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By *issLiss OP   Couple
over a year ago

south east

So I am very open with my friends, family, close colleagues about my sexual life. I don't feel ashamed, and am quite loud and proud about who I am and do like to share stories. However recently I got a kind of "intervention" by a few people saying I have a sex addiction. They feel what I do is not normal, totally outrageous and I must have a problem!! One of my fellow fab friends has had a similar experience. I said to my friends, my adventures are nothing compared to some (they really need to join here lol) but still insist I do have a problem.

So sorry, but if I have a problem, then most of us on here do too!! Lol do you feel or others feel you have a sex addiction, your perverted, fucked in the head?

I just love having orgasms!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're all fucking degenerates

People are scared of what they don't understand

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham


"So I am very open with my friends, family, close colleagues about my sexual life. I don't feel ashamed, and am quite loud and proud about who I am and do like to share stories. However recently I got a kind of "intervention" by a few people saying I have a sex addiction. They feel what I do is not normal, totally outrageous and I must have a problem!! One of my fellow fab friends has had a similar experience. I said to my friends, my adventures are nothing compared to some (they really need to join here lol) but still insist I do have a problem.

So sorry, but if I have a problem, then most of us on here do too!! Lol do you feel or others feel you have a sex addiction, your perverted, fucked in the head?

I just love having orgasms!! lol

"

I think everyone does , it's only natural

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love sex ! Can never get enough never feel fully satisfied though so look for more ha im definatley perverted but so what everyones different

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham


"So I am very open with my friends, family, close colleagues about my sexual life. I don't feel ashamed, and am quite loud and proud about who I am and do like to share stories. However recently I got a kind of "intervention" by a few people saying I have a sex addiction. They feel what I do is not normal, totally outrageous and I must have a problem!! One of my fellow fab friends has had a similar experience. I said to my friends, my adventures are nothing compared to some (they really need to join here lol) but still insist I do have a problem.

So sorry, but if I have a problem, then most of us on here do too!! Lol do you feel or others feel you have a sex addiction, your perverted, fucked in the head?

I just love having orgasms!! lol

I think everyone does , it's only natural "

Although having said that , I thought this thread was going to be an A team advert

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By *issLiss OP   Couple
over a year ago

south east


"I love sex ! Can never get enough never feel fully satisfied though so look for more ha im definatley perverted but so what everyones different "

But what's wrong with being perverted? As long as you don't hurt anyone, including yourself, then surely it's an expression that is kinda healthy?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

You open Pandoras Box, you have to deal with what comes out. Most people would find this sort of thing very strange indeed, and as sex is still considered dirty, and women who engage in nsa sex are pretty much vilified even now, its best to keep the more prurient details secret.

It shouldn't be this way, but it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah if i was a sex addict id shag everyone who asked i just enjoy multiple partners

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

My friends are thankful that I am getting some sex after years of celibacy.

My problem is I'm too fussy and don't get enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a sex addict, in recovery a lot of the time.

Some people will genuinely care about you though and be worried. Just confirm to them that you're playing safe (not just condoms but personal safety too) and they won't worry as much about you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love sex ! Can never get enough never feel fully satisfied though so look for more ha im definatley perverted but so what everyones different

But what's wrong with being perverted? As long as you don't hurt anyone, including yourself, then surely it's an expression that is kinda healthy? "

This is so true! Consenting adults should be able to do what they like as long as no one else is hurt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not much of a problem these days but i once asked Mum who my real biological father was. She gave me a list of possibles, it took some reading.

So, it could be genetic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course there is that genuine line between fun and having a real problem but yes some people are too closed minded.

I don't think I'd admit to 'playing' and clubs but fuck other people it's no one elses' business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god yeah perverted and proud lover of all modern day casanova

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got 99 problems but a bitch ain't one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nah if i was a sex addict id shag everyone who asked i just enjoy multiple partners"

Fancy a shag?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If your life is as you wish it to be, then there's no problem. If there's some truth in what they say, consider it- but it probably is just a reflection of their different tastes and about them alone and not you.

It can be easier not telling others the full details of your sex life - not from shame but because some don't handle it so well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep fab and swinging in general as private as possible. People are far too easy too judge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I am very open with my friends, family, close colleagues about my sexual life. I don't feel ashamed, and am quite loud and proud about who I am and do like to share stories. However recently I got a kind of "intervention" by a few people saying I have a sex addiction. They feel what I do is not normal, totally outrageous and I must have a problem!! One of my fellow fab friends has had a similar experience. I said to my friends, my adventures are nothing compared to some (they really need to join here lol) but still insist I do have a problem.

So sorry, but if I have a problem, then most of us on here do too!! Lol do you feel or others feel you have a sex addiction, your perverted, fucked in the head?

I just love having orgasms!! lol

"

Many aren't comfortable in their own skin and are scared of those that are.

Those that are prepared to go out and get what they want - sexual or otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Keep fab and swinging in general as private as possible. People are far too easy too judge."

Especially Swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest most of us on here would quite easily get diagnosed with sexual addiction.. however for me I dont feel its an issue till it controls your life.

Before I met Mr I would often putsex before anything.. now I'm more focused. You have to ask yourself how Much of it causes a problem.

I'm not ashamed of my lifestyle and I am quite open... But I also am aware that I have an addiction that does need keeping in check.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I'm open about my lifestyle with my mates and my nearest work colleagues...the guy I share an office with knows what I get up to in my free time and is fine with it, a few other colleagues and my boss are also aware of it, and the majority of my mates are hugely interested in what I get up to in my spare time to the extent of expressing an interest in coming to a club eventually when I have my 50th in 2017 - watch this space as to whether a bunch of vanillas turn up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex addiction? Maybe not.

Firstly, the total number of all users on here is but a tiny percentage of the adult population. It doesn't rise much more if all sites and club users are totalled together.

Secondly, there are undoubtedly a reasonable number of folks in the "vanilla" world getting much more sex that most on here. They're more likely to be sex addicts than most on here.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

The vanilla world (and some folk in here) still frown on women with so-called loose morals. Hey, we used to be chucked in asylums! Only you know if you've a problem.

It's a hobby. Sex is my hobby, an exciting, filthy, fun and sometimes frustrating one.

Much like sea fishing I imagine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friends know I'm a perv to varying degrees.

Some are a bit envious of it some things it's just funny but the "vanilla" females I know who know about it are always very judgemental not so much me but of women who are into this kind of thing. And have some pretty wild assumptions about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My friends know I'm a perv to varying degrees.

Some are a bit envious of it some things it's just funny but the "vanilla" females I know who know about it are always very judgemental not so much me but of women who are into this kind of thing. And have some pretty wild assumptions about it."

Until their eyes are opened enough to see.....

Surprising how far out their tongues go when they do see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your having girl problems I feel bad for you son

I got 99 problems but swinging ain't one

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By *rankyJAYMan
over a year ago

jarrow


"So I am very open with my friends, family, close colleagues about my sexual life. I don't feel ashamed, and am quite loud and proud about who I am and do like to share stories. However recently I got a kind of "intervention" by a few people saying I have a sex addiction. They feel what I do is not normal, totally outrageous and I must have a problem!! One of my fellow fab friends has had a similar experience. I said to my friends, my adventures are nothing compared to some (they really need to join here lol) but still insist I do have a problem.

So sorry, but if I have a problem, then most of us on here do too!! Lol do you feel or others feel you have a sex addiction, your perverted, fucked in the head?

I just love having orgasms!! lol

"

I'm like you I'm addicted to orgasms and will get one anywhere any place

It's normal it's better than been addicted to drugs

I love naturism too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely don't have enough sex to qualify.

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By *tmmCouple
over a year ago

harlow


"The vanilla world (and some folk in here) still frown on women with so-called loose morals. Hey, we used to be chucked in asylums! Only you know if you've a problem.

It's a hobby. Sex is my hobby, an exciting, filthy, fun and sometimes frustrating one.

Much like sea fishing I imagine."

I'm all of the OP statements. Both of us are and we fucking love it!

Fem is a champion sea fisher and yeah they are strangely similar but sex wins!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea what people think about me. Only I know the truth of what I do. If I felt the need to tell the world about my private life, then I might think I had a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah, no problem here.

I just love a good fuck and leaving with her aroma all over my lips and fingers.

I do love all that. Maybe a bit too much but who defines what is too much. Like you said. If it's not harming anyone, then what's the problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No idea what people think about me. Only I know the truth of what I do. If I felt the need to tell the world about my private life, then I might think I had a problem. "

have to agree with this

you can't expect to advertise your private life to the world and expect everybody to approve as on any subject some won't we're adults we know his so why acted shocked when some don't approve of this?

I keep my private life private I have no problems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep my personal life to myself. To my friends and family , I'm a conservative professional. To my swinging friends, I'm a filthy pervert. I always keep my two lives separated...

I was in the car dealership Saturday, and a couple I've played with walked past me with their 2 young daughters. I turned away , so I wouldn't make contact. 10 minutes later , I got a dirty text message from the husband

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I keep my personal life to myself. To my friends and family , I'm a conservative professional. To my swinging friends, I'm a filthy pervert. I always keep my two lives separated...

I was in the car dealership Saturday, and a couple I've played with walked past me with their 2 young daughters. I turned away , so I wouldn't make contact. 10 minutes later , I got a dirty text message from the husband "

Dirty as in nasty?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I keep my personal life to myself. To my friends and family , I'm a conservative professional. To my swinging friends, I'm a filthy pervert. I always keep my two lives separated...

I was in the car dealership Saturday, and a couple I've played with walked past me with their 2 young daughters. I turned away , so I wouldn't make contact. 10 minutes later , I got a dirty text message from the husband

Dirty as in nasty?

"

No .... I lick ass and suck on toes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my head I'd have sex three times a day seven days a week but there is two things that's stopping me ....... My body and my wife so I'll guess I'll stick with once a month

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I keep our private life separate from any friends and family or work colleagues whereas Mr tells his work colleagues. If I ever met them, I would say he is a fantasist anyway. I think this depends on your job and who and what you are in society. All well and good saying bare all, but some of us would lose a lot. Saying that, now I am part of a couple, I can have as much sex as I want as he is always willing ... saying that, I am waiting for him to get kin from tending to an elderly relative, so horny I have to have a cold shower ...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I think I'm normal. I know I'm not. I just think I am.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

I did just write a bit of a big reply, but yeah.... sex addiction's great lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people on here are just as judgemental of the activities of others so I'm not sure how you expected your vanilla friends to react?

Sexual exploration is my normal, it's also my private business and I don't feel there's anything to be gained from telling others inside or outside of this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fully open with most friends and work. Mostly they think I'm a bit mad....several jealous that they don't have the bottle.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I imagine you'd have the same result if you'd gone into a nut house and asked people if they were really insane. "I'm not insane... I really AM Napoleon"

Lets face it... we're all a bunch of filthy depraved perverts... and we love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I keep my personal life to myself. To my friends and family , I'm a conservative professional. To my swinging friends, I'm a filthy pervert. I always keep my two lives separated...

I was in the car dealership Saturday, and a couple I've played with walked past me with their 2 young daughters. I turned away , so I wouldn't make contact. 10 minutes later , I got a dirty text message from the husband

Dirty as in nasty?

"

Yes ... He texted me " who do you think you're? , not saying hi "

I told him , I didn't feel it was appropriate to approach them with their children...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a sex addict, the sex is not the thrill for me, in fact I enjoy watching, I like the decadence of the parties, the characters you encounter, the clubs. I don't have a high sex drive.

Whilst my friends enjoy meals out, theatre, spas etc, I enjoy fetish clubs. Swingers clubs, decadent private parties. I don't discuss it with them, they wouldn't understand and would find it scary. They do realise of course that I like the strange and unusual so perhaps they wouldn't be that surprised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I am very open with my friends, family, close colleagues about my sexual life. I don't feel ashamed, and am quite loud and proud about who I am and do like to share stories. However recently I got a kind of "intervention" by a few people saying I have a sex addiction. They feel what I do is not normal, totally outrageous and I must have a problem!! One of my fellow fab friends has had a similar experience. I said to my friends, my adventures are nothing compared to some (they really need to join here lol) but still insist I do have a problem.

So sorry, but if I have a problem, then most of us on here do too!! Lol do you feel or others feel you have a sex addiction, your perverted, fucked in the head?

I just love having orgasms!! lol

"

Could be their way of saying they are fed up of all the sex chat. Some people prefer to be discreet.

I know someone that talks about sex in every single conversation. They always turn it to sex no matter what. It's incredibly boring.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Nice to see your post OP, was only thinking of you the other day.

On topic

Personally we keep it quite for sake of our "professions", can't go to certain clubs eithet but we definitely would like to speak about it openly that's for sure and will sometime in the future. As for having a problem/addiction, well, we've always known we're a couple of er, dirty deviants anyway and totally love that fact, liberating those feelings feels pretty good too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have a huge problem the bathroom window wont open its stuck.. and we need fresh air as its hot already...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think vanilla people struggle with our lifestyle (but many will be intrigued and envious). If they can't understand you have a choice - try and educate them or what I do is ignore their comments cos they mean jack shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I am very open with my friends, family, close colleagues about my sexual life. I don't feel ashamed, and am quite loud and proud about who I am and do like to share stories. However recently I got a kind of "intervention" by a few people saying I have a sex addiction. They feel what I do is not normal, totally outrageous and I must have a problem!! One of my fellow fab friends has had a similar experience. I said to my friends, my adventures are nothing compared to some (they really need to join here lol) but still insist I do have a problem.

So sorry, but if I have a problem, then most of us on here do too!! Lol do you feel or others feel you have a sex addiction, your perverted, fucked in the head?

I just love having orgasms!! lol

"

None of my friends disapprove of what I do.

That's because if they disapprove, then they're clearly not compatible friends for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I am very open with my friends, family, close colleagues about my sexual life. I don't feel ashamed, and am quite loud and proud about who I am and do like to share stories. However recently I got a kind of "intervention" by a few people saying I have a sex addiction. They feel what I do is not normal, totally outrageous and I must have a problem!! One of my fellow fab friends has had a similar experience. I said to my friends, my adventures are nothing compared to some (they really need to join here lol) but still insist I do have a problem.

So sorry, but if I have a problem, then most of us on here do too!! Lol do you feel or others feel you have a sex addiction, your perverted, fucked in the head?

I just love having orgasms!! lol

None of my friends disapprove of what I do.

That's because if they disapprove, then they're clearly not compatible friends for me."

Your friends have to a prove of everything you do?

Does surrounding yourself with sycophants not get boring?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Do I have a problem?

No. I used to.

But then I found a phone number!

OP - and anyone else on the thread......

If you have a problem, if no one else can help, and if you can find them, maybe you can hire the A-Team.

A

*or the Equalizer!

**but you'll have to try Denzel as Edward Woodward is currently unavailable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your friends have to a prove of everything you do?

Does surrounding yourself with sycophants not get boring?"

I just don't want to be around people who I find a bit closed minded. Why would I spend (precious) time with someone who doesn't share my outlook?

It's not really 'surrounding yourself with sycophants' if you're just ing out people who are don't think your lifestyle is wholesome. I don't need negative people in my friendship group. I have to deal with enough negative people in the world already.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do I have a problem?

No. I used to.

But then I found a phone number!

OP - and anyone else on the thread......

If you have a problem, if no one else can help, and if you can find them, maybe you can hire the A-Team.

A

*or the Equalizer!

**but you'll have to try Denzel as Edward Woodward is currently unavailable."

Do you know why Edward Woodward has 4 d's in his name?

Because Ewar Woowar would be a silly name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I am very open with my friends, family, close colleagues about my sexual life. I don't feel ashamed, and am quite loud and proud about who I am and do like to share stories. However recently I got a kind of "intervention" by a few people saying I have a sex addiction. They feel what I do is not normal, totally outrageous and I must have a problem!! One of my fellow fab friends has had a similar experience. I said to my friends, my adventures are nothing compared to some (they really need to join here lol) but still insist I do have a problem.

So sorry, but if I have a problem, then most of us on here do too!! Lol do you feel or others feel you have a sex addiction, your perverted, fucked in the head?

I just love having orgasms!! lol

"

I'd say your need for attention is more of a problem.

Whilst I'd be a hypocrite if I didn't claim to court it myself, unlike you I am a single male who needs to work hard in order to stand out from the crowd, however, you have the fortune of being a physically attractive single female, making you automatically one of the most desirable people on a site with a membership with possibly several million, with thousands upon thousands of fabs on your pics and a boatload of verifications.

Why you feel the need to post humble-brag threads like this, as this is not your first, is more the question?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I am very open with my friends, family, close colleagues about my sexual life. I don't feel ashamed, and am quite loud and proud about who I am and do like to share stories. However recently I got a kind of "intervention" by a few people saying I have a sex addiction. They feel what I do is not normal, totally outrageous and I must have a problem!! One of my fellow fab friends has had a similar experience. I said to my friends, my adventures are nothing compared to some (they really need to join here lol) but still insist I do have a problem.

So sorry, but if I have a problem, then most of us on here do too!! Lol do you feel or others feel you have a sex addiction, your perverted, fucked in the head?

I just love having orgasms!! lol

"

Lol. I only told one person outside my immediate circle, one day her ex was picking up his daughter from school, I said hey and got "don't fucking talk to me you fucking pervert, you talk to me and I'll knock your teeth over the floor"

She was the only person I told that would say anything, and I only told her to try get her into bed :p talk about a backfire lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your unhappy with the way fab has effected your sex life, and you want to stop, but can't, then you have a problem. Otherwise, no, its not a problem.

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