FabSwingers.com forum: When to message a person on fab

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Right I've been thinking well overthinking with the sheer amount of messages recieve is there a specific time to message them say when there online and an hour after or when they've not been online for a day to be at top of the pile. Or do women actually read all the messages they get so doesn't matter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not always straightforward about being online or not.

My phone is always logged into Fab but doesn't mean I'm physically online all the time.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

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"Right I've been thinking well overthinking with the sheer amount of messages recieve is there a specific time to message them say when there online and an hour after or when they've not been online for a day to be at top of the pile. Or do women actually read all the messages they get so doesn't matter?"

Just message when you feel like it. If you think too much you'll go crazy.....I make a habit of never thinking at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people read them, some don't. I'd say so long as you're not blocked it's ok to message them any time.

I personally think it's a bad idea to message anyone as soon as they come online because it's likely they'll be trying to clear out their inbox or they came on here to do something. But if they came on looking for a meet or chat then obviously they're gonna want those messages. You don't know which they came on for though.

Don't over think it, just message when you feel chatty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is how I operate..log on..quickly glance at messages without reading them..see who has attached a pic if their profile photo is not of their face. Open the ones with pics hoping for a face pic..decide if I like what I see then read the message and hope I like what I read too. The ones that don't have pics attached get put on the back burner. I just find it easier and quicker if someone attaches a face pic..saves time all round. The one's that don't attach a pic I will still read but when I get round to it..but the message needs to be more than hi how are you..to grab my attention. Or like the other day, 200 had built up so I just deleted the lot without reading them. Gets too much sometimes! I tend to go from the top of my inbox to bottom so message while I'm online. That's just how I do things..don't know about others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they're online that's good, you'll see if it gets read, and/or deleted. If then you receive no answer after say a day or two and they've been online, i'd safely say they're not interested.

leaving a message for them to read later is also good. Just be patient.

Ive had men send a second message 5 minutes after the first telling me i'm rude and ignorant for not replying... then block me lol

You can gauge someone's patience and level of interest in you by how they message you or reply.

I'd say if women aren't replying and they're new, give them another chance in a few weeks.

Make an effort with your message content and you'll stand a better chance of a reply.

Personally: If someone doesn't send a photo with their message I know they haven't even bothered to read the first few lines of my profile, so no, I don't even bother to read their message.

my bad!

so, it's not all cut and dry about replies...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I only send one message an hour and at the same minute past, like 6 minutes past 6 or 10 minutes past 10. If I get a reply in that hour, I have a coffee, within 30mins, coffee and donut, 15mins, coffee, donut and a good scroll through some hot pics, 10 mins all the above and a wank. Anything less, I think they're fakes anyway and block them.

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By *lirtyjjWoman
over a year ago

Meath

"I only send one message an hour and at the same minute past, like 6 minutes past 6 or 10 minutes past 10. If I get a reply in that hour, I have a coffee, within 30mins, coffee and donut, 15mins, coffee, donut and a good scroll through some hot pics, 10 mins all the above and a wank. Anything less, I think they're fakes anyway and block them. "

that's a lot of donuts potentially

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read all messages unless i can see it just says hi or how are you.

Dont get tons though like some people do. I know some just get overwhelmed and delete them all and start again x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

that's a lot of donuts potentially :-

I can't see that myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

It all depends on what mood I'm in,whether it's a message from a forum post or someone who has messaged before,the other day I didn't answer any and I know that some get lost in the system too

strictly speaking I shouldn't be answering messages to anyone under 98 anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As soon as you see the green dot...

It a sign they want cock

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"As soon as you see the green dot...

It a sign they want cock"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As soon as you see the green dot...

It a sign they want cock"

How do I remove said green dot without logging off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As soon as you see the green dot...

It a sign they want cock

How do I remove said green dot without logging off

I don't think you can hide yourself unfortunately. Would be great if you could!

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