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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There are some people on here that are obviously just on here for attention and got no intention of meeting anyone. Does that not defeat the whole intention of the site ? Please keep this chat nice no nasty pasties ok

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Is there such as thing as a nasty pastie?

Not in my experience.

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather


"There are some people on here that are obviously just on here for attention and got no intention of meeting anyone. Does that not defeat the whole intention of the site ? Please keep this chat nice no nasty pasties ok "
Your post is nasty...

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"There are some people on here that are obviously just on here for attention and got no intention of meeting anyone. Does that not defeat the whole intention of the site ? Please keep this chat nice no nasty pasties ok "

Not for those people! Plenty more to chose from....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I love the attention !!!... difference is I have every intention of playing on the attention I get !!!... (that's lots of attention and intention)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some people on here that are obviously just on here for attention and got no intention of meeting anyone. Does that not defeat the whole intention of the site ? Please keep this chat nice no nasty pasties ok "

It's a free country if you don't like it move on.

We all crave attention we are on a forum for extroverts lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How did you come to this assumption OP?

Just puzzled as to how you would know that a complete stranger had no intention of meeting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some people on here that are obviously just on here for attention and got no intention of meeting anyone. Does that not defeat the whole intention of the site ? Please keep this chat nice no nasty pasties ok "

In all honesty I'm not sure I have come across anyone who does not have the intention of meeting. I have come across plenty of attention seekers but they also want to meet.

Out of interest how have you come to this conclusion? Please don't say you have messaged someone and they are not interested

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How did you come to this assumption OP?

Just puzzled as to how you would know that a complete stranger had no intention of meeting? "
can just tell and spot them a mile off

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"Oh I love the attention !!!... difference is I have every intention of playing on the attention I get !!!... (that's lots of attention and intention) "

Smooth!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You can just tell and I've read a few profile that actually say Not Meeting. I get not meeting due to work illness etc. But like I said you just know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The biggest attention seekers are the thread starters.

Second biggest are the ones who post on the forum threads.

Oh, hang on.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry but the idea you can just tell is nonsense. I'm not sure people who put on there profile 'not meeting' get any attention, since for most people it would be pointless if all they are trying to achieve is a meet.

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

What about the pasties? Bet they weren't Ginsters!

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"Is there such as thing as a nasty pastie?

Not in my experience. "

You say that, but we visited Cornwall/Devon a couple of years ago and things got a bit heated down there.

Even now, whenever I make pasties I add a bit of carrot just out of devilment.

OP: I am regualrly called an attention-seeker on here, and worse, but we meet. Where does that put us?

Chill out, learn to accept the site for what it is, and remember the bit about sticks and stones.

Good luck

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mark oh......you just sought all our attention. Lol...

I think of my self more of a meeting seeker...but don't always get avert ones attention..... Just read that back...did it make any sense at all?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seek attention. I love hundreds of messages from guys and thousands of fabs on my photos.

I meet as well though. Be rude not to sample the local cuisine whilst I'm here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The biggest attention seekers are the ones who put updates up

" Thats it, this site is shite and full off fakers, im leaving now "

But then they never go lol

Those are attention seekers

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"The biggest attention seekers are the thread starters.

Second biggest are the ones who post on the forum threads.

Oh, hang on.........

"

You missed out those of us who put up a pic of them wearing their tennis garb during Wimbledon, shamelessly plugging it in the forum, and fishing for fabs so they can get to the top of the most-fabbed list (I got 8 I think )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The op has a fair point .

Attention seekers who don't meet aren't breaking any site rules , but they are a complete waste of time .

Best bet is to block and move on to those who meet if that's what you are looking for .

We do exist , that's to say , attention seeking meeters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But attention seeing gets attention which gets meets :p

Btw you should all look at my profile there's an amazing surprise!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not meeting, or not meeting you?

It can be hard to decipher, sometimes.

Why concern yourself, with other peoples 'meets' there's normally one or two thousand people on here, why not nit pick at something else.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Attention seeking meeters - check

Attention seeking non meeters - check

Attention seeking occasional meeters - check

My electric meter needs checking

OP: people use the site for all sorts of things and in different ways. Relax....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How did you come to this assumption OP?

Just puzzled as to how you would know that a complete stranger had no intention of meeting? "

Because she didn't answer a fancyAfuck message of course.

Anyway all these attention and intentions are giving me a tension headache

I don't meet from this profile and I say so in the profile... except I have met from this profile, but that was a very special lady and an agreed social occasion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No as they are here for attention seeking like ego boost maibe lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"But attention seeing gets attention which gets meets :p

Btw you should all look at my profile there's an amazing surprise!!!"

Damn! I looked!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not looking for new people to meet, but I do meet.

I'm also a complete photo tart and attention seeker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there such as thing as a nasty pastie?

Not in my experience. "

Ever eaten in Greggs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not looking for new people to meet, but I do meet.

I'm also a complete photo tart and attention seeker."

Oh yes, I should have said: new pics uploaded this morning. LOOK AT ME, LOOK AT ME

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But attention seeing gets attention which gets meets :p

Btw you should all look at my profile there's an amazing surprise!!!"

You had me then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The biggest attention seekers are the thread starters.

Second biggest are the ones who post on the forum threads.

Oh, hang on.........

You missed out those of us who put up a pic of them wearing their tennis garb during Wimbledon, shamelessly plugging it in the forum, and fishing for fabs so they can get to the top of the most-fabbed list (I got 8 I think )

"

I'm sure no one would do such a thing.

Oh, hang on......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But attention seeing gets attention which gets meets :p

Btw you should all look at my profile there's an amazing surprise!!!"

I had a look !

Your such an attention seeker

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"

I'm sure no one would do such a thing.

Oh, hang on......

"

I wouldn't mind but yesterday, men's final day, someone fabbed every single pic of ours except that one.

Don't I look a *bit* like Federer?

(Don't answer that)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've said it before on another thread, but there are a number of girls and women on here who have enormous egos and simply come here for the praise and arse kissing, which I find kinda strange...

I mean seriously, lets say for example you're one such woman, what would you rather have? A load of faceless losers on the internet messaging you telling you how amazing you are, or a handful of more eligible guys who would actually ENJOY meeting you so they could gently part your buttocks and slavishly orally pleasure your asshole, licking, tickling and kissing it?

Surely a far more gratifying form of ass kissing ego stroking...?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What about the pasties? Bet they weren't Ginsters! "
they were Greggs!! That's why there nasty lol

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"I'm not looking for new people to meet, but I do meet.

I'm also a complete photo tart and attention seeker."

Tarts and pasties

All on a diet day

You lot are soooo vindictive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I'm sure no one would do such a thing.

Oh, hang on......

I wouldn't mind but yesterday, men's final day, someone fabbed every single pic of ours except that one.

Don't I look a *bit* like Federer?

(Don't answer that)

"

And after you went to all the trouble of scheduling a tennis tournament to coincide with your new pic

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The biggest attention seekers are the ones who put updates up

" Thats it, this site is shite and full off fakers, im leaving now "

But then they never go lol

Those are attention seekers "
exactly that's my point !!

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"There are some people on here that are obviously just on here for attention and got no intention of meeting anyone. Does that not defeat the whole intention of the site ? Please keep this chat nice no nasty pasties ok "

I don't think there's a site rule that says you HAVE to meet just because you're on here. There's way more to fab than just meeting people and shagging them. Every individual has their own reason for being on here. As long as they're not being total arseholes, they can do whatever they like for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some mixed opinions but thanks guys

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"The biggest attention seekers are the ones who put updates up

" Thats it, this site is shite and full off fakers, im leaving now "

But then they never go lol

Those are attention seekers exactly that's my point !! "

But OP if they're sooooooo easy to spot then what's the problem?

You see them? You ignore them! Simples.

What they are doing will in no way impact on you or your use of the site.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've said it before on another thread, but there are a number of girls and women on here who have enormous egos and simply come here for the praise and arse kissing, which I find kinda strange...

I mean seriously, lets say for example you're one such woman, what would you rather have? A load of faceless losers on the internet messaging you telling you how amazing you are, or a handful of more eligible guys who would actually ENJOY meeting you so they could gently part your buttocks and slavishly orally pleasure your asshole, licking, tickling and kissing it?

Surely a far more gratifying form of ass kissing ego stroking...?"

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there such as thing as a nasty pastie?

Not in my experience. "

Ginster is definitely a nasty pastie this comes from a Cornish man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some people on here that are obviously just on here for attention and got no intention of meeting anyone. Does that not defeat the whole intention of the site ? Please keep this chat nice no nasty pasties ok

I don't think there's a site rule that says you HAVE to meet just because you're on here. There's way more to fab than just meeting people and shagging them. Every individual has their own reason for being on here. As long as they're not being total arseholes, they can do whatever they like for me."

We've been in and off fab for four and a half years now , and have yet to find the ' way more than just meeting and shagging ' you speak of .

Still I guess that's something to look forward to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've said it before on another thread, but there are a number of girls and women on here who have enormous egos and simply come here for the praise and arse kissing, which I find kinda strange...

I mean seriously, lets say for example you're one such woman, what would you rather have? A load of faceless losers on the internet messaging you telling you how amazing you are, or a handful of more eligible guys who would actually ENJOY meeting you so they could gently part your buttocks and slavishly orally pleasure your asshole, licking, tickling and kissing it?

Surely a far more gratifying form of ass kissing ego stroking...?"

You are quite right that reality and fabs are completely different. The egos of many on this site have been inflated by the attention from desperate red blooded males.

I can see why they do it though, not every profile is faceless and the attention for them boosts their confidence. I suspect they would not get such attention in real life, not due to looks, but because people aren't so complimentary or forward in real life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love attention. why else would I post pictures and join in with forum posts.......I also love meeting sexy men for great sex (and having loads of sexy attention in person)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And another thing...

If a woman/couple has single males blocked, then they shouldn't be able to receive fabs from them.

It's pretty simple, if you're not here looking for male attention, that's fine, that's your choice, but yet you still want ENOUGH of their attention so you can brag of how desired you are?

Seriously, the 'single male' is, by and large, treated like shit by the swinging scene, simply because he doesn't stick up for himself, doesn't fight back, and allows himself to be treated like crap. That's why he's a single male, and not a single MAN.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love attention. why else would I post pictures and join in with forum posts.......I also love meeting sexy men for great sex (and having loads of sexy attention in person) "

Some people successfully use the forums and picture posts to meet. Some use clubs. Some fail at both.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"There are some people on here that are obviously just on here for attention and got no intention of meeting anyone. Does that not defeat the whole intention of the site ? Please keep this chat nice no nasty pasties ok "

Oh, so people dont have regular play partners then?

and every meet must be recorded on here..

ok lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know why people are so concerned with what others choose to do with their life. If people choose to use this site as an ego boost how is that an issue.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"And another thing...

If a woman/couple has single males blocked, then they shouldn't be able to receive fabs from them.

It's pretty simple, if you're not here looking for male attention, that's fine, that's your choice, but yet you still want ENOUGH of their attention so you can brag of how desired you are?

Seriously, the 'single male' is, by and large, treated like shit by the swinging scene, simply because he doesn't stick up for himself, doesn't fight back, and allows himself to be treated like crap. That's why he's a single male, and not a single MAN.

"

What's the big deal with fabbing a pic?

Because unless the motivation is "I've fabbed all your pics because I can't message you - please pay me attention!!" - then surely the purpose of a pic fab is to acknowledge a decent image?

And if you can't PM and fabbing is the only way to hopefully get noticed? Good friggin luck with that!

I miss the days before pic fabbing. There seemed less drama, moaning and sneaky, back door attempts to get noticed.

A

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I also don't get why people have to attack the op as this is a forum for people to get advise and not abuse. ???

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"I've said it before on another thread, but there are a number of girls and women on here who have enormous egos and simply come here for the praise and arse kissing, which I find kinda strange...

"

But if that is how they want to be then why not just respect that's their choice and concentrate on others..?

always think there is an element of not fulfilled entitlement with some people who criticise how others use the site..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love having my pics fabbed what an ego boost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And another thing...

If a woman/couple has single males blocked, then they shouldn't be able to receive fabs from them.

It's pretty simple, if you're not here looking for male attention, that's fine, that's your choice, but yet you still want ENOUGH of their attention so you can brag of how desired you are?

Seriously, the 'single male' is, by and large, treated like shit by the swinging scene, simply because he doesn't stick up for himself, doesn't fight back, and allows himself to be treated like crap. That's why he's a single male, and not a single MAN.

What's the big deal with fabbing a pic?

"

For the person doing the fabbing, probably nothing.


"Because unless the motivation is "I've fabbed all your pics because I can't message you - please pay me attention!!" - then surely the purpose of a pic fab is to acknowledge a decent image?"

And I suspect the people posting the pics, particularly those who go 'fab my pics and get me on page one!' already know this - block the single guys, forcing them to fab your pics as the only means of getting your attention, you can still ignore them and you also get extra praise, meaning that you get something and they get nothing, brilliant. As for 'acknowledging a good pic', paying your respects means nothing to a person if they don't respect you in return.


"And if you can't PM and fabbing is the only way to hopefully get noticed? Good friggin luck with that!

"

I actually agree.

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Is there such as thing as a nasty pastie?

Not in my experience.

Ever eaten in Greggs?"

Gregg for steak bakes!

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"I also don't get why people have to attack the op as this is a forum for people to get advise and not abuse. ???"

Unless ive read you OP wrong you weren't asking for 'advice', in effect you made a statement albeit your opinion which others will see differently and will respond accordingly..

if your being attacked or getting abuse then report that as there is no need for it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love attention. why else would I post pictures and join in with forum posts.......I also love meeting sexy men for great sex (and having loads of sexy attention in person) "

Noted.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've said it before on another thread, but there are a number of girls and women on here who have enormous egos and simply come here for the praise and arse kissing, which I find kinda strange...

I enjoy having my ego massaged now and then (who doesn't)but I also know over 99 % of it is bullshit . I meet people who show respect and who I want to fuck not those with over the top fake compliments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love attention. why else would I post pictures and join in with forum posts.......I also love meeting sexy men for great sex (and having loads of sexy attention in person)

Noted..... "
good x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I'm sure no one would do such a thing.

Oh, hang on......

I wouldn't mind but yesterday, men's final day, someone fabbed every single pic of ours except that one.

Don't I look a *bit* like Federer?

(Don't answer that)

"

New balls please.......

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"And another thing...

If a woman/couple has single males blocked, then they shouldn't be able to receive fabs from them.

It's pretty simple, if you're not here looking for male attention, that's fine, that's your choice, but yet you still want ENOUGH of their attention so you can brag of how desired you are?

Seriously, the 'single male' is, by and large, treated like shit by the swinging scene, simply because he doesn't stick up for himself, doesn't fight back, and allows himself to be treated like crap. That's why he's a single male, and not a single MAN.

What's the big deal with fabbing a pic?

For the person doing the fabbing, probably nothing.

Because unless the motivation is "I've fabbed all your pics because I can't message you - please pay me attention!!" - then surely the purpose of a pic fab is to acknowledge a decent image?

And I suspect the people posting the pics, particularly those who go 'fab my pics and get me on page one!' already know this - block the single guys, forcing them to fab your pics as the only means of getting your attention, you can still ignore them and you also get extra praise, meaning that you get something and they get nothing, brilliant. As for 'acknowledging a good pic', paying your respects means nothing to a person if they don't respect you in return.

And if you can't PM and fabbing is the only way to hopefully get noticed? Good friggin luck with that!

I actually agree. "

Those who's preoccupation in life is to achieve high fab numbers won't give a fuck where they come from. Even if they haven't blocked single guys they probably have age filters in place, yet get fabs from those outside them.

I don't get the 'paying respects' comment? Should someone who's pic has been fabbed have to respond to the fabber in some way? That's no different to expecting a reply from a message.

A fab should be no more than an appreciation of a nice image - with no attached motive other than that, and no expectancy of any response or reciprocal fabbing of images.

As I said earlier - there was way less angst, attention whoring and gripes in updates/forum posts before the whole 'picture fabbing' system started. To me it's a pointless system.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not meeting right now.

Because I'm at work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would meet right now but I am laid on my bed after having a blood test for diabetes fingers crossed I have not got that.

It was only a little prick but I had to lay down hate needles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would meet right now but I am laid on my bed after having a blood test for diabetes fingers crossed I have not got that.

It was only a little prick but I had to lay down hate needles "
not keen on little pricks.....dont like needles either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would meet right now but I am laid on my bed after having a blood test for diabetes fingers crossed I have not got that.

It was only a little prick but I had to lay down hate needles not keen on little pricks.....dont like needles either "

Nasty horrid things and then they say sharp scratch no it's not it's a tornado in my arm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And another thing...

If a woman/couple has single males blocked, then they shouldn't be able to receive fabs from them.

It's pretty simple, if you're not here looking for male attention, that's fine, that's your choice, but yet you still want ENOUGH of their attention so you can brag of how desired you are?

Seriously, the 'single male' is, by and large, treated like shit by the swinging scene, simply because he doesn't stick up for himself, doesn't fight back, and allows himself to be treated like crap. That's why he's a single male, and not a single MAN.

What's the big deal with fabbing a pic?

For the person doing the fabbing, probably nothing.

Because unless the motivation is "I've fabbed all your pics because I can't message you - please pay me attention!!" - then surely the purpose of a pic fab is to acknowledge a decent image?

And I suspect the people posting the pics, particularly those who go 'fab my pics and get me on page one!' already know this - block the single guys, forcing them to fab your pics as the only means of getting your attention, you can still ignore them and you also get extra praise, meaning that you get something and they get nothing, brilliant. As for 'acknowledging a good pic', paying your respects means nothing to a person if they don't respect you in return.

And if you can't PM and fabbing is the only way to hopefully get noticed? Good friggin luck with that!

I actually agree.

Those who's preoccupation in life is to achieve high fab numbers won't give a fuck where they come from. Even if they haven't blocked single guys they probably have age filters in place, yet get fabs from those outside them."

And yet they shouldn't - if you've no interest in the sexual attentions of a given demographic, why should you be allowed to be the recipient of those which benefit you, at your convenience, without having to give anything in return? Pretty much epitomises 'entitlement' to me.


"I don't get the 'paying respects' comment? Should someone who's pic has been fabbed have to respond to the fabber in some way? That's no different to expecting a reply from a message."

It's very different from not responding to a message, as message can be blocked, fabs can't - well, you CAN remove everyones ability to fab your pics, but then, how would they stroke your ego? See my 'entitlement' comment above.


"A fab should be no more than an appreciation of a nice image - with no attached motive other than that, and no expectancy of any response or reciprocal fabbing of images."

And likewise, the taking and posting of a nice pic should be done so purely as a means of allowing others a chance to enjoy your own comeliness with not attached motive - however, there is an attached motive, one which this entire thread is based upon.


"As I said earlier - there was way less angst, attention whoring and gripes in updates/forum posts before the whole 'picture fabbing' system started. To me it's a pointless system."

Hey, you wanna say remove it, I'd support you on that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey take a chill pill all these stress out posts on this thread.

Ps I'm still laid down

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

I'm going for popcorn. I think Michael Jackson is out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about the pasties? Bet they weren't Ginsters! "

Grisley ginsters... Uurh no gregs steakbake of sausage been melt are they

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about the pasties? Bet they weren't Ginsters!

Grisley ginsters... Uurh no gregs steakbake of sausage been melt are they "

Ginsters should be reported to trading standards gggrrrr give pasties a bad name

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"There are some people on here that are obviously just on here for attention and got no intention of meeting anyone. Does that not defeat the whole intention of the site ? Please keep this chat nice no nasty pasties ok

I don't think there's a site rule that says you HAVE to meet just because you're on here. There's way more to fab than just meeting people and shagging them. Every individual has their own reason for being on here. As long as they're not being total arseholes, they can do whatever they like for me.

We've been in and off fab for four and a half years now , and have yet to find the ' way more than just meeting and shagging ' you speak of .

Still I guess that's something to look forward to "

If you were a single guy you would know EXACTLY what I mean! If you're a couple or a single woman you can just come on fab and shag at will if that's what you're after. You learn pretty early on as a single guy you're going to have to find other ways to have fun on here because the sex is not going to come very easily I've actually come across some really nice women. Some of whom I would call friends. None of who I've even met...yet. Hopefully some I will meet at some point. Trust me there's way more to this site than shagging, for some people anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fab pictures that I like.

There is no hidden agenda behind it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've said it before on another thread, but there are a number of girls and women on here who have enormous egos and simply come here for the praise and arse kissing, which I find kinda strange...

I mean seriously, lets say for example you're one such woman, what would you rather have? A load of faceless losers on the internet messaging you telling you how amazing you are, or a handful of more eligible guys who would actually ENJOY meeting you..."

I love this comment because it sums up how I _iew things...in fact I said something similar on the hotlist thread saying I didn't care how many hotlists I was on and was called a liar by one of the 'look at me' ladies.

Some women will hijack any thread they can and turn it around to be all about them, but if fishing for compliments makes them feel good then the site is working for them.

Personally I find the attention seeking posts and statuses highly amusing and ignore winks and fabs, but each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some people on here that are obviously just on here for attention and got no intention of meeting anyone. Does that not defeat the whole intention of the site ? Please keep this chat nice no nasty pasties ok

I don't think there's a site rule that says you HAVE to meet just because you're on here. There's way more to fab than just meeting people and shagging them. Every individual has their own reason for being on here. As long as they're not being total arseholes, they can do whatever they like for me.

We've been in and off fab for four and a half years now , and have yet to find the ' way more than just meeting and shagging ' you speak of .

Still I guess that's something to look forward to

If you were a single guy you would know EXACTLY what I mean! If you're a couple or a single woman you can just come on fab and shag at will if that's what you're after. You learn pretty early on as a single guy you're going to have to find other ways to have fun on here because the sex is not going to come very easily I've actually come across some really nice women. Some of whom I would call friends. None of who I've even met...yet. Hopefully some I will meet at some point. Trust me there's way more to this site than shagging, for some people anyway."

This is not a shagging site it is a swingers site big difference and if you can get your jealous head round that fact you will go a long way on here.

From a single guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And no not having a rant pointing out a fact carry on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Back to laying down and sitting on the side now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've said it before on another thread, but there are a number of girls and women on here who have enormous egos and simply come here for the praise and arse kissing, which I find kinda strange...

I mean seriously, lets say for example you're one such woman, what would you rather have? A load of faceless losers on the internet messaging you telling you how amazing you are, or a handful of more eligible guys who would actually ENJOY meeting you...

I love this comment because it sums up how I _iew things...in fact I said something similar on the hotlist thread saying I didn't care how many hotlists I was on and was called a liar by one of the 'look at me' ladies.

Some women will hijack any thread they can and turn it around to be all about them, but if fishing for compliments makes them feel good then the site is working for them.

Personally I find the attention seeking posts and statuses highly amusing and ignore winks and fabs, but each to their own "

I just don't see the appeal of getting lots of fabs, or online compliments, it's like a diet of crisps, no matter how many your get, you'll always be malnourished.

Fabs mean very little to me, even those I receive myself, what I DO like is my verifications, as I feel these have true value. They're written by people who chatted to me on here, made the decision that they liked me enough to meet, and found the person they met, whose face isn't shown through carefully posted and angled pictures, whose words are spoken live without planning or careful consideration, facial expressions and body language not concealed behind the anonymity of a PC screen, was indeed someone who they liked and whose company they enjoyed.

That does far more for my sense of worth than a few tally marks from those thinking 'oooh look at his big muscles!/cock!/nose!' (well, someone must like it, surely?)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fabs and winks mean 0 fucks to us. Have not posted a new pic for ages too busy having fun to care. The site works well for us don't see the need to get bent out of shape.

Be interested to see what people would do to improve the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm an attention seeker, if you don't belive ME have a look at my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some people on here that are obviously just on here for attention and got no intention of meeting anyone. Does that not defeat the whole intention of the site ? Please keep this chat nice no nasty pasties ok

I don't think there's a site rule that says you HAVE to meet just because you're on here. There's way more to fab than just meeting people and shagging them. Every individual has their own reason for being on here. As long as they're not being total arseholes, they can do whatever they like for me.

We've been in and off fab for four and a half years now , and have yet to find the ' way more than just meeting and shagging ' you speak of .

Still I guess that's something to look forward to

If you were a single guy you would know EXACTLY what I mean! If you're a couple or a single woman you can just come on fab and shag at will if that's what you're after. You learn pretty early on as a single guy you're going to have to find other ways to have fun on here because the sex is not going to come very easily I've actually come across some really nice women. Some of whom I would call friends. None of who I've even met...yet. Hopefully some I will meet at some point. Trust me there's way more to this site than shagging, for some people anyway."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've said it before on another thread, but there are a number of girls and women on here who have enormous egos and simply come here for the praise and arse kissing, which I find kinda strange...

I mean seriously, lets say for example you're one such woman, what would you rather have? A load of faceless losers on the internet messaging you telling you how amazing you are, or a handful of more eligible guys who would actually ENJOY meeting you...

I love this comment because it sums up how I _iew things...in fact I said something similar on the hotlist thread saying I didn't care how many hotlists I was on and was called a liar by one of the 'look at me' ladies.

Some women will hijack any thread they can and turn it around to be all about them, but if fishing for compliments makes them feel good then the site is working for them.

Personally I find the attention seeking posts and statuses highly amusing and ignore winks and fabs, but each to their own

I just don't see the appeal of getting lots of fabs, or online compliments, it's like a diet of crisps, no matter how many your get, you'll always be malnourished.

Fabs mean very little to me, even those I receive myself, what I DO like is my verifications, as I feel these have true value. They're written by people who chatted to me on here, made the decision that they liked me enough to meet, and found the person they met, whose face isn't shown through carefully posted and angled pictures, whose words are spoken live without planning or careful consideration, facial expressions and body language not concealed behind the anonymity of a PC screen, was indeed someone who they liked and whose company they enjoyed.

That does far more for my sense of worth than a few tally marks from those thinking 'oooh look at his big muscles!/cock!/nose!' (well, someone must like it, surely?)"

Agreed...online compliments mean nothing to me. Only those received in the real world from people who's opinion I value. My veris are for my eyes only and not badges of honour about how awesome I was.

I've neither the time nor inclination to add any posed-for pics, don't seek attention, and I still get exactly what I want from the site...discreet fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who really gives a shit.

Some people think I'm an attention seeker as I don't meet very often and post lots of posed pretentious photos. They would probably be right.

Who cares; it passes the time. It's not a choice between, (as cringe-worthily described above), having some bloke sticking their tongue up my arse vs doing it metaphorically.

I have a life, a busy one, I'd probably meet more if I didnt. But since I can't meet often, what's so wrong about titting about the forums and picking up a few compliments along the way? Shoot me now.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"There are some people on here that are obviously just on here for attention and got no intention of meeting anyone. Does that not defeat the whole intention of the site ? Please keep this chat nice no nasty pasties ok

I don't think there's a site rule that says you HAVE to meet just because you're on here. There's way more to fab than just meeting people and shagging them. Every individual has their own reason for being on here. As long as they're not being total arseholes, they can do whatever they like for me.

We've been in and off fab for four and a half years now , and have yet to find the ' way more than just meeting and shagging ' you speak of .

Still I guess that's something to look forward to

If you were a single guy you would know EXACTLY what I mean! If you're a couple or a single woman you can just come on fab and shag at will if that's what you're after. You learn pretty early on as a single guy you're going to have to find other ways to have fun on here because the sex is not going to come very easily I've actually come across some really nice women. Some of whom I would call friends. None of who I've even met...yet. Hopefully some I will meet at some point. Trust me there's way more to this site than shagging, for some people anyway.

This is not a shagging site it is a swingers site big difference and if you can get your jealous head round that fact you will go a long way on here.

From a single guy "

Erm I'm assuming that wasn't aimed at me. I'm not remotely jealous of anyone on here! Why would I be?! People use the site any way they see fit. Hopefully they get out of it whatever they require. It may be billed as a swinging site but it's way more than that. You're pretty naive if you think this is just a swinging site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The biggest attention seekers are the ones who put updates up

" Thats it, this site is shite and full off fakers, im leaving now "

But then they never go lol

Those are attention seekers "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there such as thing as a nasty pastie?

Not in my experience.

Ever eaten in Greggs?"

Their sausage rolls aren't bad though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how about we all use the site how we want to and let others worry about what they are up to and just enjoy what we do ......I know thats what I'm going to do why do some people get so pissed off with others having fun(one way or another?)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't come on here for attention. I have private pictures and all my mail filters are on. Getting a fuck tonne of messages from guys who look like they belong up a tower ringing a bell does nothing for my ego. I've already got an ego and know I'm attractive so all that bollocks doesn't impress me. As for meeting people, I will seek out guys that satisfy my requirements and meet them accordingly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there such as thing as a nasty pastie?

Not in my experience.

Ever eaten in Greggs?

Their sausage rolls aren't bad though "
dont have them often but I do love their sausage rolls

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"And another thing...

If a woman/couple has single males blocked, then they shouldn't be able to receive fabs from them.

It's pretty simple, if you're not here looking for male attention, that's fine, that's your choice, but yet you still want ENOUGH of their attention so you can brag of how desired you are?

Seriously, the 'single male' is, by and large, treated like shit by the swinging scene, simply because he doesn't stick up for himself, doesn't fight back, and allows himself to be treated like crap. That's why he's a single male, and not a single MAN.

What's the big deal with fabbing a pic?

For the person doing the fabbing, probably nothing.

Because unless the motivation is "I've fabbed all your pics because I can't message you - please pay me attention!!" - then surely the purpose of a pic fab is to acknowledge a decent image?

And I suspect the people posting the pics, particularly those who go 'fab my pics and get me on page one!' already know this - block the single guys, forcing them to fab your pics as the only means of getting your attention, you can still ignore them and you also get extra praise, meaning that you get something and they get nothing, brilliant. As for 'acknowledging a good pic', paying your respects means nothing to a person if they don't respect you in return.

And if you can't PM and fabbing is the only way to hopefully get noticed? Good friggin luck with that!

I actually agree.

Those who's preoccupation in life is to achieve high fab numbers won't give a fuck where they come from. Even if they haven't blocked single guys they probably have age filters in place, yet get fabs from those outside them.

And yet they shouldn't - if you've no interest in the sexual attentions of a given demographic, why should you be allowed to be the recipient of those which benefit you, at your convenience, without having to give anything in return? Pretty much epitomises 'entitlement' to me.

I don't get the 'paying respects' comment? Should someone who's pic has been fabbed have to respond to the fabber in some way? That's no different to expecting a reply from a message.

It's very different from not responding to a message, as message can be blocked, fabs can't - well, you CAN remove everyones ability to fab your pics, but then, how would they stroke your ego? See my 'entitlement' comment above.

A fab should be no more than an appreciation of a nice image - with no attached motive other than that, and no expectancy of any response or reciprocal fabbing of images.

And likewise, the taking and posting of a nice pic should be done so purely as a means of allowing others a chance to enjoy your own comeliness with not attached motive - however, there is an attached motive, one which this entire thread is based upon.

As I said earlier - there was way less angst, attention whoring and gripes in updates/forum posts before the whole 'picture fabbing' system started. To me it's a pointless system.

Hey, you wanna say remove it, I'd support you on that "

We don't let our pics be fabbed.

But a fab is nothing to do with 'entitlement' - it's a sign you like a pic. Therefore whether you're the demographic that someone's looking for is irrelevant.

I can't be arsed to respond to individual posts but single guys who think they're any less welcome, worthy, valued, or whatever terminology they choose to use are wrong. Plenty of people like and meet single guys. Including us.

Just not ALL single guys. Or couples. Or women. Nobody appeals to everyone.

A

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"Who really gives a shit.

Some people think I'm an attention seeker as I don't meet very often and post lots of posed pretentious photos. They would probably be right.

Who cares; it passes the time. It's not a choice between, (as cringe-worthily described above), having some bloke sticking their tongue up my arse vs doing it metaphorically.

I have a life, a busy one, I'd probably meet more if I didnt. But since I can't meet often, what's so wrong about titting about the forums and picking up a few compliments along the way? Shoot me now. "

Totally agree! Fab is just a website. I pop in from time to time to see what's happening then carry on about my day. It's really not that big a deal. It does everything I require of it at this point in my life. I enjoy it. I like posting my pics. I like receiving the odd compliment. Talking to the odd woman (and some are very odd lol!) It's just a bit of fun for me. No more no less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there are surely attention seeker, however if they meet or not, it is down to them... they don't have to meet if they don't want to...

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain


"Who really gives a shit.

Some people think I'm an attention seeker as I don't meet very often and post lots of posed pretentious photos. They would probably be right.

Who cares; it passes the time. It's not a choice between, (as cringe-worthily described above), having some bloke sticking their tongue up my arse vs doing it metaphorically.

I have a life, a busy one, I'd probably meet more if I didnt. But since I can't meet often, what's so wrong about titting about the forums and picking up a few compliments along the way?

Shoot me now. "

Shoots over anna.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see it all the time they ask for meets that day etc never have a veri then moan they dont get to meet anyone and i know they are playing i even had a woman offer me sex for money i went along with it just for a laugh and she suddenly vanish the day of the meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would hope the line that states not active was enough for your Spidey senses

Ian not meeting and here solely for the forum,

Married 15yr and very happy 13-10 years ago we where quite heavily involved, but the iccle finances drains turned into bigger finances drains and now bigger still which meant work and a lack of time took over, we have spoke about a return but confidence and time on both parts is stopping us,

So I do like to titter about in the forum, make of that what you will but I will take others ideas of what makes a site user with a pinch of salt

Each to their own and concentrate on yours and all that int it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

are the 'look at me girls' a breakaway group of the clique....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some people on here that are obviously just on here for attention and got no intention of meeting anyone. Does that not defeat the whole intention of the site ? Please keep this chat nice no nasty pasties ok

I don't think there's a site rule that says you HAVE to meet just because you're on here. There's way more to fab than just meeting people and shagging them. Every individual has their own reason for being on here. As long as they're not being total arseholes, they can do whatever they like for me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've said it before on another thread, but there are a number of girls and women on here who have enormous egos and simply come here for the praise and arse kissing, which I find kinda strange...

I mean seriously, lets say for example you're one such woman, what would you rather have? A load of faceless losers on the internet messaging you telling you how amazing you are, or a handful of more eligible guys who would actually ENJOY meeting you...

I love this comment because it sums up how I _iew things...in fact I said something similar on the hotlist thread saying I didn't care how many hotlists I was on and was called a liar by one of the 'look at me' ladies.

Some women will hijack any thread they can and turn it around to be all about them, but if fishing for compliments makes them feel good then the site is working for them.

Personally I find the attention seeking posts and statuses highly amusing and ignore winks and fabs, but each to their own "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seek attention. I love hundreds of messages from guys and thousands of fabs on my photos.

I meet as well though. Be rude not to sample the local cuisine whilst I'm here. "

If you like local cuisine I'm an excellent chef

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"are the 'look at me girls' a breakaway group of the clique.... "

There's a clique on fab??

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"Who really gives a shit.

Some people think I'm an attention seeker as I don't meet very often and post lots of posed pretentious photos. They would probably be right.

Who cares; it passes the time. It's not a choice between, (as cringe-worthily described above), having some bloke sticking their tongue up my arse vs doing it metaphorically.

I have a life, a busy one, I'd probably meet more if I didnt. But since I can't meet often, what's so wrong about titting about the forums and picking up a few compliments along the way? Shoot me now. "

Exactly this. The people I talk to via messages (mostly non-forum users) understand that and know I'll meet when I (and they) can. I'm upfront about it on my profile and in messages from the start. I also have a core of regulars I have met more than once and may or may not have been verified as a result (if I was I would only display one per person anyway) so they are not necessarily an indication of lack of meets.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

on a scale of 1 - 10 of caring about anyone needing attention...... I come in at -10.

I couldn't care less,

I post for attention so it would be fucking hypocritical of me to comment on others...

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"Who really gives a shit.

Some people think I'm an attention seeker as I don't meet very often and post lots of posed pretentious photos. They would probably be right.

Who cares; it passes the time. It's not a choice between, (as cringe-worthily described above), having some bloke sticking their tongue up my arse vs doing it metaphorically.

I have a life, a busy one, I'd probably meet more if I didnt. But since I can't meet often, what's so wrong about titting about the forums and picking up a few compliments along the way? Shoot me now. "
same here

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