FabSwingers.com forum: Engagement rings

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If an engaged couple split up, who should be entitled to the engagement ring?

The woman as it was a gift to her or the man because he bought it?

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

"If an engaged couple split up, who should be entitled to the engagement ring?

The woman as it was a gift to her or the man because he bought it?"
I Gave him it back x

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Legally she should give it back or at the very least pay for half of the cost of she keeps it.

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

"Legally she should give it back or at the very least pay for half of the cost of she keeps it. "
But it was a gift

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Legally she should give it back or at the very least pay for half of the cost of she keeps it. But it was a gift "

I thought it was hers to keep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whoever is wearing the ring, it's their decision what to do with it. It's a gift... You wouldn't ask for a birthday present back after you split up with someone would you...? x

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Legally she should give it back or at the very least pay for half of the cost of she keeps it. But it was a gift "

You do not have to give the ring back as it was a gift - well according to the ex-wifes solicitor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Legally she should give it back or at the very least pay for half of the cost of she keeps it. "

morally yes, legally? no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have given mine back if I'd had one, or given it to my daughter like I did my wedding ring. In cases of the ring being an heirloom or no children to hand it down to I would say give it back as it's a symbol of a joining together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the UK legally it's classed as a gift so doesn't need returned. In the US though most states class it as something that was only given if the wedding takes place so a broken engagement usually means they don't keep the ring

Quite interesting.

I have an engagement ring from a fiance who cheated on me. Never worked out what to do with the blasted thing since and that was about 10 yrs ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've kept both of mine. I still wear them sometimes.

I think if the guy was still paying it off then he should get it back as it's cruel to make him continue paying for something after you split. Or at least offer to pay the rest yourself if you wanna keep it.

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

"In the UK legally it's classed as a gift so doesn't need returned. In the US though most states class it as something that was only given if the wedding takes place so a broken engagement usually means they don't keep the ring

Quite interesting.

I have an engagement ring from a fiance who cheated on me. Never worked out what to do with the blasted thing since and that was about 10 yrs ago"
thats why i gave the dick his back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Legally she should give it back or at the very least pay for half of the cost of she keeps it. But it was a gift "

In Scotland, as it's a gift, in law she can keep it.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Legally no idea, but morally I guess give it back. I see it not as a gift, but more like a contact. It's not here's a ring and will you marry me? It's if you agree to marry me, I'll give you the ring. Or, if you accept the ring, you agree to marry me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If an engaged couple split up, who should be entitled to the engagement ring?

The woman as it was a gift to her or the man because he bought it?"

I lost it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I took a sledgehammer to mine then gave it back to him

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe

"If an engaged couple split up, who should be entitled to the engagement ring?

The woman as it was a gift to her or the man because he bought it?"

Who cares ???? If it meant that much you'd still be together lol x

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By *rMrsAdriaCouple
over a year ago

Gosport

Ive kept both mine from my ex (yes i had 2 lol) im going to give them to my daughter to do as she pleases when shes older.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

Gave mine back. He still has it 11 years later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If an engaged couple split up, who should be entitled to the engagement ring?

The woman as it was a gift to her or the man because he bought it?"

I thought it was hers to keep as a gift, but if it was a family heirloom I personally would give it back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Threw one in the sea.

Sold the other.. And bought a diamond pendant instead

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I kept mine but fuck knows where it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you subsequently get married though then I'd say - entitled to keep it. My mum advised me to sell mine. I still have it somewhere, but am thinking of selling it and buying a piece of jewellery I would wear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless there is an implied or express agreement that the ring would be returned (and implied can be complex), then the ring is not returnable.

Why you would want to keep it is a different matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speaking as a guy id be pretty miffed if we split and Mrs dpt smashed the ring or threw it away.

I spent about two months of planning having it made choosing the design and viewing diamonds to go in it....was a lot of fun

Plus there's the fact it's worth a fair bit. So if she would throw something worth a few thousand just to spite me, yeah that would piss me off.

I'd much rather she kept it or sold it or better still gave it me so I could sell it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I took a sledgehammer to mine then gave it back to him "

Remind me not to get on your bad side.

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By *ouble CCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria

Sell it. Lol. Miss C. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I offered to give the ring back. He said no, so I sold it.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

"Legally no idea, but morally I guess give it back. I see it not as a gift, but more like a contact. It's not here's a ring and will you marry me? It's if you agree to marry me, I'll give you the ring. Or, if you accept the ring, you agree to marry me."

Agree. It's a symbol of the agreement to become engaged and to wed. It's not a gift in my eyes.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I think if it was bought for me I would keep it. Unless it cost an absolute fortune, in which case I would sell it and split the money. If, however, it was a family heirloom I would give it back. Just because it didn't work out with me doesn't mean his granny's ring or whatever with the emotion and history attached shouldn't go to someone else. My mum has three. She kept them all (mind you she married and then divorced two of the givers) and had them resized or turned into other pieces of jewellery.

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By *heBirminghamWeekendMan
over a year ago

here

Quite rightly returned to me - sold it - and used the cash more wisely !

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By *angerousEyesMan
over a year ago

weston

It should be given back. I'm sure I saw a court case where the women was forced to give it back because it is not viewed as a gift but more as a payment of contract, marriage. This maybe utter bs so long ago I cant remember all the details.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been engaged twice - the ladies kept them - I didn't ask for them back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the reason for breaking up. If he finished it, she keeps the ring, of she finished it, give the ring back. If it's a mutual decision she could give him the money or the ring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I smashed mine with a hammer, lost the diamond and sold it to cash for gold.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Found this on the internet.

In Britain, if the man ends the engagement then the woman is usually entitled to keep the engagement ring. If the woman breaks the engagement then the man is legally entitled to the return of the ring. However if the ring was offered as part of a gift, for example on Christmas day or Valentines day then it will be seen as a gift and does not need to be returned. Each case is different and it will usually be left to the couple to decide who keeps the engagement ring. The engagement ring is usually seen as an unconditional gift in the UK

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

I offered to return mine, was told to keep it. It collects dust. Morally I think any woman should be willing to return it but depends on circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't imagine wanting to keep it.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

That's how I've always thought of it too, and the woman takes it off and throws it at him when they split up. (Though admittedly my only experience is from Holywood films - and some of them aren't totally true to life)

Surely keeping it would remind you of someone you wanted to forget?

Mr ddc

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

I sold mine to my sister never seen it since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If an engaged couple split up, who should be entitled to the engagement ring?

The woman as it was a gift to her or the man because he bought it?"

Give it to charity if you do not want to keep it at least someone will be happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Legally she should give it back or at the very least pay for half of the cost of she keeps it.

But it was a gift "

But surely not a gift you would want to keep?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Legally she should give it back or at the very least pay for half of the cost of she keeps it.

But it was a gift

But surely not a gift you would want to keep? "

I kept mine. They're nice rings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i split with him, id hand him back the ring..

if he split with me id sell it and enjoy the money

heirloom id give it back regardless of who ended it

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

Why object to letting her keep a lovely cubic zirconium ring?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sent mine over to a friend in malta who was a child at the time. She still wears it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I took a sledgehammer to mine then gave it back to him

Remind me not to get on your bad side. "

ive a good reason. He walked out on me wen i was 38weeks pregant and got with a girl i used to babysit.. i took a sledgehamer to everything he owned too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sold my first one.

Kept my second. And the wedding ring. They are gorgeousrings.Still wear them sometimes on my right hand.

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

I paid for my engagement ring.. My ex kept it and my wedding ring and my plastic ring when he kicked me out. I should have kept them and sold them

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By *elsh n wildCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff area

It's given in contemplation of marriage if you don't get married then it goes back to him x

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

"Legally she should give it back or at the very least pay for half of the cost of she keeps it.

But it was a gift

But surely not a gift you would want to keep? "

Why not? It depends on the circumstances of the split?

I kept my engagement and wedding ring, decided to sell my engagement ring (after my ex-husband had remarried), but have my beautiful scottish gold wedding ring still which I haven't quite decided what to do with it... and as scottish gold, its rather a nice investment, so may well keep it and give it to my son when he is older.

we aren't together for various reasons, but I still have some of the other gifts he gave me too - like the pyrex dishes he got for my wedding anniversary, or the digital car tyre inflator I got for my first christmas as a mummy.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Sell .... sell ... sell

Reap a little back of what you have spent on him over the course of the relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ex threw engagement ring back at me,had been my mothers,didn't look at it at the time,but when I did check........wasnt the ring I gave her,nothing like the value

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