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"It's a really difficult conversation. I found that the best way was to be kind but straightforward. I took the colleague somewhere quiet and asked if they were alright as it didn't appear that they were taking care of themselves as well as they used to. I added that if I was getting smelly I would want to know. It worked for a about a week. " This is the mature and kindest approach. | |||
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"We used to work with a woman that had smelly feet. Used to stink the office out. Sadly I think she knew as she used to spray them with perfume and stuff so we chickened out of saying anything....it's such a delicate situation and chances are the person already knows and is embarrassed about it." The woman I worked with wasn't aware, the problem went away when they had a shower installed instead of a bath and she was prepared to spend the five minutes it took to shower. | |||
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"How does one go about telling a work colleague that their personal hygiene isn't really up to scratch? But do do it in a way to not cause offence? Should I just get d*unk and tell them? " Seriously I'm a whimp and fully admit it I'd tell my manager its then their place to deal with any complaints | |||
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"No idea! Not a pleasant experience and no real nice way to say it, just don't go directly squirting them with air freshener " I said this tongue in cheek but back in the nineties this is what some people did, so the line manager had to get involved and offer to buy them new shirts etc and asked them to get up earlier than their daughters so they had time in the bathroom, but it is a difficult situation to have but sometimes you just have to bite the bullet! | |||
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"I'm one of the people that had to be told. I genuinely didn't realise I was smelly until I had been told about it. Wasn't the nicest way, especially seeing as how it was my manager at the time during a meeting. But I shower regularly now, and yet I have no idea how to broach the subject with my current team leader." How would you have preferred to have been told? There can't be a good way of course but the least bad way. | |||
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"It should come from their direct line manager I'd that's not you then have a quiet word with who is," We did this. The smell in summer was unbearable!! | |||
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"I'm one of the people that had to be told. I genuinely didn't realise I was smelly until I had been told about it. Wasn't the nicest way, especially seeing as how it was my manager at the time during a meeting. But I shower regularly now, and yet I have no idea how to broach the subject with my current team leader." Just tell them you used to be smelly and you're grateful someone told you how to fix it. | |||
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"Just be straight ....... Wtf is the smell in here !! Smells like a dead rat xxx everyone will/should think fook is it me ??? Xxx " Smells like bigfoots dick! | |||
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"I'm one of the people that had to be told. I genuinely didn't realise I was smelly until I had been told about it. Wasn't the nicest way, especially seeing as how it was my manager at the time during a meeting. But I shower regularly now, and yet I have no idea how to broach the subject with my current team leader. How would you have preferred to have been told? There can't be a good way of course but the least bad way." I would have preferred them not to have said I reek in front of 20 of my colleagues and two other manager's personally. The awkward silence that followed was horrible | |||
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"How does one go about telling a work colleague that their personal hygiene isn't really up to scratch? But do do it in a way to not cause offence? Should I just get d*unk and tell them? " I had this same issue with a bloke I worked with. I took the forward approach and cornered him in the locker room. "Ere mate whack some of this on and use my spare shirt, you stink like a donkey, you just come out the gym or something?". Went down well, he still stinks and I ain't got my shirt back. | |||
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"I'm one of the people that had to be told. I genuinely didn't realise I was smelly until I had been told about it. Wasn't the nicest way, especially seeing as how it was my manager at the time during a meeting. But I shower regularly now, and yet I have no idea how to broach the subject with my current team leader. How would you have preferred to have been told? There can't be a good way of course but the least bad way. I would have preferred them not to have said I reek in front of 20 of my colleagues and two other manager's personally. The awkward silence that followed was horrible" That was unkind and unnecessary and must have been awful for you. | |||
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"Sadly in the company I work with, they just bundled a bloke and doused him with deodorant. They are not mature or subtle, no one did anything either. I was not present when this happened." people can be really horrible can't they. | |||
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"Sadly in the company I work with, they just bundled a bloke and doused him with deodorant. They are not mature or subtle, no one did anything either. I was not present when this happened." That's horrible. | |||
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"Could I text from an anonymous number? " How about an anonymous note with letters cut out of the newspaper. It spares your blushes talking to them and brings with it a sinister aire of "SoRt youRSElf OuT yoU StinKY PerSoN" | |||
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"This is really, really difficult and when I worked with someone with that problem I'm afraid I chickened out. Is there an HR department? Could you ask them for advice?" We have one guy that stinks out the whole floor of his workplace. But he insists on keeping the door open to his office! Not just a B.O. smell, its a mixture of B.O., clothes that have become musty from not being stored sufficiently dry, wet dog (he has about 6), and a sort of cheesy smell. Some days he's worse than others. But he is the HR manager!! When he started, he shared an office with the M.D., a few weeks later the M.D. found him an office in a separate building. Mine!!! And he has no idea about social interaction or personal space, you REALLY don't want to end up sat next to him in a meeting. | |||
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