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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How many people tell the truth when they have a message from someone they don't like!

I would never go out of my way to be mean but sometimes (within my age limit) they look like old grandads!

And what I really want to say is *#+¥$#

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am always honest

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I am straightforward, but I don't look to offend people.

and I believe people reap what they sow.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

How do you know you dont like them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have that problem as I rarely get any messages but if there was no attraction I would be honest without being cruel

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't have that problem as I rarely get any messages but if there was no attraction I would be honest without being cruel "

If they said a pic and I don't think they are my type I just say no thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't have that problem as I rarely get any messages but if there was no attraction I would be honest without being cruel

If they said a pic and I don't think they are my type I just say no thank you!

X "

I think that's the best way politeness always wins over however I do know some people might need it slightly blunter x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's being honest and there's being heartless. Telling someone they're pug ugly may be the truth (in your opinion) but just because you don't like them is no reason to destroy them - we all have feelings not just the beautiful people!

My 'kindest' rejection was when I was told they had a few people lined up to meet already and didn't know when they'd have time to meet them all already. Now I knew full well this really meant 'no way buddy, you're far too ugly for me' but it was a thoughtful and gentle rejection without the need to be spiteful

Treat people how you want to be treated yourself is my mantra

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am honest and use block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would just say your to far lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm never nasty to anyone, cause I

Know it hurts!

Just asking if anyone had that itch to tell the truth!!!!

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really wish people would treat others they way they would like to be treated. It would be a nicer place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really wish people would treat others they way they would like to be treated. It would be a nicer place. "

I just try to be as honest as I can be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really wish people would treat others they way they would like to be treated. It would be a nicer place. "

Exactly. It's not difficult to just say "Sorry, you're not my type"

There's enough threads on the forums about people upset with something someone has called them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I really wish people would treat others they way they would like to be treated. It would be a nicer place.

Exactly. It's not difficult to just say "Sorry, you're not my type"

There's enough threads on the forums about people upset with something someone has called them."

I'm asking a question that's all simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Standard Your not what I'm looking for replies from me. If they then ask why I'd be truthful - no attraction, too old/young etc. If they ask the question they will get a truthful answer. If too sensitive don't ask the question.

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By *onyneMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Better to be honest in a friendly way...'You are not my/our type' or whatever, which would result in a rely from me something along the lines of 'thanks for the reply...good luck', or something like that...

...and if there is no reply then fair enough as well, given the amount of traffic through mails people get on here [er, I don't mean me though!]

But there is never any need to be rude, unless people are hounding and not able to take no for an answer

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Generally I go with "thanks for your interest but no thanks. Enjoy the site" even when they really don't match what I'm looking for.

But if they cross the line first then I don't hold back on the sarcasm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope I don't offend someone - when I am not interested I just say not what I am looking for thank you. Have had that said to me too and I just take it in my stride - we are all individulas - I always offer to chat/social - I think it is a privaledge to be able to talk openly about sex with a stranger, I always learn something new too! m x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really wish people would treat others they way they would like to be treated. It would be a nicer place.

Exactly. It's not difficult to just say "Sorry, you're not my type"

There's enough threads on the forums about people upset with something someone has called them.

I'm asking a question that's all simples

X "

No, I wasn't having a go at you asking the question xxx I was just saying that people do get hurt by messages they receive so if everyone was polite, it would stop this.

Sorry if you thought I was having a go xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many people tell the truth when they have a message from someone they don't like!

I would never go out of my way to be mean but sometimes (within my age limit) they look like old grandads!

And what I really want to say is *#+¥$#

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yeh just like us old men but they have age limits so they won't get us old men ha ha

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If a message that I may send could reasonably be expected to offend or upset - over and above standard displeasure from being rejected - then I don't send it. Likewise when speaking in person, I choose my words carefully.

I find that most people need to learn themselves, via trial and error and engaging their minds, in a way that just them being told a nugget of 'truth' doesn't accomplish the same thing. Then they may grasp it, otherwise it typically falls on deaf ears.

On a similar vein: some - apparently - come to Fab thinking that it's easy sex on tap. They have to find their own path, discover what the reality is for them and then they may get it.

Some of us get messages that repulse us, the proposals are so far from what we'd ever perhaps do with out most ideal partner. And certainly not the one sending the proposal It's just time to delete, potentially thank them for their interest and block. We don't have to choose to lay into someone else, just because they're different to us, maybe not as attractive as us, in our opinion etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I really wish people would treat others they way they would like to be treated. It would be a nicer place.

Exactly. It's not difficult to just say "Sorry, you're not my type"

There's enough threads on the forums about people upset with something someone has called them.

I'm asking a question that's all simples

X

No, I wasn't having a go at you asking the question xxx I was just saying that people do get hurt by messages they receive so if everyone was polite, it would stop this.

Sorry if you thought I was having a go xx"
x

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