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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Over the decades I've often been eyed up by gay men, and even asked if I'm gay by a few, I politely say, ' I'm not, but if that changes, I'll be in touch', we laugh and that's that, but I've seen some men get angry, abusive and physically violent when their sexuality is questioned. Why, if a man is so sure of his hetrosexuality, does he get so violent towards gay men, could it be that he isn't actually that sure, and fears exposure? Your thoughts please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are just cunts.

Regards of their sexuality

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Yes because all men who decline another man must be confused

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

P.S. Do any women know if some women react the same to lesbian women when asked?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people are just cunts.

Regards of their sexuality"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How do you mean?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"P.S. Do any women know if some women react the same to lesbian women when asked?"

Who are the people being violent?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I chat to anyone. I don't expect them to have sex with me!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"How do you mean?"

Me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no. you !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people are just cunts.

Regards of their sexuality"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No, thx 118

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No one on here has, I mean friends, relatives and people I've seen when I'm out, seems to be a lot of aggression towards gay men, doesn't make sense.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"No, thx 118"

If you click on reply and quote we can all tell who you are speaking to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No one on here has, I mean friends, relatives and people I've seen when I'm out, seems to be a lot of aggression towards gay men, doesn't make sense."

No and no. I haven't seen it.

Is it the company you keep?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No, thx 118

If you click on reply and quote we can all tell who you are speaking to "

Thanks, still learning

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"I chat to anyone. I don't expect them to have sex with me! "

Not even me sweetheart

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No one on here has, I mean friends, relatives and people I've seen when I'm out, seems to be a lot of aggression towards gay men, doesn't make sense.

No and no. I haven't seen it.

Is it the company you keep?

"

Could be, not anymore though, pick friends carefully these days, but family I cannot.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I chat to anyone. I don't expect them to have sex with me!

Not even me sweetheart "

Certainly not! no please means no chance

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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago

London

Am I gay?

Hold on a minute, let me check!

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

[Removed by poster at 06/07/15 22:08:38]

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"I chat to anyone. I don't expect them to have sex with me!

Not even me sweetheart

Certainly not! no please means no chance "

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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago

London


"Am I gay?

Hold on a minute, let me check!"

Just checked, no I'm not

Good night

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Am I gay?

Hold on a minute, let me check!

Just checked, no I'm not

Good night "

Don't understand that one.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I chat to anyone. I don't expect them to have sex with me!

Not even me sweetheart

Certainly not! no please means no chance

"

Manners maketh man

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Am I gay?

Hold on a minute, let me check!

Just checked, no I'm not

Good night "

Are you sure?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"I chat to anyone. I don't expect them to have sex with me!

Not even me sweetheart

Certainly not! no please means no chance

Manners maketh man "

Ok, pretty please with a cherry on top

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think gay people should start beating up str8's who start of them so they will think twice before trying to bully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont get annoyed when asked. But I do get annoyed when the same bloke keeps pushing and pushing (no not in that way!). Don't think that's unreasonable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See your point OP, in some cases it does appear that agressively disliking something can denote a deep untouched desire for it, but its neither limited to sexual choice nor is it the same for all, some will genuinly dislike due to compliance with social convention or childhood influences but both translate simply to misguided belief,

We should not generalise that a certain reaction means a certain thing

The actual question is how can people be educated so that others can be free to live within their own life choices without fear of retribution,

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I've not had this as such. However, I do find it a bit naff when a chap calls me 'mate' in a way that makes it obvious he's determined not to acknowledge I'm glammed up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Going to pop to the Doctors to check if I am or not. Brb...

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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago

London


"Am I gay?

Hold on a minute, let me check!

Just checked, no I'm not

Good night

Are you sure? "

Em, sure as to say I've been in the company of bi men and never had the urge to pull on their todger.

And if I was ever going to, I would be the one wearing the condom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I eye up woman, quite a lot in fact, am i gay? no bisexual..some men the same ,just struggle more than woman to admit it.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Going to pop to the Doctors to check if I am or not. Brb..."

What was the result? Are there symptoms

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

We should not generalise that a certain reaction means a certain thing

The actual question is how can people be educated so that others can be free to live within their own life choices without fear of retribution,

"

lol fucking lol

Shame that this doesn't apply to cake shop owners or christian b&b owners. Myabe they too would like to live within their life choices without retribution?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're happy and you know it clap your hands. If your happy ....

What? We've had our terminology nicked?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Going to pop to the Doctors to check if I am or not. Brb...

What was the result? Are there symptoms

-Courtney"

Apparently they can detect if you've been infected by the ghey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Going to pop to the Doctors to check if I am or not. Brb...

What was the result? Are there symptoms

-Courtney

Apparently they can detect if you've been infected by the ghey"

Eeek! I'd besta go get tested. Can women catch this too?!?

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Going to pop to the Doctors to check if I am or not. Brb...

What was the result? Are there symptoms

-Courtney

Apparently they can detect if you've been infected by the ghey

Eeek! I'd besta go get tested. Can women catch this too?!?

-Courtney"

Yes. Ghey lesboids. You're highly likely to get it if you've sat next to another human of the same sex. Don't even need to touch. It's in the air.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it correct that men who now put the seat and lid back down, afterwards, have caught the gay?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Is it correct that men who now put the seat and lid back down, afterwards, have caught the gay? "

Only if they haven't washed their hands with sanitizer within the 0.6sec timeframe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Going to pop to the Doctors to check if I am or not. Brb...

What was the result? Are there symptoms

-Courtney

Apparently they can detect if you've been infected by the ghey

Eeek! I'd besta go get tested. Can women catch this too?!?

-Courtney

Yes. Ghey lesboids. You're highly likely to get it if you've sat next to another human of the same sex. Don't even need to touch. It's in the air."

I think you may need to teach us a class on this. Fab hasn't prepared me yet

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so neutral that if I had my way all toilet seats would be screwed down by law!!

......so, as well as the toilet sniffing law lords, everyone is happy, right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Going to pop to the Doctors to check if I am or not. Brb...

What was the result? Are there symptoms

-Courtney

Apparently they can detect if you've been infected by the ghey

Eeek! I'd besta go get tested. Can women catch this too?!?

-Courtney

Yes. Ghey lesboids. You're highly likely to get it if you've sat next to another human of the same sex. Don't even need to touch. It's in the air.

I think you may need to teach us a class on this. Fab hasn't prepared me yet

-Courtney"

Sounds fun when and where?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Over the decades I've often been eyed up by gay men, and even asked if I'm gay by a few, I politely say, ' I'm not, but if that changes, I'll be in touch', we laugh and that's that, but I've seen some men get angry, abusive and physically violent when their sexuality is questioned. Why, if a man is so sure of his hetrosexuality, does he get so violent towards gay men, could it be that he isn't actually that sure, and fears exposure? Your thoughts please."

You look gay too me..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I'm blissfully happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Going to pop to the Doctors to check if I am or not. Brb...

What was the result? Are there symptoms

-Courtney

Apparently they can detect if you've been infected by the ghey

Eeek! I'd besta go get tested. Can women catch this too?!?

-Courtney

Yes. Ghey lesboids. You're highly likely to get it if you've sat next to another human of the same sex. Don't even need to touch. It's in the air.

I think you may need to teach us a class on this. Fab hasn't prepared me yet

-Courtney

Sounds fun when and where? "

Well, I've never been to the isle of wight

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I dont get annoyed when asked. But I do get annoyed when the same bloke keeps pushing and pushing (no not in that way!). Don't think that's unreasonable."

Agreed, that is unacceptable regardless of sexuality.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think people have missed the point of this post!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Going to pop to the Doctors to check if I am or not. Brb...

What was the result? Are there symptoms

-Courtney

Apparently they can detect if you've been infected by the ghey

Eeek! I'd besta go get tested. Can women catch this too?!?

-Courtney

Yes. Ghey lesboids. You're highly likely to get it if you've sat next to another human of the same sex. Don't even need to touch. It's in the air.

I think you may need to teach us a class on this. Fab hasn't prepared me yet

-Courtney

Sounds fun when and where?

Well, I've never been to the isle of wight

-Courtney"

Well... What better time to come , in the summer! Sunniest place in the south and glorious beaches! Ferries are a ripoff but when you're here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am comfortable with my sexuality I know that men's bodies don't do it for me sorry guys. I'm straight and some of me friends are gay or bi it does not make any difference to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are people asking if you're gay? I don't go up to women and ask if they're gay! It would matter anyway... Obviously I'd convert them...

Gay Man "hello"

OP" hello"

Gay Man "are you gay"

OP "no, but if that ever changes I will let you know"

Gay Man & OP "ha ha ha ha ha"

Gay Man "bye"

OP "bye"

What odd conversations you must have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think people have missed the point of this post! "

Care to elaborate then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that to some people being called gay is an insult, there is still a large section of society that considers being gay unmanly.

So therefore if they are approached and asked if they are gay, what they believe the person is really saying is you look unmanly.

This then illicites a violent response.

Is this a sign of insecurity in their own manhood possibly or it could be more a sign of small mindedness

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why are people asking if you're gay? I don't go up to women and ask if they're gay! It would matter anyway... Obviously I'd convert them...

Gay Man "hello"

OP" hello"

Gay Man "are you gay"

OP "no, but if that ever changes I will let you know"

Gay Man & OP "ha ha ha ha ha"

Gay Man "bye"

OP "bye"

What odd conversations you must have.

"

That was just an example to make a point, don't take it too literally, the point is, men who are aggressive toward other sexualities are struggling with their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are people asking if you're gay? I don't go up to women and ask if they're gay! It would matter anyway... Obviously I'd convert them...

Gay Man "hello"

OP" hello"

Gay Man "are you gay"

OP "no, but if that ever changes I will let you know"

Gay Man & OP "ha ha ha ha ha"

Gay Man "bye"

OP "bye"

What odd conversations you must have.

That was just an example to make a point, don't take it too literally, the point is, men who are aggressive toward other sexualities are struggling with their own."

Maybe, or they maybe small minded bigggots.

A lot of people use the expressions "gay, poof, fairy" as an insult

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Over the decades I've often been eyed up by gay men, and even asked if I'm gay by a few, I politely say, ' I'm not, but if that changes, I'll be in touch', we laugh and that's that, but I've seen some men get angry, abusive and physically violent when their sexuality is questioned. Why, if a man is so sure of his hetrosexuality, does he get so violent towards gay men, could it be that he isn't actually that sure, and fears exposure? Your thoughts please."

Some people are just nobs who can't handle things that are different.

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester


"No one on here has, I mean friends, relatives and people I've seen when I'm out, seems to be a lot of aggression towards gay men, doesn't make sense."

Well I have had aggression from lots of gay males, very supprising .

If you know someone is stright and you take it upon yourself to make advances toward them and you are gay then it's Russian roulette take your gamble but don't cry about being rejected.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I'm not gay enough, tbf...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seem to attract gay men. Im fully opposite though.

on one occasion this little fairy (and I say thatcos he was wearing a headband with antenna on and glittery fairy wings) sat on me knee at a manchester bar randomly. I flipped. No reason for it. I just flipped. Wasnt even d*unk.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"I seem to attract gay men. Im fully opposite though.

on one occasion this little fairy (and I say thatcos he was wearing a headband with antenna on and glittery fairy wings) sat on me knee at a manchester bar randomly. I flipped. No reason for it. I just flipped. Wasnt even d*unk."

Isn't that that kind of behaviour this thread is discussing?

#confused

And why did you feel it necessary to protect yr masculinity in this way?

Oh, and FYI 'this little fairy' is not the preferred nomenclature... dunno try 'gay man'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Over the decades I've often been eyed up by gay men, and even asked if I'm gay by a few, I politely say, ' I'm not, but if that changes, I'll be in touch', we laugh and that's that, but I've seen some men get angry, abusive and physically violent when their sexuality is questioned. Why, if a man is so sure of his hetrosexuality, does he get so violent towards gay men, could it be that he isn't actually that sure, and fears exposure? Your thoughts please."

Just means they've been brought up with ignorant views.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Over the decades I've often been eyed up by gay men, and even asked if I'm gay by a few, I politely say, ' I'm not, but if that changes, I'll be in touch', we laugh and that's that, but I've seen some men get angry, abusive and physically violent when their sexuality is questioned. Why, if a man is so sure of his hetrosexuality, does he get so violent towards gay men, could it be that he isn't actually that sure, and fears exposure? Your thoughts please.

Just means they've been brought up with ignorant views."

I'm talking about the violence side of things, a general rejection just means they're not interested. No need for violence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I chat to anyone. I don't expect them to have sex with me! "

I chat to anyone.. And have sex with anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know there are a lot of people on fab who are bi, and that's fine. But if some one initiates unwanted sexual attention then they should expect an adverse response.

This goes for straight men towards straight women.

Gay guys towards straight guys.

The only difference is that if it's a guy getting the unwanted attention he's likely to give a thick lip

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"I know there are a lot of people on fab who are bi, and that's fine. But if some one initiates unwanted sexual attention then they should expect an adverse response.

This goes for straight men towards straight women.

Gay guys towards straight guys.

The only difference is that if it's a guy getting the unwanted attention he's likely to give a thick lip"

*rolls eyes*

Sounds like a mature response to a situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seem to attract gay men. Im fully opposite though.

on one occasion this little fairy (and I say thatcos he was wearing a headband with antenna on and glittery fairy wings) sat on me knee at a manchester bar randomly. I flipped. No reason for it. I just flipped. Wasnt even d*unk.

Isn't that that kind of behaviour this thread is discussing?

#confused

And why did you feel it necessary to protect yr masculinity in this way?

Oh, and FYI 'this little fairy' is not the preferred nomenclature... dunno try 'gay man'? "

FYI ...

read my post properly. The lad was dressed like a fairy. Get off ya high horse bro. I merely made a comment from a past event. Im not a homophobe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seem to attract gay men. Im fully opposite though.

on one occasion this little fairy (and I say thatcos he was wearing a headband with antenna on and glittery fairy wings) sat on me knee at a manchester bar randomly. I flipped. No reason for it. I just flipped. Wasnt even d*unk."

Anyone would flip if someone just randomly sat on their lap

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"I seem to attract gay men. Im fully opposite though.

on one occasion this little fairy (and I say thatcos he was wearing a headband with antenna on and glittery fairy wings) sat on me knee at a manchester bar randomly. I flipped. No reason for it. I just flipped. Wasnt even d*unk.

Isn't that that kind of behaviour this thread is discussing?

#confused

And why did you feel it necessary to protect yr masculinity in this way?

Oh, and FYI 'this little fairy' is not the preferred nomenclature... dunno try 'gay man'?

FYI ...

read my post properly. The lad was dressed like a fairy. Get off ya high horse bro. I merely made a comment from a past event. Im not a homophobe."

He was 'dressed like a fairy' vs 'this little fairy'.

It's pretty diminutive at best and offensive at worst - like if I was to refer to you as 'some muscle mary'. You *might* look like that but then you *might* not like that description.

Language is a powerful thing. Careful how you use it.

*gets off high horse*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seem to attract gay men. Im fully opposite though.

on one occasion this little fairy (and I say thatcos he was wearing a headband with antenna on and glittery fairy wings) sat on me knee at a manchester bar randomly. I flipped. No reason for it. I just flipped. Wasnt even d*unk.

Isn't that that kind of behaviour this thread is discussing?

#confused

And why did you feel it necessary to protect yr masculinity in this way?

Oh, and FYI 'this little fairy' is not the preferred nomenclature... dunno try 'gay man'?

FYI ...

read my post properly. The lad was dressed like a fairy. Get off ya high horse bro. I merely made a comment from a past event. Im not a homophobe.

He was 'dressed like a fairy' vs 'this little fairy'.

It's pretty diminutive at best and offensive at worst - like if I was to refer to you as 'some muscle mary'. You *might* look like that but then you *might* not like that description.

Language is a powerful thing. Careful how you use it.

*gets off high horse*

"

fair play and in turn I'll just let my great grandad know that he fought in the war for nothing as my freedom continues to be disallowed.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"fair play and in turn I'll just let my great grandad know that he fought in the war for nothing as my freedom continues to be disallowed. "

My grandfather died at Auschwitz.

I find that remark highly offensive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know there are a lot of people on fab who are bi, and that's fine. But if some one initiates unwanted sexual attention then they should expect an adverse response.

This goes for straight men towards straight women.

Gay guys towards straight guys.

The only difference is that if it's a guy getting the unwanted attention he's likely to give a thick lip

*rolls eyes*

Sounds like a mature response to a situation

"

Roll your eyes as much as you like, but people (women as well as men) get defensive when faced by unwanted sexual advances.

You talk of freedom of expression, but what about freedom from sexual harassment

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Roll your eyes as much as you like, but people (women as well as men) get defensive when faced by unwanted sexual advances.

You talk of freedom of expression, but what about freedom from sexual harassment "

If a woman came on to you in an unwanted way, would you think it acceptable to 'give her a thick lip'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is their own insecurities x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck me if I turned violent every time I received an unwanted sexual advance I would have been in prison for some time. Get a grip.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"fair play and in turn I'll just let my great grandad know that he fought in the war for nothing as my freedom continues to be disallowed.

My grandfather died at Auschwitz.

I find that remark highly offensive. "

Turn it in mate.

That's like me saying my great grandad would find it offensive that I cant express my freedom of speech.

its like you want a row. Have a minute a make your tea or something. Fuckin hell.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Fuck me if I turned violent every time I received an unwanted sexual advance I would have been in prison for some time. Get a grip."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just about as blind to gay advances as to female advances. Once had a wonderful night with this stranger (guy) that I bumped into in a pub. We hit it off and had tonnes of laughs together... that was until he asked me if I wanted to come to the loos with him. I naively looked puzzled and repeated the question, utterly mythed as to why I would want to go to the loos with a male friend. Then the penny dropped lol After that, unsurprisingly, things weren't quite the same, although there was only embarassment on my behalf no friction... it turns out my new friend was out looking to get some action and I didn't really qualify

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seem to attract gay men. Im fully opposite though.

on one occasion this little fairy (and I say thatcos he was wearing a headband with antenna on and glittery fairy wings) sat on me knee at a manchester bar randomly. I flipped. No reason for it. I just flipped. Wasnt even d*unk.

Anyone would flip if someone just randomly sat on their lap"

I wouldnt be too impressed if a pissed woman did it also to be fair

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"fair play and in turn I'll just let my great grandad know that he fought in the war for nothing as my freedom continues to be disallowed.

My grandfather died at Auschwitz.

I find that remark highly offensive.

Turn it in mate.

That's like me saying my great grandad would find it offensive that I cant express my freedom of speech.

its like you want a row. Have a minute a make your tea or something. Fuckin hell."

I'm just saying I think your reaction was inappropriate.

There is 'freedom to' and then there is 'freedom from'. Your freedom of speech does not include the right to verbally or physically attack people.

And a big, strong man, secure in his own sexuality you should have no problems with this.

Relax.

Breath deeply.

Let all the negativity flow away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Over the decades I've often been eyed up by gay men, and even asked if I'm gay by a few, I politely say, ' I'm not, but if that changes, I'll be in touch', we laugh and that's that, but I've seen some men get angry, abusive and physically violent when their sexuality is questioned. Why, if a man is so sure of his hetrosexuality, does he get so violent towards gay men, could it be that he isn't actually that sure, and fears exposure? Your thoughts please."

Grunching here.

The person getting aggressive may have had a bad childhood experience and a man coming on to them may trigger an aggressive response.

Never criticize a man until you've walked a mile in his moccasins.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seem to attract gay men. Im fully opposite though.

on one occasion this little fairy (and I say thatcos he was wearing a headband with antenna on and glittery fairy wings) sat on me knee at a manchester bar randomly. I flipped. No reason for it. I just flipped. Wasnt even d*unk.

Anyone would flip if someone just randomly sat on their lap

I wouldnt be too impressed if a pissed woman did it also to be fair "

quite right too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"fair play and in turn I'll just let my great grandad know that he fought in the war for nothing as my freedom continues to be disallowed.

My grandfather died at Auschwitz.

I find that remark highly offensive.

Turn it in mate.

That's like me saying my great grandad would find it offensive that I cant express my freedom of speech.

its like you want a row. Have a minute a make your tea or something. Fuckin hell.

I'm just saying I think your reaction was inappropriate.

There is 'freedom to' and then there is 'freedom from'. Your freedom of speech does not include the right to verbally or physically attack people.

And a big, strong man, secure in his own sexuality you should have no problems with this.

Relax.

Breath deeply.

Let all the negativity flow away.

"

I jumped up....he fell off my knee. I went mad.

I wonder if your statement would be the same if I sat on a womans knee pissed up and atarted breathing perversely down here ear.

Very much doubt you'd tell the woman she was acting inappropriate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seem to attract gay men. Im fully opposite though.

on one occasion this little fairy (and I say thatcos he was wearing a headband with antenna on and glittery fairy wings) sat on me knee at a manchester bar randomly. I flipped. No reason for it. I just flipped. Wasnt even d*unk.

Anyone would flip if someone just randomly sat on their lap

I wouldnt be too impressed if a pissed woman did it also to be fair "

And I'm "not too impressed" if someone of either sex comes on to me in an inappropriate way either, on other threads this has made me a raging feminist harpy, apparently.

But the way to react to it is not violence or threat of violence, that's not ok, just as it's not ok for anyone to make persistent unwanted sexual advances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Roll your eyes as much as you like, but people (women as well as men) get defensive when faced by unwanted sexual advances.

You talk of freedom of expression, but what about freedom from sexual harassment

If a woman came on to you in an unwanted way, would you think it acceptable to 'give her a thick lip'?"

Personally I wouldn't get violent with anyone, I never said it was acceptable to give some one a thick lip. But this is the real world it's not fluffy and safe some people are violent and that's a fact

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"I jumped up....he fell off my knee. I went mad.

I wonder if your statement would be the same if I sat on a womans knee pissed up and atarted breathing perversely down here ear.

Very much doubt you'd tell the woman she was acting inappropriate"

Think I would... If you're out of line, trust me, I'll say so.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Personally I wouldn't get violent with anyone, I never said it was acceptable to give some one a thick lip. But this is the real world it's not fluffy and safe some people are violent and that's a fact"

Pretty sure you wrote "The only difference is that if it's a guy getting the unwanted attention he's likely to give a thick lip"

And I spent 10 years working with difficult, disturbing and sometimes dangerous behaviour in London. Mental health, drugs and drink.

I'm quite aware that the world isn't a fluffy place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Laugh it off or call their bluff.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Laugh it off or call their bluff."

Ah! Levity!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Laugh it off or call their bluff.

Ah! Levity! "

The penultimate resort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well thanks for clearing that up _iamondjoe ill be sure to consult you prior to loosing my rag when im feeling uncomfortable for whatever reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I wouldn't get violent with anyone, I never said it was acceptable to give some one a thick lip. But this is the real world it's not fluffy and safe some people are violent and that's a fact

Pretty sure you wrote "The only difference is that if it's a guy getting the unwanted attention he's likely to give a thick lip""

I did write that but I can clarify, if it's a guy getting unwanted attention from another guy.

It still doesn't make it right tho

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Well thanks for clearing that up _iamondjoe ill be sure to consult you prior to loosing my rag when im feeling uncomfortable for whatever reason"

Finally off the same page. Good man.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"I did write that but I can clarify, if it's a guy getting unwanted attention from another guy.

It still doesn't make it right tho"

Agreed, it doesn't make it right. But the sex of the person is irrelevant.

I usually find a firm 'No thank you', hand on arm and fixed look in the eye works just fine.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"

There is 'freedom to' and then there is 'freedom from'. Your freedom of speech does not include the right to verbally or physically attack people.

"

Telling someone to take a hike after they sat on your knee uninvited is acceptable for me. Ok I might control how I said it ( I say might as I don't know for sure )but I would still be saying this is my space, get out of it

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"

I wonder if your statement would be the same if I sat on a womans knee pissed up and atarted breathing perversely down here ear.

Very much doubt you'd tell the woman she was acting inappropriate"

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"

There is 'freedom to' and then there is 'freedom from'. Your freedom of speech does not include the right to verbally or physically attack people.

Telling someone to take a hike after they sat on your knee uninvited is acceptable for me. Ok I might control how I said it ( I say might as I don't know for sure )but I would still be saying this is my space, get out of it "

Doesn't mean you have to be an offended macho cock about it tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I get eyed up by a gay guy I just laugh and think to myself...."yep you've still got it " or sometimes I think" I'm just irresistible to both genders"..lool

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"

There is 'freedom to' and then there is 'freedom from'. Your freedom of speech does not include the right to verbally or physically attack people.

Telling someone to take a hike after they sat on your knee uninvited is acceptable for me. Ok I might control how I said it ( I say might as I don't know for sure )but I would still be saying this is my space, get out of it

Doesn't mean you have to be an offended macho cock about it tho"

I have never been described as a macho cock before....but I can do what I wanted if someone invaded my space.

I would like to think I would be calm about it, but I wasn't when a man grabbed my boob.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Over the decades I've often been eyed up by gay men, and even asked if I'm gay by a few, I politely say, ' I'm not, but if that changes, I'll be in touch', we laugh and that's that, but I've seen some men get angry, abusive and physically violent when their sexuality is questioned. Why, if a man is so sure of his hetrosexuality, does he get so violent towards gay men, could it be that he isn't actually that sure, and fears exposure? Your thoughts please."

My people have a saying "where intelligence stops, violence starts". Some men don't understand male homosexuality and are frightened by what they don't understand. I would imagine the kind of men that get violent toward the idea of gay contact are the kind of men who have difficulty sitting on a toilet the right way round.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"

There is 'freedom to' and then there is 'freedom from'. Your freedom of speech does not include the right to verbally or physically attack people.

Telling someone to take a hike after they sat on your knee uninvited is acceptable for me. Ok I might control how I said it ( I say might as I don't know for sure )but I would still be saying this is my space, get out of it

Doesn't mean you have to be an offended macho cock about it tho

I have never been described as a macho cock before....but I can do what I wanted if someone invaded my space.

I would like to think I would be calm about it, but I wasn't when a man grabbed my boob. "

Fair dos

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