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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've never been very good when it comes to sexual partners..always known im far from anything near ok looking.. so thought I'd try my luck on here..bad idea.. in all the time I've been on here I've only ever had at most 5 replys to all the messages I've sent.. you ladies moan at us guys about being rude and not reading your profile and then not even bother replying to messages, im expecting 99% of replys to be no but i don't even get that..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This and your current status aren't exactly enticing are they? Don't know about your looks as I cant see, but a sense of entitlement is very unattractive...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

too ugly to fuck!

How do you know that's the reason if they don't reply?!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

If you were a woman and saw several single male profiles would you give yours a second glance or focus your efforts on one with more words and pictures?

A

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

You say it yourself...you are attached so 99% will ignore your profile rather than respond.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your status sounds negative, here is about fun and positivity. Your status would put me off, humour attracts me.

Try some socials and meet people that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Consider everything you do, put on show, and say on the forums and your profile as a marketing and sales pitch.

You are up against thousands of others nationally and hundreds locally.

Who are you trying to appeal to and do you really think you are going about it the right way?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

We're in the 0.1% club

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

Way to sell yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're in the 0.1% club "

I hate myself for feeling smug, but I like that title

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

You are attached,so you don't deserve my 'no thanks' reply.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"We're in the 0.1% club

I hate myself for feeling smug, but I like that title "

And I'm really pleaded you didn't want to fuck me in the other thread. I don't like that sort of thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody should come on Fab for a confidence boost, its just not going to happen. If you don't do well in the real world, then you won't here either. The women here are not free whores who will fuck anybody. Your post here indicates you think all that.

Confidence isn't about looks, its something that shines through on even the most facially challenged of us. Adjust your attitude and things will improve

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain


"We're in the 0.1% club

I hate myself for feeling smug, but I like that title "

Ooh that must make me as smug as a bug in a rug

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never been very good when it comes to sexual partners..always known im far from anything near ok looking.. so thought I'd try my luck on here..bad idea.. in all the time I've been on here I've only ever had at most 5 replys to all the messages I've sent.. you ladies moan at us guys about being rude and not reading your profile and then not even bother replying to messages, im expecting 99% of replys to be no but i don't even get that.."

Don't use a sex site to boost your confidence. It's a really bad idea. Get your confidence from elsewhere, then come here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FWIW, I never reply to people who have negative statuses and profiles. If they're whinging about how people never reply I know that they're not the right kind of person for me to message back - because they'll almost certainly ask me why I said no, and then come up with reasons why I should have sex with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Okay....

I don't condone people being rude in their replies but ditch the moany status update, no one likes a whinger.

Sort your profile text out and sell yourself, there's someone for eveyone.

Also it's not true that 99.whatever % pass married people by, that's utter crap imo ~ the successful attached ones suss out who they appeal to and who appeals to them.

Good luck.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

You can't be that ugly OP, because you're younger than me and I know for a fact I was hit so hard with the ugly stick that it broke.

I suspect your negativity may be putting people off.

Besides, no answer is clearly a 'no, thanks' and is sometimes better than having them run screaming from the pub during a meet.

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

my status and profile have been changed today to all this negativaty for said reasons.. and yeah shall we start a new club called the 0.1% ers ..

i knew i would get slated for it just proves my point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't use a sex site to boost your confidence. It's a really bad idea. Get your confidence from elsewhere, then come here."

To the point and spot on as always.

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Tell him he,s a better shag than his brother

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You can't be that ugly OP, because you're younger than me and I know for a fact I was hit so hard with the ugly stick that it broke.

I suspect your negativity may be putting people off.

Besides, no answer is clearly a 'no, thanks' and is sometimes better than having them run screaming from the pub during a meet.

Mr ddc"

thank you for your sort of positive input

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just smile at a chap and flutter your eyes

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"You can't be that ugly OP, because you're younger than me and I know for a fact I was hit so hard with the ugly stick that it broke.

I suspect your negativity may be putting people off.

Besides, no answer is clearly a 'no, thanks' and is sometimes better than having them run screaming from the pub during a meet.

Mr ddc"

Thankfully Mrs DDC is gorgeous.

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By *ales lookingMan
over a year ago

gwynedd

Perhaps you could let everyone know a little bit about yourself? Do you like gardening? Or Lego? Perhaps you could explain why, instead of continuing your relationship with someone who you are treating rather shittily by being on a sex site, you just finish things and start afresh? The only women you are likely to attract on here at the moment are 50yr old guys who like to pretend to be women on here.Good luck champ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because women get millions of emails, they don't got time to replay to everyone lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my status and profile have been changed today to all this negativaty for said reasons.. and yeah shall we start a new club called the 0.1% ers ..

i knew i would get slated for it just proves my point"

No one was slating you. They were giving opinions - which was what you'd expect by posting on a public forum. It's the law of numbers here, nothing personal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chin up brother!!

It's a numbers game.

Women rule the roost here, make your first message exciting and capture there attention and eventually you'll get a response!!

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my status and profile have been changed today to all this negativaty for said reasons.. and yeah shall we start a new club called the 0.1% ers ..

i knew i would get slated for it just proves my point"

Slated, hmmmm....

At the moment I would call this banter.....tin hat might be called for later tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ditch the negativity. You could be Brad Pitt but you wouldn't get a reply from me with that whinging attitude. I don't want to waste my free time on anyone who is going to drag me down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't use a sex site to boost your confidence. It's a really bad idea. Get your confidence from elsewhere, then come here."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps you could let everyone know a little bit about yourself? Do you like gardening? Or Lego? Perhaps you could explain why, instead of continuing your relationship with someone who you are treating rather shittily by being on a sex site, you just finish things and start afresh? The only women you are likely to attract on here at the moment are 50yr old guys who like to pretend to be women on here.Good luck champ "

I like lego.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my status and profile have been changed today to all this negativaty for said reasons.. and yeah shall we start a new club called the 0.1% ers ..

i knew i would get slated for it just proves my point"

I don't think this proves your point. You wrote a thread about not having much luck on here, and then people told you why. So it's not like people are saying negative things to you out of the blue.

People have given you some advice on how to do better already - get rid of the negative status and profile text, say more about you, have more pictures, don't use fab as a confidence booster - but I don't really think you want advice. You want people to be mean to you so you can blame people's attitudes for your lack of success.

If you actually want to do better, you will take the advice. And as for being attached, yes many people will not play with you because of it, us included, but there are plenty who don't mind, so find them and see how you get on.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cannot imagine OP you could have done anything more in your profile to put people off. Fab is for women and you will have to try far harder to get anywhere.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

One sentence to make you feel happy about yourself and sad ..

Your wife says your cocks bigger than your brothers.

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By *unseeker34Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Sorry but your posts, profile & status scream 'issues' to me......

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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago

Near enough

Sorry OP but your attitude stinks!

'Woe is me' won't get you anywhere on here

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Free condoms for the 0.1% club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Negativity breeds negativity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ditch the negativity. You could be Brad Pitt but you wouldn't get a reply from me with that whinging attitude. I don't want to waste my free time on anyone who is going to drag me down. "

Good morning Anna Anon... Hope you are well today .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Free condoms for the 0.1% club "

First rule of the 0.1% club... You don't talk about the 0.1% club.... Cmon lol

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By *ales lookingMan
over a year ago

gwynedd


"Perhaps you could let everyone know a little bit about yourself? Do you like gardening? Or Lego? Perhaps you could explain why, instead of continuing your relationship with someone who you are treating rather shittily by being on a sex site, you just finish things and start afresh? The only women you are likely to attract on here at the moment are 50yr old guys who like to pretend to be women on here.Good luck champ

I like lego. "

You like lego huh? Wanna make something of it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Negativity breeds negativity.

"

Only bareback

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like lego.

You like lego huh? Wanna make something of it?"

Bastard. This place is making me laugh at shit puns

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not another whinging feel sorry for me post jeeze.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never been very good when it comes to sexual partners..always known im far from anything near ok looking.. so thought I'd try my luck on here..bad idea.. in all the time I've been on here I've only ever had at most 5 replys to all the messages I've sent.. you ladies moan at us guys about being rude and not reading your profile and then not even bother replying to messages, im expecting 99% of replys to be no but i don't even get that.."

Would you prefer an inbox full of rejection? That would really boost your confidence I imagine...

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By *ales lookingMan
over a year ago

gwynedd


"I like lego.

You like lego huh? Wanna make something of it?

Bastard. This place is making me laugh at shit puns "

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By *urvyemmaWoman
over a year ago

wigan/bolton

If you browse the forums you will find hundreds of posts from and about single men not getting replies/meets.

It is absolutely nothing to do with your looks and everything to do with the fact that every single woman on here gets loads and loads of messages. If you are on here as a single male you have to have very low expectations, a lot of patience and a thick skin. It's not the place to get a confidence boost.

The negative attitude isn't attractive but that aside you should definitely not go away thinking it's the way you look..It isn't.

Hope that helps

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By *rSinfulMan
over a year ago

mysteryville

Since when was being attached a problem to swingers there loads of married people on here in open relationships. That's one of the point of swinging ain't it. If your looking for the traditional religious based 1 only relationship go on a regular date site. I would not waste time with profiles and messaging I did that for years not realising the chat area was there. Basically your using the site wrong. And as a result feel rejected. I know ive been there. I would not say you have a sense of entitlement we normally expect a reply with business or other but this is different and rememver that this site is full of arseholes and also you have to understand most women get literally hundreds of emails a day so your not likely to get a reply as frankly people have more in their lives to do so don't expect much and you will be happier. there are way more men than women on here sadly. When society and the media starts to portray it as ok for women to be sexually free it will be better but sadly we still live in a very Victorian conservative moral society with a media stuck in the past brainwashing people about who and what they should be and making women feel they are bad if they want something more which is bullshit. But hey who am I to take on the media and their mind shaping evil. Just have fun and see where it takes you

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff


"I've never been very good when it comes to sexual partners..always known im far from anything near ok looking.. so thought I'd try my luck on here..bad idea.. in all the time I've been on here I've only ever had at most 5 replys to all the messages I've sent.. you ladies moan at us guys about being rude and not reading your profile and then not even bother replying to messages, im expecting 99% of replys to be no but i don't even get that.."

This is entitlement at its best...I'm self confessed ugly,but on fab so the girls should message me anyway..if you struggle in real life then online will be so much worse for you...

Your profile is crap,your picture is crap...what were you expecting?to be knee deep in clunge?

This place is a sausage fest to begin with..and a lot of people don't even give single guys the time of day for a lot of reasons.some wont see your message from the sheer volume they receive.also they may look at you and think you're not for me for what ever reason that might be.the most likely being there's zero sexual attraction...

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By *rSinfulMan
over a year ago

mysteryville

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"[Removed by poster at 14/07/15 10:02:07]"

Quite right. We don't need any duck jokes!

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"

Besides, no answer is clearly a 'no, thanks' and is sometimes better than having them run screaming from the pub during a meet.

Mr ddc

Thankfully Mrs DDC is gorgeous. "

If it wasn't for her, I'd be in the same boat as the OP, but don't let on I said that, right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 14/07/15 10:02:07]

Quite right. We don't need any duck jokes! "
lol

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"

Besides, no answer is clearly a 'no, thanks' and is sometimes better than having them run screaming from the pub during a meet.

Mr ddc

Thankfully Mrs DDC is gorgeous.

If it wasn't for her, I'd be in the same boat as the OP, but don't let on I said that, right?

"

It's our secret, I'll not tell anyone.

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By *entleman JackMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

Effort in = results out.

Crap profile and pictures,

No effort, lazy cant be bothered attitude.

If you want a different result, then make a different choices.

Step up or ship out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never been very good when it comes to sexual partners..always known im far from anything near ok looking.. so thought I'd try my luck on here..bad idea.. in all the time I've been on here I've only ever had at most 5 replys to all the messages I've sent.. you ladies moan at us guys about being rude and not reading your profile and then not even bother replying to messages, im expecting 99% of replys to be no but i don't even get that.."

So if you send 100 messages per day you'd prefer to get 99 no thanks than nothing? I'd say that knock your confidence even more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I can't believe you said that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile says i don't bother replying to many people on here, still got 6 messages or so since logging in, and several while offline last night.this morning.

No reply is a rejection. We're not here to pander to whatever anyone else wants, we're all here for ourselves and run things our own way.

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

I'm sorry, but you absolutely should feel horrible about yourself. You didn't seriously expect anyone to tell you any different? I imagine you have a conscience...try listening to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site is not for the feint of heart mate or those lacking in confidence.

Some people may have sympathy for your situation but the fact is people do like a bit of confidence and subjective attraction. So a sex/swinging site is not the place for your confidence to be improved.

Don't take what people have said to heart because at the end of the day you asked for it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah mate, try and act like you're not bothered a bit more, and not so desperate to meet people.

Not as much as me though, that would just be silly!

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