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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have been asked how many people I have played with by someone who wants to meet!

I replied it's not really your business!

My question here....

Is it bad manners to ask this or have I taken this the wrong way!

What do you think?

Thanks lovelies....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not rude to me but it understandably rude is for others. I wouldn't mind answering honestly, but I doubt I'd ever ask.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm not at all phased, just thought it odd!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always get asked this tbh got used to answering now lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I find it an irrelevant question and would refuse to answer it on the grounds of pointlessness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it an irrelevant question and would refuse to answer it on the grounds of pointlessness.

Awww go on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd want to know why they needed to know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find it an irrelevant question and would refuse to answer it on the grounds of pointlessness.

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

What do you think, not sure any else's thoughts are relevant, it's your privacy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't ask that as it's none of my business. But people are different. They might be put off if it's a high number. But each to there own

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I find it an irrelevant question and would refuse to answer it on the grounds of pointlessness.

Awww go on."

Quite a few

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's bad manners but I wouldn't ask it myself. You're well within your rights to class it as your own business.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I find it an irrelevant question and would refuse to answer it on the grounds of pointlessness.

Ooh! You agreed! Can I have a shag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure why it matters really maybe he is nervous about not being as experienced ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont answer it, never answer it.

Your on a lose / lose with this one.

If for example you say none, you will be tarred with the time waster brush, or seen as a personal challenge lol

However if it is possibly aheeeem a few they will assume you will do them!! Like its a a done deal.

I would answer well I find the site lovely and I enjoy my time on here pmsl, that will throw em.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it an irrelevant question and would refuse to answer it on the grounds of pointlessness.

Awww go on.

Quite a few

Slag.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I couldn't answer as I have repeat veri's I have social veri's I have been here for over 6 years, it's not because I don't who I had met.

This is a question I wouldn't answer in vanilla land either, it is my business and no one else's.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

I would be very concerned with such a question (ask why he needs to know, is he a journalist?).

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

It depends how and why they're asking. If it's a general 'how's fab' type inquiry or you're talking about previous sexual encounters generally then it's a pretty innocuous question in the flow of a conversation. If, however they are straight out asking out of the blue then I would wonder at the reason behind such a question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them to go forth and multiply but in this case without you

Its your own business and has no real relevance to any future meets you might have.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I find it an irrelevant question and would refuse to answer it on the grounds of pointlessness.

Awww go on.

Quite a few

Slag."

It's not my fault people want sex with me!

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say loads... but that was with my previous cock

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

My life my business

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"My life my business"

exactly.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"My life my business"

Discretion is such an under valued trait, in this site of conquest, me thinks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it an irrelevant question and would refuse to answer it on the grounds of pointlessness.

This. It would put me off chatting to them.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

they can ask, I am not sure they could cope with the answer

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"they can ask, I am not sure they could cope with the answer

Ha ha ha ahem.... Probably!

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Very odd and non of his beeswax.

Sounds like an insecure slut shamer. A man has numerous partners, he's the man. A woman does the same, she's a slut.

Bullshit double standards.

Nice arse by the way

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Very odd and non of his beeswax.

Sounds like an insecure slut shamer. A man has numerous partners, he's the man. A woman does the same, she's a slut.

Bullshit double standards.

Nice arse by the way

Lib called me a slag!

it's not actually that many.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks Merkin!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lib called me a slag!

it's not actually that many. "

Sorry, in the interests of unbiased gender discrimination I shall endeavor to call a woman a slag to as I wouldn't want to be labelled for treating the different sexes differently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think they never failed to be impressed by my response of "I don't know". Haha.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Lib called me a slag!

it's not actually that many.

Sorry, in the interests of unbiased gender discrimination I shall endeavor to call a woman a slag to as I wouldn't want to be labelled for treating the different sexes differently."

That's very fair of you, mate. Which one?

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

"Very odd and non of his beeswax.

Sounds like an insecure slut shamer. A man has numerous partners, he's the man. A woman does the same, she's a slut.

Bullshit double standards.

Nice arse by the way

Lib called me a slag!

it's not actually that many. "

Different banter context

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"Lib called me a slag!

it's not actually that many.

Sorry, in the interests of unbiased gender discrimination I shall endeavor to call a woman a slag to as I wouldn't want to be labelled for treating the different sexes differently.

That's very fair of you, mate. Which one?"

You're more of a floozy than a stag.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We sometimes ask people if they have had many meets in a conversational way, no ulterior motive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lib called me a slag!

it's not actually that many.

Sorry, in the interests of unbiased gender discrimination I shall endeavor to call a woman a slag to as I wouldn't want to be labelled for treating the different sexes differently."

I'm used to being called it at work on a regular basis so feel free

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's very fair of you, mate. Which one?"

Far too many to choose from going by these recent threads.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

"Thanks Merkin!

You are veryphwoooar welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yes he did!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"We sometimes ask people if they have had many meets in a conversational way, no ulterior motive."

We've been asked this loads of times and its never offended us.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"We sometimes ask people if they have had many meets in a conversational way, no ulterior motive.

We've been asked this loads of times and its never offended us.

So, have you had many meets?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Lib called me a slag!

it's not actually that many.

Sorry, in the interests of unbiased gender discrimination I shall endeavor to call a woman a slag to as I wouldn't want to be labelled for treating the different sexes differently.

That's very fair of you, mate. Which

one?

You're more of a floozy than a stag.

I like the image of a stag

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"I have been asked how many people I have played with by someone who wants to meet!

I replied it's not really your business!

My question here....

Is it bad manners to ask this or have I taken this the wrong way!

What do you think?

Thanks lovelies...."

It could be a valid question but really it depends when the question was asked, context is important.

For instance if it was asked during a meet after the ice had been broken we would give a different answer than if it was a potential meets first question.

As everyone who practices safe sex will know the number of meets a partner has is relevant.

Therefoe it is not bad manners to ask but one has to judge when the right time to ask is.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"Lib called me a slag!

it's not actually that many.

Sorry, in the interests of unbiased gender discrimination I shall endeavor to call a woman a slag to as I wouldn't want to be labelled for treating the different sexes differently.

That's very fair of you, mate. Which

one?

You're more of a floozy than a stag.

I like the image of a stag

Damn, it slipped past autocorrect. Possibly because I was still laughing at my phone automatically changing floozy to floppy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This post has got me wondering if my number is average or irrelavant....

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"This post has got me wondering if my number is average or irrelavant...."

Average to some, irrelevant to others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think its bad manners but I don't really think it's anyone else's business either.

What time scale is he after ~ a lifetime or in the fab world?!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"We sometimes ask people if they have had many meets in a conversational way, no ulterior motive.

We've been asked this loads of times and its never offended us.

So, have you had many meets?

Yes but not recently. Most of them were very enjoyable. How about you?

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I hardly get asked thinking about it. I just say i've had fun on fab and made lots of friends. Covers all bases

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I find it an irrelevant question and would refuse to answer it on the grounds of pointlessness.

Plus, what does it really mean? Does one count people in clubs who've sucked your nipples or just the people with whom you arrange one to one meets?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Last time someone asked me how many people I'd slept with I told them the truth:

"I have no idea"

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We sometimes ask people if they have had many meets in a conversational way, no ulterior motive.

We've been asked this loads of times and its never offended us.

So, have you had many meets?

Yes but not recently. Most of them were very enjoyable. How about you?

The same really, most were great with one horrible exception (another site, another story). We meet socially quite a lot too which we also enjoy.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I find it an irrelevant question and would refuse to answer it on the grounds of pointlessness.

Plus, what does it really mean? Does one count people in clubs who've sucked your nipples or just the people with whom you arrange one to one

meets?

I think a nipple suck counts as about 1/4 so you need 4 different people before you can count it as 1 meet.

Ligeria: I prefer 'floozy' to 'floppy'

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We sometimes ask people if they have had many meets in a conversational way, no ulterior motive.

We've been asked this loads of times and its never offended us.

So, have you had many meets?

Yes but not recently. Most of them were very enjoyable. How about you?

The same really, most were great with one horrible exception (another site, another story). We meet socially quite a lot too which we also enjoy.

Oh and also some of our meets were soft swing.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"We sometimes ask people if they have had many meets in a conversational way, no ulterior motive.

We've been asked this loads of times and its never offended us.

So, have you had many meets?

Yes but not recently. Most of them were

very enjoyable. How about you?

The same really, most were great with

one horrible exception (another site,

another story). We meet socially quite a

lot too which we also enjoy.

Oh and also some of our meets were

soft swing.

I think we'd all like to hear about the horrible exception.....

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

its a minefield..

say i dont know what you mean and ask why its important..seems to throw ball into other court...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can some you help me with my frost meet please

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"We sometimes ask people if they have had many meets in a conversational way, no ulterior motive.

We've been asked this loads of times and its never offended us.

So, have you had many meets?

Yes but not recently. Most of them were

very enjoyable. How about you?

The same really, most were great with

one horrible exception (another site,

another story). We meet socially quite a

lot too which we also enjoy.

Oh and also some of our meets were

soft swing.

I think we'd all like to hear about the horrible exception.....

It's not something we talk about much but I will say that we learned some very valuable lessons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been asked how many people I have played with by someone who wants to meet!

I replied it's not really your business!

My question here....

Is it bad manners to ask this or have I taken this the wrong way!

What do you think?

Thanks lovelies....

It could be a valid question but really it depends when the question was asked, context is important.

For instance if it was asked during a meet after the ice had been broken we would give a different answer than if it was a potential meets first question.

As everyone who practices safe sex will know the number of meets a partner has is relevant.

Therefoe it is not bad manners to ask but one has to judge when the right time to ask is."

What does "safe sex" have to do with anything? It's an irrelevant question whether people bareback or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been asked how many people I have played with by someone who wants to meet!

I replied it's not really your business!

My question here....

Is it bad manners to ask this or have I taken this the wrong way!

What do you think?

Thanks lovelies...."

I'd just anawer

this is fab I can be whatever you want me be, how many would you like me to have been with?

usually shuts them up.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

I've never been asked that question nor would I ever think of asking it...it wouldn't interest me..

It was clearly a limp opening gambit...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Can some you help me with my frost meet please "

Are you planning to meet in a freezer?

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By *emini1637Woman
over a year ago

Warwickshire

I've been asked a couple of times but it always seems to come with other questions in the same message so I skirt round it, I'm not offended by the question I just don't think it's got anything to do with anyone else! Anyway how would they know if you were telling the truth or not?!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"We sometimes ask people if they have had many meets in a conversational way, no ulterior motive.

We've been asked this loads of times and its never offended us.

So, have you had many meets?

Yes but not recently. Most of them were very enjoyable. How about you?

The same really, most were great with one horrible exception (another site, another story). We meet socially quite a lot too which we also enjoy.

Oh and also some of our meets were soft swing.

Sounds similar to us.. we love the social side as much as the sexual especially with long term friends.

Our meets have been a mixture of parties, groups, 1-2-1 and full/soft.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Can some you help me with my frost meet please

Are you planning to meet in a freezer? "

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By *ongtalljonMan
over a year ago

North Wales

It is an excellent question which can lead to much conversation. However, it's all down to timing. Asking outright before meeting sounds a bit iffy.

For now, give a non-descript answer, go ahead with the meet, make sure a ftiend knows you are going on a date and if in doibt after meeting, bring the meet to a close.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we where already in a relationship and at the stage where secure enough with each other to handle an honest answer maybe I'd ask.. With a potential meet on here I wouldn't consider it a question to ask, nor would I ask for a rating on skill or size,somethings are just better left unasked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can some you help me with my frost meet please

Are you planning to meet in a freezer? "

Maintaining an erection may be tricky.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Can some you help me with my frost meet please

Are you planning to meet in a freezer?

Maintaining an erection may be tricky."

Not if he's frozen stiff.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

They shouldn't ask.

A pointless question.

Some men ask because they think you are dirty filthy slut and want to have sex with you.

Others ask cos they think they'll get a disease and want to keep away from you.

People like them need avoiding.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all - knew I could rely on you all!

I am, now, not meeting said person. I might be on the front page of the tabloids tomoro who knows!! Ha ha!

Hope you all have a good evening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always ask how many people they have met from here. Never thought it rude as it's a question I wouldn't mind answering myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys love it if you've fucked a lot of other guys. But if you don't like the question then you don't have to answer it, like others have said it can also cause you grief (usually from guys you reject).

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Always ask how many people they have met from here. Never thought it rude as it's a question I wouldn't mind answering myself. "

I don't mind in here that's part of it, just asking as a general life question I just find odd!

It was like the Spanish Inquisition

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been asked how many people I have played with by someone who wants to meet!

Tell he/she/them to fuck off.

Disclaimer: I'm not just saying that because of your ass.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Always ask how many people they have met from here. Never thought it rude as it's a question I wouldn't mind answering myself.

I don't mind in here that's part of it, just asking as a general life question I just find odd!

It was like the Spanish Inquisition

And nobody expects that

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By *oddyWoman
over a year ago

between havant and chichester

"Last time someone asked me how many people I'd slept with I told them the truth:

"I have no idea""
ah but did you actually sleep lol

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I simply wouldn't be able to give an answer to that question as I haven't got a clue.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"I find it an irrelevant question and would refuse to answer it on the grounds of pointlessness.

Awww go on.

Quite a few

I thought you were a virgin

OP, I'd answer with "into 3 digits, less than 4 digits (I'm not Gene Simmons ffs)

" - if that's a problem then move onto the next totally awesome, humungously funny profile

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I think I will throw it back in a, 'you tell me yours and I'll (consider) tell(ing) you mine' if I'm ever asked. It will tell me how indiscreet they are if nothing else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been asked how many people I have played with by someone who wants to meet!

I replied it's not really your business!

My question here....

Is it bad manners to ask this or have I taken this the wrong way!

What do you think?

Thanks lovelies....

I'd just anawer

this is fab I can be whatever you want me be, how many would you like me to have been with?

usually shuts them up."

Stealing this for next time... Or to answer the message I just had asking this exact question in their first line of their first message...

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