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By *d871 OP   Man
over a year ago

nowhere

I was approached by one half of a couple profile wanting to play alone. I had a look at the profile and it says "we don't play alone". I politely declined the offer (on the grounds that I was looking for a couple) which got deleted immediately. Should I message again to let the innocent party know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Nope.

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I would say no. Let them work their own stuff out. You have no idea what is actually going on and without knowing you cannot know what effect it may have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In any event, you would have no guarantee it would be seen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they have deleted you, you wont be able to get in touch with them again I'm afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't get involved personally

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By *d871 OP   Man
over a year ago

nowhere


"If they have deleted you, you wont be able to get in touch with them again I'm afraid"

it was the message that got deleted. Interesting that a lot of men have jumped in straight away saying no.

Any comments from ladies?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For theoretical purposes, let's assume the couple were me and Marc. If you, a random person on fab, messaged Marc and told him I messaged you asking to meet you alone, I guarantee Marc wouldn't believe a word you said. I imagine other couples may feel the same. Whether you're telling the truth or not.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day, it's their business not yours. If you get me drift.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not.

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By *d871 OP   Man
over a year ago

nowhere


"For theoretical purposes, let's assume the couple were me and Marc. If you, a random person on fab, messaged Marc and told him I messaged you asking to meet you alone, I guarantee Marc wouldn't believe a word you said. I imagine other couples may feel the same. Whether you're telling the truth or not.

-Courtney"

and the emails that are still in my inbox? Would they be ignored? Would you want to know if Marc was cheating on you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope leave it well alone. Perhaps this time they fancied meeting alone not everyone keeps their profile up to date.

Either way you have said your not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No is my view. You may disagree with their approach but you don't know the impact that telling could have on them. Wreck their relationship? possibly invoke violence?

By telling the other half you are becoming judge, jury and executioner.

If it was a very close friend my answer might be different. But I'm assuming these are casual acquaintances that you're yet to meet so I think you need to take a step back from getting too involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For theoretical purposes, let's assume the couple were me and Marc. If you, a random person on fab, messaged Marc and told him I messaged you asking to meet you alone, I guarantee Marc wouldn't believe a word you said. I imagine other couples may feel the same. Whether you're telling the truth or not.

-Courtney

and the emails that are still in my inbox? Would they be ignored? Would you want to know if Marc was cheating on you? "

I personally would want to know if Marc were cheating on me, yes. However, in the scenario you describe, you would be messaging me, out of the blue since I wouldn't know you at all, assuming Marc is the one that contacted you, and you would be saying "hey, Courtney, I have messages Marc sent me that prove he is cheating on you." I simply wouldn't believe you and would likely get pretty pissed. If it were a trusted friend who told me, or maybe someone we had played with, I would probably take it more seriously. But a random dude on fab? No way. That's just my opinion, though.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For theoretical purposes, let's assume the couple were me and Marc. If you, a random person on fab, messaged Marc and told him I messaged you asking to meet you alone, I guarantee Marc wouldn't believe a word you said. I imagine other couples may feel the same. Whether you're telling the truth or not.

-Courtney

and the emails that are still in my inbox? Would they be ignored? Would you want to know if Marc was cheating on you?

I personally would want to know if Marc were cheating on me, yes. However, in the scenario you describe, you would be messaging me, out of the blue since I wouldn't know you at all, assuming Marc is the one that contacted you, and you would be saying "hey, Courtney, I have messages Marc sent me that prove he is cheating on you." I simply wouldn't believe you and would likely get pretty pissed. If it were a trusted friend who told me, or maybe someone we had played with, I would probably take it more seriously. But a random dude on fab? No way. That's just my opinion, though.

-Courtney"

Please ignore the smiley thing. Slip of my finger on my phone

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By *d871 OP   Man
over a year ago

nowhere

Valid point, although the person will probably get caught eventually!

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Would you have said no if it were the lady of the couple that contacted you ??

no it is not your business dont meddle ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As Courtney has said, you are unlikely to be believed.

You said their profile says they don't play alone; similarly many profiles say they don't see single guys, TV/TS etc. it doesn't always mean they don't. They may just decide not to advertise that they do, perhaps to reduce the number of messages triggered by admitting to those things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've chatted to a few couples on here hoping for a meet all together , but sadly they always tend to end with the guy messaging me ( the female ) for a solo meet even though they have on their profile that they only play together as have we

The messages are quickly deleted by them when I refuse but I would never dream of interfering in their relationship by grassing them up .. I just think shucks another time waster

A x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they have deleted you, you wont be able to get in touch with them again I'm afraid

it was the message that got deleted. Interesting that a lot of men have jumped in straight away saying no.

Any comments from ladies? "

Let me fire up my fake female profile to ask you why you think you are the moral enforcement officer...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this all the time. I just delete them all, I'm not getting involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't any more but we used to put that we only play as a couple, because we did have it that we were open to 1on1s as well as couple meets (which we are), but you tend to get inundated by guys (wish I could say girls too lol but not so much haha) just looking to empty their ballsacks. So we don't refer to it now and just message any guys or girls that we'd be interested in playing 1on1 with.

Should you contact them to 'tell'? Nope. If it's a problem it isn't up to you to fix it, and I doubt it's a problem anyway, they'll both know exactly who was messaged and why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they have deleted you, you wont be able to get in touch with them again I'm afraid

it was the message that got deleted. Interesting that a lot of men have jumped in straight away saying no.

Any comments from ladies? "

I also say no. What would be your reason for doing it?

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

This scenario is one of the rare occasions when I hit block and delete rather than just delete. I have a couples profile as well but make it clear on there that we both meet alone and if anyone wants to talk to us as individuals to message our solo profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was approached by one half of a couple profile wanting to play alone. I had a look at the profile and it says "we don't play alone". I politely declined the offer (on the grounds that I was looking for a couple) which got deleted immediately. Should I message again to let the innocent party know? "

No do you really want to be accused of breaking up a couple or possibly a family think about your actions will cause reactions

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

And what would you gain from spilling the beans ?????

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