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Orgasms...letting go

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've just been laying in bed reading about orgasms (as you do)

I found this passage and I think it's ace...

"The ability to reach orgasm happens mostly in the mind. It is difficult to reach orgasm if you are feeling pressured to orgasm, guilt or shame about sex. Having an orgasm requires “letting go” into the pleasure. If you are worried about what your mother might think or what a priest said about shame, then an orgasm may be difficult to achieve. You need to give yourself permission to have an orgasm in order to have one."

Do you agree?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I've just been laying in bed reading about orgasms (as you do)

I found this passage and I think it's ace...

"The ability to reach orgasm happens mostly in the mind. It is difficult to reach orgasm if you are feeling pressured to orgasm, guilt or shame about sex. Having an orgasm requires “letting go” into the pleasure. If you are worried about what your mother might think or what a priest said about shame, then an orgasm may be difficult to achieve. You need to give yourself permission to have an orgasm in order to have one."

Do you agree?"

Yes but it sounds like it was written by an ex nun in the fifties.

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By *abloversCouple
over a year ago

London

I agree it's about letting go and it's very much in the mind..... However the magic wand on my clit , whilst being fucked and sucking on another cock seems to do the trick too lol

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"

Yes but it sounds like it was written by an ex nun in the fifties."

Oooh a sexy Nun, now there's a fantasy

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes sort of I suppose as it is all about letting go and I don't so have never orgasmed but no idea why

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You've never orgasmed???

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"You've never orgasmed??? "

That's what she said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It definately is.

I agree with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've never orgasmed??? "

Nope but I am not alone either as quite a few on here haven't, no big deal, can't miss what you haven't had

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No cuz at times blokes try not to cum but do

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I bet you get sick of messages saying 'you haven't tried me' or 'I could make you' ?

I hope one day you experience one x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had an ex who wouldn't allow herself to. I know the reason why but not something I'd share. However she is still the best fuck I've ever had and was absolutely filthy.

So yes it is in the mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I bet you get sick of messages saying 'you haven't tried me' or 'I could make you' ?

I hope one day you experience one x

"

If that is aimed at me, I tell few and yes you are right, some guys are so arrogant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought this thread was about the Disney film frozen? Let it go let it go.............?

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

Yes it isn't going to happen if you're thinking.."Now did I leave the iron on?"...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is much easier to 'let go' when you know and trust your partner. That is why I find one off meets less satisfying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've never orgasmed???

Nope but I am not alone either as quite a few on here haven't, no big deal, can't miss what you haven't had"

I'm in that club too..doesn't mean I can't have an amazing time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very few men can make me orgasm.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

I think whoever wrote it making excuses for guys across the country right there OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The op is quite correct .

While it is possible to cum without letting go for a guy from sheer physical stimulation , it's a bloody sight easier and more satisfying to let go .

Way too many guys seem to think it's the wrong thing to do , and deliberately hold back . Thereby prolonging the play , but resisting the orgasm . This may be good if the lady wants a long session , but it crap if she doesn't .

So depending on the type of play , the ability to let go and experience the ultimate orgasm , or to hold back and maybe not cum at at all is entirely your choice . We know which we prefer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me an orgasm needs concentration, I'm not easily made to cum. I envy women who find it easy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've never orgasmed ever or a man has never made you orgasm? A man has never made me orgasm! But I can make myself orgasm.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

One lady let go after an orgasm. .. Had to open the window

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"I've just been laying in bed reading about orgasms (as you do)

I found this passage and I think it's ace...

"The ability to reach orgasm happens mostly in the mind. It is difficult to reach orgasm if you are feeling pressured to orgasm, guilt or shame about sex. Having an orgasm requires “letting go” into the pleasure. If you are worried about what your mother might think or what a priest said about shame, then an orgasm may be difficult to achieve. You need to give yourself permission to have an orgasm in order to have one."

Do you agree?"

Not really...

Never been made to cum by another person?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"I've just been laying in bed reading about orgasms (as you do)

I found this passage and I think it's ace...

"The ability to reach orgasm happens mostly in the mind. It is difficult to reach orgasm if you are feeling pressured to orgasm, guilt or shame about sex. Having an orgasm requires “letting go” into the pleasure. If you are worried about what your mother might think or what a priest said about shame, then an orgasm may be difficult to achieve. You need to give yourself permission to have an orgasm in order to have one."

Do you agree?

Not really...

Never been made to cum by another person?"

A woman / bloke has never brought you off???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've never orgasmed ever or a man has never made you orgasm? A man has never made me orgasm! But I can make myself orgasm. "

Use the quote button to comment on a post that way we know who you are responding to.

But if it was me and the other lady? No I haven't, I once came very close to cumming with my ex but stopped it as didn't want him to be my first. On my own however, I have some really good ones more so when I am home alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just been laying in bed reading about orgasms (as you do)

I found this passage and I think it's ace...

"The ability to reach orgasm happens mostly in the mind. It is difficult to reach orgasm if you are feeling pressured to orgasm, guilt or shame about sex. Having an orgasm requires “letting go” into the pleasure. If you are worried about what your mother might think or what a priest said about shame, then an orgasm may be difficult to achieve. You need to give yourself permission to have an orgasm in order to have one."

Do you agree?

Not really...

Never been made to cum by another person?"

Nor me

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"I've just been laying in bed reading about orgasms (as you do)

I found this passage and I think it's ace...

"The ability to reach orgasm happens mostly in the mind. It is difficult to reach orgasm if you are feeling pressured to orgasm, guilt or shame about sex. Having an orgasm requires “letting go” into the pleasure. If you are worried about what your mother might think or what a priest said about shame, then an orgasm may be difficult to achieve. You need to give yourself permission to have an orgasm in order to have one."

Do you agree?

Not really...

Never been made to cum by another person?

Nor me"

Really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've never orgasmed ever or a man has never made you orgasm? A man has never made me orgasm! But I can make myself orgasm.

Use the quote button to comment on a post that way we know who you are responding to.

But if it was me and the other lady? No I haven't, I once came very close to cumming with my ex but stopped it as didn't want him to be my first. On my own however, I have some really good ones more so when I am home alone "

I don't have orgasms with meets either. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've never orgasmed ever or a man has never made you orgasm? A man has never made me orgasm! But I can make myself orgasm.

Use the quote button to comment on a post that way we know who you are responding to.

But if it was me and the other lady? No I haven't, I once came very close to cumming with my ex but stopped it as didn't want him to be my first. On my own however, I have some really good ones more so when I am home alone

I don't have orgasms with meets either. x"

I don't have orgasms 9nor cum) full stop be it a meet or boyfriend

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By *atcherofmyballsMan
over a year ago

hereford


"I've just been laying in bed reading about orgasms (as you do)

I found this passage and I think it's ace...

"The ability to reach orgasm happens mostly in the mind. It is difficult to reach orgasm if you are feeling pressured to orgasm, guilt or shame about sex. Having an orgasm requires “letting go” into the pleasure. If you are worried about what your mother might think or what a priest said about shame, then an orgasm may be difficult to achieve. You need to give yourself permission to have an orgasm in order to have one."

Do you agree?

Not really...

Never been made to cum by another person?

Nor me

Really?

"

Nobody has made me cum in the last 20 years. Weather its coz the sex has not been as good as with previous ladies or for some other reason I'm unsure, but I've had to finish myself off which is a bit frustrating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have only ever cum from oral once and until yesterday through penetration once and yes its definitely down to mindset

Yesterday I was with my Fb and I just feel so at ease with him and he got me into a really nice position and wow its soooo different from a clitoral orgasm but was amazing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very rarely cum on meets, but just accept that's the way it is.

Sex for me is all in the mind. To be able to make someone cum without any physical stimulation is mind blowing.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"I've just been laying in bed reading about orgasms (as you do)

I found this passage and I think it's ace...

"The ability to reach orgasm happens mostly in the mind. It is difficult to reach orgasm if you are feeling pressured to orgasm, guilt or shame about sex. Having an orgasm requires “letting go” into the pleasure. If you are worried about what your mother might think or what a priest said about shame, then an orgasm may be difficult to achieve. You need to give yourself permission to have an orgasm in order to have one."

Do you agree?

Not really...

Never been made to cum by another person?"

Being 'made to cum by another person' wouldn't negate what the OP's post said. It's still just as much in the mind of the person concerned.

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich


"I've just been laying in bed reading about orgasms (as you do)

I found this passage and I think it's ace...

"The ability to reach orgasm happens mostly in the mind. It is difficult to reach orgasm if you are feeling pressured to orgasm, guilt or shame about sex. Having an orgasm requires “letting go” into the pleasure. If you are worried about what your mother might think or what a priest said about shame, then an orgasm may be difficult to achieve. You need to give yourself permission to have an orgasm in order to have one."

Do you agree?"

Yes.

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By *lligator3Man
over a year ago

Dundee

I deliberately don't let one go during sex, real mood killer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I very rarely cum on meets, but just accept that's the way it is.

Sex for me is all in the mind. To be able to make someone cum without any physical stimulation is mind blowing. "

Hardly surprising you don't cum on meets if there's no physical stimulation

On a more serious note , is it actually possible to cum with absolutely no physical contact ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I very rarely cum on meets, but just accept that's the way it is.

Sex for me is all in the mind. To be able to make someone cum without any physical stimulation is mind blowing.

Hardly surprising you don't cum on meets if there's no physical stimulation

On a more serious note , is it actually possible to cum with absolutely no physical contact ?"

I'm naturally more of a giver which is probably why I don't cum on meets.

And to answer your question - yes, absolutely. I'd rather do that to someone than cum myself.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

I find it very difficult to push myself over the edge with someone, I get so close but my brain stops it happening! I think there are 5 or 6 people in the "Made Rhia Cum" club.

If someone else uses something vibrating then it will happen, but it's just not as satisfying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's too much pressure put upon orgasms!! I really enjoy sex, not just the penetration.

I rarely orgasm, but always enjoy myself

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

I agree with the quote. I only cum with a very small number of men, most I don't with though. It's mix of reasons but I won't or can't let go is a key one, can also be they don't give me enough time before moving onto their own pleasure or don't have the skills to know what buttons to press. Sometimes I'm just in the mood to fuck so it's fine and if not enough time I find another one...and sometimes another two...

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"I've just been laying in bed reading about orgasms (as you do)

I found this passage and I think it's ace...

"The ability to reach orgasm happens mostly in the mind. It is difficult to reach orgasm if you are feeling pressured to orgasm, guilt or shame about sex. Having an orgasm requires “letting go” into the pleasure. If you are worried about what your mother might think or what a priest said about shame, then an orgasm may be difficult to achieve. You need to give yourself permission to have an orgasm in order to have one."

Do you agree?

Yes but it sounds like it was written by an ex nun in the fifties."

Surely it wasn't your work Gran?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"I very rarely cum on meets, but just accept that's the way it is.

Sex for me is all in the mind. To be able to make someone cum without any physical stimulation is mind blowing.

Hardly surprising you don't cum on meets if there's no physical stimulation

On a more serious note , is it actually possible to cum with absolutely no physical contact ?"

Yes..

just say the gold credit card is all yours my sweet as you walk into Gucci, Prada etc..

was very pleasantly surprised as a young man when a partner had a small orgasm from nipple play alone..

i said if its that exciting you can stroke my cock too..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I find it very difficult to push myself over the edge with someone, I get so close but my brain stops it happening! I think there are 5 or 6 people in the "Made Rhia Cum" club.

If someone else uses something vibrating then it will happen, but it's just not as satisfying!"

I can so relate to this..

Sometimes I get so close but something happens in my brain and the feeling goes away instantly. I have to really really concentrate to then get back to that point.

Once I get to the point of no return, when I know I won't lose it, I'm soooo relieved and can fully let go into orgasmic bliss. I'm gone then, utterly spent, and will need a few minutes before I can function again! Or go for another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I very rarely cum on meets, but just accept that's the way it is.

Sex for me is all in the mind. To be able to make someone cum without any physical stimulation is mind blowing.

Hardly surprising you don't cum on meets if there's no physical stimulation

On a more serious note , is it actually possible to cum with absolutely no physical contact ?"

Apparently in dom/sub relationships, the sub learns to be able to cum when her Master says

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains


"I find it very difficult to push myself over the edge with someone, I get so close but my brain stops it happening! I think there are 5 or 6 people in the "Made Rhia Cum" club.

If someone else uses something vibrating then it will happen, but it's just not as satisfying!

I can so relate to this..

Sometimes I get so close but something happens in my brain and the feeling goes away instantly. I have to really really concentrate to then get back to that point.

Once I get to the point of no return, when I know I won't lose it, I'm soooo relieved and can fully let go into orgasmic bliss. I'm gone then, utterly spent, and will need a few minutes before I can function again! Or go for another "

Yup I have to just concentrate on the warm feeling building inside me and I have to use my brain to imagine physically radiating it out and through my body! Sounds daft but that's how it feels!

I think the fact mine are so difficult to achieve means they are more intense, silver lining and all that

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Having a big cock usually helps

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