FabSwingers.com forum: A meet asks you to not meet others...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well depends on the situation and person. If we met a guy we both liked and all discussed the possibility of keeping it exclusive we would have no problem doing so assuming they keep their end of the deal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd want to know why? If they just want me at their beck and call whenever they wanna fuck me then they can fuck off. If they had something to offer me that i wanted then i'd consider a relationship, if i was single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?"

"Fuck off"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

"Fuck off""

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

"Fuck off""

Couldn't of said it better myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

"Fuck off""

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

"Fuck off""

Yep. Same here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?"

Who said anything about anyone thinking its a dating site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Given this is essentially a site for people to meet and discuss a liberal and 'free' sexual lifestyle, I'd be dubious of their true intentions if I'm honest.

I can see why they'd possibly ask (so you are 'theirs' and theirs alone) but I'd be suspicious that they were keeping their end of the deal.

I would see it as a control thing not consistent with a swinging lifestyle. And if they're keen to be that controlling / jealous (??) over someone they met on a swinging site, God knows how controlling they'd be if a longer / deeper bond developed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the swinging world, no fricking chance. In a relationship it would be up for discussion

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

"Fuck off""

Or..

hide the bunny rabbit..

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'd say 'I think I'll meet who I like but thanks anyway'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens to me a fair amount. As soon as i have a new meet veri theres tears before bedtime. Then it's a block delete from me.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

why? would be first question..id base my decision round the answer id get..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

"Fuck off""

How about one last shag, then tell them to fuck off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody on here who asked me to be with them has ever told me to stop seeing other guys. My boyfriend isn't on here but he hasn't even asked me not to meet anyone else and said i can meet and fuck others and do whatever i want.

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By *ertiVogtsMan
over a year ago

Exeter

I said "no" to this recently..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Given this is essentially a site for people to meet and discuss a liberal and 'free' sexual lifestyle, I'd be dubious of their true intentions if I'm honest.

I can see why they'd possibly ask (so you are 'theirs' and theirs alone) but I'd be suspicious that they were keeping their end of the deal.

I like all the "Fuck Off" replies... but this one really helps explain it the best so far imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Given this is essentially a site for people to meet and discuss a liberal and 'free' sexual lifestyle, I'd be dubious of their true intentions if I'm honest.

I can see why they'd possibly ask (so you are 'theirs' and theirs alone) but I'd be suspicious that they were keeping their end of the deal.

But you told me we would be exclusive

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?"

I met one of those soon after I joined fabs. I did stop, I have no problem with that in principle, and if he fulfilled my needs that would've been fine with me. But he didn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no no and no

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

playing with each other's toys

, no not in this nursery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

Who said anything about anyone thinking its a dating site?"

It's really not hard to see how many thinks is , you're a regular forum poster and there are loads of posts suggesting dating , looking for more than NSA , etc.......

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I have selective deafness

I would ignore that request

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Given this is essentially a site for people to meet and discuss a liberal and 'free' sexual lifestyle, I'd be dubious of their true intentions if I'm honest.

I can see why they'd possibly ask (so you are 'theirs' and theirs alone) but I'd be suspicious that they were keeping their end of the deal.

But you told me we would be exclusive

No I asked YOU to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A meet once asked me to stop sleeping with my husband.

My response was along the lines of if my husband was interested I wouldn't be here so jog on kitty!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If that's what both parties want, then all good.

If one doesn't want that, then of course it shouldn't happen.

I think everyone should be able to use the site how they want & not be judged for it.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

and NSA is being painted as terribly clinical, but actually it is not. It may be a away to deter the folks who appear desperate for a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's never happened to me and I can't imagine anyone asking me that either.

For everything you might read on the forums about something going sour where one party was wanting more than another, there have been a thousand successful meets with no misunderstandings. I don't think it's as common as it's being made out to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Given this is essentially a site for people to meet and discuss a liberal and 'free' sexual lifestyle, I'd be dubious of their true intentions if I'm honest.

I can see why they'd possibly ask (so you are 'theirs' and theirs alone) but I'd be suspicious that they were keeping their end of the deal.

But you told me we would be exclusive

No I asked YOU to be

See, even men can be bunny boilers

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"It's never happened to me and I can't imagine anyone asking me that either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

"Fuck off"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

Who said anything about anyone thinking its a dating site?"

All the singles. Only couples are Real Swingers.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Closest we've had to this is a guy saying we were disrespectful for not taking down our meet ad when we'd arranged a meet with him. Truth is we'd forgotten and on reflection don't see why we should have but cancelled the meet due to the aggressiveness shown. As for the question we'd be likely to say eff off too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A meet once asked me to stop sleeping with my husband.

My response was along the lines of if my husband was interested I wouldn't be here so jog on kitty!"

haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

Who said anything about anyone thinking its a dating site?

All the singles. Only couples are Real Swingers. "

Me and my left hand are swingers. I think it's the left anyway, or it could be the right actually. That's who i'm coupling up with!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

Who said anything about anyone thinking its a dating site?

All the singles. Only couples are Real Swingers.

Me and my left hand are swingers. I think it's the left anyway, or it could be the right actually. That's who i'm coupling up with!

What if your left hand asks you to be exclusive. How would your right hand feel?

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

We had a couple who we had met a few times get all upset with us cos we met another couple - We dumped them quick style that's getting strange in our book.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"We had a couple who we had met a few times get all upset with us cos we met another couple - We dumped them quick style that's getting strange in our book.

missed your posts Zoe

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

"Fuck off""

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

Who said anything about anyone thinking its a dating site?

All the singles. Only couples are Real Swingers.

Me and my left hand are swingers. I think it's the left anyway, or it could be the right actually. That's who i'm coupling up with!

What if your left hand asks you to be exclusive. How would your right hand feel?"

empty..

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

We would question why and then tell them to jog on.

Unless you're both single and feelings are developing (in which case it would depend on how long/well you'd been meeting, what you wanted and whether they would stick to their end of the deal), it stinks of jealousy, posessiveness and insecurity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its never happened and probably never would. If I wanted exclusivity I would have joined a dating site. Wouldn't find many couples looking for a third on those though?

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

"Fuck off""

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

"Fuck off""

Perfect.

Succinct and to the point, little chance of it being misunderstood

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By *uperock99Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Happened quite a few times, just say yeah sure babe anything you say

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

"Fuck off""

In the past we've had this a couple of times and this was basically our answer before cutting further contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a fwb a while back. I explained from the start that's all it would be. He said he was fine with me meeting other people - didn't stop him sulking though. Bye bye.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only like to have one sexual partner at a time but I would NEVER ask that partner to be exclusive to me..ever. We are all free people and can do what the hell we want to. I would go running if someone asked me.not to.meet other people..despite me.only liking.one at a time, I'd still talk to who I wanted to and still be open to.meeting new people. Unless you're in a.commited exclusive relationship you shouldn't have expectations of.other people other than honest and respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?"

Bye!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Close the door behind you

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I had a fwb a while back. I explained from the start that's all it would be. He said he was fine with me meeting other people - didn't stop him sulking though. Bye bye. "

My (ex? Not ex? Who the fuck knows) FWB sulks about me shagging other guys. We met on a friggin swingers site! Its not like I hid it from him. Also he never seems to mind our open relationship when he's the one getting some fun.

No, I have had some men get snippy about new verifications turning up, but I haven't had anyone expecting me to give up this lifestyle, and I wouldn't anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?"

I just dont wanna be the reason a marriage ends or something like that. And if the dick and tongue is good then hell i aint gonna wanna share that.. but then if both parties are single then there is room for growth.. if a guy asked me if he would be the only person to drink from my fury cup and wave his magic wand in my muff tunnel then i,d be cool with that coz i dont do multiple partners of any kind anyways.

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By *sontopMan
over a year ago

Billericay

I've not been on here very long if I wanted a dating site I would have joined one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

Who said anything about anyone thinking its a dating site?

All the singles. Only couples are Real Swingers. "

I dont agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a fwb a while back. I explained from the start that's all it would be. He said he was fine with me meeting other people - didn't stop him sulking though. Bye bye.

No, I have had some men get snippy about new verifications turning up, but I haven't had anyone expecting me to give up this lifestyle, and I wouldn't anyway."

It's natural to get jealous and sometimes a bit possessive when you create a bond with someone. Nobody likes to share their favourite toys! I don't particularly.like sharing when I've met someone I really like but I'd not make.em feel guilty or expect anything from them..I accept people fully as they are. If they want to shag other people, they can carry on. Should make things clear from.the start and always be honest. But it's not always black and white when it comes to human emotions and feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

Who said anything about anyone thinking its a dating site?

All the singles. Only couples are Real Swingers.

I dont agree."

Nor do we , but there seems to be a plethora of singles looking for everything but swinging on here today !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm. If I was asked for a genuine reason to not meet anyone else and it was explained, I'd listen, obviously.

But can't see it happening in this environment. But the people i know and meet I hold as good friends and I'd do whatever I could if there was a problem.

Not sure if that explains

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

Who said anything about anyone thinking its a dating site?

All the singles. Only couples are Real Swingers.

I dont agree.

Nor do we , but there seems to be a plethora of singles looking for everything but swinging on here today ! "

1 post....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

Who said anything about anyone thinking its a dating site?

All the singles. Only couples are Real Swingers.

I dont agree.

Nor do we , but there seems to be a plethora of singles looking for everything but swinging on here today ! "

But the forums are only used by 1% of people on the site apparently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

Who said anything about anyone thinking its a dating site?

All the singles. Only couples are Real Swingers.

I dont agree.

Nor do we , but there seems to be a plethora of singles looking for everything but swinging on here today !

1 post...."

1 post on this thread perhaps , but plenty on others . And quite conceivably more than one in this thread , but depends how you look at it I guess .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

Who said anything about anyone thinking its a dating site?

All the singles. Only couples are Real Swingers.

I dont agree.

Nor do we , but there seems to be a plethora of singles looking for everything but swinging on here today !

But the forums are only used by 1% of people on the site apparently

That's true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's too "clingy" for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have selective deafness

I would ignore that request

I suffer from this also!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

Who said anything about anyone thinking its a dating site?

All the singles. Only couples are Real Swingers.

I dont agree.

Nor do we , but there seems to be a plethora of singles looking for everything but swinging on here today !

1 post....

1 post on this thread perhaps , but plenty on others . And quite conceivably more than one in this thread , but depends how you look at it I guess ."

I meant one thread. I've only seen one thread today that was about someone wanting something more from a meet. It seems like one of the big forum urban myths, that all singles are actually trying to ensnare other people on here into unwanted long term relationships.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It would depend how much we'd met, what we'd been planning and discussing but in general it would be a bit of a shock to hear. My answer wouldn't be an immediate 'yes', in all probability, but who knows - anything can happen!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

Who said anything about anyone thinking its a dating site?

All the singles. Only couples are Real Swingers.

I dont agree.

Nor do we , but there seems to be a plethora of singles looking for everything but swinging on here today !

1 post....

1 post on this thread perhaps , but plenty on others . And quite conceivably more than one in this thread , but depends how you look at it I guess .

On a thread from a few days ago we said quite honestly that on our last account of the 20 or so single women we had met , all were now in a relationship .

There is a huge difference between a genuine single woman on a swinging site , and let's say a married woman playing with or without her husbands consent . Or a partner come to that .

The truly single woman seems to be looking for more , especially in the 20 to 40 year old age group . Now there's nothing wrong with that at all , as long as there is honesty in the motive .

When we engaged in the club and party scene it was rife with bunny boilers , a real eye opener . Guys would avoid certain nights knowing the usual suspects would be there .

This is our experience , and we aren't having a go or being critical , just stating what we have seen .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not had anyone ask me to do this.

I'm very much a woman who concentrates on one man at a time.

I.e if I've got a meet planned in a couple weeks, I've no interest in trying to find another one inbetween that time. I'd like to think it's the same with whom I'm meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

Who said anything about anyone thinking its a dating site?

All the singles. Only couples are Real Swingers.

I dont agree.

Nor do we , but there seems to be a plethora of singles looking for everything but swinging on here today !

1 post....

1 post on this thread perhaps , but plenty on others . And quite conceivably more than one in this thread , but depends how you look at it I guess .

They may not say it directly but there's loads of singles that get huffy and jealous when someone they've met meets someone else. LOTS of lamppost pissing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I.e if I've got a meet planned in a couple weeks, I've no interest in trying to find another one inbetween that time. I'd like to think it's the same with whom I'm meeting.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?"

Fuck off!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

"Fuck off""

Beat me to it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a huge difference between a genuine single woman on a swinging site , and let's say a married woman playing with or without her husbands consent . Or a partner come to that .

The truly single woman seems to be looking for more , especially in the 20 to 40 year old age group . Now there's nothing wrong with that at all , as long as there is honesty in the motive .

When we engaged in the club and party scene it was rife with bunny boilers , a real eye opener . Guys would avoid certain nights knowing the usual suspects would be there .

This is our experience , and we aren't having a go or being critical , just stating what we have seen ."

I think you can be genuinely free to have sex with who you like, when you like (like me - I'm not technically single, but also I don't have to have anyones permission to have sex with people) and also be open to having 'more' from a relationship.

I'm always open to 'more'. It doesn't mean that I'm going to chase someone down and force a wedding ring onto them, but it does mean that I'm open to more than just no strings attached sex.

You'd think, from some occasional comments on the forum, that I was some kind of monster because I am interested in finding 'more'. But if someone didn't want more I'd take that in good grace too. Generally I try and ask questions in my pre-flight check to figure out if they're going to 'go monogamous' and not be available in the future - and I generally wouldn't meet those people. I prefer to build up some kind of relationship/partnership (not in the traditional monogamous marriage way) so if someones just going to fuck me when they're single, then I'm not interested in that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I.e if I've got a meet planned in a couple weeks, I've no interest in trying to find another one inbetween that time. I'd like to think it's the same with whom I'm meeting.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"We had a couple who we had met a few times get all upset with us cos we met another couple - We dumped them quick style that's getting strange in our book.

Hello stranger! Your posts have been missed!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"We had a couple who we had met a few times get all upset with us cos we met another couple - We dumped them quick style that's getting strange in our book.

missed your posts Zoe

I'm late to these threads!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've not had anyone ask me to do this.

I'm very much a woman who concentrates on one man at a time.

I.e if I've got a meet planned in a couple weeks, I've no interest in trying to find another one inbetween that time. I'd like to think it's the same with whom I'm meeting.

But if you can't meet for a couple of weeks and they've got time to, would you care if they met someone in the meantime, so long as they still come and meet you? I wouldn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being part of a couple I'm not interested in any exclusivity, and I never form too close a relationship ie I never give my phone number out or message guys excessively. In fact I would say that the single guys we meet have a 'matey' kind of vibe with my OH much more than they would with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had a couple who we had met a few times get all upset with us cos we met another couple - We dumped them quick style that's getting strange in our book.

Now that has to be the spookiest of the entire thread; - be thankful that they did you a favour by telling you!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

Who said anything about anyone thinking its a dating site?"

I thought we were dating! FFS!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I.e if I've got a meet planned in a couple weeks, I've no interest in trying to find another one inbetween that time. I'd like to think it's the same with whom I'm meeting.

I'm aware and not stupid enough to think it will happen. It's something I'd like to think would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've not had anyone ask me to do this.

I'm very much a woman who concentrates on one man at a time.

I.e if I've got a meet planned in a couple weeks, I've no interest in trying to find another one inbetween that time. I'd like to think it's the same with whom I'm meeting.

But if you can't meet for a couple of weeks and they've got time to, would you care if they met someone in the meantime, so long as they still come and meet you? I wouldn't. "

If it's someone I've got very friendly with, built a rapport and had talked about it, yes I would mind.

If it's a meet I'd been talking to for a week then no I wouldn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's someone I've got very friendly with, built a rapport and had talked about it, yes I would mind.

If it's a meet I'd been talking to for a week then no I wouldn't. "

This is swinging... the point is kind of to have sex with multiple people.

Even on a dating site when I was monogamous, if I arranged a date with someone, I wouldn't expect them not to go on dates with anyone else! After five or six dates then maybe... but before you've even met them? That's a bit bunny-boilerish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's someone I've got very friendly with, built a rapport and had talked about it, yes I would mind.

If it's a meet I'd been talking to for a week then no I wouldn't.

This is swinging... the point is kind of to have sex with multiple people.

That's your opinion.

I'm fully aware it's a swinging site thankyou.

I will use it how I wish thankyou.

You know nothing about me or my future meets and what is discussed. If people find it "bunny boilerish" that's up to them, no skin off my nose.

Everyone is different, just because it's a swinging site we don't all have the same thoughts and opinions even though it's obvious people expect you too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's someone I've got very friendly with, built a rapport and had talked about it, yes I would mind.

If it's a meet I'd been talking to for a week then no I wouldn't.

This is swinging... the point is kind of to have sex with multiple people.

That's your opinion.

I'm fully aware it's a swinging site thankyou.

I will use it how I wish thankyou.

You know nothing about me or my future meets and what is discussed. If people find it "bunny boilerish" that's up to them, no skin off my nose.

Everyone is different, just because it's a swinging site we don't all have the same thoughts and opinions even though it's obvious people expect you too.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

If it's someone I've got very friendly with, built a rapport and had talked about it, yes I would mind.

If it's a meet I'd been talking to for a week then no I wouldn't.

This is swinging... the point is kind of to have sex with multiple people.

I think even though this is swinging I don't think it's to much to ask to have a bit of respect and consideration for the person you're meeting. You can lay down a few rules beforehand.

I think all Pandora was saying was that she wouldn't want her meet to be shagging every Tom, Dick and Harry right before they met up. Just hold off from meeting beforehand. Obviously they can do what they want afterwards. This would be discussed before ever meeting. I don't see that as a problem as long as both parties agree to it.

There's not just one rule to swinging. We're not just animals shagging in the streets here. Some people have certain things they expect from a meet. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's someone I've got very friendly with, built a rapport and had talked about it, yes I would mind.

If it's a meet I'd been talking to for a week then no I wouldn't.

This is swinging... the point is kind of to have sex with multiple people.

I think even though this is swinging I don't think it's to much to ask to have a bit of respect and consideration for the person you're meeting. You can lay down a few rules beforehand.

There's not just one rule to swinging. We're not just animals shagging in the streets here. Some people have certain things they expect from a meet. I don't think there's anything wrong with that."

I just think if some guy turned round to me and said 'we've scheduled a date in three weeks time for a shag, now I don't want you to meet anyone else before then' I'd be out of there faster than a speeding bullet. That to me is quite extreme commitment. I've had relationships that lasted less than three weeks...

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

yes we have met other people and introduce other but always asked first and been asked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's someone I've got very friendly with, built a rapport and had talked about it, yes I would mind.

If it's a meet I'd been talking to for a week then no I wouldn't.

This is swinging... the point is kind of to have sex with multiple people.

I think even though this is swinging I don't think it's to much to ask to have a bit of respect and consideration for the person you're meeting. You can lay down a few rules beforehand.

There's not just one rule to swinging. We're not just animals shagging in the streets here. Some people have certain things they expect from a meet. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

I never mentioned " 3 weeks" I said a couple weeks and that was said as an example. However a week before a meet I certainly wouldn't be fucking other people as I'm not like that. I hope to meet people who share the same values as me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's someone I've got very friendly with, built a rapport and had talked about it, yes I would mind.

If it's a meet I'd been talking to for a week then no I wouldn't.

This is swinging... the point is kind of to have sex with multiple people.

Exactly this , can't believe I am agreeing this poster so often of late

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's someone I've got very friendly with, built a rapport and had talked about it, yes I would mind.

If it's a meet I'd been talking to for a week then no I wouldn't.

This is swinging... the point is kind of to have sex with multiple people.

Exactly this , can't believe I am agreeing this poster so often of late

Traces of other peoples spit stays in your mouth for three months you know... best wait three months between each meet.

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

From a slightly different perspective, on a couple of occasions we've met guys or attended clubs and mentioned it in status or as feedback, and other guys we know have then mailed us after we mention this and said "oh well I was busy that day anyway and couldn't have net you and, by the way, the reason I was busy was cos I was having this incredible meet!". Which is fine, as it's what the site is for, one of the guys seemed very tit for tat with it though

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

"Given this is essentially a site for people to meet and discuss a liberal and 'free' sexual lifestyle, I'd be dubious of their true intentions if I'm honest.

I can see why they'd possibly ask (so you are 'theirs' and theirs alone) but I'd be suspicious that they were keeping their end of the deal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's someone I've got very friendly with, built a rapport and had talked about it, yes I would mind.

If it's a meet I'd been talking to for a week then no I wouldn't.

This is swinging... the point is kind of to have sex with multiple people.

Exactly this , can't believe I am agreeing this poster so often of late

Traces of other peoples spit stays in your mouth for three months you know... best wait three months between each meet.

Oh my , we have been doing it all wrong then

We often have up to five meets Iin one evening

By that reckoning our current total would have taken fifty three years to get to and not 7 months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's someone I've got very friendly with, built a rapport and had talked about it, yes I would mind.

If it's a meet I'd been talking to for a week then no I wouldn't.

This is swinging... the point is kind of to have sex with multiple people.

Exactly this , can't believe I am agreeing this poster so often of late

& I thought it was just me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's someone I've got very friendly with, built a rapport and had talked about it, yes I would mind.

If it's a meet I'd been talking to for a week then no I wouldn't.

This is swinging... the point is kind of to have sex with multiple people.

I think even though this is swinging I don't think it's to much to ask to have a bit of respect and consideration for the person you're meeting. You can lay down a few rules beforehand.

There's not just one rule to swinging. We're not just animals shagging in the streets here. Some people have certain things they expect from a meet. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

What values?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's someone I've got very friendly with, built a rapport and had talked about it, yes I would mind.

If it's a meet I'd been talking to for a week then no I wouldn't.

This is swinging... the point is kind of to have sex with multiple people.

I think even though this is swinging I don't think it's to much to ask to have a bit of respect and consideration for the person you're meeting. You can lay down a few rules beforehand.

There's not just one rule to swinging. We're not just animals shagging in the streets here. Some people have certain things they expect from a meet. I don't think there's anything wrong with that."

Just hold off from meeting beforehand? Are you joking?! I'd expect a meet to rinse their genitals under a tap before a meet but that's all.

Sure everyone is different but bloody hell if people seriously think someone should abide by such rules for NSA sex then.............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

Who said anything about anyone thinking its a dating site?

All the singles. Only couples are Real Swingers.

I dont agree.

Nor do we , but there seems to be a plethora of singles looking for everything but swinging on here today !

1 post....

1 post on this thread perhaps , but plenty on others . And quite conceivably more than one in this thread , but depends how you look at it I guess .

They may not say it directly but there's loads of singles that get huffy and jealous when someone they've met meets someone else. LOTS of lamppost pissing. "

Perfect examples now in this thread.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send them the link for match .com

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

Who said anything about anyone thinking its a dating site?

I thought we were dating! FFS!"

Where are my chocolates & flowers then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

Who said anything about anyone thinking its a dating site?

All the singles. Only couples are Real Swingers.

I dont agree.

Nor do we , but there seems to be a plethora of singles looking for everything but swinging on here today !

1 post....

1 post on this thread perhaps , but plenty on others . And quite conceivably more than one in this thread , but depends how you look at it I guess .

They may not say it directly but there's loads of singles that get huffy and jealous when someone they've met meets someone else. LOTS of lamppost pissing. "

I must admit I've not seen that at all.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

If it's someone I've got very friendly with, built a rapport and had talked about it, yes I would mind.

If it's a meet I'd been talking to for a week then no I wouldn't.

This is swinging... the point is kind of to have sex with multiple people.

I think even though this is swinging I don't think it's to much to ask to have a bit of respect and consideration for the person you're meeting. You can lay down a few rules beforehand.

There's not just one rule to swinging. We're not just animals shagging in the streets here. Some people have certain things they expect from a meet. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

What values?"

'A person's principles or standards of behaviour; one's judgment of what is important in life.'

Some people on here do still have values that they live by, not just in everyday life. Even on Fab people still can have values

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's someone I've got very friendly with, built a rapport and had talked about it, yes I would mind.

If it's a meet I'd been talking to for a week then no I wouldn't.

This is swinging... the point is kind of to have sex with multiple people.

I think even though this is swinging I don't think it's to much to ask to have a bit of respect and consideration for the person you're meeting. You can lay down a few rules beforehand.

There's not just one rule to swinging. We're not just animals shagging in the streets here. Some people have certain things they expect from a meet. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

What values?

'A person's principles or standards of behaviour; one's judgment of what is important in life.'

Some people on here do still have values that they live by, not just in everyday life. Even on Fab people still can have values

dont see how meeting some random stranger off fab means you have values but if you don't leave a weeks gap between said shags means you don't? ??

I'll pop the kettle on while your explain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What values?

'A person's principles or standards of behaviour; one's judgment of what is important in life.'

Some people on here do still have values that they live by, not just in everyday life. Even on Fab people still can have values

I think the person understood what 'values' are. They were asking the poster what her specific values are that she lives by.

I know alot of people ask me how I can meet one of my partners and then go to bed with one of my other partners the same day. The assumption seems to be that I'm 'too slutty', that I'm 'badly behaved' or that I don't respect either of my partners.

I'm just surprised to see that attitude on a swinging site when swinging is, to me, about promiscuity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just surprised to see that attitude on a swinging site when swinging is, to me, about promiscuity."

Well you would have though eh

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

this isn't an exclusive swinging site, it's an adult themed social media site, it is a titivation site, a bored housewife/husband site, it is a dating site, it is a cam wank site, it is a dogging site, it is a club appreciation site, it is a gay/bi guy meet up site, it is a flirty message site, it is a................

nothing surprises more then people are continually surprised that we are all seeking something totally different and NOT ONE IS BETTER than the other......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

Who said anything about anyone thinking its a dating site?

All the singles. Only couples are Real Swingers.

I dont agree.

Nor do we , but there seems to be a plethora of singles looking for everything but swinging on here today !

1 post....

1 post on this thread perhaps , but plenty on others . And quite conceivably more than one in this thread , but depends how you look at it I guess .

They may not say it directly but there's loads of singles that get huffy and jealous when someone they've met meets someone else. LOTS of lamppost pissing.

Perfect examples now in this thread....."

Yeah I take my earlier statement back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't be asked to not meet others, I'm not a great catch

But if anyone did, it would just depend on the dynamic of the relationship etc. I'm not a major player at all with swinging, so I doubt I would get that request.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"this isn't an exclusive swinging site, it's an adult themed social media site, it is a titivation site, a bored housewife/husband site, it is a dating site, it is a cam wank site, it is a dogging site, it is a club appreciation site, it is a gay/bi guy meet up site, it is a flirty message site, it is a................

nothing surprises more then people are continually surprised that we are all seeking something totally different and NOT ONE IS BETTER than the other......

Completely agree with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's someone I've got very friendly with, built a rapport and had talked about it, yes I would mind.

If it's a meet I'd been talking to for a week then no I wouldn't.

This is swinging... the point is kind of to have sex with multiple people.

I think even though this is swinging I don't think it's to much to ask to have a bit of respect and consideration for the person you're meeting. You can lay down a few rules beforehand.

There's not just one rule to swinging. We're not just animals shagging in the streets here. Some people have certain things they expect from a meet. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

What values?

'A person's principles or standards of behaviour; one's judgment of what is important in life.'

Some people on here do still have values that they live by, not just in everyday life. Even on Fab people still can have values

dont see how meeting some random stranger off fab means you have values but if you don't leave a weeks gap between said shags means you don't? ??

I'll pop the kettle on while your explain

Milk & no, ta!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Judging by the amount of people on here who seem to think its a dating site I can imagine this happening... so what would you do or say?

Who said anything about anyone thinking its a dating site?

All the singles. Only couples are Real Swingers.

I dont agree.

Nor do we , but there seems to be a plethora of singles looking for everything but swinging on here today !

1 post....

1 post on this thread perhaps , but plenty on others . And quite conceivably more than one in this thread , but depends how you look at it I guess .

They may not say it directly but there's loads of singles that get huffy and jealous when someone they've met meets someone else. LOTS of lamppost pissing. "

Lamppost pissing? ........hmmmm, I might pull out the sexism card on that one!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If two people have arranged to meet & have said they won't meet anyone else beforehand then personally I think they should stick to that.

Its no different to saying you won't do anal or kiss on a meet & they force their tongue down your throat or try & shove their cock up your bum

Don't say you'll do something if you have no intention of sticking to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If two people have arranged to meet & have said they won't meet anyone else beforehand then personally I think they should stick to that.

Its no different to saying you won't do anal or kiss on a meet & they force their tongue down your throat or try & shove their cock up your bum

Don't say you'll do something if you have no intention of sticking to it."

It's just a bit odd, IMO, to seek monogamy (even if in the short term) on a swinging site which is generally understood to be about non-monogamy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If two people have arranged to meet & have said they won't meet anyone else beforehand then personally I think they should stick to that.

Its no different to saying you won't do anal or kiss on a meet & they force their tongue down your throat or try & shove their cock up your bum

Don't say you'll do something if you have no intention of sticking to it.

It's just a bit odd, IMO, to seek monogamy (even if in the short term) on a swinging site which is generally understood to be about non-monogamy."

Yeah, I get that but everyone is different

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

If you're having fun, what does it matter if the person having fun else where. Or is it that the other person might be better then you and competition is creeping in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If two people have arranged to meet & have said they won't meet anyone else beforehand then personally I think they should stick to that.

Its no different to saying you won't do anal or kiss on a meet & they force their tongue down your throat or try & shove their cock up your bum

Don't say you'll do something if you have no intention of sticking to it."

I do agree with that. If people agree to something they should stick with it otherwise it's disrespectful.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"If two people have arranged to meet & have said they won't meet anyone else beforehand then personally I think they should stick to that.

Its no different to saying you won't do anal or kiss on a meet & they force their tongue down your throat or try & shove their cock up your bum

Don't say you'll do something if you have no intention of sticking to it.

I do agree with that. If people agree to something they should stick with it otherwise it's disrespectful.

Amen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To say this thread is an eye opener for me is one hell of an understatement!

If I'm meeting a stranger off here for a shag then what (or who) she did yesterday or does tomorrow is quite simply non of my fucking business, - end of!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's someone I've got very friendly with, built a rapport and had talked about it, yes I would mind.

If it's a meet I'd been talking to for a week then no I wouldn't.

This is swinging... the point is kind of to have sex with multiple people.

I think even though this is swinging I don't think it's to much to ask to have a bit of respect and consideration for the person you're meeting. You can lay down a few rules beforehand.

There's not just one rule to swinging. We're not just animals shagging in the streets here. Some people have certain things they expect from a meet. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

What values?

'A person's principles or standards of behaviour; one's judgment of what is important in life.'

Some people on here do still have values that they live by, not just in everyday life. Even on Fab people still can have values

Huffy much? I asked what values. I didn't say that people don't have values on here.

People have different values. As View said, it doesn't make some groups better than others. No matter how they try to dress up the way they meet.

At a base level we are all on here meeting strangers for sex. If someone wants to look down on other people because they do something differently... fucking hilarious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To say this thread is an eye opener for me is one hell of an understatement!

If I'm meeting a stranger off here for a shag then what (or who) she did yesterday or does tomorrow is quite simply non of my fucking business, - end of!! "

For you, yes. For other people then they want more, whatever 'more' is. That is their business. As long as they are happy that's all that matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's someone I've got very friendly with, built a rapport and had talked about it, yes I would mind.

If it's a meet I'd been talking to for a week then no I wouldn't.

This is swinging... the point is kind of to have sex with multiple people.

I think even though this is swinging I don't think it's to much to ask to have a bit of respect and consideration for the person you're meeting. You can lay down a few rules beforehand.

There's not just one rule to swinging. We're not just animals shagging in the streets here. Some people have certain things they expect from a meet. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

What values?

'A person's principles or standards of behaviour; one's judgment of what is important in life.'

Some people on here do still have values that they live by, not just in everyday life. Even on Fab people still can have values

Huffy much? I asked what values. I didn't say that people don't have values on here.

People have different values. As View said, it doesn't make some groups better than others. No matter how they try to dress up the way they meet.

At a base level we are all on here meeting strangers for sex. If someone wants to look down on other people because they do something differently... fucking hilarious. "

I think some just like to dress up what they are doing by saying things like I have to get to know somebody first or I'm only looking for a select few meet

but at the end of the day if you only have one meet a year and I have one meet a week (I wish

) we are still here looking for the same thing, strangers off the internet for sex so stop being a bloody snob