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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does anyone else ever get like this?

I have recently gone off the idea of random sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much. I don't have to LOVE a woman to have sex with her, but there needs to be some form of emotional appeal for mex

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By *urvyemmaWoman
over a year ago

wigan/bolton

Me..just totally gone off it. Don't know why..hoping I will get back into it at some point

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Glad it's not just me.

I'm not really sure what I want at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like casual sex with strangers, I like to try build up a connection beforehand with the hope to keep it regular. Obviously can't predict the way things will go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

. I'm intersted in getting to know people for who they are, not just sex. Some people can't be arsed with that and those are the people I'll avoid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I agree its just mechanical fun no meaning at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither of us like emotionless sex, we prefer to make a connection first with whoever it is. During the act of sex in that bubble in that moment we are totally committed to the person we're with.

Not every couple is comfortable with going to that kind of depth, but for us we think that level makes for much greater sex, well it does no doubt about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why I enjoy swinging with Marc. None of the sex is emotionless. It's even better when we play with people we meet regularly because there is some connection there.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's masturbation with a human shaped hand. It can get the job done, but I don't miss it.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Yes I do from time to time,then my hormones kick in again. I can't just live off sex alone,there needs to be some kind of affection sometimes.

That's why I have conflicts at times being on here,I feel like I'm cheating myself on not trying to find a relationship for the other part of me that needs fulfilling...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pretty much. I don't have to LOVE a woman to have sex with her, but there needs to be some form of emotional appeal for mex"

It's all a bit empty otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else ever get like this?

I have recently gone off the idea of random sex.

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I think it's something that happens to many of us when we've had enough of the 'kid in a sweet shop' phase!

I still like group sex - but for one-on-one I'm now looking for regular meets with people with looks AND personality who are friends as well as lovers!

I think a lot of guys look for this after a while too! Ie not looking for miss/Mr right but don't want to shag everything that moves either!

Good look finding what you're looking for op!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does anyone else ever get like this?

I have recently gone off the idea of random sex.

I think it's something that happens to many of us when we've had enough of the 'kid in a sweet shop' phase!

I still like group sex - but for one-on-one I'm now looking for regular meets with people with looks AND personality who are friends as well as lovers!

I think a lot of guys look for this after a while too! Ie not looking for miss/Mr right but don't want to shag everything that moves either!

Good look finding what you're looking for op! "

Thank you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely gone off it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad to see im not the only one , I'm even tiring of the audition process.

Just want my own little harem who can walk the walk and are going to keep me happy

Selfish maybe ..... Do I care ?

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"That's why I enjoy swinging with Marc. None of the sex is emotionless. It's even better when we play with people we meet regularly because there is some connection there.

-Courtney"

Yes, totally agree with this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging.....its not for singles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pretty much. I don't have to LOVE a woman to have sex with her, but there needs to be some form of emotional appeal for mex"

Same here with men. Emotional may be the wrong word for me, but there has to be an attraction beyond just physical. Otherwise I might as well stay at home with a dildo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging.....its not for singles."

Well yes. As a couple you've got the connection with your partner already, so you don't need it from the extra person/people. This is why I don't meet couples; it's unbalanced.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging.....its not for singles."
You are probably right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging.....its not for singles.

Well yes. As a couple you've got the connection with your partner already, so you don't need it from the extra person/people. This is why I don't meet couples; it's unbalanced."

That's why we don't meet women, to needy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging.....its not for singles.

Well yes. As a couple you've got the connection with your partner already, so you don't need it from the extra person/people. This is why I don't meet couples; it's unbalanced.

That's why we don't meet women, to needy."

Touché

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Does anyone else ever get like this?"

Not so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know where you're coming from OP, I run hot and cold. At times I think I'd just prefer a nice cup of tea

Although I've only been here less than a year I've already taken one extended break to recharge the batteries.

Other days though I wake up and I'm horny as hell!

So with me it's inconsistent, some days I really couldn't be arsed if someone offered it to me on a plate, other days I'm like a dog on heat!

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N.b. Apologies to the person I PM'ed in error when replying to this post! My mistake! Fat fingers ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately humans are social animals. You can try and be hard hearted about, and people do say they don't miss love and long term companionship, but these people are rare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging.....its not for singles.

Well yes. As a couple you've got the connection with your partner already, so you don't need it from the extra person/people. This is why I don't meet couples; it's unbalanced."

Disagree with that, we want the emotional aspect to sex. If there's no spark there we wouldn't go ahead. I (the male) am fine with Julia going on socials with guys alone and she is fine vice versa. We can make that connection with someone but it stays within the context of the sex, we both give ourselves totally to the person we're with during the 'bubble' of the meet. Very hard to explain though.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

I like to make friends with those I meet and to see them again to catch up on news, not just for sex.

Two of the couples I see regularly just once a year and that's fine. We always enjoy meeting up again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some people have their emotional needs taken care of elsewhere..the ones who aren't single.. As singletons, we are missing that part. Yeah I don't want to get emotionally attached as in needy..I'm pretty independent. But I want to make friends, enjoy the social side of things otherwise its pointless for me. And Im also happy with one sexual partner, I don't need multiples. But I don't want a relationship. So my needs are a bit complexed! We are all different.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I'm fine, I will still go to clubs and shag someone and leave

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think some people have their emotional needs taken care of elsewhere..the ones who aren't single.. As singletons, we are missing that part. Yeah I don't want to get emotionally attached as in needy..I'm pretty independent. But I want to make friends, enjoy the social side of things otherwise its pointless for me. And Im also happy with one sexual partner, I don't need multiples. But I don't want a relationship. So my needs are a bit complexed! We are all different."

I know exactly where you're coming from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else ever get like this?

I have recently gone off the idea of random sex."

We've never been into it We'd much rather build up a community of friends with benefits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging.....its not for singles."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been into at all. I have many stages before i meet somone. i would meet them for coffee and talk on the phone before we get up to anything.

Soft spot for anyone who makes me laugh though!

Definately not needy though!

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By *ertiVogtsMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"Glad it's not just me.

I'm not really sure what I want at the moment "

Cake ? Chips ? Both even ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Never been into at all. I have many stages before i meet somone. i would meet them for coffee and talk on the phone before we get up to anything.

Soft spot for anyone who makes me laugh though!

Definately not needy though! "

I do all the social meeting before anything happens & the sex on the whole has been good but it's not enough at the moment.

There's something missing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never been into at all. I have many stages before i meet somone. i would meet them for coffee and talk on the phone before we get up to anything.

Soft spot for anyone who makes me laugh though!

Definately not needy though!

I do all the social meeting before anything happens & the sex on the whole has been good but it's not enough at the moment.

There's something missing. "

What sort of thing? Connection?

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

When I joined I knew what I wanted...a laugh, good sex and a chilled time. Most of the time have achieved that. I meet men who I have got to know,some I have seen many times. I prefer the social side cook a meal, have a drink and sex. When I am with them it is just them and me when they leave we keep in touch intermittently. I don't want to date or have a relationship at present so it suits me. I don't do wham bang thank you mam meets as that is not for me. I want to feel good after not that I have just used a man for sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there has to be some connection. That spark the alchemy that makes for the best chemistry.

Sex for sexs sake may sound appealing but if you cant talk and laugh together is a bit hollow.

I am not looking for love , I have had and lost that and now I am so more cautious.

There still has to be a meeting of minds to have a meeting of bodies x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I joined I knew what I wanted...a laugh, good sex and a chilled time. Most of the time have achieved that. I meet men who I have got to know,some I have seen many times. I prefer the social side cook a meal, have a drink and sex. When I am with them it is just them and me when they leave we keep in touch intermittently. I don't want to date or have a relationship at present so it suits me. I don't do wham bang thank you mam meets as that is not for me. I want to feel good after not that I have just used a man for sex "
couldnt agree with this more

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Never been into at all. I have many stages before i meet somone. i would meet them for coffee and talk on the phone before we get up to anything.

Soft spot for anyone who makes me laugh though!

Definately not needy though!

I do all the social meeting before anything happens & the sex on the whole has been good but it's not enough at the moment.

There's something missing.

What sort of thing? Connection?"

Yeah, maybe.

I don't have sex with people that I don't have a connection with but I think I want more than just sex now. I want normal things too like just going to the cinema etc. Or just go to the pub for a good chat. I miss that.

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

On and off all the time. Go through periods where I think I want to settle down, then sabotage the relationship i'm in because I'd rather be having wanton stranger sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think some people have their emotional needs taken care of elsewhere..the ones who aren't single.. As singletons, we are missing that part. Yeah I don't want to get emotionally attached as in needy..I'm pretty independent. But I want to make friends, enjoy the social side of things otherwise its pointless for me. And Im also happy with one sexual partner, I don't need multiples. But I don't want a relationship. So my needs are a bit complexed! We are all different."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love it, unzip n' go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social meets are a hoot , a walk or a drink. It doesn't always have to be about sex, lol I will get hammered now and people saying i am on the wrong site.

Ita good to get to know some one . Its always good to meet a fellow fabber . It gives you the opportunity to talk about things your wouldn't normally chat to your mates in the pub about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The other day I thought it'd just be nice to invite a woman over for a night of cuddles and spooning, sandwiched inbetween us Nice thought... maybe sometime in the future.

Swinging has the potential to answer a whole raft of inadequacies and traumas which people feel about modern nuclear living, isolation, separation, body image issues, over coming religious brainwashing about guilt, etc... just letting people connect and show affection to each other, almost like an extension of nudism where you're not just comfortable being naked.. but you're comfortable being intimate, caring, sexual, and loving with others. It's something we'd like to be a part of when we finally get round to it

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.


"I love it, unzip n' go "

But you entice the women with Haribos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love it, unzip n' go "

Hmm and peeping at your latest verification of a meet 2 years ago I guess your zip has remained closed for quite some time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never been into at all. I have many stages before i meet somone. i would meet them for coffee and talk on the phone before we get up to anything.

Soft spot for anyone who makes me laugh though!

Definately not needy though!

I do all the social meeting before anything happens & the sex on the whole has been good but it's not enough at the moment.

There's something missing.

What sort of thing? Connection?

Yeah, maybe.

I don't have sex with people that I don't have a connection with but I think I want more than just sex now. I want normal things too like just going to the cinema etc. Or just go to the pub for a good chat. I miss that."

Well i hope you find somone. Im a cheat so cant say i need that side addressing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely prefer a drink, a meal maybe...chatting, flirting, kissing and teasing before going back for the sex part. Like a proper date. It's all much better that way in my opinion.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"I don't like casual sex with strangers, I like to try build up a connection beforehand with the hope to keep it regular. Obviously can't predict the way things will go. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never been into at all. I have many stages before i meet somone. i would meet them for coffee and talk on the phone before we get up to anything.

Soft spot for anyone who makes me laugh though!

Definately not needy though!

I do all the social meeting before anything happens & the sex on the whole has been good but it's not enough at the moment.

There's something missing.

What sort of thing? Connection?

Yeah, maybe.

I don't have sex with people that I don't have a connection with but I think I want more than just sex now. I want normal things too like just going to the cinema etc. Or just go to the pub for a good chat. I miss that."

Let's have a Reading social down the Mad Stad this season, pint, football, banter. No sexual undercurrent. Jobs a good 'un. I'm sure loads of local Fabbers would be up for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love it, unzip n' go

Hmm and peeping at your latest verification of a meet 2 years ago I guess your zip has remained closed for quite some time. "
lol and no it haven't, I have sex in the real world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love a lover.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Never been into at all. I have many stages before i meet somone. i would meet them for coffee and talk on the phone before we get up to anything.

Soft spot for anyone who makes me laugh though!

Definately not needy though!

I do all the social meeting before anything happens & the sex on the whole has been good but it's not enough at the moment.

There's something missing.

What sort of thing? Connection?

Yeah, maybe.

I don't have sex with people that I don't have a connection with but I think I want more than just sex now. I want normal things too like just going to the cinema etc. Or just go to the pub for a good chat. I miss that.

Well i hope you find somone. Im a cheat so cant say i need that side addressing "

Thanks & I hope you find what you're looking for on here too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Never been into at all. I have many stages before i meet somone. i would meet them for coffee and talk on the phone before we get up to anything.

Soft spot for anyone who makes me laugh though!

Definately not needy though!

I do all the social meeting before anything happens & the sex on the whole has been good but it's not enough at the moment.

There's something missing.

What sort of thing? Connection?

Yeah, maybe.

I don't have sex with people that I don't have a connection with but I think I want more than just sex now. I want normal things too like just going to the cinema etc. Or just go to the pub for a good chat. I miss that.

Let's have a Reading social down the Mad Stad this season, pint, football, banter. No sexual undercurrent. Jobs a good 'un. I'm sure loads of local Fabbers would be up for it "

They have a Reading Social once a month already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love it, unzip n' go

Hmm and peeping at your latest verification of a meet 2 years ago I guess your zip has remained closed for quite some time. lol and no it haven't, I have sex in the real world."

Lol, soooo what is the real world? Curious for you definition. Is here real? I know I have had sex with people I have met off here. And if here isnt the real word, why are we on here looking for meets?

Mmmwwwhhhaaa challenging torso man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never been into at all. I have many stages before i meet somone. i would meet them for coffee and talk on the phone before we get up to anything.

Soft spot for anyone who makes me laugh though!

Definately not needy though!

I do all the social meeting before anything happens & the sex on the whole has been good but it's not enough at the moment.

There's something missing.

What sort of thing? Connection?

Yeah, maybe.

I don't have sex with people that I don't have a connection with but I think I want more than just sex now. I want normal things too like just going to the cinema etc. Or just go to the pub for a good chat. I miss that.

Let's have a Reading social down the Mad Stad this season, pint, football, banter. No sexual undercurrent. Jobs a good 'un. I'm sure loads of local Fabbers would be up for it

They have a Reading Social once a month already "

Ah but is it football focussed? Fab at the Mad Stad had quite a ring to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They have a Reading Social once a month already "

What's the turnout like? I still go to Reading quite a bit as I lived there for years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love it, unzip n' go

Hmm and peeping at your latest verification of a meet 2 years ago I guess your zip has remained closed for quite some time. lol and no it haven't, I have sex in the real world.

Lol, soooo what is the real world? Curious for you definition. Is here real? I know I have had sex with people I have met off here. And if here isnt the real word, why are we on here looking for meets?

Mmmwwwhhhaaa challenging torso man

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lol your not allowed to nit pic a profile, read the forum rules,!!!!! I am here for the forum, don't need to explain myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol

I am not nit picking lol, behave or you will get me into trouble lol.

I was asking you for your opinion on something you said that was all

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They have a Reading Social once a month already

What's the turnout like? I still go to Reading quite a bit as I lived there for years."

Only been to one but there were quite a few there but mainly couples. Not sure I'd bother going again to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love it, unzip n' go

Hmm and peeping at your latest verification of a meet 2 years ago I guess your zip has remained closed for quite some time. lol and no it haven't, I have sex in the real world."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm fine, I will still go to clubs and shag someone and leave "

I want a fuck not their fucking life story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They have a Reading Social once a month already

What's the turnout like? I still go to Reading quite a bit as I lived there for years."

I read that as a reading social... Fifty shades for the book club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol

I am not nit picking lol, behave or you will get me into trouble lol.

I was asking you for your opinion on something you said that was all "
Yes and that's fine, well I go to a club in London few times a months. So I meet there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm fine, I will still go to clubs and shag someone and leave

I want a fuck not their fucking life story. "

Well, it all begin in January 1982 when my parent's decided to fuck...

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I'm fine, I will still go to clubs and shag someone and leave

I want a fuck not their fucking life story. "

you read it here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm fine, I will still go to clubs and shag someone and leave

I want a fuck not their fucking life story. "

And if that's what you want, I hope that's what you get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to be some sort of connection for me or it just doesn't happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love it, unzip n' go

Hmm and peeping at your latest verification of a meet 2 years ago I guess your zip has remained closed for quite some time. lol and no it haven't, I have sex in the real world.

Lol, soooo what is the real world? Curious for you definition. Is here real? I know I have had sex with people I have met off here. And if here isnt the real word, why are we on here looking for meets?

Mmmwwwhhhaaa challenging torso man

lol your not allowed to nit pic a profile, read the forum rules,!!!!! I am here for the forum, don't need to explain myself."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These days I dont sleep with people I dont connect with. Unless they're really hot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging.....its not for singles.You are probably right!"

And there are married people playing as singles ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Got to be some sort of connection for me or it just doesn't happen."

BREASTS.. ...sorry off topic..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else ever get like this?

I have recently gone off the idea of random sex.

"

Honestly, I don't think I've ever been into it. I've always required something more than just a random encounter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont play with people I don't connect with. It doesn't work for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to like somebody but I can happily have sex the same night I meet somebody so long as we have had a laugh, flirt and a drink first

I find it hard to have sex with people once I have established a friendship so prefer one offs to regular meets but I still have to like them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm fine, I will still go to clubs and shag someone and leave "

Thank goodness, this thread had us worried for a moment

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By *lovisMan
over a year ago

Twickenham


"Does anyone else ever get like this?

I have recently gone off the idea of random sex.

"

To be honest I've never been into it which makes me a crap swinger.

I then find if I develop any form of emotions towards anyone I've met the sex bit becomes clouded by the fact that I like the person and 'know' them and I don't want to be a crap shaggy, so then I just don't have sex with them so as not to disappoint

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's emotion for me but I definitely need a connection of more than just a physical level.

The only time when purely the physical side counts would be whilst at a club playing with another person/s with a FB.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging.....its not for singles.

Well yes. As a couple you've got the connection with your partner already, so you don't need it from the extra person/people. This is why I don't meet couples; it's unbalanced.

That's why we don't meet women, to needy."

We find the same , we have met a few , but to be honest they are the demographic which carry way too much baggage overall .

For us swinging is a way of life we enjoy , and while we love the company we keep in this little world of ours , drama , neediness and demanding more than we wish to give , has no part in it .

During a meet there is always eroticism , passion , unabated carnal desire , but when it's over that's it . Great while it happened , but no more expected afterwards .

We do ok and our meets seem to love it , all good here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's emotion for me but I definitely need a connection of more than just a physical level.

The only time when purely the physical side counts would be whilst at a club playing with another person/s with a FB."
I think I am just going off the whole thing of FB, Group and recreational sex as it holds no illusions anymore? Is my swing at a standstill?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging.....its not for singles.

Well yes. As a couple you've got the connection with your partner already, so you don't need it from the extra person/people. This is why I don't meet couples; it's unbalanced.

That's why we don't meet women, to needy."

What kind of dick arse women have you been meeting

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Swinging.....its not for singles.

Well yes. As a couple you've got the connection with your partner already, so you don't need it from the extra person/people. This is why I don't meet couples; it's unbalanced.

That's why we don't meet women, to needy.

We find the same , we have met a few , but to be honest they are the demographic which carry way too much baggage overall .

For us swinging is a way of life we enjoy , and while we love the company we keep in this little world of ours , drama , neediness and demanding more than we wish to give , has no part in it .

During a meet there is always eroticism , passion , unabated carnal desire , but when it's over that's it . Great while it happened , but no more expected afterwards .

We do ok and our meets seem to love it , all good here

"

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

It's possible to have both.

They are not mutually exclusive.

Christ if I watited to build relstionships before having sex, sex'd be as rare as rocking horse shite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else ever get like this?

I have recently gone off the idea of random sex.

"

yes; often in search of a soul mate

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

Some emotional connection is the basis upon which I decide whether to meet someone...there has to be some sort of affinity, above and beyond basic physical attraction.

Otherwise, the sex is rubbish.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Swinging.....its not for singles.

Well yes. As a couple you've got the connection with your partner already, so you don't need it from the extra person/people. This is why I don't meet couples; it's unbalanced.

That's why we don't meet women, to needy.

We find the same , we have met a few , but to be honest they are the demographic which carry way too much baggage overall .

For us swinging is a way of life we enjoy , and while we love the company we keep in this little world of ours , drama , neediness and demanding more than we wish to give , has no part in it .

During a meet there is always eroticism , passion , unabated carnal desire , but when it's over that's it . Great while it happened , but no more expected afterwards .

We do ok and our meets seem to love it , all good here

"

You're a couple already so I don't think you understand where I'm coming from to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging.....its not for singles.

Well yes. As a couple you've got the connection with your partner already, so you don't need it from the extra person/people. This is why I don't meet couples; it's unbalanced.

That's why we don't meet women, to needy.

We find the same , we have met a few , but to be honest they are the demographic which carry way too much baggage overall .

For us swinging is a way of life we enjoy , and while we love the company we keep in this little world of ours , drama , neediness and demanding more than we wish to give , has no part in it .

During a meet there is always eroticism , passion , unabated carnal desire , but when it's over that's it . Great while it happened , but no more expected afterwards .

We do ok and our meets seem to love it , all good here

"

That's great for you. I took Clem's initial comment as a joke, but I think there's a world of difference between "baggage", "drama" or "neediness" and just wanting to actually like someone a wee bit before I fuck them.

I'm married, I don't want baggage or drama, I don't want a fucking relationship, I already have one. No one who has met me has experienced any of what you describe.

I'm just over fucking total randoms, that's all.

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over a year ago

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln


". I'm intersted in getting to know people for who they are, not just sex. Some people can't be arsed with that and those are the people I'll avoid. "
this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there has to be some connection. That spark the alchemy that makes for the best chemistry.

Sex for sexs sake may sound appealing but if you cant talk and laugh together is a bit hollow.

I am not looking for love , I have had and lost that and now I am so more cautious.

There still has to be a meeting of minds to have a meeting of bodies x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging.....its not for singles.

Well yes. As a couple you've got the connection with your partner already, so you don't need it from the extra person/people. This is why I don't meet couples; it's unbalanced.

That's why we don't meet women, to needy.

We find the same , we have met a few , but to be honest they are the demographic which carry way too much baggage overall .

For us swinging is a way of life we enjoy , and while we love the company we keep in this little world of ours , drama , neediness and demanding more than we wish to give , has no part in it .

During a meet there is always eroticism , passion , unabated carnal desire , but when it's over that's it . Great while it happened , but no more expected afterwards .

We do ok and our meets seem to love it , all good here

That's great for you. I took Clem's initial comment as a joke, but I think there's a world of difference between "baggage", "drama" or "neediness" and just wanting to actually like someone a wee bit before I fuck them.

I'm married, I don't want baggage or drama, I don't want a fucking relationship, I already have one. No one who has met me has experienced any of what you describe.

I'm just over fucking total randoms, that's all.

"
I think the last sentence is a good summary!

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By *oodieMan
over a year ago

NewCastlewest


"Glad it's not just me.

I'm not really sure what I want at the moment "

A big hug.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Does anyone else ever get like this?

I have recently gone off the idea of random sex.

"

First meet for myself and black cop, we had this same conversation in the car, plus after you have gone to some of these extremes, what else is left ,... well here we are down the line, in a full on relationship. That was the next step and something we both needed without knowing it. That said, our relationship is different front others I have had and we were attracted to eat other because neither of us is needy, nor were we.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As with anything over exposure to anything desensitises you to it. If your into meaningless sex then have a break from it. Get to know someone and you may learn something

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy


"Never been into at all. I have many stages before i meet somone. i would meet them for coffee and talk on the phone before we get up to anything.

Soft spot for anyone who makes me laugh though!

Definately not needy though!

I do all the social meeting before anything happens & the sex on the whole has been good but it's not enough at the moment.

There's something missing.

What sort of thing? Connection?

Yeah, maybe.

I don't have sex with people that I don't have a connection with but I think I want more than just sex now. I want normal things too like just going to the cinema etc. Or just go to the pub for a good chat. I miss that."

Cinema's a bloody rip-off!!!

I wouldn't worry

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I am at this stage at the moment after almost 4years of partying and clubbing, I've decided to slow down and concentrate on having more intimacy meets and enjoying the company

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By *ack LondonMan
over a year ago

London


"Does anyone else ever get like this?

I have recently gone off the idea of random sex.

"

I wank a lot, gets the pressure dealt with and I quite like myself, though aware of my flaws...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Never been into at all. I have many stages before i meet somone. i would meet them for coffee and talk on the phone before we get up to anything.

Soft spot for anyone who makes me laugh though!

Definately not needy though!

I do all the social meeting before anything happens & the sex on the whole has been good but it's not enough at the moment.

There's something missing.

What sort of thing? Connection?

Yeah, maybe.

I don't have sex with people that I don't have a connection with but I think I want more than just sex now. I want normal things too like just going to the cinema etc. Or just go to the pub for a good chat. I miss that.

Cinema's a bloody rip-off!!!

I wouldn't worry "

That is very true especially as Orange Wednesday is no more

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"Does anyone else ever get like this?

I have recently gone off the idea of random sex.

I think it's something that happens to many of us when we've had enough of the 'kid in a sweet shop' phase!

I still like group sex - but for one-on-one I'm now looking for regular meets with people with looks AND personality who are friends as well as lovers!

I think a lot of guys look for this after a while too! Ie not looking for miss/Mr right but don't want to shag everything that moves either!

Good look finding what you're looking for op! "

I don't think I've ever had sex with someone I didn't at least like. Old-fashioned, I know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems like some people think that saying they need a "connection" makes them somehow better than those that just meet for utter NSA sex.

The women think it makes them look more ladylike to meet less often.

The men think the women will like them more because they pretend to be nice guys that are ever so picky .

There's NO hierarchy folks. Everyone on here is looking for the same thing- sex with a stranger on the internet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It seems like some people think that saying they need a "connection" makes them somehow better than those that just meet for utter NSA sex.

The women think it makes them look more ladylike to meet less often.

The men think the women will like them more because they pretend to be nice guys that are ever so picky .

There's NO hierarchy folks. Everyone on here is looking for the same thing- sex with a stranger on the internet.

"
Not my reasons at all its more a confidence and trust thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my sex is emotionless, even with a partner i love. It's not robotic for me though or anything like masturbation, i just like using my mouth and hands on other people and have them do the same to me, plus i need cock to get off, anyway...

...even i go off meeting. Take as long of a break as you need, that's what i do, i take weeks off sometimes. Am only having a couple of meets a week and going through a stage of enjoying feeling horny all the time and not having much sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It seems like some people think that saying they need a "connection" makes them somehow better than those that just meet for utter NSA sex.

The women think it makes them look more ladylike to meet less often."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm fine, I will still go to clubs and shag someone and leave

I want a fuck not their fucking life story.

Well, it all begin in January 1982 when my parent's decided to fuck..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and at the moment masturbating is far more pleasurable which doesn't sound good really does it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It seems like some people think that saying they need a "connection" makes them somehow better than those that just meet for utter NSA sex.

The women think it makes them look more ladylike to meet less often.

The men think the women will like them more because they pretend to be nice guys that are ever so picky .

There's NO hierarchy folks. Everyone on here is looking for the same thing- sex with a stranger on the internet.

"

You think? I got the impression I was being derided as baggage-laden and needy for wanting that connection. Same way as I've seen plenty of comments that criticise editing photos, posing for photos, or having periods on the site while not meeting, or not meeting that often and so on.

I don't think I'm any better than anyone who takes a pure NSA approach. I see comments regularly that suggest some of them think they're better than me though.

I would never criticise someone for the way they choose to meet, directly or implied, but I see it back the other way regularly.

I'm saying I prefer a connection because I do. I don't give a fuck how it makes me look to anyone else, whether they're people who think similar to me or the pure NSA crowd. I've tried both and one works much better for me, simple as that. There's no "trying to look ladylike" about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What exactly is being said here?...

I have to like the person.

But define "Emotion"....

Emotion could mean all sorts of shit.

To me..I have to at the very least like them.

but call me a shallow fucker, because the Physical attraction HAS to be there to start with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP- if it's not what you what at the moment then take a break and see how you feel then. I think time away gives you a different perspective and you either come back, knowing what you want or you stay away, as it is not longer what you are looking for.

Having said that, you might find a fb here who will do the cinema, pub etc with you plus the sex, but without all the other normal life stuff. Just depends what you really want and only you know that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It seems like some people think that saying they need a "connection" makes them somehow better than those that just meet for utter NSA sex.

The women think it makes them look more ladylike to meet less often.

The men think the women will like them more because they pretend to be nice guys that are ever so picky .

There's NO hierarchy folks. Everyone on here is looking for the same thing- sex with a stranger on the internet.

"

I certainly don't think I'm better than anyone else on this site.

The point of the thread was that I don't want sex with a stranger on the internet at present.

It has lost all appeal to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife prefers some kind of connection with her meets, and if she has a strong connection with a guy then i am very turned on to and while she is out playing I'll stick some lingerie on and have a teasy wank-a-thon while she's out playing. Conversely if she's just fucking some guy I'll see whats on netflix....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It seems like some people think that saying they need a "connection" makes them somehow better than those that just meet for utter NSA sex.

The women think it makes them look more ladylike to meet less often.

The men think the women will like them more because they pretend to be nice guys that are ever so picky .

There's NO hierarchy folks. Everyone on here is looking for the same thing- sex with a stranger on the internet.

I certainly don't think I'm better than anyone else on this site.

The point of the thread was that I don't want sex with a stranger on the internet at present.

It has lost all appeal to me."

If i were you id freeze my profile and go see what's happening in the real world.x You can go mad reading kiss,pass,piss threads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

I'm saying I prefer a connection because I do. I don't give a fuck how it makes me look to anyone else, whether they're people who think similar to me or the pure NSA crowd. I've tried both and one works much better for me, simple as that. There's no "trying to look ladylike" about it. "

I agree very much with this.

I did say 'some' people. Certainly not all.

But some do try to look ladylike/ white knight'ish/ holy. On all sides. NSA/ friends/ fb's/ fwb's/ shag n go etc etc.

Just an observaton.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It seems like some people think that saying they need a "connection" makes them somehow better than those that just meet for utter NSA sex.

The women think it makes them look more ladylike to meet less often.

The men think the women will like them more because they pretend to be nice guys that are ever so picky .

There's NO hierarchy folks. Everyone on here is looking for the same thing- sex with a stranger on the internet.

I certainly don't think I'm better than anyone else on this site.

The point of the thread was that I don't want sex with a stranger on the internet at present.

It has lost all appeal to me.

If i were you id freeze my profile and go see what's happening in the real world.x You can go mad reading kiss,pass,piss threads."

I'd have to go for piss. Drank so much water today, I'm like a bloody tap now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging.....its not for singles.

Well yes. As a couple you've got the connection with your partner already, so you don't need it from the extra person/people. This is why I don't meet couples; it's unbalanced.

That's why we don't meet women, to needy.

We find the same , we have met a few , but to be honest they are the demographic which carry way too much baggage overall .

For us swinging is a way of life we enjoy , and while we love the company we keep in this little world of ours , drama , neediness and demanding more than we wish to give , has no part in it .

During a meet there is always eroticism , passion , unabated carnal desire , but when it's over that's it . Great while it happened , but no more expected afterwards .

We do ok and our meets seem to love it , all good here

That's great for you. I took Clem's initial comment as a joke, but I think there's a world of difference between "baggage", "drama" or "neediness" and just wanting to actually like someone a wee bit before I fuck them.

I'm married, I don't want baggage or drama, I don't want a fucking relationship, I already have one. No one who has met me has experienced any of what you describe.

I'm just over fucking total randoms, that's all.

"

I'm single and noone has experienced that from me either

in fact it's usually the other way round, me getting pissed off with guys keep mailing me after meet, I have never made first contact with anybody after I have met them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It seems like some people think that saying they need a "connection" makes them somehow better than those that just meet for utter NSA sex.

The women think it makes them look more ladylike to meet less often.

The men think the women will like them more because they pretend to be nice guys that are ever so picky .

There's NO hierarchy folks. Everyone on here is looking for the same thing- sex with a stranger on the internet.

I certainly don't think I'm better than anyone else on this site.

The point of the thread was that I don't want sex with a stranger on the internet at present.

It has lost all appeal to me."

Everyone gets bored at some point. Take a mini break. Or a medium break. Or a long break. Or never come back. Doesn't matter as long as you are happy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It seems like some people think that saying they need a "connection" makes them somehow better than those that just meet for utter NSA sex.

The women think it makes them look more ladylike to meet less often.

The men think the women will like them more because they pretend to be nice guys that are ever so picky .

There's NO hierarchy folks. Everyone on here is looking for the same thing- sex with a stranger on the internet.

I certainly don't think I'm better than anyone else on this site.

The point of the thread was that I don't want sex with a stranger on the internet at present.

It has lost all appeal to me.

Everyone gets bored at some point. Take a mini break. Or a medium break. Or a long break. Or never come back. Doesn't matter as long as you are happy. "

Thanks xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It seems like some people think that saying they need a "connection" makes them somehow better than those that just meet for utter NSA sex.

The women think it makes them look more ladylike to meet less often.

The men think the women will like them more because they pretend to be nice guys that are ever so picky .

There's NO hierarchy folks. Everyone on here is looking for the same thing- sex with a stranger on the internet.

I certainly don't think I'm better than anyone else on this site.

The point of the thread was that I don't want sex with a stranger on the internet at present.

It has lost all appeal to me.

If i were you id freeze my profile and go see what's happening in the real world.x You can go mad reading kiss,pass,piss threads."

This seems to be the way swinging is going, fab is becoming a dating site, parties are becoming social evenings!!!!! The women are the worst, looking down and criticising women that actually play. Madness! It's supposed to be fun, but the politics amazes me sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It seems like some people think that saying they need a "connection" makes them somehow better than those that just meet for utter NSA sex.

The women think it makes them look more ladylike to meet less often.

The men think the women will like them more because they pretend to be nice guys that are ever so picky .

There's NO hierarchy folks. Everyone on here is looking for the same thing- sex with a stranger on the internet.

"

Nope ~ gotta disagree with you on this one.

I don't get turned on by having sex where there's no connection.

I don't meet much because I like to do other things in my free time apart from fucking.

I don't think I'm better than anyone else and/or more ladylike.

I'm just me.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"It seems like some people think that saying they need a "connection" makes them somehow better than those that just meet for utter NSA sex.

The women think it makes them look more ladylike to meet less often.

The men think the women will like them more because they pretend to be nice guys that are ever so picky .

There's NO hierarchy folks. Everyone on here is looking for the same thing- sex with a stranger on the internet.

Nope ~ gotta disagree with you on this one.

I don't get turned on by having sex where there's no connection.

I don't meet much because I like to do other things in my free time apart from fucking.

I don't think I'm better than anyone else and/or more ladylike.

I'm just me.

"

well said

thanks for being so eloquent x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It seems like some people think that saying they need a "connection" makes them somehow better than those that just meet for utter NSA sex.

The women think it makes them look more ladylike to meet less often.

The men think the women will like them more because they pretend to be nice guys that are ever so picky .

There's NO hierarchy folks. Everyone on here is looking for the same thing- sex with a stranger on the internet.

I certainly don't think I'm better than anyone else on this site.

The point of the thread was that I don't want sex with a stranger on the internet at present.

It has lost all appeal to me.

If i were you id freeze my profile and go see what's happening in the real world.x You can go mad reading kiss,pass,piss threads.

This seems to be the way swinging is going, fab is becoming a dating site, parties are becoming social evenings!!!!! The women are the worst, looking down and criticising women that actually play. Madness! It's supposed to be fun, but the politics amazes me sometimes. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It seems like some people think that saying they need a "connection" makes them somehow better than those that just meet for utter NSA sex.

The women think it makes them look more ladylike to meet less often.

The men think the women will like them more because they pretend to be nice guys that are ever so picky .

There's NO hierarchy folks. Everyone on here is looking for the same thing- sex with a stranger on the internet.

You think? I got the impression I was being derided as baggage-laden and needy for wanting that connection. Same way as I've seen plenty of comments that criticise editing photos, posing for photos, or having periods on the site while not meeting, or not meeting that often and so on.

I don't think I'm any better than anyone who takes a pure NSA approach. I see comments regularly that suggest some of them think they're better than me though.

I would never criticise someone for the way they choose to meet, directly or implied, but I see it back the other way regularly.

I'm saying I prefer a connection because I do. I don't give a fuck how it makes me look to anyone else, whether they're people who think similar to me or the pure NSA crowd. I've tried both and one works much better for me, simple as that. There's no "trying to look ladylike" about it. "

We certainly weren't using you as an example regarding baggage laden , etc......

Infact the best meets we have had with single women have actually been with attached ladies like yourself , albeit that they play with their partner knowing ,

It's the single women who are genuinely single that seem to have an ulterior motive , and often women in their twenties and thirties . From our experience they are looking for way more than single guys , couples and TVs .

Our comments weren't anything more than our personal experiences from four and half years of NSA swinging .

And even if clem was joking with his comment , we aren't .

But no offence is intended toward anyone on this thread , other opinions are widely available

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe

Ive found recently i prefer sex if there is a connection now. Dont like sex with no feelings anymore xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else ever get like this?

I have recently gone off the idea of random sex.

"

Then have a break.....it's easily done if you aren't getting what you want.

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"It seems like some people think that saying they need a "connection" makes them somehow better than those that just meet for utter NSA sex.

The women think it makes them look more ladylike to meet less often.

The men think the women will like them more because they pretend to be nice guys that are ever so picky .

There's NO hierarchy folks. Everyone on here is looking for the same thing- sex with a stranger on the internet.

You think? I got the impression I was being derided as baggage-laden and needy for wanting that connection. Same way as I've seen plenty of comments that criticise editing photos, posing for photos, or having periods on the site while not meeting, or not meeting that often and so on.

I don't think I'm any better than anyone who takes a pure NSA approach. I see comments regularly that suggest some of them think they're better than me though.

I would never criticise someone for the way they choose to meet, directly or implied, but I see it back the other way regularly.

I'm saying I prefer a connection because I do. I don't give a fuck how it makes me look to anyone else, whether they're people who think similar to me or the pure NSA crowd. I've tried both and one works much better for me, simple as that. There's no "trying to look ladylike" about it. "

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

It's the single women who are genuinely single that seem to have an ulterior motive , and often women in their twenties and thirties . From our experience they are looking for way more than single guys , couples and TVs .

interesting comment...

ulterior motive??

dont fret im not offended..

we want more, than the others want to give.

personally ive found it the couples who do that...

its not what they 'demand' i find laughable, but the attitude they project towards the singles..like we should be grateful or something to be entering their 'fantasy world'

but, i dont see it as ulterior at all... you want what you want.. i want what i want..everyone happy right?

if that includes wanting a connection with someone..whats the problem?

its not swinging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else ever get like this?

I have recently gone off the idea of random sex.

I think it's something that happens to many of us when we've had enough of the 'kid in a sweet shop' phase!

I still like group sex - but for one-on-one I'm now looking for regular meets with people with looks AND personality who are friends as well as lovers!

I think a lot of guys look for this after a while too! Ie not looking for miss/Mr right but don't want to shag everything that moves either!

Good look finding what you're looking for op! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After more than 10 years of occasional, on/off dabbling in the swinging scene, mostly meeting singles, we're of the firm opinion that single men and single women all arrive at the same place, sooner or later. The day comes when they really want more than a fuck and go. They feel empty when the playmate leaves. Some feel used. They want a relationship. They want love. And what could be more 'normal' than that. The smart ones give up the NSA swinging scene, the others just keep on swinging until they resemble a boxer who didn't know when to quit.

Knowing when to pack it in can be the hardest thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is any guy in this thread going to say they like NSA sex?

What's up with every guy wanting a emotional connection

What happened to the trill of meeting a random stranger for great sex? No names , no personal questions.... Just animalistic sex....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I object to the idea that being selective and wanting more than a quick fuck or sex with a "stranger" is a cynical ploy to appeal more.

This site is aimed at NSA fun, but that doesn't mean you can't feel a connection, chemistry and have an interest in each other beyond the basic physical sensations.

I agree with the OP that random sex is not much of a turn on for me anymore.

Groups, parties and anything where you are just a piece of meat do nothing for me now. It did in the past and there's nothing wrong with it if that's what you want.

Whether those of us who crave 1on1 sex with some intimacy included are really swingers is another matter.

If there is a modern day definition of "Swinging" it certainly isn't limited to private parties and swapping car keys as it might have been in the 60's and 70's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I absolutely love sex with Jack. Omg hes an amazing sexy guy & it's always fun with him. When meeting others its nice to have the reassurance he's closeby. I have absolutely no interest in sex with others unless he joins in the fun. Once fun with others is over, we enjoy our own time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here, looking for more than just sex...yet not looking for a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I object to the idea that being selective and wanting more than a quick fuck or sex with a "stranger" is a cynical ploy to appeal more.

This site is aimed at NSA fun, but that doesn't mean you can't feel a connection, chemistry and have an interest in each other beyond the basic physical sensations.

I agree with the OP that random sex is not much of a turn on for me anymore.

Groups, parties and anything where you are just a piece of meat do nothing for me now. It did in the past and there's nothing wrong with it if that's what you want.

Whether those of us who crave 1on1 sex with some intimacy included are really swingers is another matter.

If there is a modern day definition of "Swinging" it certainly isn't limited to private parties and swapping car keys as it might have been in the 60's and 70's

"

I think the term you're looking for is polyamorus or Swedish family

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is any guy in this thread going to say they like NSA sex?

What's up with every guy wanting a emotional connection

What happened to the trill of meeting a random stranger for great sex? No names , no personal questions.... Just animalistic sex....

"

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"After more than 10 years of occasional, on/off dabbling in the swinging scene, mostly meeting singles, we're of the firm opinion that single men and single women all arrive at the same place, sooner or later. The day comes when they really want more than a fuck and go. They feel empty when the playmate leaves. Some feel used. They want a relationship. They want love. And what could be more 'normal' than that. The smart ones give up the NSA swinging scene, the others just keep on swinging until they resemble a boxer who didn't know when to quit.

Knowing when to pack it in can be the hardest thing."

Now there's food for thought!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is any guy in this thread going to say they like NSA sex?

What's up with every guy wanting a emotional connection

What happened to the trill of meeting a random stranger for great sex? No names , no personal questions.... Just animalistic sex....

"

For some, that will be perfect, to others it won't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else ever get like this?

I have recently gone off the idea of random sex.

"

Yup, totally.

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By *lovisMan
over a year ago

Twickenham


"Is any guy in this thread going to say they like NSA sex?

What's up with every guy wanting a emotional connection

What happened to the trill of meeting a random stranger for great sex? No names , no personal questions.... Just animalistic sex....

For some, that will be perfect, to others it won't."

I remember at a club once watching a couple have sex pretty much for the sake of having sex. She lay flat on her back dead eyed and not really showing any signs of enjoyment, whilst he was pumping away and was more intent on looking around the room and those watching him.

It was the worst sex I've ever witnessed -no connection, no enjoyment, no animalistic lust or hunger - but pretty much a good example of NSA sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is any guy in this thread going to say they like NSA sex?

What's up with every guy wanting a emotional connection

What happened to the trill of meeting a random stranger for great sex? No names , no personal questions.... Just animalistic sex....

For some, that will be perfect, to others it won't.

I remember at a club once watching a couple have sex pretty much for the sake of having sex. She lay flat on her back dead eyed and not really showing any signs of enjoyment, whilst he was pumping away and was more intent on looking around the room and those watching him.

It was the worst sex I've ever witnessed -no connection, no enjoyment, no animalistic lust or hunger - but pretty much a good example of NSA sex."

That would be my nightmare scenario.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is any guy in this thread going to say they like NSA sex?

What's up with every guy wanting a emotional connection

What happened to the trill of meeting a random stranger for great sex? No names , no personal questions.... Just animalistic sex....

For some, that will be perfect, to others it won't.

I remember at a club once watching a couple have sex pretty much for the sake of having sex. She lay flat on her back dead eyed and not really showing any signs of enjoyment, whilst he was pumping away and was more intent on looking around the room and those watching him.

It was the worst sex I've ever witnessed -no connection, no enjoyment, no animalistic lust or hunger - but pretty much a good example of NSA sex."

Good example.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It was the worst sex I've ever witnessed -no connection, no enjoyment, no animalistic lust or hunger - but pretty much a good example of NSA sex."

I tried my best, but nan was tired.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

as always, each to their own.

I am not surprised that many, many people are wanting similar in a meet, thats reflects how the site has evolved over the years.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

It was the worst sex I've ever witnessed -no connection, no enjoyment, no animalistic lust or hunger - but pretty much a good example of NSA sex.

I tried my best, but nan was tired."

Should have just taken her dentures out & asked her to suck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is any guy in this thread going to say they like NSA sex?

What's up with every guy wanting a emotional connection

What happened to the trill of meeting a random stranger for great sex? No names , no personal questions.... Just animalistic sex....

For some, that will be perfect, to others it won't.

I remember at a club once watching a couple have sex pretty much for the sake of having sex. She lay flat on her back dead eyed and not really showing any signs of enjoyment, whilst he was pumping away and was more intent on looking around the room and those watching him.

It was the worst sex I've ever witnessed -no connection, no enjoyment, no animalistic lust or hunger - but pretty much a good example of NSA sex.

"

A frickin bad example of NSA.

OP are you starting to get horny again reading this thread?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Is any guy in this thread going to say they like NSA sex?

What's up with every guy wanting a emotional connection

What happened to the trill of meeting a random stranger for great sex? No names , no personal questions.... Just animalistic sex....

For some, that will be perfect, to others it won't.

I remember at a club once watching a couple have sex pretty much for the sake of having sex. She lay flat on her back dead eyed and not really showing any signs of enjoyment, whilst he was pumping away and was more intent on looking around the room and those watching him.

It was the worst sex I've ever witnessed -no connection, no enjoyment, no animalistic lust or hunger - but pretty much a good example of NSA sex."

what did you watch it for then if it was so unappealing ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else ever get like this?

I have recently gone off the idea of random sex.

"

I have gone of chocolates

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is any guy in this thread going to say they like NSA sex?

What's up with every guy wanting a emotional connection

What happened to the trill of meeting a random stranger for great sex? No names , no personal questions.... Just animalistic sex....

For some, that will be perfect, to others it won't.

I remember at a club once watching a couple have sex pretty much for the sake of having sex. She lay flat on her back dead eyed and not really showing any signs of enjoyment, whilst he was pumping away and was more intent on looking around the room and those watching him.

It was the worst sex I've ever witnessed -no connection, no enjoyment, no animalistic lust or hunger - but pretty much a good example of NSA sex.

A frickin bad example of NSA.

OP are you starting to get horny again reading this thread? "

Sadly no, but it's given me a laugh in places

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else ever get like this?

I have recently gone off the idea of random sex.

"

I think one nighters are good and all but made even better if your mentally or emotionally stimulated too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to have a connection to have sex can't just have sex with anyone. Now in my younger days I had many one nighters but now I am looking for a special person to enjoy what I enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven't read the whole thread but have lost the urge for nsa sex.

I got burned by feelings with a fb and now have lost all sexual urges.

Trying to ride it out...

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe


"Haven't read the whole thread but have lost the urge for nsa sex.

I got burned by feelings with a fb and now have lost all sexual urges.

Trying to ride it out... "

Im sure you will work it out xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex without love is equally as absurd as love without sex ........anon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex without love is equally as absurd as love without sex ........anon"

I've seen this anon person write much better stuff than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex without love is equally as absurd as love without sex ........anon

I've seen this anon person write much better stuff than that. "
Sic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex without connection is like a broken pencil...

Pointless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sex without a connection is called masturbation!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done both but for me it as to be with a connection..A desire..A wanting it's pointless for me to fuck and go...hence I like reg meets that way you build up a friendship and a trust.

OP hope you find what you desire ...We are all here for different reasons just find your happiness .

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By *o_added_sugarWoman
over a year ago

A club not so many miles away


"Definitely prefer a drink, a meal maybe...chatting, flirting, kissing and teasing before going back for the sex part. Like a proper date. It's all much better that way in my opinion."

From off here? That is a date we all have our way of doing things but I don't think I could cope with that emotionally. I need to keep it fairly clinical to remind me it is just sex and nothing else. As many others on here I've had my heart broken and I feel this kind of approach would not be helping me to differentiate between my vanilla life and fab life. I would feel much more emotionally used by 'dating' each of my meets then fucking and running.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely prefer a drink, a meal maybe...chatting, flirting, kissing and teasing before going back for the sex part. Like a proper date. It's all much better that way in my opinion.

From off here? That is a date we all have our way of doing things but I don't think I could cope with that emotionally. I need to keep it fairly clinical to remind me it is just sex and nothing else. As many others on here I've had my heart broken and I feel this kind of approach would not be helping me to differentiate between my vanilla life and fab life. I would feel much more emotionally used by 'dating' each of my meets then fucking and running. "
Fairly clinical? Romance will never die!

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By *o_added_sugarWoman
over a year ago

A club not so many miles away


"Definitely prefer a drink, a meal maybe...chatting, flirting, kissing and teasing before going back for the sex part. Like a proper date. It's all much better that way in my opinion.

From off here? That is a date we all have our way of doing things but I don't think I could cope with that emotionally. I need to keep it fairly clinical to remind me it is just sex and nothing else. As many others on here I've had my heart broken and I feel this kind of approach would not be helping me to differentiate between my vanilla life and fab life. I would feel much more emotionally used by 'dating' each of my meets then fucking and running. Fairly clinical? Romance will never die!"

It will once you've had a few bunny boilers on your doorstep coz they have fallen for your charms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think all you need for good sex is a physical attraction with someone mentally stimulating. Variety is the spice of life; meaningless sex, romance, and love are all good to enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely prefer a drink, a meal maybe...chatting, flirting, kissing and teasing before going back for the sex part. Like a proper date. It's all much better that way in my opinion.

From off here? That is a date we all have our way of doing things but I don't think I could cope with that emotionally. I need to keep it fairly clinical to remind me it is just sex and nothing else. As many others on here I've had my heart broken and I feel this kind of approach would not be helping me to differentiate between my vanilla life and fab life. I would feel much more emotionally used by 'dating' each of my meets then fucking and running. Fairly clinical? Romance will never die!

It will once you've had a few bunny boilers on your doorstep coz they have fallen for your charms "
Actually have had a couple of said ladies who felt the need to be needed!

I moved house!

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By *o_added_sugarWoman
over a year ago

A club not so many miles away


"Definitely prefer a drink, a meal maybe...chatting, flirting, kissing and teasing before going back for the sex part. Like a proper date. It's all much better that way in my opinion.

From off here? That is a date we all have our way of doing things but I don't think I could cope with that emotionally. I need to keep it fairly clinical to remind me it is just sex and nothing else. As many others on here I've had my heart broken and I feel this kind of approach would not be helping me to differentiate between my vanilla life and fab life. I would feel much more emotionally used by 'dating' each of my meets then fucking and running. Fairly clinical? Romance will never die!

It will once you've had a few bunny boilers on your doorstep coz they have fallen for your charms Actually have had a couple of said ladies who felt the need to be needed!

I moved house!"

Pmsl I prove my point

Just because I keep it clinical doesn't mean there is no passion there. I just prefer not to do the long social or the "dating" before hand and generally don't do many 1-2-1 so I do not allow myself to be emotionally involved. Hearts are fragile and I don't care what anyone says. You cannot continuously meet the same person and not have an emotional attachment to them.. I was/am the ice queen and the ice was melted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely prefer a drink, a meal maybe...chatting, flirting, kissing and teasing before going back for the sex part. Like a proper date. It's all much better that way in my opinion.

From off here? That is a date we all have our way of doing things but I don't think I could cope with that emotionally. I need to keep it fairly clinical to remind me it is just sex and nothing else. As many others on here I've had my heart broken and I feel this kind of approach would not be helping me to differentiate between my vanilla life and fab life. I would feel much more emotionally used by 'dating' each of my meets then fucking and running. Fairly clinical? Romance will never die!

It will once you've had a few bunny boilers on your doorstep coz they have fallen for your charms Actually have had a couple of said ladies who felt the need to be needed!

I moved house!

Pmsl I prove my point

Just because I keep it clinical doesn't mean there is no passion there. I just prefer not to do the long social or the "dating" before hand and generally don't do many 1-2-1 so I do not allow myself to be emotionally involved. Hearts are fragile and I don't care what anyone says. You cannot continuously meet the same person and not have an emotional attachment to them.. I was/am the ice queen and the ice was melted "
Ms sugar my heart was broken by the only woman I have ever loved in fact it was torn from my chest and laid bare for the world to see!

I still search for love as without it we are nothing just a tear drop on the face of eternity!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the way wanna fuck?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex without love is equally as absurd as love without sex ........anon

I've seen this anon person write much better stuff than that. Sic"

I certainly have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else ever get like this?

I have recently gone off the idea of random sex.

"

I'm exactly the same. I actually came on here to delete my profile. I have no desire to have sex with a random at the moment. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, fucking without connection isn't good sex. When I've played with couples it just for good fun and I like for everyone to have a good laugh so the connection is friendship. I found single men didn't give me what I wanted and so stopped meeting them. I get a lot more from meeting single women in way of connection and so that was my focus when I was still meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm fine, I will still go to clubs and shag someone and leave

I want a fuck not their fucking life story. "

What a disgusting attitude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm fine, I will still go to clubs and shag someone and leave

I want a fuck not their fucking life story.

What a disgusting attitude. "
Its just one persons opinion and take on life. We should not denigrate those who like to shag and go? For those who shag and go denigrate means "put down"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fancy a pretend to care about you fuck?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww only just stumbled on this thread and it's gonna fill up soon, can the op or someone do a part 2 cos I haven't read all the comments yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fancy a pretend to care about you fuck?"
Pardon?

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