FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to The Lounge

Porny expectations

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi

I'm very new to Fab and as yet have had no meets. I came out of a 13 year relationship 6 months ago and our play was usually very fun, sensual and teasing. Other times we fucked but after a lot of build up.

I've got this daft thought niggling at me, that in the 13 years with the ex the rules to sex went and changed and nobody told me! Sounds silly at first but then a thread on another forum made alarm bells ring, as apparently porn has changed people's ideas of what constitutes good sex.

Ladies of Fab, how 'porny' are men's expectations for women during meets? i.e shaved genitals, deep throat, anal etc.

I'm not going to start doing things I'm not comfortable with, so as a result am I destined to be disappointed, and disappointing to the people I play with?

Thanks.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

Just because someone expects something doesn't mean you have to oblige them

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I treat every meet on its own merit..

I'd say none of my meets can be described as a 'porn' meet...we'd most likely have a laugh..and have sex..if it looks porny to some folk..I suppose they have already judged...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do exactly what you want & nothing more.

This is about your enjoyment. Let people you may meet what you are willing to do & what you're not so they are aware beforehand.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm totally over thinking it, aren't I? Just nervous after years with the same person I guess!

Thanks for your replies.x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I have the same sex now as I did years ago except with more and varied people and more often. Oh, and compared with 13 years ago, I slightly regret men are now on the menu.

Besides which, I watch bi interagial group sex porn and that's not gonna happen!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crank your bullshit detector up to max and I'd recommend looking for what you want rather than it coming to you.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Awwww Anna you mustn't think like that. It's about fun, discovery, enlightenment. You'll be able to choose the men you meet. Take your time and have a social to chat about stuff.

Good luck and enjoy xx

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

The only sex questions I will answer on here are the things I am not comfortable with or don't enjoy, so for me the 2 big turns off are anal and 69.

But then I do have other kinks I will indulge in if the trust is built up! (Has only happened the once in 6 years though)

Another tip from my point of view, unless you like dirty talk, don't indulge in it as the men have no intention on meeting they just want wank bank material and will never meet!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Some of us live a long way away

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm totally over thinking it, aren't I? Just nervous after years with the same person I guess!

Thanks for your replies.x"

I dont think shaved fannies are 'porny'..I just like licking them...and yeahh..I quite like looking at them..just like some women like looking at cocks..

but when its pretty much hidden by hair..it loses its appeal to me..

nothing pornistic in my eyes

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

This is a good question. It comes up quite a lot. Not just on here either.

I think that the sexually inexperienced who use porn for their education get a jaded view of people and their sexual needs, which, for women, seem to be non existent in most cases.

Women in porn are used as lifeless ragdolls to be fucked hard in the face, have their hair pulled and have large objects rammed up their arses and they are supposed to love it!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

But to answer your question-

Shaved, I would say that 95% of the women I know are kr at least closely trimmed.

Deep throat, not unless he wants to be wearing my dinner.

You do get some blokes who have watched too much porn and think that is now they are meant to behave, I mean EVERY woman wants her arse slapped, right?!

But just let the guy know what is on the cards and what is never going to happen, makes things a lot smoother.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Awwww Anna you mustn't think like that. It's about fun, discovery, enlightenment. You'll be able to choose the men you meet. Take your time and have a social to chat about stuff.

Good luck and enjoy xx"

I'm really excited, don't get me wrong! There's loads of stuff I want to discover and explore and I can't wait. I just thought that perhaps it might be more difficult than I first anticipated to find partners with similar expectations to me, that culturally things had shifted and that I had been left behind, or something.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

and what every one else said.

Do what sex you like.

Don't be goaded into things you don't like.

I just do rubbing noses

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Awwww Anna you mustn't think like that. It's about fun, discovery, enlightenment. You'll be able to choose the men you meet. Take your time and have a social to chat about stuff.

Good luck and enjoy xx"

Anna, you are welcome to have a social with me (Mrs62) and just talk through all the in's and outs, ups and downs! Just send me a message and we can start with a phone chat if you like. We have had some lovely soft swing sessions with slow, sensual teasing and then on other days we have had rampant no holes barred sessions. All depends on mood. Don't worry, don't feel pressured into performing, do what you feel like.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oughandCurvyCouple
over a year ago

galway

You have to always keep in mind that everyone is different, your idea of pain could be some one else's idea of wild and that's okay. The joy of the Internet is youre nearly always going to find someone else out there who likes the same things as you.

So don't fret and don't do anything your not comfortable with x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is a good question. It comes up quite a lot. Not just on here either.

I think that the sexually inexperienced who use porn for their education get a jaded view of people and their sexual needs, which, for women, seem to be non existent in most cases.

Women in porn are used as lifeless ragdolls to be fucked hard in the face, have their hair pulled and have large objects rammed up their arses and they are supposed to love it!

"

This is exactly what I'm referring to. I was playing online and the talk took this direction and it took me by surprise.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Awwww Anna you mustn't think like that. It's about fun, discovery, enlightenment. You'll be able to choose the men you meet. Take your time and have a social to chat about stuff.

Good luck and enjoy xx

Anna, you are welcome to have a social with me (Mrs62) and just talk through all the in's and outs, ups and downs! Just send me a message and we can start with a phone chat if you like. We have had some lovely soft swing sessions with slow, sensual teasing and then on other days we have had rampant no holes barred sessions. All depends on mood. Don't worry, don't feel pressured into performing, do what you feel like. "

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Sort of related to this ......

I've just had one of those messages that EVERY woman gets on here from total strangers too......

They start by describing how they'd sneak up behind you .. slap and spank you then grope your this and that then yank your clothes off and perform oral sex ( they always make you come in their fantasy ) then they stand you up and fuck you lifeless before plunging you back to your knees to be face rammed........

and I can never figure out how they think this is a turn on in a first message ?

BTW it's usually from someone that looks a bit like Gollum but not as cute.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

It's related cos I always think they've been watching porn and rubbing themselves into a frenzy before they compose their message one handed and forget to unclick their mother in their forward message.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Sort of related to this ......

I've just had one of those messages that EVERY woman gets on here from total strangers too......

They start by describing how they'd sneak up behind you .. slap and spank you then grope your this and that then yank your clothes off and perform oral sex ( they always make you come in their fantasy ) then they stand you up and fuck you lifeless before plunging you back to your knees to be face rammed........

and I can never figure out how they think this is a turn on in a first message ?

BTW it's usually from someone that looks a bit like Gollum but not as cute. "

And here was me thinking I was special

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sort of related to this ......

I've just had one of those messages that EVERY woman gets on here from total strangers too......

They start by describing how they'd sneak up behind you .. slap and spank you then grope your this and that then yank your clothes off and perform oral sex ( they always make you come in their fantasy ) then they stand you up and fuck you lifeless before plunging you back to your knees to be face rammed........

and I can never figure out how they think this is a turn on in a first message ?

BTW it's usually from someone that looks a bit like Gollum but not as cute. "

I resemble that remark preccccciousss

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

You can have the ring massssssster

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can have the ring massssssster "

after ya douche it please!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"Sort of related to this ......

I've just had one of those messages that EVERY woman gets on here from total strangers too......

They start by describing how they'd sneak up behind you .. slap and spank you then grope your this and that then yank your clothes off and perform oral sex ( they always make you come in their fantasy ) then they stand you up and fuck you lifeless before plunging you back to your knees to be face rammed........

and I can never figure out how they think this is a turn on in a first message ?

BTW it's usually from someone that looks a bit like Gollum but not as cute. "

Aw. I thought I was special and that's why I got those.

The ones that start off by telling me what I'm wearing whilst waiting for them in a hotel bar is a favourite. Especially since I don't own any white lingerie or pointy heels...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top