of being truthful. I just don't get it at all. Why travel to me over 10 miles an waste my time an his .i don't have a problem with someone saying sorry your not for me. Im respectful an understand but to do that an give a bs lie u can see through unbelievable. Instead of being truthful says a lot about the guy if he is like that, this kind of guy spoils it for the nice genuine single guys out there who find it hard to get a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a time waster yesterday i spent 2 hours getting ready an he turned up granted but he was offish with me when he spoke to me , cancelled the meet within 10 mins an said sorry my cousin has had a car accident an is in hospital he had the accident at 5pm conviently an hour before due to meet an bearing in mind the meet was at 6pm an said sorry family come first an cancelled the meet after 10 mins unbelieveable as an excuse always a sick relative or attack of the baby sitter is another excuse, in stead of being a man an doing the decent thing an saying look your not for me an thanks for meeting me, but he did the cowardly thing an use a bs excuse. What a poor excuse for a guy an a coward an isnt a man he chose to use e crap excuse. Yes he met me in person but why travel for over 10 miles to meet me in a neutral place an be like that with a offish attitide an a poor lame excuse instead of being truthful. I just don't get it at all. Why travel to me over 10 miles an waste my time an his .i don't have a problem with someone saying sorry your not for me. Im respectful an understand but to do that an give a bs lie u can see through unbelievable. Instead of being truthful says a lot about the guy if he is like that, this kind of guy spoils it for the nice genuine single guys out there who find it hard to get a meet "

Not many have the balls and bottle to say sorry no thanks I think they must assume we all go into meltdown...id rather someone say sorry not for me than wimp out ..like you say says a lot about a persons

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

His loss someone else's gain

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By *arkman69Man
over a year ago

Erdington

"Block em, report and onto the next.

Failing that, I employ a team of master sniper assassins to root them out and dispose of them quietly on my behalf. I then have them bring me the heads in a box for my trophy cabinet.

Do you have a number for these assassins??? I have a contract that needs to be taken out ASAP!

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By *helbeeCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often suffer the curse of my kids. Don't presume people are timewasters as there "real life" comes before peoples need of a fuck.

Making sure my kids are safe with a sitter I trust is far more important than meeting anyone, and if people don't understand that then its them that need to give there head a wobble.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Block em, report and onto the next.

Failing that, I employ a team of master sniper assassins to root them out and dispose of them quietly on my behalf. I then have them bring me the heads in a box for my trophy cabinet.

Do you have a number for these assassins??? I have a contract that needs to be taken out ASAP!

Simply dial. 1-800-TIMEWASTEREXTERMINATORinc

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

He turned up

How has he wasted your time?

Was he expected to stay with some one he didn't fancy?

Would you? I wouldn't

His excise may or may not have been bullshit but he actually turned up to meet you,just because it didn't work out how you hoped that doesn't make him a time waster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also how do you know he was lying???

Seem you took the hump cause in your mind he turned you down.

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Had our time wasted to many times with no shows what we do we say were we will be and if they don,t show up we have not wasted our time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But if he said 'sorry you're not for me / not my type' to your face, would it have been a greater blow to your self-confidence? Would your anger still have been that he was a time-waster and that he could have decided that you were not his type from your pictures?

I think the truly cowardly thing would have been not to turn up at all. The bullshit excuse? Maybe to try and let the air out of the situation without hurting anyone's feelings?

In these types of situations, is forthright honesty always the best policy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It makes no odds what personal issues or things going on in life a person has.. or excuses when they can't meet ... a simple message to say so as manners are free .. when a meet is arranged and the other person does not turn up and not even a message to say so or an apology they should be given an exclusion period , myself they don't get a second chance,

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Now you see, I wouldn't have classed that as time wasting as he turned up. I've left two meets because of their offish attitude to me. One walked ahead of me into the pub and didn't even hold the door open for me. Strode to the bar and ordered himself a drink. When I asked if he was going to offer me one he replied "this ain't a date love!" The other was on his phone to his garage, he didn't notice when I left.

As I met these men for a social in a place and time of my choosing I hadn't put myself out at all. Both were after work at the station so I just got on my normal train home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It makes no odds what personal issues or things going on in life a person has.. or excuses when they can't meet ... a simple message to say so as manners are free .. when a meet is arranged and the other person does not turn up and not even a message to say so or an apology they should be given an exclusion period , myself they don't get a second chance, "

Thus is correct. If my plans are dashed by sitter trouble or poorly kids or unexpected visitors, I always message to let them know, its only right x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Stop pasting and copying and your pinching my thread

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

He turned up

How has he wasted your time?

Was he expected to stay with some one he didn't fancy?

Would you? I wouldn't

His excise may or may not have been bullshit but he actually turned up to meet you,just because it didn't work out how you hoped that doesn't make him a time waster "

Exactly!

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Maybe his excuse was valid or maybe he told you a white lie.

He turned up though which means he wasn't a time waster.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

"Stop pasting and copying and your pinching my thread "

You have no say in how a thread turns out once it's been posted

It been well and truly hijacked now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is fabswingers its reputation for timewasters is well known, it never used to be like this but it is now, and as we are members of two other well known sites we can honestly say we hear more about timewasters here than any where else.

Maybe because it's free to join, it attracts them.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"This is fabswingers its reputation for timewasters is well known, it never used to be like this but it is now, and as we are members of two other well known sites we can honestly say we hear more about timewasters here than any where else.

Maybe because it's free to join, it attracts them."

Timewasters have money too!

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Maybe because it's free to join, it attracts them."

I've had one guy not turn up in 7 years

I don't have an issue with timewasters at all so can't agree

People also throw the word time waster around for any reason,read all of this thread to see

People get called timewasters for not replying to messages,for not fancying other people

so not so much full of timewasters but full of people with inflated senses of entitlement and full of people who don't think with their heads just their genitals

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My thread has been kidnapped

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Maybe because it's free to join, it attracts them.

I've had one guy not turn up in 7 years

I don't have an issue with timewasters at all so can't agree

People also throw the word time waster around for any reason,read all of this thread to see

People get called timewasters for not replying to messages,for not fancying other people

so not so much full of timewasters but full of people with inflated senses of entitlement and full of people who don't think with their heads just their genitals

My view too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe because it's free to join, it attracts them.

Timewasters have money too!"

It's £5.00 and I saw a guy say a couple of days he doesn't pay as every little helps

. Money is not everything but I feel if someone can't or won't pay the £5 Is prob not going to turn up and prob not want a social or go to a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm wasting my time reading the forums when I should be in the shower.

I'm reporting myself

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Spent 2 hours getting ready for a no show

no message or nothing .. what would you like to do with timewasters ???"

Sorry your thread was hijacked OP. I agree that your time was definitely wasted in this scenario. Block, report and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens all the time op, if you don't hear anything back from one next time, don't get ready.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I've never had a no show. Almost ten years and granted I don't meet a lot of people so that's cut down the chance but I've never had someone not turn up after making an arrangement.

I've had a couple of crap meets but one forgot to say he was married and the other had a personal malfunction. Not the end of the world and I never really feel the urge to complain that they wasted my time (especially since I'd bothered to shave my bits!)

I just chalk that stuff down to experience and get on with it.

On a separate note... two hours to get ready? What the hell takes so long?!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Maybe because it's free to join, it attracts them.

Timewasters have money too!

It's £5.00 and I saw a guy say a couple of days he doesn't pay as every little helps

. Money is not everything but I feel if someone can't or won't pay the £5 Is prob not going to turn up and prob not want a social or go to a club "

Can't say I see the correlation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 hours getting ready £20 in cabs for a fake. Reported and as i suspected the site did nothing.

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

Just see it as their loss as they would never get a second invite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone shows up. How is that time wasting?

I don't see the correlation

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By *carineMan
over a year ago

Armthorpe, Doncaster

To start with, timewasting is the result of their actions, so far better to name them for what they are...cowardly creeps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just smile, think of it as their loss, block and move on. I had one the other day, granted it's annoying by no point is stressing about a situation you can't control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Spent 2 hours getting ready for a no show

no message or nothing .. what would you like to do with timewasters ???"

Unfortunately... and I agree with you 100%.... this is the kind of site where its going to happen. Just last night I was talking to a 'woman' in chat (and I am gunna ask how i go about reporting a fake if anyone knows) and after myself (wilma) putting up a post in a forum yesterday about bi girls I was delighted to have found a sexy and adventurous genuine girl to play solo with...or so i thought... I am quite discreet and choosy who I cam with so the conversation wasnt anything too dirty once we msged back and forth, but the way she was messaging bk seemed like it was too short in order to come across as a woman like the way she used txt speak it was like it was too clever if you get me... so I mentioned my suspicions to Fred and he asked was she verified... rookie mistake on my part from being on this before not long bk now!! she wasnt but had pix up over a year.... so i started msging asking for kik and she kept dodging the question untill i persisted four times in a row asking and she would change the subject!! I then asked if we could exchange naughty pix (obviously I wasnt going to but I needed to see the reaction to suss out the situation)... i knew if this was a man id be getting some sort of excuse on how i should do the sending and they are too tiered or something ha. Sure enough my kik msg didnt deliver and she asked for my fucking email, my personal email, so she could send a vid ha.. good luck like!! too obvious at this stage but i kept going as I really wanted to catch this fucker out! So i msged bk saying msg didnt deliver to your kik hun (of which i never use hun in convos)ignoring her asking for my email. Got no reply for a while and this was happening on every msg bk and forth as if this guy was thinking about what he had to say. So i said fuk it iv private pix here that friends invited can see this guys getting the block, after the block got a msg back 10 mins later just saying hi but it was completely obvious that the kik was only downloaded there and then so i sent a face pic (totally innocent just to see what id get bk)asking if I could see her and then was told, and i quote 'lol in bed and im a mess' even though she was up for 'sending a vid' through my personal email. So its a site you need to be wide(clever) for and you need to be think skinned. As much of a pain in the ass as it is ya gotta role with the punches get up and keep going when you looking for a daycent ride haha :P x

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"My thread has been kidnapped

Your case was far worse OP, commiserations, and better luck next time. This is one of those areas where I feel for singles: at least as a couple we can go for a drink on our own and if no-one else turns up we don't get funny looks.

Did you get a phone no. and talk beforehand? If someone couldn't do that, then it is doubtful we'd ever expect them to turn up.

As for the other people, where the guy did turn up, they sound such dicks that it sounds like you dodged a bullet to be honest.

Better luck next time, fabbers

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

totally agree you gotta have thick skin imo to be on here a simple sorry no thanks isnt gunna have us al checking into psych :P

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

One time waster from another site - had him pegged from the get go, in fact I had a bet with a 3rd that if he came through I'd actually eat one of my hats.

So this guy inevitably fucks up and I confront him and he gets all shirty.

I give him three opportunities to apologise and he refuses so I dumped the contents of his PMs on the forums - all his crawling messages and sick fantasies.

Oh dear. How we laughed.

That was a 4hr trip to the naughty step.

But different site, different rules. I would obviously *never* do anything as crass here.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Spent 2 hours getting ready for a no show

no message or nothing .. what would you like to do with timewasters ???

Bloody hell after going through all that to catch them out do you not think you wasted you own time?

You saw the classic signs of a fake so just walk away put your time into someone that's worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Spent 2 hours getting ready for a no show

no message or nothing .. what would you like to do with timewasters ???"
there should be a catagory on this site were time wasters are named so ppl can go and check if the person they are going to meet be it male or female to see if they have a history of letting ppl down ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Spent 2 hours getting ready for a no show

no message or nothing .. what would you like to do with timewasters ??? there should be a catagory on this site were time wasters are named so ppl can go and check if the person they are going to meet be it male or female to see if they have a history of letting ppl down ????"

Shall we put your name down first?

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Spent 2 hours getting ready for a no show

Cheshire 52 is a time wasters after conversing for some time we arranged a meet and he didn't turn up

Considering we we never spoken, do you now see the flaw in naming and shaming?

There is a process to deal with such things it's called the report user button

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

" there should be a catagory on this site were time wasters are named so ppl can go and check if the person they are going to meet be it male or female to see if they have a history of letting ppl down ????"

There sort of is. It's called "playing the lottery of choosing to meet people with few, or suspect veris"

But think about it, they'd just leave and rejoin as newbies, so what's the point. If you're here for the longterm you soon learn to grow your own additional filters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Spent 2 hours getting ready for a no show

no message or nothing .. what would you like to do with timewasters ???"

Let the dentist hunt them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Spent 2 hours getting ready for a no show

no message or nothing .. what would you like to do with timewasters ???

Bloody hell after going through all that to catch them out do you not think you wasted you own time?

You saw the classic signs of a fake so just walk away put your time into someone that's worth it "

well no i didnt i was in my gaf doing nothing else and you should chat first before ever meeting if you are a woman in particular so i didnt get ready for meeting someone i didnt know so my time wasnt wasted at all. I took all the right steps found out it was a fake no harm done to me like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Spent 2 hours getting ready for a no show

no message or nothing .. what would you like to do with timewasters ???

Bloody hell after going through all that to catch them out do you not think you wasted you own time?

You saw the classic signs of a fake so just walk away put your time into someone that's worth it

althou i get what ur saying I spent a bit of time I was just crabbed she wasnt a she haha :P wanted an argument tbh but this guy wasnt giving haha

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Spent 2 hours getting ready for a no show

no message or nothing .. what would you like to do with timewasters ???

Bloody hell after going through all that to catch them out do you not think you wasted you own time?

You saw the classic signs of a fake so just walk away put your time into someone that's worth it

You still continually sent messages to "catch them out" when you already knew what they were, seriously what was the point?

Maybe I'm too logically but yea you wasted your time sending messages you didn't need to

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Spent 2 hours getting ready for a no show

no message or nothing .. what would you like to do with timewasters ???

Bloody hell after going through all that to catch them out do you not think you wasted you own time?

You saw the classic signs of a fake so just walk away put your time into someone that's worth it

althou i get what ur saying I spent a bit of time I was just crabbed she wasnt a she haha :P wanted an argument tbh but this guy wasnt giving haha"

Oh at least you do see the point I was making then, so ignored last comment it was prematurely made

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I do wonder whether a fully paid for site wouldn't have a sense of entitlement from some users, ie they've paid for the site, and thus have an expectation that they're going to get something for their money, however little effort they have to put in, and also with less reservations upon messing someone about.

Finally - time-wasters etc affect us all: there's no-one that is likely immune to this stuff happening to them at some point. Just keep your senses alert.

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

Ive never joined a fully paid site but been told they full of scammers working on comision to get you to sign up to yet more sites. And of course these sites make it almost impossible to cancell your credit card subscription even if you think you have only signed up for one month. Be very careful.

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