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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile doesn't really tell us much.

No pica no details and did you tick every option?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good profile sell yourself well and be patient

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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago

Bury/Bolton

Well from our experience most do what you've done, which is come on here and ask the question, they don't usually come back so there must be some good advice handed out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets?? "

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is brief and generic. What have you got on there to grab people's attention?

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets?? "

Be single, tall, handsome, gym-fit, intelligent, educated, wealthy, have a sense of humour and well-endowed

Other qualities are not so important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key!!!!!!

Oh and holding a decent conversation always helps as well ........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Update your profile & add some more public pics.

Join in the forums & maybe attend a club / socials.

Get yourself known & don't just rely on fabs for fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Be single, tall, handsome, gym-fit, intelligent, educated, wealthy, have a sense of humour and well-endowed

Other qualities are not so important "

Hmmmmm maybe I should change my age preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on...."

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I call it the h factor

Honesty

Humour

Hung like a horse*

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.display these in your messages and profile to get meets.

The third* is for a guy called views personal pleasure only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on..."

Afraid so ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well from our experience most do what you've done, which is come on here and ask the question, they don't usually come back so there must be some good advice handed out "

UNLOS rarely come back..... Many on here do not take the advice...continue to fail and leave.

Don't be one of them....take the advice, build your profile to suit you...be clear on what you offer and what you seek. Do have a few more pics. Don't message randomly...tailor messages to the profiles that suit you and that you suit them.

Think about clubs or socials?

Post a meet and wait for folks to contact you.

Feel free to check my profile (yours will be different to reflect YOU) but it works for me with lots of meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Change your underwear,at least daily.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You - Op = sound promising and the pic looks good, but I'd need to see more if I were to arrange a meet with you. You seriously could fit the bill, but I'm guessing that most users won't rush to send you requests for pics, if there's someone else that they can see who does fit the bill,without them needing to do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

Afraid so ...

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Utter bollocks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put yourself in the shoes of who will be looking at your profile. Let's say a couple looking for a male for an mmf...

Ok, so we look and we see a little bit of descriptive text that doesn't really tell us much.

If we want to see more photos we have to ask. Well no to that, when you have to ask and it's not what you're looking for it creates an awkward situation, so we don't bother.

So, let's look at the one and only public photo. A guy on a bike with headwear that covers everything, so might as well look at a manikin in a biker shop.

Not a difficult decision to pass on to the next.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets?? "

For a start, may i suggest you quit whining about not getting meets and suffer in silence like the rest of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need patience lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

Afraid so ...

Utter bollocks "

Typical response but that's why your an add on ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

Afraid so ...

Utter bollocks

Typical response but that's why your an add on ...."

Ah...your the ones who decide who's what I guess?

Sorry....I didn't realise....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

Afraid so ...

Utter bollocks

Typical response but that's why your an add on ....

Ah...your the ones who decide who's what I guess?

Sorry....I didn't realise...."

Not at all. Fact is only a small percentage of swinging couples will be interested in single men. Good luck with the single women on here too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

Afraid so ...

Utter bollocks

Typical response but that's why your an add on ....

Ah...your the ones who decide who's what I guess?

Sorry....I didn't realise...."

Are single ladies an add on,or is that exclusive to single guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

Afraid so ...

Utter bollocks

Typical response but that's why your an add on ....

Ah...your the ones who decide who's what I guess?

Sorry....I didn't realise...."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

Afraid so ...

Utter bollocks

Typical response but that's why your an add on ....

Ah...your the ones who decide who's what I guess?

Sorry....I didn't realise....

Not at all. Fact is only a small percentage of swinging couples will be interested in single men. Good luck with the single women on here too."

I've been in a couple on here and been a single, fact is for me, it's much more effective being a single...had way less interest when in a couple so what you say doesn't stack up at all in my experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

Afraid so ...

Utter bollocks

Typical response but that's why your an add on ....

Ah...your the ones who decide who's what I guess?

Sorry....I didn't realise....

Not at all. Fact is only a small percentage of swinging couples will be interested in single men. Good luck with the single women on here too.

I've been in a couple on here and been a single, fact is for me, it's much more effective being a single...had way less interest when in a couple so what you say doesn't stack up at all in my experience. "

Well we can only express our view. Websites and those clubs that admit single men tend to over charge them and restrict there numbers at events. As stated most couples are looking for other couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

Afraid so ...

Utter bollocks

Typical response but that's why your an add on ....

Ah...your the ones who decide who's what I guess?

Sorry....I didn't realise....

Not at all. Fact is only a small percentage of swinging couples will be interested in single men. Good luck with the single women on here too.

I've been in a couple on here and been a single, fact is for me, it's much more effective being a single...had way less interest when in a couple so what you say doesn't stack up at all in my experience.

Well we can only express our view. Websites and those clubs that admit single men tend to over charge them and restrict there numbers at events. As stated most couples are looking for other couples."

Dunno, don't really do clubs...never needed to really. And that may be, but there are still plenty of couples and other singles who like singles so it's not a worry of mine.

Doesn't matter who or what you are, there will be someone who wants you and plenty who don't....but we all swing, so lets not divide ourselves up and call each other add ons or whatever, just having a partner doesn't make you some higher tier than me or the other singles on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

Afraid so ...

Utter bollocks

Typical response but that's why your an add on ....

Ah...your the ones who decide who's what I guess?

Sorry....I didn't realise....

Not at all. Fact is only a small percentage of swinging couples will be interested in single men. Good luck with the single women on here too.

I've been in a couple on here and been a single, fact is for me, it's much more effective being a single...had way less interest when in a couple so what you say doesn't stack up at all in my experience.

Well we can only express our view. Websites and those clubs that admit single men tend to over charge them and restrict there numbers at events. As stated most couples are looking for other couples.

Dunno, don't really do clubs...never needed to really. And that may be, but there are still plenty of couples and other singles who like singles so it's not a worry of mine.

Doesn't matter who or what you are, there will be someone who wants you and plenty who don't....but we all swing, so lets not divide ourselves up and call each other add ons or whatever, just having a partner doesn't make you some higher tier than me or the other singles on here. "

This single guy (christos) is bloody lovely, easy on the eyes as well as being a really nice person, he will never struggle for meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

Afraid so ...

Utter bollocks

Typical response but that's why your an add on ....

Ah...your the ones who decide who's what I guess?

Sorry....I didn't realise....

Not at all. Fact is only a small percentage of swinging couples will be interested in single men. Good luck with the single women on here too.

I've been in a couple on here and been a single, fact is for me, it's much more effective being a single...had way less interest when in a couple so what you say doesn't stack up at all in my experience.

Well we can only express our view. Websites and those clubs that admit single men tend to over charge them and restrict there numbers at events. As stated most couples are looking for other couples.

Dunno, don't really do clubs...never needed to really. And that may be, but there are still plenty of couples and other singles who like singles so it's not a worry of mine.

Doesn't matter who or what you are, there will be someone who wants you and plenty who don't....but we all swing, so lets not divide ourselves up and call each other add ons or whatever, just having a partner doesn't make you some higher tier than me or the other singles on here.

This single guy (christos) is bloody lovely, easy on the eyes as well as being a really nice person, he will never struggle for meets. "

There you go Christos sorted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

Afraid so ...

Utter bollocks

Typical response but that's why your an add on ....

Ah...your the ones who decide who's what I guess?

Sorry....I didn't realise....

Not at all. Fact is only a small percentage of swinging couples will be interested in single men. Good luck with the single women on here too.

I've been in a couple on here and been a single, fact is for me, it's much more effective being a single...had way less interest when in a couple so what you say doesn't stack up at all in my experience.

Well we can only express our view. Websites and those clubs that admit single men tend to over charge them and restrict there numbers at events. As stated most couples are looking for other couples.

Dunno, don't really do clubs...never needed to really. And that may be, but there are still plenty of couples and other singles who like singles so it's not a worry of mine.

Doesn't matter who or what you are, there will be someone who wants you and plenty who don't....but we all swing, so lets not divide ourselves up and call each other add ons or whatever, just having a partner doesn't make you some higher tier than me or the other singles on here.

This single guy (christos) is bloody lovely, easy on the eyes as well as being a really nice person, he will never struggle for meets.

There you go Christos sorted "

Would be very happy to see this guy again! Shame he's so far away!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

Afraid so ...

Utter bollocks

Typical response but that's why your an add on ...."

Someone's sharpened their kitty cat claws....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

Afraid so ...

Utter bollocks

Typical response but that's why your an add on ....

Ah...your the ones who decide who's what I guess?

Sorry....I didn't realise....

Not at all. Fact is only a small percentage of swinging couples will be interested in single men. Good luck with the single women on here too.

I've been in a couple on here and been a single, fact is for me, it's much more effective being a single...had way less interest when in a couple so what you say doesn't stack up at all in my experience.

Well we can only express our view. Websites and those clubs that admit single men tend to over charge them and restrict there numbers at events. As stated most couples are looking for other couples.

Dunno, don't really do clubs...never needed to really. And that may be, but there are still plenty of couples and other singles who like singles so it's not a worry of mine.

Doesn't matter who or what you are, there will be someone who wants you and plenty who don't....but we all swing, so lets not divide ourselves up and call each other add ons or whatever, just having a partner doesn't make you some higher tier than me or the other singles on here.

This single guy (christos) is bloody lovely, easy on the eyes as well as being a really nice person, he will never struggle for meets.

There you go Christos sorted

Would be very happy to see this guy again! Shame he's so far away! "

Now you just made me but thankyou! Xx

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on...."

Its hard for single guys keep going and trying andaybe in a year or so you will have a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

Afraid so ...

Utter bollocks

Typical response but that's why your an add on ....

Ah...your the ones who decide who's what I guess?

Sorry....I didn't realise....

Not at all. Fact is only a small percentage of swinging couples will be interested in single men. Good luck with the single women on here too.

I've been in a couple on here and been a single, fact is for me, it's much more effective being a single...had way less interest when in a couple so what you say doesn't stack up at all in my experience.

Well we can only express our view. Websites and those clubs that admit single men tend to over charge them and restrict there numbers at events. As stated most couples are looking for other couples."

Why the need to be so rude? And if you're not trying to be rude, you're coming off that way anyway (at least to me). We meet singles, both men and women, and we certainly don't view them as "add ons." It is a mutually beneficial situation. And while many couples are looking for other couples, many are looking for single as well...especially single women! Please don't say you are only expressing your view, then spout off what most other couples are looking for. We don't see anyone as an add on and wouldn't talk about other humans we want to have sex with like that.

-Courtney

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i just find it interesting they never did answer the question whether single women were merely an add on as well....

just an observation.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

Afraid so ...

Utter bollocks

Typical response but that's why your an add on ....

Ah...your the ones who decide who's what I guess?

Sorry....I didn't realise....

Not at all. Fact is only a small percentage of swinging couples will be interested in single men. Good luck with the single women on here too.

I've been in a couple on here and been a single, fact is for me, it's much more effective being a single...had way less interest when in a couple so what you say doesn't stack up at all in my experience.

Well we can only express our view. Websites and those clubs that admit single men tend to over charge them and restrict there numbers at events. As stated most couples are looking for other couples.

Why the need to be so rude? And if you're not trying to be rude, you're coming off that way anyway (at least to me). We meet singles, both men and women, and we certainly don't view them as "add ons." It is a mutually beneficial situation. And while many couples are looking for other couples, many are looking for single as well...especially single women! Please don't say you are only expressing your view, then spout off what most other couples are looking for. We don't see anyone as an add on and wouldn't talk about other humans we want to have sex with like that.

-Courtney"

No intention to appear rude and apologises if it came across that way. We base our view on over 15 years in the scene, having run a swingers venue and managed a website. We think single guys get a rough deal but some don't help themselves with attitude and over expectation.

We do maintain though that the majority of couples seek other couples and the origin of swingers came from 'wife swappers'.

As for single ladies they used to be called Unicorns as they were rare but that was before it became trendy to call yourself a swinger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

Afraid so ...

Utter bollocks

Typical response but that's why your an add on ....

Ah...your the ones who decide who's what I guess?

Sorry....I didn't realise....

Not at all. Fact is only a small percentage of swinging couples will be interested in single men. Good luck with the single women on here too.

I've been in a couple on here and been a single, fact is for me, it's much more effective being a single...had way less interest when in a couple so what you say doesn't stack up at all in my experience.

Well we can only express our view. Websites and those clubs that admit single men tend to over charge them and restrict there numbers at events. As stated most couples are looking for other couples.

Why the need to be so rude? And if you're not trying to be rude, you're coming off that way anyway (at least to me). We meet singles, both men and women, and we certainly don't view them as "add ons." It is a mutually beneficial situation. And while many couples are looking for other couples, many are looking for single as well...especially single women! Please don't say you are only expressing your view, then spout off what most other couples are looking for. We don't see anyone as an add on and wouldn't talk about other humans we want to have sex with like that.

-Courtney

No intention to appear rude and apologises if it came across that way. We base our view on over 15 years in the scene, having run a swingers venue and managed a website. We think single guys get a rough deal but some don't help themselves with attitude and over expectation.

We do maintain though that the majority of couples seek other couples and the origin of swingers came from 'wife swappers'.

As for single ladies they used to be called Unicorns as they were rare but that was before it became trendy to call yourself a swinger "

I'm not a swinger and not afraid to say it. It's old people who live in the past hanging onto the Swinger ideal,when it's really just people having sex with others in a non-monogamous situation. It's not really accepted to call a club a sex club or a site a sex site,even though the ultimate outcome is to find other people to have sex with. Dress is up how you want,if it makes you feel better about it,call it socialising with a happy ending,but it's sex. Get out of the past and step into the modern world. You don't have to meet single people,you can avoid places that don't let them in,leave sites who encourage single people to fornicate,if it offends you to be associated with them. If they class themselves as swingers that is their prerogative,not your call to tell them they aren't. Incidentally,how much did you make from charging non-swingers to access your swinging venue and websites? I bet that pained you to take their money.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


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No intention to appear rude and apologises if it came across that way. We base our view on over 15 years in the scene, having run a swingers venue and managed a website. We think single guys get a rough deal but some don't help themselves with attitude and over expectation.

We do maintain though that the majority of couples seek other couples and the origin of swingers came from 'wife swappers'.

As for single ladies they used to be called Unicorns as they were rare but that was before it became trendy to call yourself a swinger "

I realise that you are comparatively new to swinging, so I'll forgive your ignorance!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this one of those red pill or blue pill situations? I wouldn't stress over it. It's a lovely sunny day. Happy happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't listen to any of the above advice!

Start wearing knickers and stockings and you'll be flooded with meets

Probably from single guys but hey, beggars can't be choosers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

Afraid so ...

Utter bollocks

Typical response but that's why your an add on ....

Ah...your the ones who decide who's what I guess?

Sorry....I didn't realise....

Not at all. Fact is only a small percentage of swinging couples will be interested in single men. Good luck with the single women on here too.

I've been in a couple on here and been a single, fact is for me, it's much more effective being a single...had way less interest when in a couple so what you say doesn't stack up at all in my experience.

Well we can only express our view. Websites and those clubs that admit single men tend to over charge them and restrict there numbers at events. As stated most couples are looking for other couples.

Why the need to be so rude? And if you're not trying to be rude, you're coming off that way anyway (at least to me). We meet singles, both men and women, and we certainly don't view them as "add ons." It is a mutually beneficial situation. And while many couples are looking for other couples, many are looking for single as well...especially single women! Please don't say you are only expressing your view, then spout off what most other couples are looking for. We don't see anyone as an add on and wouldn't talk about other humans we want to have sex with like that.

-Courtney

No intention to appear rude and apologises if it came across that way. We base our view on over 15 years in the scene, having run a swingers venue and managed a website. We think single guys get a rough deal but some don't help themselves with attitude and over expectation.

We do maintain though that the majority of couples seek other couples and the origin of swingers came from 'wife swappers'.

As for single ladies they used to be called Unicorns as they were rare but that was before it became trendy to call yourself a swinger "

You did call singles 'add ons'

That's pretty rude.

I'm single now, but still see myself as a swinger, i have done this as a single, as a couple, with friends, met singles and couples, been involved in all kinds of scenarios and shall continue to do so, so I'm not going to divide my time up into chunks and re categorise myself for every time I play differently...I firmly believe I believe I belong under the umbrella of swinger.

The origins of swinging may be from couples sharing, but things evolve, swinging no less than anything, I believe it now covers everyone interested in sex and all it's facets as a passtime, not solely couples looking for couples, and I think acceptance of people is a good thing, not to stay stuck in the past and how things were. It's where the scene is now with the rise if the internet and easier accessibility, it's not word of mouth and classified ads any more...welcome to the new world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

Afraid so ...

Utter bollocks

Typical response but that's why your an add on ....

Ah...your the ones who decide who's what I guess?

Sorry....I didn't realise....

Not at all. Fact is only a small percentage of swinging couples will be interested in single men. Good luck with the single women on here too.

I've been in a couple on here and been a single, fact is for me, it's much more effective being a single...had way less interest when in a couple so what you say doesn't stack up at all in my experience.

Well we can only express our view. Websites and those clubs that admit single men tend to over charge them and restrict there numbers at events. As stated most couples are looking for other couples.

Why the need to be so rude? And if you're not trying to be rude, you're coming off that way anyway (at least to me). We meet singles, both men and women, and we certainly don't view them as "add ons." It is a mutually beneficial situation. And while many couples are looking for other couples, many are looking for single as well...especially single women! Please don't say you are only expressing your view, then spout off what most other couples are looking for. We don't see anyone as an add on and wouldn't talk about other humans we want to have sex with like that.

-Courtney

No intention to appear rude and apologises if it came across that way. We base our view on over 15 years in the scene, having run a swingers venue and managed a website. We think single guys get a rough deal but some don't help themselves with attitude and over expectation.

We do maintain though that the majority of couples seek other couples and the origin of swingers came from 'wife swappers'.

As for single ladies they used to be called Unicorns as they were rare but that was before it became trendy to call yourself a swinger

You did call singles 'add ons'

That's pretty rude.

I'm single now, but still see myself as a swinger, i have done this as a single, as a couple, with friends, met singles and couples, been involved in all kinds of scenarios and shall continue to do so, so I'm not going to divide my time up into chunks and re categorise myself for every time I play differently...I firmly believe I believe I belong under the umbrella of swinger.

The origins of swinging may be from couples sharing, but things evolve, swinging no less than anything, I believe it now covers everyone interested in sex and all it's facets as a passtime, not solely couples looking for couples, and I think acceptance of people is a good thing, not to stay stuck in the past and how things were. It's where the scene is now with the rise if the internet and easier accessibility, it's not word of mouth and classified ads any more...welcome to the new world "

Unlike Coutney, we respect your point of view it's a pity she couldn't accept we are entitled to ours. End of the day it's also about supply and demand. Too many single guys and not enough demand for them either by the small percentage of couples that do seek them or single ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

Afraid so ...

Utter bollocks

Typical response but that's why your an add on ....

Ah...your the ones who decide who's what I guess?

Sorry....I didn't realise....

Not at all. Fact is only a small percentage of swinging couples will be interested in single men. Good luck with the single women on here too.

I've been in a couple on here and been a single, fact is for me, it's much more effective being a single...had way less interest when in a couple so what you say doesn't stack up at all in my experience.

Well we can only express our view. Websites and those clubs that admit single men tend to over charge them and restrict there numbers at events. As stated most couples are looking for other couples.

Why the need to be so rude? And if you're not trying to be rude, you're coming off that way anyway (at least to me). We meet singles, both men and women, and we certainly don't view them as "add ons." It is a mutually beneficial situation. And while many couples are looking for other couples, many are looking for single as well...especially single women! Please don't say you are only expressing your view, then spout off what most other couples are looking for. We don't see anyone as an add on and wouldn't talk about other humans we want to have sex with like that.

-Courtney

No intention to appear rude and apologises if it came across that way. We base our view on over 15 years in the scene, having run a swingers venue and managed a website. We think single guys get a rough deal but some don't help themselves with attitude and over expectation.

We do maintain though that the majority of couples seek other couples and the origin of swingers came from 'wife swappers'.

As for single ladies they used to be called Unicorns as they were rare but that was before it became trendy to call yourself a swinger

You did call singles 'add ons'

That's pretty rude.

I'm single now, but still see myself as a swinger, i have done this as a single, as a couple, with friends, met singles and couples, been involved in all kinds of scenarios and shall continue to do so, so I'm not going to divide my time up into chunks and re categorise myself for every time I play differently...I firmly believe I believe I belong under the umbrella of swinger.

The origins of swinging may be from couples sharing, but things evolve, swinging no less than anything, I believe it now covers everyone interested in sex and all it's facets as a passtime, not solely couples looking for couples, and I think acceptance of people is a good thing, not to stay stuck in the past and how things were. It's where the scene is now with the rise if the internet and easier accessibility, it's not word of mouth and classified ads any more...welcome to the new world

Unlike Coutney, we respect your point of view it's a pity she couldn't accept we are entitled to ours. End of the day it's also about supply and demand. Too many single guys and not enough demand for them either by the small percentage of couples that do seek them or single ladies."

I respect you have your own point of view. I don't respect you talking about people as if they are objects to add to you sex life. I also don't like others speaking for what they consider to be the majority of other people. I wanted to make it clear, as part of a couple, that you might have your point of view, but I disagree with it, thereby having my own point of view. I believe my response to you was far less rude and abrasive than your responses to others above.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

Afraid so ...

Utter bollocks

Typical response but that's why your an add on ....

Ah...your the ones who decide who's what I guess?

Sorry....I didn't realise....

Not at all. Fact is only a small percentage of swinging couples will be interested in single men. Good luck with the single women on here too.

I've been in a couple on here and been a single, fact is for me, it's much more effective being a single...had way less interest when in a couple so what you say doesn't stack up at all in my experience.

Well we can only express our view. Websites and those clubs that admit single men tend to over charge them and restrict there numbers at events. As stated most couples are looking for other couples.

Why the need to be so rude? And if you're not trying to be rude, you're coming off that way anyway (at least to me). We meet singles, both men and women, and we certainly don't view them as "add ons." It is a mutually beneficial situation. And while many couples are looking for other couples, many are looking for single as well...especially single women! Please don't say you are only expressing your view, then spout off what most other couples are looking for. We don't see anyone as an add on and wouldn't talk about other humans we want to have sex with like that.

-Courtney

No intention to appear rude and apologises if it came across that way. We base our view on over 15 years in the scene, having run a swingers venue and managed a website. We think single guys get a rough deal but some don't help themselves with attitude and over expectation.

We do maintain though that the majority of couples seek other couples and the origin of swingers came from 'wife swappers'.

As for single ladies they used to be called Unicorns as they were rare but that was before it became trendy to call yourself a swinger

You did call singles 'add ons'

That's pretty rude.

I'm single now, but still see myself as a swinger, i have done this as a single, as a couple, with friends, met singles and couples, been involved in all kinds of scenarios and shall continue to do so, so I'm not going to divide my time up into chunks and re categorise myself for every time I play differently...I firmly believe I believe I belong under the umbrella of swinger.

The origins of swinging may be from couples sharing, but things evolve, swinging no less than anything, I believe it now covers everyone interested in sex and all it's facets as a passtime, not solely couples looking for couples, and I think acceptance of people is a good thing, not to stay stuck in the past and how things were. It's where the scene is now with the rise if the internet and easier accessibility, it's not word of mouth and classified ads any more...welcome to the new world

Unlike Coutney, we respect your point of view it's a pity she couldn't accept we are entitled to ours. End of the day it's also about supply and demand. Too many single guys and not enough demand for them either by the small percentage of couples that do seek them or single ladies.

I respect you have your own point of view. I don't respect you talking about people as if they are objects to add to you sex life. I also don't like others speaking for what they consider to be the majority of other people. I wanted to make it clear, as part of a couple, that you might have your point of view, but I disagree with it, thereby having my own point of view. I believe my response to you was far less rude and abrasive than your responses to others above.

-Courtney "

That is not how you came across so let's leave it there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

Afraid so ...

Utter bollocks

Typical response but that's why your an add on ....

Ah...your the ones who decide who's what I guess?

Sorry....I didn't realise....

Not at all. Fact is only a small percentage of swinging couples will be interested in single men. Good luck with the single women on here too.

I've been in a couple on here and been a single, fact is for me, it's much more effective being a single...had way less interest when in a couple so what you say doesn't stack up at all in my experience.

Well we can only express our view. Websites and those clubs that admit single men tend to over charge them and restrict there numbers at events. As stated most couples are looking for other couples.

Why the need to be so rude? And if you're not trying to be rude, you're coming off that way anyway (at least to me). We meet singles, both men and women, and we certainly don't view them as "add ons." It is a mutually beneficial situation. And while many couples are looking for other couples, many are looking for single as well...especially single women! Please don't say you are only expressing your view, then spout off what most other couples are looking for. We don't see anyone as an add on and wouldn't talk about other humans we want to have sex with like that.

-Courtney

No intention to appear rude and apologises if it came across that way. We base our view on over 15 years in the scene, having run a swingers venue and managed a website. We think single guys get a rough deal but some don't help themselves with attitude and over expectation.

We do maintain though that the majority of couples seek other couples and the origin of swingers came from 'wife swappers'.

As for single ladies they used to be called Unicorns as they were rare but that was before it became trendy to call yourself a swinger

You did call singles 'add ons'

That's pretty rude.

I'm single now, but still see myself as a swinger, i have done this as a single, as a couple, with friends, met singles and couples, been involved in all kinds of scenarios and shall continue to do so, so I'm not going to divide my time up into chunks and re categorise myself for every time I play differently...I firmly believe I believe I belong under the umbrella of swinger.

The origins of swinging may be from couples sharing, but things evolve, swinging no less than anything, I believe it now covers everyone interested in sex and all it's facets as a passtime, not solely couples looking for couples, and I think acceptance of people is a good thing, not to stay stuck in the past and how things were. It's where the scene is now with the rise if the internet and easier accessibility, it's not word of mouth and classified ads any more...welcome to the new world

Unlike Coutney, we respect your point of view it's a pity she couldn't accept we are entitled to ours. End of the day it's also about supply and demand. Too many single guys and not enough demand for them either by the small percentage of couples that do seek them or single ladies."

We all indeed are entitled to our views...

I was just trying to give you mine....ad an actual single bloke, it's a good site to meet on, both couples and singles, and to meet up with other singles to meet as a couple...i honestly think it's not that difficult for a single guy to get alot of different experiences through this site...I don't feel like I'm in some massive majority of males and struggle because of it, I really have and do enjoy my time on here...maybe I'm lucky, maybe I'm reading profiles and talking to the right people, maybe I have realistic expectations, maybe it's just not as hard to interact with people as some folk think, I dunno...that's my take on it anyhow

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

we quite like 'add ons' of both genders, anyone with any experience kn ows there are decent singles as well as decent couples..

'singling' one group out as not being swingers because they are in a majority is nonsense and a bit rude..

for an 'open' community of like minded people sometimes its clearly less than so with some..

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

Afraid so ...

Utter bollocks

Typical response but that's why your an add on ....

Ah...your the ones who decide who's what I guess?

Sorry....I didn't realise....

Not at all. Fact is only a small percentage of swinging couples will be interested in single men. Good luck with the single women on here too.

I've been in a couple on here and been a single, fact is for me, it's much more effective being a single...had way less interest when in a couple so what you say doesn't stack up at all in my experience.

Well we can only express our view. Websites and those clubs that admit single men tend to over charge them and restrict there numbers at events. As stated most couples are looking for other couples.

Why the need to be so rude? And if you're not trying to be rude, you're coming off that way anyway (at least to me). We meet singles, both men and women, and we certainly don't view them as "add ons." It is a mutually beneficial situation. And while many couples are looking for other couples, many are looking for single as well...especially single women! Please don't say you are only expressing your view, then spout off what most other couples are looking for. We don't see anyone as an add on and wouldn't talk about other humans we want to have sex with like that.

-Courtney

No intention to appear rude and apologises if it came across that way. We base our view on over 15 years in the scene, having run a swingers venue and managed a website. We think single guys get a rough deal but some don't help themselves with attitude and over expectation.

We do maintain though that the majority of couples seek other couples and the origin of swingers came from 'wife swappers'.

As for single ladies they used to be called Unicorns as they were rare but that was before it became trendy to call yourself a swinger

You did call singles 'add ons'

That's pretty rude.

I'm single now, but still see myself as a swinger, i have done this as a single, as a couple, with friends, met singles and couples, been involved in all kinds of scenarios and shall continue to do so, so I'm not going to divide my time up into chunks and re categorise myself for every time I play differently...I firmly believe I believe I belong under the umbrella of swinger.

The origins of swinging may be from couples sharing, but things evolve, swinging no less than anything, I believe it now covers everyone interested in sex and all it's facets as a passtime, not solely couples looking for couples, and I think acceptance of people is a good thing, not to stay stuck in the past and how things were. It's where the scene is now with the rise if the internet and easier accessibility, it's not word of mouth and classified ads any more...welcome to the new world

Unlike Coutney, we respect your point of view it's a pity she couldn't accept we are entitled to ours. End of the day it's also about supply and demand. Too many single guys and not enough demand for them either by the small percentage of couples that do seek them or single ladies.

We all indeed are entitled to our views...

I was just trying to give you mine....ad an actual single bloke, it's a good site to meet on, both couples and singles, and to meet up with other singles to meet as a couple...i honestly think it's not that difficult for a single guy to get alot of different experiences through this site...I don't feel like I'm in some massive majority of males and struggle because of it, I really have and do enjoy my time on here...maybe I'm lucky, maybe I'm reading profiles and talking to the right people, maybe I have realistic expectations, maybe it's just not as hard to interact with people as some folk think, I dunno...that's my take on it anyhow "

Swinging moved on from being wife swapping years ago.

As for only a small percentage of couples looking for singles? A quick search of profiles in any area disproves that.

Singles are as essential an element of 'swinging' (whatever the mysterious gods of swinging have chosen for a definition!) as couples. Where would the threesomes be, MMF or MFF, Where you the ganbangs be, Where would the all female events be - without singles?

There's no hierarchy. No pecking order. No league table of worthiness. Just people - single or in a relationship.

And all are as important and welcome as each other.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

Afraid so ...

Utter bollocks

Typical response but that's why your an add on ....

Ah...your the ones who decide who's what I guess?

Sorry....I didn't realise....

Not at all. Fact is only a small percentage of swinging couples will be interested in single men. Good luck with the single women on here too.

I've been in a couple on here and been a single, fact is for me, it's much more effective being a single...had way less interest when in a couple so what you say doesn't stack up at all in my experience.

Well we can only express our view. Websites and those clubs that admit single men tend to over charge them and restrict there numbers at events. As stated most couples are looking for other couples.

Why the need to be so rude? And if you're not trying to be rude, you're coming off that way anyway (at least to me). We meet singles, both men and women, and we certainly don't view them as "add ons." It is a mutually beneficial situation. And while many couples are looking for other couples, many are looking for single as well...especially single women! Please don't say you are only expressing your view, then spout off what most other couples are looking for. We don't see anyone as an add on and wouldn't talk about other humans we want to have sex with like that.

-Courtney

No intention to appear rude and apologises if it came across that way. We base our view on over 15 years in the scene, having run a swingers venue and managed a website. We think single guys get a rough deal but some don't help themselves with attitude and over expectation.

We do maintain though that the majority of couples seek other couples and the origin of swingers came from 'wife swappers'.

As for single ladies they used to be called Unicorns as they were rare but that was before it became trendy to call yourself a swinger

You did call singles 'add ons'

That's pretty rude.

I'm single now, but still see myself as a swinger, i have done this as a single, as a couple, with friends, met singles and couples, been involved in all kinds of scenarios and shall continue to do so, so I'm not going to divide my time up into chunks and re categorise myself for every time I play differently...I firmly believe I believe I belong under the umbrella of swinger.

The origins of swinging may be from couples sharing, but things evolve, swinging no less than anything, I believe it now covers everyone interested in sex and all it's facets as a passtime, not solely couples looking for couples, and I think acceptance of people is a good thing, not to stay stuck in the past and how things were. It's where the scene is now with the rise if the internet and easier accessibility, it's not word of mouth and classified ads any more...welcome to the new world

Unlike Coutney, we respect your point of view it's a pity she couldn't accept we are entitled to ours. End of the day it's also about supply and demand. Too many single guys and not enough demand for them either by the small percentage of couples that do seek them or single ladies.

We all indeed are entitled to our views...

I was just trying to give you mine....ad an actual single bloke, it's a good site to meet on, both couples and singles, and to meet up with other singles to meet as a couple...i honestly think it's not that difficult for a single guy to get alot of different experiences through this site...I don't feel like I'm in some massive majority of males and struggle because of it, I really have and do enjoy my time on here...maybe I'm lucky, maybe I'm reading profiles and talking to the right people, maybe I have realistic expectations, maybe it's just not as hard to interact with people as some folk think, I dunno...that's my take on it anyhow

Swinging moved on from being wife swapping years ago.

As for only a small percentage of couples looking for singles? A quick search of profiles in any area disproves that.

Singles are as essential an element of 'swinging' (whatever the mysterious gods of swinging have chosen for a definition!) as couples. Where would the threesomes be, MMF or MFF, Where you the ganbangs be, Where would the all female events be - without singles?

There's no hierarchy. No pecking order. No league table of worthiness. Just people - single or in a relationship.

And all are as important and welcome as each other.

A"

Nicely put, I like the community feel of it all, I talk to all sorts of folk, some I meet, some have gone on to be good friends, I never saw the division of certain groups as an issue...I mean, we're all just people right? We interact....it's what humans do

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"i just find it interesting they never did answer the question whether single women were merely an add on as well....

just an observation......."

Add-ons, I am afraid; nobody ever meets us

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

Afraid so ...

Utter bollocks

Typical response but that's why your an add on ....

Ah...your the ones who decide who's what I guess?

Sorry....I didn't realise....

Not at all. Fact is only a small percentage of swinging couples will be interested in single men. Good luck with the single women on here too.

I've been in a couple on here and been a single, fact is for me, it's much more effective being a single...had way less interest when in a couple so what you say doesn't stack up at all in my experience. "

I'm also in a couple on here yet both me and my BF do far better in terms of meets on our individual profiles. I've met couples, single guys and single girls from my solo profile and he's met many single girls. He also has no public pics, a shadow avatar and a two line profile. So I think there is no key method other than patience, not having any expectations and not being a dick when there is some reciprocal interest. In a nutshell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets??

Get a female partner to become real swingers not an add on....

Must take note....apparently i'm not real then either, I'm just an add on...

Afraid so ...

Utter bollocks

Typical response but that's why your an add on ....

Ah...your the ones who decide who's what I guess?

Sorry....I didn't realise....

Not at all. Fact is only a small percentage of swinging couples will be interested in single men. Good luck with the single women on here too.

I've been in a couple on here and been a single, fact is for me, it's much more effective being a single...had way less interest when in a couple so what you say doesn't stack up at all in my experience.

Well we can only express our view. Websites and those clubs that admit single men tend to over charge them and restrict there numbers at events. As stated most couples are looking for other couples.

Why the need to be so rude? And if you're not trying to be rude, you're coming off that way anyway (at least to me). We meet singles, both men and women, and we certainly don't view them as "add ons." It is a mutually beneficial situation. And while many couples are looking for other couples, many are looking for single as well...especially single women! Please don't say you are only expressing your view, then spout off what most other couples are looking for. We don't see anyone as an add on and wouldn't talk about other humans we want to have sex with like that.

-Courtney

No intention to appear rude and apologises if it came across that way. We base our view on over 15 years in the scene, having run a swingers venue and managed a website. We think single guys get a rough deal but some don't help themselves with attitude and over expectation.

We do maintain though that the majority of couples seek other couples and the origin of swingers came from 'wife swappers'.

As for single ladies they used to be called Unicorns as they were rare but that was before it became trendy to call yourself a swinger

You did call singles 'add ons'

That's pretty rude.

I'm single now, but still see myself as a swinger, i have done this as a single, as a couple, with friends, met singles and couples, been involved in all kinds of scenarios and shall continue to do so, so I'm not going to divide my time up into chunks and re categorise myself for every time I play differently...I firmly believe I believe I belong under the umbrella of swinger.

The origins of swinging may be from couples sharing, but things evolve, swinging no less than anything, I believe it now covers everyone interested in sex and all it's facets as a passtime, not solely couples looking for couples, and I think acceptance of people is a good thing, not to stay stuck in the past and how things were. It's where the scene is now with the rise if the internet and easier accessibility, it's not word of mouth and classified ads any more...welcome to the new world

Unlike Coutney, we respect your point of view it's a pity she couldn't accept we are entitled to ours. End of the day it's also about supply and demand. Too many single guys and not enough demand for them either by the small percentage of couples that do seek them or single ladies.

We all indeed are entitled to our views...

I was just trying to give you mine....ad an actual single bloke, it's a good site to meet on, both couples and singles, and to meet up with other singles to meet as a couple...i honestly think it's not that difficult for a single guy to get alot of different experiences through this site...I don't feel like I'm in some massive majority of males and struggle because of it, I really have and do enjoy my time on here...maybe I'm lucky, maybe I'm reading profiles and talking to the right people, maybe I have realistic expectations, maybe it's just not as hard to interact with people as some folk think, I dunno...that's my take on it anyhow

Swinging moved on from being wife swapping years ago.

As for only a small percentage of couples looking for singles? A quick search of profiles in any area disproves that.

Singles are as essential an element of 'swinging' (whatever the mysterious gods of swinging have chosen for a definition!) as couples. Where would the threesomes be, MMF or MFF, Where you the ganbangs be, Where would the all female events be - without singles?

There's no hierarchy. No pecking order. No league table of worthiness. Just people - single or in a relationship.

And all are as important and welcome as each other.

A"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to be 6'2+, dark hair, blue eyes, 9+ inch cock, well toned body, wealthy with own home, flash car

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"You have to be 6'2+, dark hair, blue eyes, 9+ inch cock, well toned body,"

Yes please

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Whats a guy got to do on here to get some meets?? "

Desperation ain't sexy, dude

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