FabSwingers.com forum: Be a gent or be an arrogant git??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Starting to think that being a nice guy is getting me nowhere...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Born nice

Arrogant by choice!!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

Why do men think that if they 'get nowhere' it's because they are too nice?

Or put another way - why do they think 'ive been nice so I should be rewarded!'

I'm sure you choose who you want sex with and so does everyone else.

Nice or nasty it doesn't matter. Men are in the majority and have to exercise some patience.

Or bag off in reality cos it's easier than on here I have heard say.

P.S. You're good looking. Don't fret.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

What do you want to achieve? Just be yourself.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Starting to think that being a nice guy is getting me nowhere...

Do you think being an arrogant got would get you further? Why not try it?

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Are you talking about for the whole 2 weeks you've been on here or are you going off of something else?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Why do men think that if they 'get nowhere' it's because they are too nice?

Or put another way - why do they think 'ive been nice so I should be rewarded!'

I'm sure you choose who you want sex with and so does everyone else.

Nice or nasty it doesn't matter. Men are in the majority and have to exercise some patience.

Or bag off in reality cos it's easier than on here I have heard say.

P.S. You're good looking. Don't fret."

. Yeah, wot she said.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Also why do men think women are daft enough to want an arrogant git?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

"Also why do men think women are daft enough to want an arrogant git?

Only the arrogant ones think that

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Also, off topic here but what is considered a "nice guy" is subjective.

My ex considers himself a nice guy, but he's a cunt.

...Ok, sorry, he acts like a "nice guy" for all of 5 mins until he doesn't get what he wants, and then he goes back to being a dick and STILL doesn't get his own way.

Just sayin'...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Also why do men think women are daft enough to want an arrogant git?

Only the arrogant ones think that"

Ooo I see what you did there Granny

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Starting to think that being a nice guy is getting me nowhere...

Just be you. That way you'll get somewhere with the right people not the right now people.

Ps nice tatts

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

That's not off topic that's bang on.

What one woman thinks is a nice guy another one thinks is a drip another one thinks is a slimy toad another one thinks is a perv......

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Also why do men think women are daft enough to want an arrogant git?

I think that they see some men who treat women badly doing well sexually and see some women who are attracted to that sort of drama and think that must be the secret to sexual success.

They don't see the charm and control exercised in the run up to that "success".

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

"Starting to think that being a nice guy is getting me nowhere...

Just be you. That way you'll get somewhere with the right people not the right now people.

Ps nice tatts

Did you mis spell that Evie ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gent always, offer seat on the Tube, open the door, pull the chair, notice when they have had their hair done.

It costs nothing and it's nice to be nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice guys usually = I think if I out enough "nice guy" tokens into a woman she should eventually pay out sex.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I'm polite.

But don't mistake that for being nice

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"Starting to think that being a nice guy is getting me nowhere...

What makes you believe that being arrogant will bring you more luck?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

"I'm polite.

But don't mistake that for being nice"

So you say Fuck off PLEASE.....

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Also why do men think women are daft enough to want an arrogant git?

I think that they see some men who treat women badly doing well sexually and see some women who are attracted to that sort of drama and think that must be the secret to sexual success.

They don't see the charm and control exercised in the run up to that "success".

You're right. I often see men on here describe themselves as cheeky when asking why they don't get meets and I wonder if they believe that's another trait women look for in a man.

Gents! There isn't a type that appeals to the majority of women, just be yourselves

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Starting to think that being a nice guy is getting me nowhere...

Just be you. That way you'll get somewhere with the right people not the right now people.

Ps nice tatts

Did you mis spell that Evie ?"

I never make typos

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

been on these sites for 8yrs now

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

"Starting to think that being a nice guy is getting me nowhere...

Just be you. That way you'll get somewhere with the right people not the right now people.

Ps nice tatts

Did you mis spell that Evie ?

I never make typos

Oh yeah... I remember

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very nice Tats x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you thought about becoming a stand up comedian, OP? Many women claim to like guys that make them laugh. It may be more successful than being arrogant. Just a thought

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"I'm polite.

But don't mistake that for being nice

So you say Fuck off PLEASE..... "

Nahh, more:-

"Excuse me, I'm terribly sorry to bother you but, if it's not too much trouble, would you mind awfully SHUTTING THE FUCK UP? Thanks."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gentleman all the time but with a cheeky charm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Starting to think that being a nice guy is getting me nowhere...

Just be yourself...and relax.

Get on the forums and let your personality shine..let people get to know you.

Be nice, be polite, be genuine and dont try too hard...the 'desperate' forehead stamp is as easy to see on here as on a night out. And we all know that isnt attractive.

Be patient and make connections.. despite being fabsters we are all people first, and thats what we all want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be a gent, allways, believe me, any woman you can get by being a git, is a woman you don't want or need in your life, I think it was Bob Marley that said.

"If she's worth it it won't be easy, if she's easy, she won't be worth it"

So be a gent, it will bring its own rewards in the end, leave the arrogance to the "I want to shag everyone on the site" people, and then revel in the glory of attaining the real ladies of the site.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

"Nice guys usually = I think if I out enough "nice guy" tokens into a woman she should eventually pay out sex.

This.

If you're a nice guy, you will usually do well.

If you're just acting the nice guy to try and get your dick wet, most women will see through that.

Just be you and the gash will come.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm polite.

But don't mistake that for being nice

So you say Fuck off PLEASE.....

Nahh, more:-

"Excuse me, I'm terribly sorry to bother you but, if it's not too much trouble, would you mind awfully SHUTTING THE FUCK UP? Thanks.""

Shhhhhh that hurt my EARS !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a subtle difference between confidence and arrogance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be a gent, allways, believe me, any woman you can get by being a git, is a woman you don't want or need in your life, I think it was Bob Marley that said.

"If she's worth it it won't be easy, if she's easy, she won't be worth it"

So be a gent, it will bring its own rewards in the end, leave the arrogance to the "I want to shag everyone on the site" people, and then revel in the glory of attaining the real ladies of the site."

But being a gent is easy to practical everyone the "bad boy" is very hard for most lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well thanks for the insight guys, I was just curious to see what people's thoughts were...personally I'm happy just the way I am in attitude

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Be a gent, allways, believe me, any woman you can get by being a git, is a woman you don't want or need in your life, I think it was Bob Marley that said.

"If she's worth it it won't be easy, if she's easy, she won't be worth it"

So be a gent, it will bring its own rewards in the end, leave the arrogance to the "I want to shag everyone on the site" people, and then revel in the glory of attaining the real ladies of the site."

Bob Marley wasn't very nice about women then was he, "if she's easy she won't be worth it"

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

"I'm polite.

But don't mistake that for being nice"

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One should be a gentlemen and always walk on the right side of the line between confidence and arrogance.

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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago

bristol

I have been on and off this site for several years, I have always been polite....

However you need to accept that for most single women this is a meat convayor...forgive the phrase but let's be honest, you log in, check your inbox and its no,no,no, maybe,no,no.... Or just don't bother even reading.......

You can send 10 messages each day for a month and get nothing back.,... Trust me on this....

So either accept that one in a million will be polite and talk back or find another way to get you leg over.....

Sorry but its a ladies market and you need to accept it

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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago

bristol

A friend of mine said it once

To the ladies that wear push up bras, fake eye lashes, covered in make up wanting a "real man" .... Stop being ironic in your statement....there are thousands of decent men but all go busy fixated on the next Beckham lookalike or whoever it is this month

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"A friend of mine said it once

Since you have such a poor perception of us women you're probably better off without us.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"One should be a gentlemen and always walk on the right side of the line between confidence and arrogance.

No one should be a man.not some winging pussy. Take control your a man ffs tell her what your gonna do and don't ask her for permission. Your the boss. YOU DA MAN "

Dear Lord tell me you're joking

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

And ........ winging pussy isn't a flying cat.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

Excuse me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"And ........ winging pussy isn't a flying cat.

Beat me to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just try to treat others how I wish to be treated myself. I prefer to be polite and respectful and if things work out for the best great if not then it was just not meant to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself ? Seems to work for me.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

Anyone else think it's chilly tonight ?

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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago

bristol

I view a woman as an equal in all ways.....

The statemebt about fake eye lashes ect ect is surprisingly apt for a site like this.... As I pointed out in my first post, you can be polite, well mannered, respectful and still get no where.

I know I'm nothing special to look at, so far from arrogant..... However as a person I am the friend that will be there through thick and thin..... Yet on a site where a woman gets bombarded with emails each time...the "average" man doesn't stand a chance .... I could be the best sex on here but how is someone going to know unless they try and see? But that's never going to happen because I'm average...... See the vicous circle?

It's these reasons I go to clubs because there I can be me to someone's face on a social level and they can get to know me as a person rather than a photo and words on a screen..... Does that Make sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself; be nice clean and respectable and just a little bit naughty. You should be OK!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

excuse me !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just be yourself ? Seems to work for me."

Being the op works for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just be yourself ? Seems to work for me.

Being the op works for you?

Being myself works for me but you knew what I was getting at.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Starting to think that being a nice guy is getting me nowhere...

try being an arrogant git then, come back in a month and let us know how many meets you've had

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

Ten Cans of Mackies hanging on a wall.

And if one can of Mackies should tip over me baws.

I'd be licking up the Mackies and licking ma own baws !

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

New Balls !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And ........ winging pussy isn't a flying cat.

"
I'm crying with laughter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has anyone started the unlos stopwatch yet

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By *angerousEyesMan
over a year ago

weston

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By *angerousEyesMan
over a year ago

weston

Lol best thread in ages will have to come back and read some more.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

I very much view Flik as an equal...always have...always will....she doesn't hate me....and as for pussy..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread delivers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awww I go away for 5 minutes and it all gets wiped

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Awww I go away for 5 minutes and it all gets wiped"

I know

damn having to actually work at work

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By *s_bettyboopWoman
over a year ago

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What a thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Haha looks like my thread has opened opinions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you sincerely thinking of changing your personality for the sake of a shag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you sincerely thinking of changing your personality for the sake of a shag?

Underwear maybe, personality no

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Ok maybe get back to the OP now please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you sincerely thinking of changing your personality for the sake of a shag?

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Starting to think that being a nice guy is getting me nowhere...

I can understand what you're saying OP as the same thought has crossed my mind from time to time. I'd like to think I was a nice guy too but it doesn't always help you get the ladies. As Noel Gallagher once wrote...'You've got to be yourself. You can be no one else.' Be true to yourself. Don't try to be someone you're not. That's the worst thing you could do. Your time will come...

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I view a woman as an equal in all ways.....

The statemebt about fake eye lashes ect ect is surprisingly apt for a site like this.... As I pointed out in my first post, you can be polite, well mannered, respectful and still get no where.

Looking for NSA sex and a relationship are different things. I'm not looking for the friend who will be there through thick and thin but I have been lucky enough and grateful enough to have found that here with some people.

The comments on fake lashes etc. only makes sense if men ignore the women who wear them. Somehow I think a lot of men like the window dressing.

What we look for here may be totally different to what we look for elsewhere: it's fantasy fulfillment land. Nothing more.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

God's sake ! You go to make a cuppa.. come back . someone's pinched half your thread!

You just can't get the bandwidth these days.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I can't help but feel that this way of thinking belies a huge sense of entitlement. Fab is what it is, men far outnumber women so they're able to an extent to pick and choose. Nothing will guarantee anybody a meet and being nice is not what is preventing anybody getting one simply because women do not have to meet anyone if they don't want to.

Don't let yourself believe that because you can't get a meet that there's something wrong with you it isnt a normal environment and women aren't attracted to one generic man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You just can't get the bandwidth these days."

Haha,

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"God's sake ! You go to make a cuppa.. come back . someone's pinched half your thread!

You just can't get the bandwidth these days."

I think all the interesting stuff happened when I was weaving.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

"God's sake ! You go to make a cuppa.. come back . someone's pinched half your thread!

You just can't get the bandwidth these days.

I think all the interesting stuff happened when I was weaving.

in and out of traffic ?

a basket?

a web of deceit ?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"God's sake ! You go to make a cuppa.. come back . someone's pinched half your thread!

You just can't get the bandwidth these days.

I think all the interesting stuff happened when I was weaving.

in and out of traffic ?

a basket?

a web of deceit ?"

Fabricating a little story with an inconsistent thread...

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By *tarling and RobinCouple
over a year ago

North East

"Also why do men think women are daft enough to want an arrogant git?

I think that they see some men who treat women badly doing well sexually and see some women who are attracted to that sort of drama and think that must be the secret to sexual success.

They don't see the charm and control exercised in the run up to that "success".

Evening charming man here

.. ??????

If you're a nice fella then you'll err someone nice at right time. Law of averages perhaps.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Also why do men think women are daft enough to want an arrogant git?

I think that they see some men who treat women badly doing well sexually and see some women who are attracted to that sort of drama and think that must be the secret to sexual success.

They don't see the charm and control exercised in the run up to that "success".

Evening charming man here

.. ??????

If you're a nice fella then you'll err someone nice at right time. Law of averages perhaps. "

I'll vouch that you're a charming man.

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By *tarling and RobinCouple
over a year ago

North East

"Also why do men think women are daft enough to want an arrogant git?

I think that they see some men who treat women badly doing well sexually and see some women who are attracted to that sort of drama and think that must be the secret to sexual success.

They don't see the charm and control exercised in the run up to that "success".

Evening charming man here

.. ??????

If you're a nice fella then you'll err someone nice at right time. Law of averages perhaps.

I'll vouch that you're a charming man.

I'm blushing. Haha

Hope you're well. Off topic of course but I try and be nice and we're having lots of fun.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Also why do men think women are daft enough to want an arrogant git?

I think that they see some men who treat women badly doing well sexually and see some women who are attracted to that sort of drama and think that must be the secret to sexual success.

They don't see the charm and control exercised in the run up to that "success".

Evening charming man here

.. ??????

If you're a nice fella then you'll err someone nice at right time. Law of averages perhaps.

I'll vouch that you're a charming man.

I'm blushing. Haha

Hope you're well. Off topic of course but I try and be nice and we're having lots of fun. "

You've got a female partner with big, erm... eyes! For the single men trying to get their end away they don't have that advantage.

I bet you two don't choose the big I am men though.

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By *tarling and RobinCouple
over a year ago

North East

"Also why do men think women are daft enough to want an arrogant git?

I think that they see some men who treat women badly doing well sexually and see some women who are attracted to that sort of drama and think that must be the secret to sexual success.

They don't see the charm and control exercised in the run up to that "success".

Evening charming man here

.. ??????

If you're a nice fella then you'll err someone nice at right time. Law of averages perhaps.

I'll vouch that you're a charming man.

I'm blushing. Haha

Hope you're well. Off topic of course but I try and be nice and we're having lots of fun.

You've got a female partner with big, erm... eyes! For the single men trying to get their end away they don't have that advantage.

I bet you two don't choose the big I am men though.

True on both accounts.

My lady likes confident fellas but not pushy ones. One liners and cock pics don't work on my lady lol

On my own it is harder so agree with author. My lady pimps out my massaging prowess then I do the rest haha

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"been on these sites for 8yrs now"

How have you found those 8 years OP?

Surely after that long you'd have worked out a successful approach - be it nice or arrogant? The site (and similar ones) won't have changed that much so if you have previous experience that worked just follow the same approach.

Of course if you had no success over 8 years it might be worth trying something new.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

one should just be oneself as if one is not oneself one wont be getting ones wick dipped..

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

You've got a female partner with big, erm... eyes! For the single men trying to get their end away they don't have that advantage.

I bet you two don't choose the big I am men though.

True on both accounts.

My lady likes confident fellas but not pushy ones. One liners and cock pics don't work on my lady lol

On my own it is harder so agree with author. My lady pimps out my massaging prowess then I do the rest haha "

I'd argue that on your own you don't do as well as many of us don't trust an approach from just the male in a couple to meet alone.

I feel cheated that I've never had a massage.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"been on these sites for 8yrs now

How have you found those 8 years OP?

Yeah I've worked my own approach and it's being myself, it's others I can't work out whether they would rather some arrogant git and just being nice because your being nice.

Of course if you had no success over 8 years it might be worth trying something new.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"one should just be oneself as if one is not oneself one wont be getting ones wick dipped.."

frightfully insightful, good show old bean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"one should just be oneself as if one is not oneself one wont be getting ones wick dipped..

frightfully insightful, good show old bean"

Oh can this be a thing *clears throat*

Spiffing advice old sport

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By *tarling and RobinCouple
over a year ago

North East

You've got a female partner with big, erm... eyes! For the single men trying to get their end away they don't have that advantage.

I bet you two don't choose the big I am men though.

True on both accounts.

My lady likes confident fellas but not pushy ones. One liners and cock pics don't work on my lady lol

On my own it is harder so agree with author. My lady pimps out my massaging prowess then I do the rest haha

I'd argue that on your own you don't do as well as many of us don't trust an approach from just the male in a couple to meet alone.

I feel cheated that I've never had a massage. "

That makes sense. At Kestrels I'll offer massage, no strings and often get the cold shoulder and understand it looks like I'm trying to take advantage which I don't. But once starling sets it up they're generally happy after massage haha

One day a massage will come your way. And I'll be the lucky one

He's such a charmer lol lol lol

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"been on these sites for 8yrs now

How have you found those 8 years OP?

Of course if you had no success over 8 years it might be worth trying something new.

Yeah I've worked my own approach and it's being myself, it's others I can't work out whether they would rather some arrogant git and just being nice because your being nice.

You have your answer then!

Be yourself - don't worry about others. You can try working people out but you'll guess wrong as often as you'll guess right.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also why do men think women are daft enough to want an arrogant git?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Starting to think that being a nice guy is getting me nowhere...

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just be yourself with a bit (lot of ) patients

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't help but feel that this way of thinking belies a huge sense of entitlement. Fab is what it is, men far outnumber women so they're able to an extent to pick and choose. Nothing will guarantee anybody a meet and being nice is not what is preventing anybody getting one simply because women do not have to meet anyone if they don't want to.

Don't let yourself believe that because you can't get a meet that there's something wrong with you it isnt a normal environment and women aren't attracted to one generic man."
thank god they are not xx

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Also why do men think women are daft enough to want an arrogant git?

I think that they see some men who treat women badly doing well sexually and see some women who are attracted to that sort of drama and think that must be the secret to sexual success.

They don't see the charm and control exercised in the run up to that "success".

Good point

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

Gentlemen triumph in the end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Woe is me

Grow Balls Man

Gimp

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Woe is me

Grow Balls Man

Gimp"

What sort of compost would you use?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Woe is me

Grow Balls Man

Gimp

What sort of compost would you use?

Bullshit, Never fails

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the OP should simply be more observant? 8 years is a long time on here. Surely there should have been some basic pattern recognition and analysis going on. In that time you would surely work out success vs failure for meets. You should also have worked out how to spot things like..your type, possible compatibility, how to spot bs and time wasters.

Almost every living organism learns eventually..

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I'm nice .. And I know it

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I'm nice .. And I know it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm nice .. And I know it

But forgetful & post the same thing twice

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"I'm nice .. And I know it

But forgetful & post the same thing twice

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..so nice I thought it was worth mentioning twice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like nice men who are naughty in the bedroom ... Or woods or quiet carparks etc

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