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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you allow each other access to the others phone ? I have asked some of my friends this question and got the same answer of most . Lets see if its the same on here ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

No secrets in our house.

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By *untimegeekMan
over a year ago

Havant

Yes . but seriously considering changing my fab password, bloody status updates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes,but I do charge her if she uses mine to make a call

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it not about privacy too though?

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

He's free to look if he wanted to just as I'm free to look at his, but neither of us has ever felt the need to...

We often pick up eachother's phones if we want to check/google something and our own isn't to hand.

I've never understood relationships where they check up on eachother's calls and texts though.

- Amy. x

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By *oinMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton


"He's free to look if he wanted to just as I'm free to look at his, but neither of us has ever felt the need to...

We often pick up eachother's phones if we want to check/google something and our own isn't to hand.

I've never understood relationships where they check up on eachother's calls and texts though.

- Amy. x"

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone


"He's free to look if he wanted to just as I'm free to look at his, but neither of us has ever felt the need to...

We often pick up eachother's phones if we want to check/google something and our own isn't to hand.

I've never understood relationships where they check up on eachother's calls and texts though.

- Amy. x"

aye, same as that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you allow each other access to the others phone ? I have asked some of my friends this question and got the same answer of most . Lets see if its the same on here ? "

Sure, if any of my long term partners wanted to look they'd be more than welcome to.

I can't see why they'd want to though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He's free to look if he wanted to just as I'm free to look at his, but neither of us has ever felt the need to...

We often pick up eachother's phones if we want to check/google something and our own isn't to hand.

I've never understood relationships where they check up on eachother's calls and texts though.

- Amy. x"

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can both check each other's anytime but don't feel the need as we tell each other everything. Honesty is a huge part of happy swinging xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He's free to look if he wanted to just as I'm free to look at his, but neither of us has ever felt the need to...

We often pick up eachother's phones if we want to check/google something and our own isn't to hand.

I've never understood relationships where they check up on eachother's calls and texts though.

- Amy. x"
I think this is because you are open with each other from the start. No need to check a ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have a partner but if I did no I wouldnt

I don't believe all because you with somebody they have the right to ask to look through personal belongings, I would never ask to look through anybody else's phone and would expect the same respect in return, the only reason I can think somebody would ask is because they are expecting to find something that shouldn't be there, if there's no trust there's no relationship

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We can both check each other's anytime but don't feel the need as we tell each other everything. Honesty is a huge part of happy swinging xx"
ain't that the truth

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The reason for the question is as follows. My now x partner wouldn't let me anywhere near her phone and had me believing that it wasn't normal to use each others phone . I had no problem with her using mine .

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By *overs14Couple
over a year ago

norwich


"He's free to look if he wanted to just as I'm free to look at his, but neither of us has ever felt the need to...

We often pick up eachother's phones if we want to check/google something and our own isn't to hand.

I've never understood relationships where they check up on eachother's calls and texts though.

- Amy. x"

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't have a partner but if I did no I wouldnt

I don't believe all because you with somebody they have the right to ask to look through personal belongings, I would never ask to look through anybody else's phone and would expect the same respect in return, the only reason I can think somebody would ask is because they are expecting to find something that shouldn't be there, if there's no trust there's no relationship "
could it not be seen as you have something to hide if you don't let them ?

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By *redrobCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Kilmarnock


"Yes.

No secrets in our house. "

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

Yes if I wanted to but I don't ever feel the need

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it is normal using each others phones, you've got your own phone use it,

If my phone goes off and Mrs l asks who's that I tell her to keep her nose out, and her never ask her who she's texting, unless its like 4 in the morning or 10 at night then its usually something serious, it snacks of insecurity to me wanting to use your partners phone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs P has my old phone and she often uses my new fancy pants one. Heck I even check her mail for her from time to time as she's not really a web kid... more of the hands-on type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't have a partner but if I did no I wouldnt

I don't believe all because you with somebody they have the right to ask to look through personal belongings, I would never ask to look through anybody else's phone and would expect the same respect in return, the only reason I can think somebody would ask is because they are expecting to find something that shouldn't be there, if there's no trust there's no relationship "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it is normal using each others phones, you've got your own phone use it,

If my phone goes off and Mrs l asks who's that I tell her to keep her nose out, and her never ask her who she's texting, unless its like 4 in the morning or 10 at night then its usually something serious, it snacks of insecurity to me wanting to use your partners phone"

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"Do you allow each other access to the others phone ? I have asked some of my friends this question and got the same answer of most . Lets see if its the same on here ? "

yes of course

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"The reason for the question is as follows. My now x partner wouldn't let me anywhere near her phone and had me believing that it wasn't normal to use each others phone . I had no problem with her using mine . "

I would be sceptical as well.

I had an ex like that but rather than just using my phone he actually expected the right to check my texts and calls (and if I didn't hand over my phone immediately, I "must have something to hide"), yet he had a heart attack if I did so much as touch his phone or pick it up to check the time.

Needless to say, that relationship didn't last long.

As I said, Bradley is free to look if he wanted to but I wouldn't appreciate the lack of trust.

- Amy. x

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"I don't think it is normal using each others phones, you've got your own phone use it,

If my phone goes off and Mrs l asks who's that I tell her to keep her nose out, and her never ask her who she's texting, unless its like 4 in the morning or 10 at night then its usually something serious, it snacks of insecurity to me wanting to use your partners phone"

insecurity has nothing to do with it! its about trust and both having no secrets from each other we dont use each others phones but both sit side by side on mantlepiece with not feeling either of us have to hide it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it is normal using each others phones, you've got your own phone use it,

If my phone goes off and Mrs l asks who's that I tell her to keep her nose out, and her never ask her who she's texting, unless its like 4 in the morning or 10 at night then its usually something serious, it snacks of insecurity to me wanting to use your partners phone

insecurity has nothing to do with it! its about trust and both having no secrets from each other we dont use each others phones but both sit side by side on mantlepiece with not feeling either of us have to hide it "

Right so your not asking to use each others phones? that is a sign of trust not not asking to look at there phone, if that makes sense?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't think it is normal using each others phones, you've got your own phone use it,

If my phone goes off and Mrs l asks who's that I tell her to keep her nose out, and her never ask her who she's texting, unless its like 4 in the morning or 10 at night then its usually something serious, it snacks of insecurity to me wanting to use your partners phone

insecurity has nothing to do with it! its about trust and both having no secrets from each other we dont use each others phones but both sit side by side on mantlepiece with not feeling either of us have to hide it "
the sound of a good healthy relationship I'm thinking

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The reason for the question is as follows. My now x partner wouldn't let me anywhere near her phone and had me believing that it wasn't normal to use each others phone . I had no problem with her using mine .

I would be sceptical as well.

I had an ex like that but rather than just using my phone he actually expected the right to check my texts and calls (and if I didn't hand over my phone immediately, I "must have something to hide"), yet he had a heart attack if I did so much as touch his phone or pick it up to check the time.

Needless to say, that relationship didn't last long.

As I said, Bradley is free to look if he wanted to but I wouldn't appreciate the lack of trust.

- Amy. x"
you sound an honest up front type of person to me . Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The way I see it is . People that don't have anything to hide ,don't hide anything ?? easy . A friend of mine has been with his partner since he was 13 . They use each others phones all the time . What's the prodlem ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes nothing to hide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing to hide here from the wife or kids as when ever my phone fecks up either the wife or eldest daughter has to sort it as I'm male and blonde lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't ever want to check a partners phone who I trusted. My ex took my phone from my bag,went for a drive and came back exclaiming he had found messages to men on it. Cue the puzzled look from me and asked him to show me. He showed me my phone and the list of ready made texts you can send without typing them. I'll be there in 5 type thing. Anyway,he kept his phone literally to his chest and never left it laying around so,one evening when he was asleep and beeped I carefully picked it up off his chest and read the message. It was from his bit on the side telling him she loved him and he should tell her he loved her because he made her say it on a packed train over the phone. I believe that a suspicious person has something to hide themselves.

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

We have no secrets but don,t thing he as ever looked at mine like me his

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante


"Do you allow each other access to the others phone ? I have asked some of my friends this question and got the same answer of most . Lets see if its the same on here ? "

Absolutely no reason not to...we also save all messages on here for the other to read...trust is key...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nothing to hide here from the wife or kids as when ever my phone fecks up either the wife or eldest daughter has to sort it as I'm male and blonde lol "

Lol . Funny and very reassuring

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you allow each other access to the others phone ? I have asked some of my friends this question and got the same answer of most . Lets see if its the same on here ?

Absolutely no reason not to...we also save all messages on here for the other to read...trust is key... "

My faith in myself is coming back . Its a little thing this phone business. But it says so much about us as people . Its the new dairy don't you think ? X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ps . I look as red as a swan vesta match head in my profile picture lol ??

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"I believe that a suspicious person has something to hide themselves."

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By *icple123Couple
over a year ago

st albans

Yes we both know each other's passwords so no issues either one of us looking, but to be honest don't need to look as always tell anything that's going on anyway so the access is unnecessary as there's nothing to hide anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Marc never feels the need to check up on me nor do I feel the need to check up on him. Can he use my phone if he wants? Of course. And he regularly does when his losses power (and same goes for me). He has complete access to my phone when we needs it, and I have nothing to hide, but I would also be worried if he ever felt the need to "check up" on me - which he never has. I think its a matter of having the ability but not the need or desire.

-Courtney

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By *ouplefunukCouple
over a year ago

North Bristol

Absolutely we do and it's not lack of trust either. That couldn't be further from the truth for us. We are seeing another couple and frequently message the other two - lots. It's fun to read what's been said and then talk about it in bed

*Her*

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

We don't generally ask each other. If it rings and she is not there then I answer it as it maybe something important.

Child could be sick or injured, someone could be trying to make contact for one reason or another and need an answer sooner rather than later.

I'd never ask to backtrack through her texts to look for something as that would show a distinct lack of trust. But simply answering a call or a text on each others behalf, not even an issue that I would have thought was an issue.

I've even answered colleagues phones at work if they have left them lying about ringing and not on silent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

I've even answered colleagues phones at work if they have left them lying about ringing and not on silent."

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Depending on whose phone is to hand, that is the one we will use to text or message. Mine is not password protected. His is, but I know the password and he may ask me to check a text or message if he is driving. We share all these things, but don't go looking, no need as no secrets.

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

He has full access to my phone and is the only person that knows my pass code. I've nothing to hide and there has been occasion when he has used it. Especially if I have signal and he doesn't. He's never searched it but he has no need to. I'm fully open to him. He has free reign of my phone and my Fabswingers account.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't have a partner but if I did no I wouldnt

I don't believe all because you with somebody they have the right to ask to look through personal belongings, I would never ask to look through anybody else's phone and would expect the same respect in return, the only reason I can think somebody would ask is because they are expecting to find something that shouldn't be there, if there's no trust there's no relationship

could it not be seen as you have something to hide if you don't let them ?"

Maybe and if they really insisted I would let them but that would be the end of the relationship

as I said if there is no trust there is no relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both use each other's phone when ever we want we play each other's games to help each other out. . We can check emails texts calls and internet history if we want.

We don't have secrets we tell each other everything.

Therefore we don't need to check up on each other

Trust is just as important as love and lust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely

No secrets whatsoever.....had too much of that shit in the past....never again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never look at each other's phones as we have one for fun either of us can check it whenever we want

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I've no issues with Anita using/looking at my phone, although I will keep a eye on her..... She has a tendency to DROP things

Cal

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

There is no real need to use each others phones but they are left around the house were we happen to leave them so if one wanted to use the others they probably would.

I know some people have said they like their privacy as to what is on their phone, but there is nothing on ours that needs to be private.

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By *o-jCouple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Notts

We were given identical phones with our last contract so it's only when we use the contacts we can tell the difference .

So yes

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

In fact that reminds me I need to get a new phone for the Mrs.

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By *ouble_The_DelightCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Yes, we both have access to each other's phone but gave never once had the need to check up on each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% happy to let either of us if we should so wish to . Thing is , we don't feel the need but we both leave our phones lying around the house all the time . We have nothing to hide from each other

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We both use each other's phone when ever we want we play each other's games to help each other out. . We can check emails texts calls and internet history if we want.

We don't have secrets we tell each other everything.

Therefore we don't need to check up on each other

Trust is just as important as love and lust. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Marc never feels the need to check up on me nor do I feel the need to check up on him. Can he use my phone if he wants? Of course. And he regularly does when his losses power (and same goes for me). He has complete access to my phone when we needs it, and I have nothing to hide, but I would also be worried if he ever felt the need to "check up" on me - which he never has. I think its a matter of having the ability but not the need or desire.

-Courtney"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Marc never feels the need to check up on me nor do I feel the need to check up on him. Can he use my phone if he wants? Of course. And he regularly does when his losses power (and same goes for me). He has complete access to my phone when we needs it, and I have nothing to hide, but I would also be worried if he ever felt the need to "check up" on me - which he never has. I think its a matter of having the ability but not the need or desire.

-Courtney"

Perfectly put . This is how o feel about it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He's free to look if he wanted to just as I'm free to look at his, but neither of us has ever felt the need to...

We often pick up eachother's phones if we want to check/google something and our own isn't to hand.

I've never understood relationships where they check up on eachother's calls and texts though.

- Amy. x

aye, same as that "

^Exactly this^

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall


"He's free to look if he wanted to just as I'm free to look at his, but neither of us has ever felt the need to...

We often pick up eachother's phones if we want to check/google something and our own isn't to hand.

I've never understood relationships where they check up on eachother's calls and texts though.

- Amy. x"

this is us too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Right . Pen and paper ready. I'm going to do a count up . I,ll post my findings asap ......... Fuck....... I have to get a life lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't think it is normal using each others phones, you've got your own phone use it,

If my phone goes off and Mrs l asks who's that I tell her to keep her nose out, and her never ask her who she's texting, unless its like 4 in the morning or 10 at night then its usually something serious, it snacks of insecurity to me wanting to use your partners phone

insecurity has nothing to do with it! its about trust and both having no secrets from each other we dont use each others phones but both sit side by side on mantlepiece with not feeling either of us have to hide it "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've no issues with Anita using/looking at my phone, although I will keep a eye on her..... She has a tendency to DROP things

Cal"
hehe does she play for the England cricket team?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a nut shell, yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it is normal using each others phones, you've got your own phone use it,

If my phone goes off and Mrs l asks who's that I tell her to keep her nose out, and her never ask her who she's texting, unless its like 4 in the morning or 10 at night then its usually something serious, it snacks of insecurity to me wanting to use your partners phone

insecurity has nothing to do with it! its about trust and both having no secrets from each other we dont use each others phones but both sit side by side on mantlepiece with not feeling either of us have to hide it "

But surely the trust comes from not having to use each others phones, I have absolutely no interest in using Mrs ls phone, I trust her enough to not care about her phone, its ok saying we have trust and no secrets, but if their wanting to look at your phone then there is no trust really,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well so far its 30 that are in favor of openness and 6 against. If that was an election, the party with 30 votes would be one very strong party. Thanks to all that took part. It has help give me a peace of mind . Cheers ?? all . Happy swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I wouldn't let anyone through my phone. I've nothing to hide but I have many private conversations with friends and people on various support groups. There's no way I would want anybody reading those conversations.

And if I've had a row with my other half and send an angry text to my mum/sister/friend about it, which people do, then they read it and my letting off steam creates more tension.

Everyone deserves some privacy.

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By *otgymfitanymoreCouple
over a year ago

pontefract

We both have the same pass codes on our phones, there's no real need to use or look at each other's phones but saying that I used his earlier for fab messages as mine was on charge.

We can both check what the other has googled, text or phoned if we wished but to my knowledge never have done.

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