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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I had my first experience of being tied up recently and what an amazing experience it was (due to the guy responsible I imagine) but I am worried now that I have become obsessed with it and I'm constantly thinking about it.... The question is do I try it again or leave it be?

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By *istressZoeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

Again again again xxxx

One experience is just a toe dip in the water x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep going - sounds like you found your kink and that's what lots of us are searching for on fab

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

If you enjoy it then why not just make sure you can trust the person tying you then go for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had my first experience of being tied up recently and what an amazing experience it was (due to the guy responsible I imagine) but I am worried now that I have become obsessed with it and I'm constantly thinking about it.... The question is do I try it again or leave it be? "

Yes you should try it again, and again, and again. Feed your obsession

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's being able to trust someone I find an issue with.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Welcome to the dark side .

Find someone you respect who in turn respects you and your body, trust comes easy after that, in my experience.

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral

"Again again again xxxx

One experience is just a toe dip in the water x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeap try it again

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"Welcome to the dark side .

Find someone you respect who in turn respects you and your body, trust comes easy after that, in my experience. "

trust comes first. Trust is essential to any play BDSM or vanilla. After that your can fuck them 3 days from sunday and everything is gravy. But without trust - you are fucked.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Welcome to the dark side .

Find someone you respect who in turn respects you and your body, trust comes easy after that, in my experience.

trust comes first. Trust is essential to any play BDSM or vanilla. After that your can fuck them 3 days from sunday and everything is gravy. But without trust - you are fucked. "

And the process to gaining that trust is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't do it with someone from Fab as I don't think I'd trust them enough.

Read too many books on serial killers when younger

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

lol and given the diversity of people interested, nobody would blame you either!

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"Welcome to the dark side .

Find someone you respect who in turn respects you and your body, trust comes easy after that, in my experience.

trust comes first. Trust is essential to any play BDSM or vanilla. After that your can fuck them 3 days from sunday and everything is gravy. But without trust - you are fucked.

And the process to gaining that trust is?"

No offence... we have never seen eye to eye. I am not about to divulge any tips to you today.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you enjoy it then why not just make sure you can trust the person tying you then go for it "

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Welcome to the dark side .

Find someone you respect who in turn respects you and your body, trust comes easy after that, in my experience.

trust comes first. Trust is essential to any play BDSM or vanilla. After that your can fuck them 3 days from sunday and everything is gravy. But without trust - you are fucked.

And the process to gaining that trust is?

No offence... we have never seen eye to eye. I am not about to divulge any tips to you today."

Gosh I didn't know that, thanks for the info.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you enjoy it go for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By *onah10Man
over a year ago

birmingham

definitely try it again and see if you still enjoy, but trust is massive as is the mind connection with any type of bdsm play. enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I looked at your profile, and noticed you're fairly mature.

So, I'd say leave this stuff alone.

Sure you could pursue and maybe find some guy you trust to do it, who's equally mature. But this is hard enough for people in their 30s and 40s.

But is that the kind of future you want?

I would put more effort into finding a guy on a dating site. Or chatting to whoever you meet in your daily routine- see if that delivers something.

Lets face it, most guys are keen to do anything sexually to make their partner happy. Find the right guy first, this isn't really the best place for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I looked at your profile, and noticed you're fairly mature.

So, I'd say leave this stuff alone.

Sure you could pursue and maybe find some guy you trust to do it, who's equally mature. But this is hard enough for people in their 30s and 40s.

But is that the kind of future you want?

I would put more effort into finding a guy on a dating site. Or chatting to whoever you meet in your daily routine- see if that delivers something.

Lets face it, most guys are keen to do anything sexually to make their partner happy. Find the right guy first, this isn't really the best place for that "

Um, I'm sure the OP can make her own mind up on being on this site & what kinks or fantasies she wants.

Age is irrelevant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I looked at your profile, and noticed you're fairly mature.

So, I'd say leave this stuff alone.

Sure you could pursue and maybe find some guy you trust to do it, who's equally mature. But this is hard enough for people in their 30s and 40s.

But is that the kind of future you want?

I would put more effort into finding a guy on a dating site. Or chatting to whoever you meet in your daily routine- see if that delivers something.

Lets face it, most guys are keen to do anything sexually to make their partner happy. Find the right guy first, this isn't really the best place for that

Um, I'm sure the OP can make her own mind up on being on this site & what kinks or fantasies she wants.

Age is irrelevant."

Life begins at 40... and ends at 49. "Fairly mature" people should be safely tucked up (alone) in bed at night. Not out having fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I looked at your profile, and noticed you're fairly mature.

So, I'd say leave this stuff alone.

Sure you could pursue and maybe find some guy you trust to do it, who's equally mature. But this is hard enough for people in their 30s and 40s.

But is that the kind of future you want?

I would put more effort into finding a guy on a dating site. Or chatting to whoever you meet in your daily routine- see if that delivers something.

Lets face it, most guys are keen to do anything sexually to make their partner happy. Find the right guy first, this isn't really the best place for that

Um, I'm sure the OP can make her own mind up on being on this site & what kinks or fantasies she wants.

Age is irrelevant."

no shit Sherlock, but she asked and I'm answering.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I looked at your profile, and noticed you're fairly mature.

So, I'd say leave this stuff alone.

Sure you could pursue and maybe find some guy you trust to do it, who's equally mature. But this is hard enough for people in their 30s and 40s.

But is that the kind of future you want?

I would put more effort into finding a guy on a dating site. Or chatting to whoever you meet in your daily routine- see if that delivers something.

Lets face it, most guys are keen to do anything sexually to make their partner happy. Find the right guy first, this isn't really the best place for that

Um, I'm sure the OP can make her own mind up on being on this site & what kinks or fantasies she wants.

Age is irrelevant.

Life begins at 40... and ends at 49. "Fairly mature" people should be safely tucked up (alone) in bed at night. Not out having fun. "

I've got less than two years left then for some fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I looked at your profile, and noticed you're fairly mature.

So, I'd say leave this stuff alone.

Sure you could pursue and maybe find some guy you trust to do it, who's equally mature. But this is hard enough for people in their 30s and 40s.

But is that the kind of future you want?

I would put more effort into finding a guy on a dating site. Or chatting to whoever you meet in your daily routine- see if that delivers something.

Lets face it, most guys are keen to do anything sexually to make their partner happy. Find the right guy first, this isn't really the best place for that

Um, I'm sure the OP can make her own mind up on being on this site & what kinks or fantasies she wants.

Age is irrelevant.

Life begins at 40... and ends at 49. "Fairly mature" people should be safely tucked up (alone) in bed at night. Not out having fun.

I've got less than two years left then for some fun

730 shags to go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look up shibari on google its both artistic erotic and has a history all of its own I would say try some more with the right person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you enjoyed it, go for it again. Can take it slow, so you know you trust the person tying you. Just make sure you're always comfortable with it and just enjoy the experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh my god must be bedtime for the kids surely ?

never found age a problem

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for your advice but I would like to say I might be fairly mature but I am not over that hill yet, why should I not be trying new things at 60 but you're entitled to your opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I looked at your profile, and noticed you're fairly mature.

So, I'd say leave this stuff alone.

Sure you could pursue and maybe find some guy you trust to do it, who's equally mature. But this is hard enough for people in their 30s and 40s.

But is that the kind of future you want?

I would put more effort into finding a guy on a dating site. Or chatting to whoever you meet in your daily routine- see if that delivers something.

Lets face it, most guys are keen to do anything sexually to make their partner happy. Find the right guy first, this isn't really the best place for that

Um, I'm sure the OP can make her own mind up on being on this site & what kinks or fantasies she wants.

Age is irrelevant.

no shit Sherlock, but she asked and I'm answering.

I still don't understand what her age has to do with what she was asking.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

This is not help the aged site what has her age got to do with whether she likes bondage, I do wonder about people on here at times....think some should wind their necks in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is not help the aged site

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No wonder I can't get a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks everyone for your advice but I would like to say I might be fairly mature but I am not over that hill yet, why should I not be trying new things at 60 but you're entitled to your opinion. "

I apologise if that's how it came across, I don't think you're too old to try new things.

It's the ' finding that person' which is the really difficult part - for anyone. And it gets harder as we get older, especially in the internet jungle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I looked at your profile, and noticed you're fairly mature.

So, I'd say leave this stuff alone.

Sure you could pursue and maybe find some guy you trust to do it, who's equally mature. But this is hard enough for people in their 30s and 40s.

But is that the kind of future you want?

I would put more effort into finding a guy on a dating site. Or chatting to whoever you meet in your daily routine- see if that delivers something.

Lets face it, most guys are keen to do anything sexually to make their partner happy. Find the right guy first, this isn't really the best place for that "

Excuse me but what the fuckety fuck are you on about!!!

I think you have no idea!!

OP- how about the person with whom you enjoyed it last- is that an option?

Could you develop that side of things with them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think about it a lot

my advice, again and again!

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks everyone for your advice but I would like to say I might be fairly mature but I am not over that hill yet, why should I not be trying new things at 60 but you're entitled to your opinion. "

You, op, are awesome, keep up the good work

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lmao

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"This is not help the aged site

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No wonder I can't get a meet.

Don't worry fab is setting up grannyswingers lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I will be the first to join lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I looked at your profile, and noticed you're fairly mature.

So, I'd say leave this stuff alone.

Sure you could pursue and maybe find some guy you trust to do it, who's equally mature. But this is hard enough for people in their 30s and 40s.

But is that the kind of future you want?

I would put more effort into finding a guy on a dating site. Or chatting to whoever you meet in your daily routine- see if that delivers something.

Lets face it, most guys are keen to do anything sexually to make their partner happy. Find the right guy first, this isn't really the best place for that "

dear lord! You really know how to make a women feel special.

Just because she is mature, on a sex site and has liked the experience of being tied up, does not mean she should quit here and try a dating site and a more mature man!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you Pandora.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people seem to be rounding on the chap that brought age into it, might I suggest you spend some time at a dungeon on a full BDSM night and tell most of the people there that they are too old, I'd venture you'd find yourself strapped to a St. Andrews cross pretty darned quick

As for the OP, enjoy the fact you're are still learning things about yourself and the things you like, just as in life, we are never too old to learn something new.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I looked at your profile, and noticed you're fairly mature.

So, I'd say leave this stuff alone."

Disagree I'am a believer that generally speaking and not isolated to the OPs situation 'this stuff' has been around for years we didn't invent it the, previous generations paved the way and at a time when it was a lot more difficult, the worst response is mature people at swingers clubs are there to look at the younger people, feck off there usually there because they where doing it before we where tadpoles and it's thanks to people like them that it is common place today,

Pioneers to be respected they are, not intruders on 'our thing'

For you OP, go for it, if u like it explore it, plus it's damn fun

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By *rewv8Man
over a year ago

cardiff

Keep going it gets better and better

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Go for it .. Age has diddly squat to do with anything ..

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Thanks everyone for your advice but I would like to say I might be fairly mature but I am not over that hill yet, why should I not be trying new things at 60 but you're entitled to your opinion. "

Take no notice Daisy. Half of them are virgins the other half are born again virgins and the other half say im no good at maths.

If you want to do it you do it. Then do it some more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Helen mirren, your argument is invalid

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

"I looked at your profile, and noticed you're fairly mature.

So, I'd say leave this stuff alone.

Sure you could pursue and maybe find some guy you trust to do it, who's equally mature. But this is hard enough for people in their 30s and 40s.

But is that the kind of future you want?

I would put more effort into finding a guy on a dating site. Or chatting to whoever you meet in your daily routine- see if that delivers something.

Lets face it, most guys are keen to do anything sexually to make their partner happy. Find the right guy first, this isn't really the best place for that "
so the 60 yo Dom who took us through our early adventures with rope seven years ago shouldnt be out there sharing his experaince teaching the pitfalls the safe way to tie the dos the donts all those years of experiance would be wasted in your world ?go for it hunni find your local fetish munch get along find someone to tie you up and have fun with rope leave the boring agist stick in the muds to there own perfect little world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I looked at your profile, and noticed you're fairly mature.

So, I'd say leave this stuff alone.

Sure you could pursue and maybe find some guy you trust to do it, who's equally mature. But this is hard enough for people in their 30s and 40s.

But is that the kind of future you want?

I would put more effort into finding a guy on a dating site. Or chatting to whoever you meet in your daily routine- see if that delivers something.

Lets face it, most guys are keen to do anything sexually to make their partner happy. Find the right guy first, this isn't really the best place for that

Um, I'm sure the OP can make her own mind up on being on this site & what kinks or fantasies she wants.

Age is irrelevant.

Life begins at 40... and ends at 49. "Fairly mature" people should be safely tucked up (alone) in bed at night. Not out having fun.

I've got less than two years left then for some fun

730 shags to go.

They don't tell you young 'uns that there's a balance transfer plan at age 50 for unused shags and everything after that is on interest free credit.

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over a year ago

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By *istressZoeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

The question is ....... Have you since you posted this message x

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By *ynchedWoman
over a year ago

Dunstable

If it feels good then why not try it again..... grasp the opportunity with both hands, life is too short....

A repeat experience with the original guy if you can, might help you decide possibly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it feels good then why not try it again..... grasp the opportunity with both hands, life is too short....

A repeat experience with the original guy if you can, might help you decide possibly?"

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It can enliven a fb relationship. You must trust your partner, for your own safety and also that you enjoy it fully. There are many wannabe doms around who expect to pop over, restrain you, without even knowing them. Far too dangerous Imo.

It's worth having a friend who knows what you're up to as well.

Other than that, once you have a taste of something that's right for you, it awakens a hunger.

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