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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Would I be correct in thinking its mostly women from the forums?

I use the word 'actively' to describe a healthy back and forth PM exchange between two people who share some kind of fondness for each other, rather than just a 3-4 message negotiation between strangers. Personally, I find it's near impossible to get a proper dialogue going with anyone else - not to say I haven't had similar sort of chats with some non forum users, but by and large, trying to initiate a conversation with most of them is like getting blood from a stone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Csn't name them all..I'll make some jealous ^_^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had serious conversations and light banter ad well as full on flirting so I'd say it depends on the individuals you chat with to the responses you get back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can females no join in?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i'll chat with anyone who interests me on a mental level, its good to exchange thoughts... i'm an equal ops gobsite.....

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I don't proactively message anyone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can females no join in?"

I didn't ask because I assume you get no shortage of messages regardless of what you do or don't do on here, I was more curious in single male experiences due to it being much harder for us to get a proper dialogue going.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I chat with decent, interesting people and often not for the purposes of sexual play together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's right I chat to loads here via pm on different subjects on the forum, but mostly with women and some men and have a good dialog going.

I agree op, its next to impossible to have a convo with any non forum users lol.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"Would I be correct in thinking its mostly women from the forums?

I use the word 'actively' to describe a healthy back and forth PM exchange between two people who share some kind of fondness for each other, rather than just a 3-4 message negotiation between strangers. Personally, I find it's near impossible to get a proper dialogue going with anyone else - not to say I haven't had similar sort of chats with some non forum users, but by and large, trying to initiate a conversation with most of them is like getting blood from a stone."

In my case I'd say all the women I've ever had any kind of meaningful PM's with have been through the forums. Like you say OP, any other way is nearly impossible. And if it turns out you have some sort of connection it can certainly lead to other things and real genuine friendship. I've been lucky enough to experience that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can females no join in?

I didn't ask because I assume you get no shortage of messages regardless of what you do or don't do on here, I was more curious in single male experiences due to it being much harder for us to get a proper dialogue going."

You assume very wrong. And no. I rarely chat to people from the forum with a _iew to meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been known to chat with females tes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can females no join in?

I didn't ask because I assume you get no shortage of messages regardless of what you do or don't do on here, I was more curious in single male experiences due to it being much harder for us to get a proper dialogue going.

You assume very wrong. And no. I rarely chat to people from the forum with a _iew to meeting. "

Really?...

How many first messages do you get a day, on average? Do you mean to tell me there's no one among them you want to chat to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would I be correct in thinking its mostly women from the forums?

I use the word 'actively' to describe a healthy back and forth PM exchange between two people who share some kind of fondness for each other, rather than just a 3-4 message negotiation between strangers. Personally, I find it's near impossible to get a proper dialogue going with anyone else - not to say I haven't had similar sort of chats with some non forum users, but by and large, trying to initiate a conversation with most of them is like getting blood from a stone."

SB, I find this to be mostly true of single males too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do people actually message each other on here?

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By *onbons_xxMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I'm not a non-forum-ist but on the odd occasion that there is an exchange of my nonsense with those that don't use the forums I think they'd have seen the words on my profile and vice versa.

Don't necessarily think it's harder or easier with those that don't use the forums, a spark is a spark and all that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can females no join in?

I didn't ask because I assume you get no shortage of messages regardless of what you do or don't do on here, I was more curious in single male experiences due to it being much harder for us to get a proper dialogue going.

You assume very wrong. And no. I rarely chat to people from the forum with a _iew to meeting.

Really?...

How many first messages do you get a day, on average? Do you mean to tell me there's no one among them you want to chat to?"

New messages. Maybe 1 or 2. Normally outside of my preferences. This will increase if I put up a new pic...sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can females no join in?

I didn't ask because I assume you get no shortage of messages regardless of what you do or don't do on here, I was more curious in single male experiences due to it being much harder for us to get a proper dialogue going.

You assume very wrong. And no. I rarely chat to people from the forum with a _iew to meeting.

Really?...

How many first messages do you get a day, on average? Do you mean to tell me there's no one among them you want to chat to?

New messages. Maybe 1 or 2. Normally outside of my preferences. This will increase if I put up a new pic...sometimes."

Congratulations, that's 1-2 more new messages than the majority of single males get each day, giving you a significant advantage at getting a conversation started.

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

In Chat I PM lots with folk & varies from folk on my Friends List to folk who PM with the usual mince about "nice cam, can I see your cock". The latter I tend to ignore & quickly go quiet.

In Forums it's become mostly again folk I connect with both intellectually or physically, & sometimes in the shorter term just to reply to a post on s thread to save cluttering the thread & filling it with banal convo, using up the 175 posts limit. Besides, not everyone enjoys threads being hijacked by what is more a personal convo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can females no join in?

I didn't ask because I assume you get no shortage of messages regardless of what you do or don't do on here, I was more curious in single male experiences due to it being much harder for us to get a proper dialogue going.

You assume very wrong. And no. I rarely chat to people from the forum with a _iew to meeting.

Really?...

How many first messages do you get a day, on average? Do you mean to tell me there's no one among them you want to chat to?

New messages. Maybe 1 or 2. Normally outside of my preferences. This will increase if I put up a new pic...sometimes.

Congratulations, that's 1-2 more new messages than the majority of single males get each day, giving you a significant advantage at getting a conversation started."

But then I don't rely on others making the first move. 1 or 2 messages from those you have no interest in isn't any better than receiving no messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all my correspondents are forum users

It's almost a 50/50 split actually.

I'm just as likely to send randoms to forumites as to others I've come across via browsing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would I be correct in thinking its mostly women from the forums?

I use the word 'actively' to describe a healthy back and forth PM exchange between two people who share some kind of fondness for each other, rather than just a 3-4 message negotiation between strangers. Personally, I find it's near impossible to get a proper dialogue going with anyone else - not to say I haven't had similar sort of chats with some non forum users, but by and large, trying to initiate a conversation with most of them is like getting blood from a stone."

That's how it normally goes for me,

I find non forum users usually get straight to the point in just a few short messages they send, Not that it happens often,

Face pic

Where are you from ?

Do you want to meet ?

I prefer to chat for awhile to get to know a person myself

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Would I be correct in thinking its mostly women from the forums?

I use the word 'actively' to describe a healthy back and forth PM exchange between two people who share some kind of fondness for each other, rather than just a 3-4 message negotiation between strangers. Personally, I find it's near impossible to get a proper dialogue going with anyone else - not to say I haven't had similar sort of chats with some non forum users, but by and large, trying to initiate a conversation with most of them is like getting blood from a stone.

That's how it normally goes for me,

I find non forum users usually get straight to the point in just a few short messages they send, Not that it happens often,

Face pic

Where are you from ?

Do you want to meet ?

I prefer to chat for awhile to get to know a person myself"

Agreed, I find with many of them it's an incredibly sterile and antiseptic approach, hence why I rarely feel inclined to 'make the first move'. Mind though, I've sadly found that even those who take the time to write interesting and quirky profiles often have the personality of a paperclip when you manage to strike up a conversation with one, leading me to suspect that

A: They copied the profile from somewhere else

B: They did actually write it, when they first joined the site full of life and enthusiasm, which has since been totally killed by the volume of crap single males they've encountered, reducing their once enticing and sexy approach to 'pics?' and other one word answers, if they can even be bothered to answer at all.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't proactively seek out anyone but will almost always chat with anyone. I find it easier having a lady to chat to than a man. The men tend to respond but don't initiate any convo starters so it can tend to get tedious. Also straight men think I have an ulterior motive in chatting whereas I don't. Nor would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would I be correct in thinking its mostly women from the forums?

I use the word 'actively' to describe a healthy back and forth PM exchange between two people who share some kind of fondness for each other, rather than just a 3-4 message negotiation between strangers. Personally, I find it's near impossible to get a proper dialogue going with anyone else - not to say I haven't had similar sort of chats with some non forum users, but by and large, trying to initiate a conversation with most of them is like getting blood from a stone."

Lol it's actually quite hard for us ladies to get the same. Most guys just want to talk dates and times.. I like a good old flirty chat first.. gets the chemistry going. Which makes the urge for a meet more satisfying

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't proactively seek out anyone but will almost always chat with anyone. I find it easier having a lady to chat to than a man. The men tend to respond but don't initiate any convo starters so it can tend to get tedious. Also straight men think I have an ulterior motive in chatting whereas I don't. Nor would. "

I actually find guys who PM me on here (not including the ones who want to suck me off) are usually fairly interesting and write good messages, often about _iews I've shared on the forum or asking me for tips. I suppose the fact that they've made an effort though is what shines through.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I don't proactively seek out anyone but will almost always chat with anyone. I find it easier having a lady to chat to than a man. The men tend to respond but don't initiate any convo starters so it can tend to get tedious. Also straight men think I have an ulterior motive in chatting whereas I don't. Nor would.

I actually find guys who PM me on here

(not including the ones who want tosuck me off) are usually fairly

interesting and write good messages,

often about _iews I've shared on the

forum or asking me for tips. I suppose

the fact that they've made an effort

though is what shines through."

It must be me then. Socially inept.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't proactively seek out anyone but will almost always chat with anyone. I find it easier having a lady to chat to than a man. The men tend to respond but don't initiate any convo starters so it can tend to get tedious. Also straight men think I have an ulterior motive in chatting whereas I don't. Nor would.

I actually find guys who PM me on here

(not including the ones who want tosuck me off) are usually fairly

interesting and write good messages,

often about _iews I've shared on the

forum or asking me for tips. I suppose

the fact that they've made an effort

though is what shines through.

It must be me then. Socially inept. "

You need to broaden your interests, I find women love hearing me talk about guns, death and taxidermy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only 1 or 2 Brian.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"I don't proactively message anyone."

same here...

Being a crossdresser..(guy-in-a-dress)..i dont want to offend others by sending them an inbox.

However I do have some private message exchanges from a few forumites ...nothing sexual of course.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"

However I do have some private message exchanges from a few forumites ...nothing sexual of course."

me too, usually saying I am a cheeky bastard

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"I . Also straight men think I have an ulterior motive in chatting whereas I don't. Nor would. "

oh so true.......do you have the urge to say " dont flatter yourself" to them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't proactively seek out anyone but will almost always chat with anyone. I find it easier having a lady to chat to than a man. The men tend to respond but don't initiate any convo starters so it can tend to get tedious. Also straight men think I have an ulterior motive in chatting whereas I don't. Nor would.

I actually find guys who PM me on here (not including the ones who want to suck me off) are usually fairly interesting and write good messages, often about _iews I've shared on the forum or asking me for tips. I suppose the fact that they've made an effort though is what shines through."

Hhmmm do you know what O.P....I think it's time you tried meeting couples instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest. People I actively PM with on here are quite rare. Not many tick my boxes nor do I tick many of their boxes. So, my messages are rare.

There are some I like to stay in touch with so they know that i'm still interested. Many of those who I speak to and look to arrange a meet with, we end up texting or speaking on whatsapp. So, don't really use fab to stay in touch.

Wish I had more PM's but, that's something that can't be helped.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't proactively seek out anyone but will almost always chat with anyone. I find it easier having a lady to chat to than a man. The men tend to respond but don't initiate any convo starters so it can tend to get tedious. Also straight men think I have an ulterior motive in chatting whereas I don't. Nor would.

I actually find guys who PM me on here (not including the ones who want to suck me off) are usually fairly interesting and write good messages, often about _iews I've shared on the forum or asking me for tips. I suppose the fact that they've made an effort though is what shines through.

Hhmmm do you know what O.P....I think it's time you tried meeting couples instead "

Maybe I will...but just for socials

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can females no join in?

I didn't ask because I assume you get no shortage of messages regardless of what you do or don't do on here, I was more curious in single male experiences due to it being much harder for us to get a proper dialogue going."

Do the men just speak to other men then?

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