FabSwingers.com forum: Ethnicity filter

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The thought of one popped into my head, based upon the number of profiles I've read excluding certain ethnic groups, the question is, could it be legitimately claimed to be a racist feature?

Personally I wouldn't use one as I'm attracted to girls from all races, but I'm curious as to how such a feature would be perceived by others?

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

I wouldn't say it was racist as sexual preference and attraction has nothing to do with hate.

Not fancying a race is different to actively disliking them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely no different to disliking certain hair colour? Avoiding isn't hating.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is a bit like online shopping (waits for the uproar) so why shouldn't you be able to filter as you personally know what you like. If it offends someone then they should look at themselves rather than ask the person to explain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How is that going to be racist? Racism is when someone receives abuse, ill treatment or seen inferior to other races. How does a filter do that?

Racism is when you receive messages from people saying:

- 'sorry, we don't meet people like you sick bastards'

- 'why the fuck are you fucking our women?'

- 'make sure you delete yourself off her friends list. Don't want her being friends with you lot'

- 'hope our soldiers wipe the lot off you off the face off the earth'

- 'this site isn't for you guys. Take your cock elsewhere'

...there's a lot more I used to get amongst those. And the ones above are not even as bad as the other messages I used to get.

That's an accumulation of four years i've been on the site. The chatrooms weren't good either. Those i'm chatting to used to be getting the abuse because they're talking to me.

I think that's what you call racism. All these filters and preferences of 'no asian men', 'white men only', 'BBC only' etc I don't think are racist at all, as well as the ethnicity filters on the browse function.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its just a fuck, doesn't matter what color they are, stating race was ruled out in Alabama in 60's and rest of the world too.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Oh this again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't say it was racist as sexual preference and attraction has nothing to do with hate.

Not fancying a race is different to actively disliking them. "

I agree with that

all because I don't fancy somebody does not mean I dislike them

some races just do not do it for me sexually that does not mean I. don't want anything to do with them I just don't want to shag them

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"How is that going to be racist? Racism is when someone receives abuse, ill treatment or seen inferior to other races. How does a filter do that?

Racism is when you receive messages from people saying:

- 'sorry, we don't meet people like you sick bastards'

- 'why the fuck are you fucking our women?'

- 'make sure you delete yourself off her friends list. Don't want her being friends with you lot'

- 'hope our soldiers wipe the lot off you off the face off the earth'

- 'this site isn't for you guys. Take your cock elsewhere'

...there's a lot more I used to get amongst those. And the ones above are not even as bad as the other messages I used to get.

That's an accumulation of four years i've been on the site. The chatrooms weren't good either. Those i'm chatting to used to be getting the abuse because they're talking to me.

Wow. Can't say it's surprising from reading the Lounge forum here, but all the same that is some really ugly stuff. Sorry you have had to receive it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wonder if people with such sexual preferences could fall in love with someone from a different ethnic background?

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

It's like saying I'm sexist because I don't fancy women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't shag anyone because of her race, it's purely down to whom I find attractive or not, - isn't that normal???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the real question is would it be racist for the site to implement such features, not whether people used them or not. For example... if Facebook implemented a "white friends only" option I'm sure that'd come under a whole lot of flack for facilitating racism. So perhaps in the end that's the core problem with the idea... it facilitates racism

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wonder if people with such sexual preferences could fall in love with someone from a different ethnic background?

Of course, it happens. Nowt so queer as folk.

I think also a filter is a good idea. Other such sites have them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How is that going to be racist? Racism is when someone receives abuse, ill treatment or seen inferior to other races. How does a filter do that?

Racism is when you receive messages from people saying:

- 'sorry, we don't meet people like you sick bastards'

- 'why the fuck are you fucking our women?'

- 'make sure you delete yourself off her friends list. Don't want her being friends with you lot'

- 'hope our soldiers wipe the lot off you off the face off the earth'

- 'this site isn't for you guys. Take your cock elsewhere'

...there's a lot more I used to get amongst those. And the ones above are not even as bad as the other messages I used to get.

That's an accumulation of four years i've been on the site. The chatrooms weren't good either. Those i'm chatting to used to be getting the abuse because they're talking to me.

I had a message from a guy once after I told him where I was from saying he no longer wanted to meet me as medateranian people are greasy

I though that was cheeky enough

P.S come fuck me I'm not 'their' woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think women state it more on their profiles tho lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How is that going to be racist? Racism is when someone receives abuse, ill treatment or seen inferior to other races. How does a filter do that?

Racism is when you receive messages from people saying:

- 'sorry, we don't meet people like you sick bastards'

- 'why the fuck are you fucking our women?'

- 'make sure you delete yourself off her friends list. Don't want her being friends with you lot'

- 'hope our soldiers wipe the lot off you off the face off the earth'

- 'this site isn't for you guys. Take your cock elsewhere'

...there's a lot more I used to get amongst those. And the ones above are not even as bad as the other messages I used to get.

That's an accumulation of four years i've been on the site. The chatrooms weren't good either. Those i'm chatting to used to be getting the abuse because they're talking to me.

Wow. Can't say it's surprising from reading the Lounge forum here, but all the same that is some really ugly stuff. Sorry you have had to receive it.

"
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To be fair lots of people dislike sailors.... Especially sober ones

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

The exclusion of people based on sexuality or race will mostly be genuine preference but I am confident that a small percentage will be homophobic or racist.

You just know by the way the exclusion is written, the tone says it all.

So a filter, takes away from the written word, it won't change anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*runs off to change profile to state looking for bi-men*

Don't want be be seen as homophobic - phew that was a close one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*runs off to change profile to state looking for bi-men*

Don't want be be seen as homophobic - phew that was a close one "

I'm not looking for bi women

I'm not homophobic I just don't like women

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"*runs off to change profile to state looking for bi-men*

Don't want be be seen as homophobic - phew that was a close one "

a close one possibly, but high in dramatic effect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps we need to have quotas so as to avoid this thread ever popping up again.

From now on you all have to fuck a black person, a white person, a ginger person, a disabled person, an Asian person, a hairy person, a gay person, an old person........ And even, I am sorry to say ... A single guy person!

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

"Perhaps we need to have quotas so as to avoid this thread ever popping up again.

To quote my ex father in law.. "A black Irish lesbian with one leg"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*runs off to change profile to state looking for bi-men*

Don't want be be seen as homophobic - phew that was a close one

I'm not looking for bi women

I'm not homophobic I just don't like women

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sexism!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

you don't have to use the filter if you don't want to....... there is an option that says "prefer not to say" if you want to

if just means for you op that if someone specifically wanted a white person... you wouldn't show up on that search

I think the way it was introduced was "kack-handed" in that it should have been an opt-in, where you had to choose it... rather than an opt-out where a lot of people probably still dont realise it has been done for them!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps we need to have quotas so as to avoid this thread ever popping up again.

An Asian person? Can you define that silly preference I keep seeing?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Perhaps we need to have quotas so as to avoid this thread ever popping up again.

To quote my ex father in law.. "A black Irish lesbian with one leg" "

You missed Jewish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about ugly people even the word is well... Ugly

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"you don't have to use the filter if you don't want to....... there is an option that says "prefer not to say" if you want to

if just means for you op that if someone specifically wanted a white person... you wouldn't show up on that search

cheers

I never knew there was one, I thought it was hypothetical

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"you don't have to use the filter if you don't want to....... there is an option that says "prefer not to say" if you want to

if just means for you op that if someone specifically wanted a white person... you wouldn't show up on that search

I had no idea it had even been introduced, thought the OP was talking about an imaginary filter!

How have people been opted in to it though? It seems to be automatically set to 'Any'.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"you don't have to use the filter if you don't want to....... there is an option that says "prefer not to say" if you want to

if just means for you op that if someone specifically wanted a white person... you wouldn't show up on that search

I had no idea it had even been introduced, thought the OP was talking about an imaginary filter!

How have people been opted in to it though? It seems to be automatically set to 'Any'."

it may have been "any" for you..... but I know for a lot of black people (including myself) found it had been changed for them... and had to change it back

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"you don't have to use the filter if you don't want to....... there is an option that says "prefer not to say" if you want to

if just means for you op that if someone specifically wanted a white person... you wouldn't show up on that search

I had no idea it had even been introduced, thought the OP was talking about an imaginary filter!

How have people been opted in to it though? It seems to be automatically set to 'Any'.

it may have been "any" for you..... but I know for a lot of black people (including myself) found it had been changed for them... and had to change it back"

Ah, I see. Yes, that would be annoying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's only racist if my preference for females instead of males is sexiest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's still not curing my ugly problem either

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"you don't have to use the filter if you don't want to....... there is an option that says "prefer not to say" if you want to

if just means for you op that if someone specifically wanted a white person... you wouldn't show up on that search

I had no idea it had even been introduced, thought the OP was talking about an imaginary filter!

How have people been opted in to it though? It seems to be automatically set to 'Any'.

it may have been "any" for you..... but I know for a lot of black people (including myself) found it had been changed for them... and had to change it back"

I've just looked at our settings - it says 'please choose' under ethnicity.

Think I'll choose black. See how long it takes to get a message from someone telling me it's wrong.

Hopefully the click of a button won't change the colour of my knob or make it any bigger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How is that going to be racist? Racism is when someone receives abuse, ill treatment or seen inferior to other races. How does a filter do that?

Racism is when you receive messages from people saying:

- 'sorry, we don't meet people like you sick bastards'

- 'why the fuck are you fucking our women?'

- 'make sure you delete yourself off her friends list. Don't want her being friends with you lot'

- 'hope our soldiers wipe the lot off you off the face off the earth'

- 'this site isn't for you guys. Take your cock elsewhere'

...there's a lot more I used to get amongst those. And the ones above are not even as bad as the other messages I used to get.

That's an accumulation of four years i've been on the site. The chatrooms weren't good either. Those i'm chatting to used to be getting the abuse because they're talking to me.

Fucking hell Pops.

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can search by race the same as POF so why shouldnt you be able to put a message filter on! It doesnt have to say they cant message for a reason just sorry you cannot message this user

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How is that going to be racist? Racism is when someone receives abuse, ill treatment or seen inferior to other races. How does a filter do that?

Racism is when you receive messages from people saying:

- 'sorry, we don't meet people like you sick bastards'

- 'why the fuck are you fucking our women?'

- 'make sure you delete yourself off her friends list. Don't want her being friends with you lot'

- 'hope our soldiers wipe the lot off you off the face off the earth'

- 'this site isn't for you guys. Take your cock elsewhere'

...there's a lot more I used to get amongst those. And the ones above are not even as bad as the other messages I used to get.

That's an accumulation of four years i've been on the site. The chatrooms weren't good either. Those i'm chatting to used to be getting the abuse because they're talking to me.

Pops I hear you

This the reason I do not show my friends list, I do not care what is said to me but it does bother me the harassment others get because of my friendship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Irrespective of whether a sexual preference in terms of colour is racist or not, from my own point of _iew there should be a filter.

I don't normally scan profiles for meets with women but I had a mad moment and decided to do so. Of the profiles of single women that met single men three in a row at the bottom of the profile had white only. I then later in the day read a thread, I liked the look of the OP, skimmed her profile and she met single men so I sent her message. Kindly enough she replied but said whites only and it was on her profile. Indeed it was but buried in the middle of a pageful of text.

Therefore to save genuine people's time, being people who have no desire to spend time reading profiles of people who are not interested them. The profile should say upfront who people will or wont meet.

By the way if I read another person saying that as they are straight if they wont sleep with a member of their own sex does it mean they are sexist. No it means you are straight because gay people dont sleep with members of the opposite sex and we dont say they are prejudiced. My understanding is that being straight, gay or bi is a person's nature other preferences are social constructs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't see it on profiles. Does it only work as a hidden option for searches?

Mine still says 'please choose' and I won't be changing it either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But Fab already has an age filter. If that's not deemed ageist (which is also illegal) why should having a race filter be racist?

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"What about ugly people even the word is well... Ugly

They have no alibi

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