FabSwingers.com forum: time waster warning signs

By *or Fox Sake OP Couple
over a year ago

Thornaby

What are your warning signs of a time waster?

For us if they have no verifications sets the alarms off. You can't exist on here without encountering people, but some how they manage it....

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Everybody starts with no veris, were we all timewasters initially?

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By *ythenshawefredMan
over a year ago

stockport

I wouldn't take no verifications as the biggest sign just more of a little hint people have taken ages to be verified and even then not everybody leaves them, I do think the old adage of 'if it seems to good to be true it probably is'

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By *rs TootyWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I haven't encountered any, so no idea what signs to look for :-/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No veris is not a sign of a time waster ...

Some may be new, or simply choose not to show them

Unfortunately there isn't a flashing neon sign above their heads which indicates their time wasterliness

It's only after several weeks of prima donna behaviour that you usually find out, or by actual no shows, it continually putting you off

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By *ighlander80884Man
over a year ago

Inverness

As above, we all start with no verifications.

And it would appear even the defining of a timewaster varies on here.

A timewaster is someone who arranges meets and doesn't turn up, or strings you along saying they will meet but have no intention of doing so.

My biggest annoyances on here are the phrases fun, clean and no timewasters

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

Everyone has different ideas of a timewaster. Ive seen people on here accuse others of being timewasters because they cannot accom which in many cases they have been completely wrong.

As said, everyone starts off unverified so you cannot really use that against people. We all start somewhere.

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

"Everybody starts with no veris, were we all timewasters initially?"

Not us, we found out about this site after our first night at the spa, so was verified when we opened this account

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

I still think we need a Cunt Button. A lot of sites have them, although worded differently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often make a point of inviting new, unverified couples to my couples parties.....very rare they say they will come and then don't. I have been first veri for quite a few people.....

If been on over a year and no meets...then that can be a sign. Often the green tick...but none shown or no summary could be....as in photo verified but not meet verified....perhaps different symbol on profile for these could help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I still think we need a Cunt Button. A lot of sites have them, although worded differently."

Yep agree and you would be the first on my list to get it.

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

My last meet didn't leave me a veri, and we did our second meet the weekend and he still didn't leave one... so not having veris doesn't necessarily always mean they're time wasters, might just be their meet hasn't written one.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

"I still think we need a Cunt Button. A lot of sites have them, although worded differently.

Yep agree and you would be the first on my list to get it.

I use my block button for this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I still think we need a Cunt Button. A lot of sites have them, although worded differently."

Not quite sure how someone would believe they are important enough to declare someone else a cunt.

For everything else, just use the private notes function. After all, one person's cunt may be another person's fuck-of-the-week.

Now that's a better button, the 'fuck of the week' button.

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

"I still think we need a Cunt Button. A lot of sites have them, although worded differently.

Yep agree and you would be the first on my list to get it.

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By *arethingMan
over a year ago

Shropshire

My apologies but I have to disagree with you about not being variefied as how can people get variefied if people won't meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I still think we need a Cunt Button. A lot of sites have them, although worded differently.

Yep agree and you would be the first on my list to get it.

So can you now see how easy and open it is to abuse ?

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

"I still think we need a Cunt Button. A lot of sites have them, although worded differently.

Yep agree and you would be the first on my list to get it.

I use my block button for this

Not the same thing. I think if 5 separate accounts press this button and leave a good reason then the person should have a red verified sticker on their account so we know their a cunt

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

You say a polite 'no thankyou' and you get branded with a 'cunt button'... yep brilliant idea

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

"I still think we need a Cunt Button. A lot of sites have them, although worded differently.

Yep agree and you would be the first on my list to get it.

I use my block button for this

Not the same thing. I think if 5 separate accounts press this button and leave a good reason then the person should have a red verified sticker on their account so we know their a cunt "

Just because you don't like someone doesn't mean the whole rest of the site won't

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's usually a combination of factors, which may be linked to unverified.

If the interaction becomes unequal, so they just want to take more than they give, I get suspicious. If my gut instinct is discomfort then I'm out.

If the practical considerations are absent or don't stack up, or they've completely ignored something that I've stated is important, then it can appear implausible that they want a meet and they don't care about me appropriately - so they are one dimensional, rather than fully personable.

If it's driven by a desire to get off fab to elsewhere, like an app, I feel reluctance and doubtful.

Distances matter, so hyper long distance raises alarms of course.

And aggressive pushiness can indicate they're uncomfortable about something, so need to dominate to hide the cracks.

Too good to be true is always an alert.

No guarantees but always sense your feelings for someone and the situation.

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

"I still think we need a Cunt Button. A lot of sites have them, although worded differently.

Yep agree and you would be the first on my list to get it.

So can you now see how easy and open it is to abuse ? "

It wouldn't effect us as we have plenty of verifcations from a variety of people.

The button is for the timewasters & abusive message people, just blocking them doesn't work as they only go on to their next victim xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I still think we need a Cunt Button. A lot of sites have them, although worded differently.

Yep agree and you would be the first on my list to get it.

I use my block button for this

Not the same thing. I think if 5 separate accounts press this button and leave a good reason then the person should have a red verified sticker on their account so we know their a cunt "

So hang on I will get 5 of my friends to all push that button because I don't like you because you live in same area as me

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

"I haven't encountered any, so no idea what signs to look for :-/"

Which means that you probably do know how to spot a time waster! And are most likely very good at it.

I've been doing this for years, and only had one or two at the beginning.

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

"I still think we need a Cunt Button. A lot of sites have them, although worded differently.

Yep agree and you would be the first on my list to get it.

I use my block button for this

Not the same thing. I think if 5 separate accounts press this button and leave a good reason then the person should have a red verified sticker on their account so we know their a cunt

Just because you don't like someone doesn't mean the whole rest of the site won't

That's why you need 5 unlinked accounts xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I still think we need a Cunt Button. A lot of sites have them, although worded differently.

Yep agree and you would be the first on my list to get it.

So can you now see how easy and open it is to abuse ?

It wouldn't effect us as we have plenty of verifcations from a variety of people.

The button is for the timewasters & abusive message people, just blocking them doesn't work as they only go on to their next victim xx"

It would if I got my 5 friends to push the button.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You say a polite 'no thankyou' and you get branded with a 'cunt button'... yep brilliant idea

Yawns another "time waster thread"... let me (f) see think it's "time waster thread number 1'874" - but so agree if you say thanks it's a polite "no thank you"..you are branded a "cunt" ? or just because he/she/they are not what you are looking for you get the "cunt stamp" ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I still think we need a Cunt Button. A lot of sites have them, although worded differently.

Yep agree and you would be the first on my list to get it.

I use my block button for this

Not the same thing. I think if 5 separate accounts press this button and leave a good reason then the person should have a red verified sticker on their account so we know their a cunt

Just because you don't like someone doesn't mean the whole rest of the site won't

That's why you need 5 unlinked accounts xx"

Oh don't worry about that , I know loads on the forums that I'm not friends with on here

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

"I still think we need a Cunt Button. The button is for the timewasters & abusive message people, just blocking them doesn't work as they only go on to their next victim xx"

Who they may get on really well with and meet up and have loads of sexy fun.....just because they don't meet you doesn't mean they won't meet someone else

You block them and then they won't affect or bother you any more and leave other people to decide for themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

verifications are meaningless when there are so many faked ones.

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

"I still think we need a Cunt Button. A lot of sites have them, although worded differently.

Yep agree and you would be the first on my list to get it.

So can you now see how easy and open it is to abuse ?

It wouldn't effect us as we have plenty of verifcations from a variety of people.

The button is for the timewasters & abusive message people, just blocking them doesn't work as they only go on to their next victim xx

It would if I got my 5 friends to push the button. "

That's not what I meant, even if we had that showing on our account it wouldn't make a difference because we have verifications.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Not the same thing. I think if 5 separate accounts press this button and leave a good reason then the person should have a red verified sticker on their account so we know their a cunt "

There is a man used to come up regularly in my newsfeed with god awful pictures, so I blocked him because I didn't want to see them. I know of at least 2 other people in my area that have done the same thing.

The poor dude is branded a 'cunt' because he has crap pictures? Jesus, I'd hate to see you in government.

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"You say a polite 'no thankyou' and you get branded with a 'cunt button'... yep brilliant idea

I was being sarcastic... It's a fucking stupid idea

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

Not the same thing. I think if 5 separate accounts press this button and leave a good reason then the person should have a red verified sticker on their account so we know their a cunt

The poor dude is branded a 'cunt' because he has crap pictures? Jesus, I'd hate to see you in government. "

Not really about pics, more about messages, like rudeness, cancelling, abusive stuff.

It would be like a reverse verification of sorts I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about an arrogance button

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By *ekyllandHydeCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I think if they have been on a while with no verifications usually a fake xx

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

"How about an arrogance button

lmao

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I'm a timewaster.

I waste huge amounts of time on here - it's easy when you've got plenty of free time.

I'm pretty sure there'd be more than five people happy to click a button saying I'm a cunt too.

See there you go!!

The first person on the thread to out themselves as both a timewaster and a cunt!!

Do I win a prize?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How about an arrogance button

If there was one, it would have taken a right hammering here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a timewaster.

I waste huge amounts of time on here - it's easy when you've got plenty of free time.

I'm pretty sure there'd be more than five people happy to click a button saying I'm a cunt too.

See there you go!!

The first person on the thread to out themselves as both a timewaster and a cunt!!

Do I win a prize?

Hands obi the sash and crown

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

"I'm a timewaster.

I waste huge amounts of time on here - it's easy when you've got plenty of free time.

I'm pretty sure there'd be more than five people happy to click a button saying I'm a cunt too.

See there you go!!

The first person on the thread to out themselves as both a timewaster and a cunt!!

Do I win a prize?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I still think we need a Cunt Button. A lot of sites have them, although worded differently.

Yep agree and you would be the first on my list to get it.

I use my block button for this

I use my private notes for this.... it is so good to be able to call people (the rest has been redacted by my lawyers)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My last meet didn't leave me a veri, and we did our second meet the weekend and he still didn't leave one... so not having veris doesn't necessarily always mean they're time wasters, might just be their meet hasn't written one. "

I had three meets with same girl last week....I left her two veris...she only left me one...don't mean a thing.....we have each other on text n whatsapp and will be meeting again this week.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"How about an arrogance button

That's a great idea. Grrrrrr!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"How about an arrogance button

That's a great idea. Grrrrrr! "

an ego beacon..... that will go well with the irony alarm i had installed...

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I wouldn't call these people time-wasters, more people who aren't realistic.

It's when you get some horny chap 100 miles away telling me he will definitely travel up to meet me in the Attic or dogging. It doesn't bother me as I'm going anyway and there's always someone else there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having been here for about 5 months, I think I've got a better grip of the time waster warning signals. All the people I've met have been straightforward, up front, and a real pleasure to meet. We chatted on here, found we liked each other enough to plan a social, set a date, met up and had lots of fun. Sounds simple? Well it should be really!

The key indicator of a time waster from my point of view is somebody who, the moment a date is mentioned, suddenly either goes quiet or becomes evasive and vague. I'm always clear that my free time is extremely limited and consequently really valuable to me, so if I commit to meeting somebody then that's quite a clear statement of intent which I would hope that they would pick up on.

Irrespective of how attractive you find the person and how much fun you think you might have, once you've given them a few opportunities then I think you just have to move on, not take it personally and have fun with somebody else. We all have things going on which limit our opportunity to play - 'real' life must always come first - but I think it's easy to spot the genuine people fairly early on.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

"I still think we need a Cunt Button. A lot of sites have them, although worded differently.

Yep agree and you would be the first on my list to get it.

I use my block button for this

I use my private notes for this.... it is so good to be able to call people (the rest has been redacted by my lawyers)

Ooooh private notes! I usually use that for writing people's real names so I don't get all confused.....good job I use my real name on our profile or I would know who I was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No such thing as timewasters. It's a Fab myth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

photo verified is always a good starting point i find, but then what do i know i'm a single guy.

have met and been verified as real, nice and cuddly but still struggle......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few like that.

I've also had my time wasted by a verified user, so I would disagree with the OP on that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if they have been on a while with no verifications usually a fake xx"

Not necessarily, members of the forces maybe away for up to a year so getting verified might be slightly difficult

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