FabSwingers.com forum: How do you pick yourself up

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When your feeling low or your self confidence as gone or your just having one of those shitty days , ...what's your method of getting back on the horse so to speak?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10 minutes in the company of my doggies and I feel fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I buy myself something that will make me feel better... Or get blind d*unk and forget it happened...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Just get on with the usual grind of work and home and not go on fab. it doesn't happen very often.

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Don,t get many of them got the best husband in the world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"10 minutes in the company of my doggies and I feel fine

Ohmygod.... did you really mean to say that...????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I watch Jeremy Kyle, and realise it's not as bad as I thought...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't, always.

Its as unnatural to feel happy all the time as it is to feel sad all the time..

Feel it, own it, have a cry if you like. Your feelings are always valid.

Then suck it up and move on xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shopping retail therapy works for me, shoes or handbags normally works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The support of my friends and just having someone to talk too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I watch Jeremy Kyle, and realise it's not as bad as I thought... "

Ohh im with you on that one...how good to you feel afterwards...hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give yourself some time for you....

Do something you enjoy doing!

Keep smiling

Monkey x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put on a favourite song, have a crazy dance and shake it off, paint my nails and wear nice lingerie.

makes me feel better for a little while at least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I watch Jeremy Kyle, and realise it's not as bad as I thought...

Ohh im with you on that one...how good to you feel afterwards...hahahaha

see it can't be that bad... A little perspective goes a long way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do something you like/enjoy.

Remind yourself that it's just a shitty day and tomorrow will be better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"10 minutes in the company of my doggies and I feel fine

Ohmygod.... did you really mean to say that...????

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Yes I cant help it if tou have a filthy mind

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Watch people go to work happily retired on a good pension private not state not old enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shower...dress to impress get a nice smell on...go out the door...put on my best smile...I soon feel much better...

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By *lackgrapeMan
over a year ago

Purley

Pick up the phone and call my grandkids, hear them laugh just makes a cloudy day brighter xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good film, good music and if they don't work, have myself an early night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I ever have any strong mood I'll generally always appreciate it for what it is - great moods / times are good obviously, and if anything ever got me down I'd own it, look at it in perspective and deal with it - ignoring low moods doesn't work. It's healthy to have a variety of moods, not too frequent or long term I mean.

If it's just Monday blues or something, well that's just typical human behaviour largely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to just smile and think of good things when I'm feeling crappy. When that fails, I have Marc and my two dogs to make me happy. And that always works

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't, always.

Its as unnatural to feel happy all the time as it is to feel sad all the time..

Feel it, own it, have a cry if you like. Your feelings are always valid.

Then suck it up and move on xx"

This for me.

I give myself a set amount of time to wallow, be that an hour, a day or a week. Then I shake myself off, put on a fake smile and pretend to be fine. And sooner or later I am fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go out for a nice long walk with the dog and go and sit by the stream in the woods and just listen to the running water

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I keep taking my tablets, have a cry, hug my boys & remind myself how far I've come in the last 3 years xx

Tomorrow is always another day xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not figured it out yet. When i feel shit and low it's normally someone else that drags me out, not something I'm able to do myself.

That's one of the reasons why fab works for me. There's people here who are able to help with that whether they realise it or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make voodoo dolls of those who have pissed me off & laugh as I stick pins in them to make them suffer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I watch Jeremy Kyle, and realise it's not as bad as I thought...

Ohh im with you on that one...how good to you feel afterwards...hahahaha

I don't know how anyone can even watch that rubbish. It hurts my eyes and ears

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I remember, that falling down is part of life.... Getting back up is living..

.failing that have a w*nk ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I make voodoo dolls of those who have pissed me off & laugh as I stick pins in them to make them suffer

That's why I was in pain this morningc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I recommend yoga and meditation.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I go to work. Sad as it sounds. Either realising that there are some sick fuckers in the world and my life isn't that bad, or helping someone with their problems, put mine into perspective.

Alternatively, I bash the shit out of a punch bag or go for a run along the seafront.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I ride a horse or dance, or if it really hurts I need to have sex with someone.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I write down what's getting me down , if i know .Then do something I really enjoy or get d*unk !Too busy with the hangover to let what was getting me down to bother me then X R

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton

I believe it's par for the course in life. You can't be jovial constantly. Just let it ride itself out because tomorrow is another day and feelings are just feelings......ffickle and changeable so don't stress.too much x

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"When your feeling low or your self confidence as gone or your just having one of those shitty days , ...what's your method of getting back on the horse so to speak?"

Remind myself that infact, its not that bad at all and there are people far worse off.

Usually I find them by opening my curtains (ie, you dont have to look far)

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By *cankeepMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Friends, friends, always friends. I know it's a bit pat, but a problem shared is a problem halved... or even resolved.

Either that or watch some good old-fashioned, non-cynical comedy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Write in my diary, text or phone a friend, read trashy magazines, tell myself nothing lasts forever, lose myself in the forums, watch a horror film

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chocolate

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

Music, friends, gym. In that descending order

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Sex and drugs usually work for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go scratching on the bike.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Used to be thrashing a motorbike around some twisty roads, didn't have to go fast, just try to get the corners linked smoothly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Used to be thrashing a motorbike around some twisty roads, didn't have to go fast, just try to get the corners linked smoothly."

Didn't you have a tls1000?

Is there such a thing as smooth on one of those beasts :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Samaritans

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to walk up a hill near me and sit to look at the view with a flask of tea. Or I'll go for a brew with one of my friends and by the time I leave, I'll feel better. (Tea seems to be my common denominator.)

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

"When your feeling low or your self confidence as gone or your just having one of those shitty days , ...what's your method of getting back on the horse so to speak?"

For me, I usually turn to exercise...even though I may absolutely not feel like it at the time, dragging myself to the gym or out on a run generally picks me up a bit. If nothing else it helps release a few endorphins and if done with a bit of intensity, blocks out any shit that is playing on my mind for a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exercise. Go for a walk.. Focus on something to look forward to.

Realise it will pass, and there is always someone worse off. If all else fails, spend a few pounds on meaningless crap on ebay.

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

"Exercise. Go for a walk.. Focus on something to look forward to.

Realise it will pass, and there is always someone worse off. If all else fails, spend a few pounds on meaningless crap on ebay.

Going for a walk doesn't work for me...it needs to be intense exercise. I find if I go for a walk then I just seem to dwell on it and it ruminates...I need activities which take my mind off the issue and not focus them on it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Exercise. Go for a walk.. Focus on something to look forward to.

Realise it will pass, and there is always someone worse off. If all else fails, spend a few pounds on meaningless crap on ebay.

I can see where your coming from, I have spent many an hour mooching down by the river.. And have sometimes felt like throwing myself in.

It's opposite our house.

But if I walk my two crazy dogs down there and take a ball..well it's a whole different ball game.. So to speak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read books/forum in correlation with my feelings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shopping and or chat with girlfriends or my Mummy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as few ppl mentioned shopping,.. I have always been amazed at the correlation between shopping and happiness, I always ponder on why I am so happy when I spend my money to buy things that I don't really need

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just take a few moment to your self and think about the positives life's not as bad as you think it could always be worse so wen your felling like this just pop on here and have a chat with us and we'll help cheer you up their lots of nice genuine caring people on here so don't ever do anything daft come on here and we will make you feel better ok gorgeous chin up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lock myself in the shed with a bottle of wine and several cigars and some menial jobs.

I find the hangover, cough and cut knuckles take my mind off whatever was pissing me off before

Failing that just spend an hour in the company of a child, children just have a fantastic outlook on life that rubs off on you

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Physical exertion usually gives me space to rationalise.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I remember however bad it seems at that moment I have so much to be thankful for.

Sometimes putting on some feel good music and singing at the top of my voice can help too.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Seal clubbing or church, I can't decide.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seal clubbing or church, I can't decide."
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What!!! .... Seal clubbing every time, at least it's an honest pastime

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I've never seen a Seal in a club!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

M having one of these days today

my boys keep me going and I just remind myself that my track record of getting through days like this is 100% :D x

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