FabSwingers.com forum: Men who "accidentally" touch you in public.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The creeps on buses and trains, the guys in the bar who rub past you when there's tons of space, those ones. What's your response?

Personally they get dogs abuse from me so everyone in the place can hear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do men really do that? Get some killer stilletoes and learn how to use them. Stamp down hard and twist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it is how you say, then it is not accidentally !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I though women loved this and it was to be encouraged. And isn't it always followed by a dirty look from the woman because she wants you to know how much she enjoyed it ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh I though women loved this and it was to be encouraged. And isn't it always followed by a dirty look from the woman because she wants you to know how much she enjoyed it ? "

Gross right? And they all think we walk away from it feeling special. Sad times.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

"The creeps on buses and trains, the guys in the bar who rub past you when there's tons of space, those ones. What's your response?

Personally they get dogs abuse from me so everyone in the place can hear."

Hate that kind of behaviour, but if I was a pervy slime ball, I would be tempted by you in that skirt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The creeps on buses and trains, the guys in the bar who rub past you when there's tons of space, those ones. What's your response?

Personally they get dogs abuse from me so everyone in the place can hear."

I'm clumsy so it's not so much a rub up a giant you but turn around without realising there's a helmet clipped to my backpack and knock you all over ^_&

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

I usually find a sharp elbow to the rib works

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

Not sure who you are answering, but if it's me then an accidental brushing past I would shrug off. However, if it's an "accident" with a grop (which has been known to happen, then yeah, I will retaliate. It's a form of harrassment!!

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

and I am certainly not "self absorbed"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP but that's a fair point,

The op was a little more vague than actual groping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *eorgy26Man
over a year ago

Sutton

Not you _muma. Yours is lovely

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

That is just creepy guess I would only give them a dirty look. No courage to say anything.

I am however a toucher in the nicest possible way and would squeeze by someone and put out a hand as I pass and say excuse me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had this a few times. "Accidentally" touching my bum on the bus or even pushing crotch intoy bum in pubs because "they got pushed".....with nobody there to push them....its like come on guys youd have a better chance if you actually said hello first. Haha.

Peach

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By *briteMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Hey it's not only men who do this! Since being 15 I was brought up in a pub and I can tell you the amount of women who'd touch the noticeable things even while just chatting pretending not to ive lost count of. It stll happens now when older. So I guess a pervs a perv male or female

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I agree on profile critique being inappropriate.

As is groping in public, if uninvited.

People generally now seem to show very poor respect for others, when interspersed publicly and moving through crowds. Little to no verbal communication. Having hands thrust on my person is inappropriate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The creeps on buses and trains, the guys in the bar who rub past you when there's tons of space, those ones. What's your response?

Personally they get dogs abuse from me so everyone in the place can hear."

Grab there wrist, hold it up and ask who this belongs to because it was touching you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless it's 100% certain it is intended how can you do this?

OK if he grabs boob or squeezed your bum then yes shame him.

Otherwise you could be charged with assault.

Or some lad's could take it upon themselves to beat the Crap our of a perfectly innocent guy.

Personally I have accidentally bumped into loads of women in pub's and bar's and would be mortified and incredibly angry if I was accused of being a creep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And also accidentally bumped into guy's also

Wasn't trying to cop a feel from them either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unless it's 100% certain it is intended how can you do this?

OK if he grabs boob or squeezed your bum then yes shame him.

Otherwise you could be charged with assault.

Or some lad's could take it upon themselves to beat the Crap our of a perfectly innocent guy.

Personally I have accidentally bumped into loads of women in pub's and bar's and would be mortified and incredibly angry if I was accused of being a creep. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say well clear of peoples personal space. I hate when people get too close to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never done it never will I have respect for women and there personal space

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Yes the groper we have met plenty over the years what you find out if any one does the same to his wife girl friend they take exception

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never done it never will I have respect for women and there personal space "

You need a coma in there mate or your post looks rather sinister.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The creeps on buses and trains, the guys in the bar who rub past you when there's tons of space, those ones. What's your response?

Personally they get dogs abuse from me so everyone in the place can hear.

Grab there wrist, hold it up and ask who this belongs to because it was touching you."

Haha! I might start doing that! Good to know some guys on here seem to think i don't know the difference between an accident and "an accident". Try walking around in my body one day guys. Just because women don't grope you doesn't mean that men dont grope me. And nice to see the bitterness coming out. Another easy filter.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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The OP didn't ask for the profile to be critiqued

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

"Unless it's 100% certain it is intended how can you do this?

OK if he grabs boob or squeezed your bum then yes shame him.

Otherwise you could be charged with assault.

Or some lad's could take it upon themselves to beat the Crap our of a perfectly innocent guy.

Personally I have accidentally bumped into loads of women in pub's and bar's and would be mortified and incredibly angry if I was accused of being a creep. "

You're worrying about nothing. Women can tell the difference between groping and an accidental touch!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even on a crowded tube train I make sure I don't rub against someone, my laptop bag aka man bag hangs down in front of my crotch area. And if I have to push past I say "Excuse me" to give them a chance to make a bit more room.

There's no need to ever rub up or touch someone.

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

"Even on a crowded tube train I make sure I don't rub against someone, my laptop bag aka man bag hangs down in front of my crotch area. And if I have to push past I say "Excuse me" to give them a chance to make a bit more room.

There's no need to ever rub up or touch someone. "

and there is the difference.. having anner and saying "excuse me" or just squeezing past...

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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So people aim for you to brush past ? What do they brush past with?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"The creeps on buses and trains, the guys in the bar who rub past you when there's tons of space, those ones. What's your response?

Personally they get dogs abuse from me so everyone in the place can hear."

What part of you do they rub? What part of them do they rub you with ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"So people aim for you to brush past ? What do they brush past with?"

Please don't ask my question before I do. Ta.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"So people aim for you to brush past ? What do they brush past with?

Please don't ask my question before I do. Ta. "

I am so sorry

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There's no need to ever rub up or touch someone.

and there is the difference.. having anner and saying "excuse me" or just squeezing past..."

Exactly! I work in a kitchen and there's not much room. A simple hand on the shoulder or "excuse me" is all it takes. We women are well aware of when a guy is being a creep and when there's just no room. I get that women can be like this with men too, however as a woman i posted this from my perspective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The creeps on buses and trains, the guys in the bar who rub past you when there's tons of space, those ones. What's your response?

Personally they get dogs abuse from me so everyone in the place can hear.

Grab there wrist, hold it up and ask who this belongs to because it was touching you."

I believe that constitutes assault.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The creeps on buses and trains, the guys in the bar who rub past you when there's tons of space, those ones. What's your response?

Personally they get dogs abuse from me so everyone in the place can hear.

Grab there wrist, hold it up and ask who this belongs to because it was touching you.

I believe that constitutes assault."

I believe deliberately touching or rubbing against women you don't know is sexual assualt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The creeps on buses and trains, the guys in the bar who rub past you when there's tons of space, those ones. What's your response?

Personally they get dogs abuse from me so everyone in the place can hear.

Grab there wrist, hold it up and ask who this belongs to because it was touching you.

I believe that constitutes assault."

If this ever happens to you could you please call a policeman and refer back to me as to what their response was.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"The creeps on buses and trains, the guys in the bar who rub past you when there's tons of space, those ones. What's your response?

Personally they get dogs abuse from me so everyone in the place can hear.

Grab there wrist, hold it up and ask who this belongs to because it was touching you.

I believe that constitutes assault.

If this ever happens to you could you please call a policeman and refer back to me as to what their response was. "

f you work in a small kitchen and there isn't much room then it's inevitable that people are going to come into contact as they go past.

Any person male or female couldn't sustain putting a hand on people or saying excuse me 100 times a day.

Things like that become part and parcel of the job. As long as they are just moving past and don't slide across your groin with their groin as if you are both smeared with slow setting evostick I suggest you just get on with it.

If you believe it's sexual assault then report it right away.

If you don't think it serious enough to report it'd be nice not to smear the men you work with as sexual deviants.

I don't reckon they are paid enough for the work they do and then they've got to suffer the indignation of being labelled.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Disclaimer. I apologise to all the sexual deviants on here for suggesting that any of you might not be worthy of reporting.

( thats most of you )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The creeps on buses and trains, the guys in the bar who rub past you when there's tons of space, those ones. What's your response?

Personally they get dogs abuse from me so everyone in the place can hear.

Grab there wrist, hold it up and ask who this belongs to because it was touching you.

I believe that constitutes assault.

I believe deliberately touching or rubbing against women you don't know is sexual assault."

You are correct. However the fact remains that its committing an offence.

Drawing verbal attention to the issue is the correct response - loudly and with clear expression of what is happening.has happened.

Committing assault against someone is not the answer.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

If I brushed past someone and they shouted loudly in my place of work that I was sexually assaulting them it'd be them that lose.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The creeps on buses and trains, the guys in the bar who rub past you when there's tons of space, those ones. What's your response?

Personally they get dogs abuse from me so everyone in the place can hear.

Grab there wrist, hold it up and ask who this belongs to because it was touching you.

I believe that constitutes assault.

If this ever happens to you could you please call a policeman and refer back to me as to what their response was.

f you work in a small kitchen and there isn't much room then it's inevitable that people are going to come into contact as they go past.

Any person male or female couldn't sustain putting a hand on people or saying excuse me 100 times a day.

If you believe it's sexual assault then report it right away.

If you don't think it serious enough to report it'd be nice not to smear the men you work with as sexual deviants.

I don't reckon they are paid enough for the work they do and then they've got to suffer the indignation of being labelled.

I don't think you understood my post. I was saying that in my job, people always behave well therefor when out in public, it's easy for men to behave well. It was an example of a place where it's crowded yet men know how to behave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Also, my chefs ARE able to sustain being respectful all day. And it's eeird that you think that's impossible.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"The creeps on buses and trains, the guys in the bar who rub past you when there's tons of space, those ones. What's your response?

Personally they get dogs abuse from me so everyone in the place can hear.

Grab there wrist, hold it up and ask who this belongs to because it was touching you.

I believe that constitutes assault.

If this ever happens to you could you please call a policeman and refer back to me as to what their response was.

f you work in a small kitchen and there isn't much room then it's inevitable that people are going to come into contact as they go past.

Any person male or female couldn't sustain putting a hand on people or saying excuse me 100 times a day.

If you believe it's sexual assault then report it right away.

If you don't think it serious enough to report it'd be nice not to smear the men you work with as sexual deviants.

I don't reckon they are paid enough for the work they do and then they've got to suffer the indignation of being labelled.

Got you.

I still disagree. In work , they are subject to punishment or dismissal.

That has bearing on behaviours.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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So where do men aim for you to brush past you when there is plenty of room and what do they brush past you with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did know that guys did this but I had on idea it was on such a massive scale . I wonder how many women on here have had it happen . Its got to be sexual assult surely?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The creeps on buses and trains, the guys in the bar who rub past you when there's tons of space, those ones. What's your response?

Personally they get dogs abuse from me so everyone in the place can hear.

Grab there wrist, hold it up and ask who this belongs to because it was touching you.

I believe that constitutes assault.

If this ever happens to you could you please call a policeman and refer back to me as to what their response was.

f you work in a small kitchen and there isn't much room then it's inevitable that people are going to come into contact as they go past.

Any person male or female couldn't sustain putting a hand on people or saying excuse me 100 times a day.

If you believe it's sexual assault then report it right away.

If you don't think it serious enough to report it'd be nice not to smear the men you work with as sexual deviants.

I don't reckon they are paid enough for the work they do and then they've got to suffer the indignation of being labelled.

Got you.

I still disagree. In work , they are subject to punishment or dismissal.

That has bearing on behaviours. "

That's a good point. It shows something about the world where losing your job is worse than a woman possibly reporting you for assault. Probably because we don't call the cops when we should. But then every bar would have more cops than patrons. Sad times eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some fucker groped my ass when I was in a shop with my husband and young daughter. Wasn't much I could do or say, but a security guy saw him and punched his lights out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Grab their* wrist, hold it up and ask who this belongs to because it was touching you.

I believe that constitutes assault.

If this ever happens to you could you please call a policeman and refer back to me as to what their response was. "

He's technically correct. It's actually common assault and while highly unlikely to constitute a charge can be met with a caution. However if you called the police and prevented them from leaving that is allowed if no unreasonable force is used.

* Sorry about the correction!

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By *SweetVioletxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Any man or boy who has touched me uninvited tends to limp away. It makes them reconsider doing it again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So where do men aim for you to brush past you when there is plenty of room and what do they brush past you with?"

In the last 2 months i've been touched overtly by 3 men. I had to get an overnight bus from London to Glasgow and a man sat next to me. He pretended to fall asleep but would rub the back of his hand on my leg. First time i told him to stop. Second time i shoved his hand and told him if he did again i would have him removed. Third time i stood up and shouted loudly. The driver threw him off the bus. Last month a man in a bar pressed up behind me when there was noone behind him. I politely asked him to step back. He did then a minute later started again, this time with a hard on. I yelled for a member of staff and he was removed. 2 nights ago a guy walked up behind me while sat at a table, leaned over my shoulder and dropped a pound coin down my cleavage. When he went to reach for it i grabvbd his wrist and twisted. I am well aware of what is an accident and what isn't. The men who are getting very defensive mught want to think about what it's like to be a woman.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"So where do men aim for you to brush past you when there is plenty of room and what do they brush past you with?

Thanks.

Yep, none seem accidental to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The creeps on buses and trains, the guys in the bar who rub past you when there's tons of space, those ones. What's your response?

Personally they get dogs abuse from me so everyone in the place can hear.

Grab there wrist, hold it up and ask who this belongs to because it was touching you.

I believe that constitutes assault.

If this ever happens to you could you please call a policeman and refer back to me as to what their response was.

f you work in a small kitchen and there isn't much room then it's inevitable that people are going to come into contact as they go past.

Any person male or female couldn't sustain putting a hand on people or saying excuse me 100 times a day.

If you believe it's sexual assault then report it right away.

If you don't think it serious enough to report it'd be nice not to smear the men you work with as sexual deviants.

I don't reckon they are paid enough for the work they do and then they've got to suffer the indignation of being labelled.

I didn't suggest that any men in a kitchen were sexual deviants.

Last time I grabbed a man's hand like that and asked who it was, he had put his fingers under my crotch on a crowded tube.

Should I have just put up with it? I couldn't move away it was far too busy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The creeps on buses and trains, the guys in the bar who rub past you when there's tons of space, those ones. What's your response?

Personally they get dogs abuse from me so everyone in the place can hear.

Grab there wrist, hold it up and ask who this belongs to because it was touching you.

I believe that constitutes assault."

I do not believe that the police would have a problem with me doing that, if it was to move their hand away from touching my crotch or my breasts without my consent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The creeps on buses and trains, the guys in the bar who rub past you when there's tons of space, those ones. What's your response?

Personally they get dogs abuse from me so everyone in the place can hear."
id ask permission first.... lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So where do men aim for you to brush past you when there is plenty of room and what do they brush past you with?

Steady on. You can't grab someone by the wrist. That's assault.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I had a guy turn to me at a bar a while ago and say "hey sorry you have an eyelash there. Close ur eyes and i'll get it". I am 40 years old and should have thought but i just shut my eyes and he kissed me. I slapped him. He thought it was hilarious! When did this behaviour become ok?

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

"The creeps on buses and trains, the guys in the bar who rub past you when there's tons of space, those ones. What's your response?

Personally they get dogs abuse from me so everyone in the place can hear.

Grab there wrist, hold it up and ask who this belongs to because it was touching you."

Yup I'm a performer and get grabbed in the boob and gentials a lot. I tend to twist their wrist and shout in their face until I get an apology.

Kicked a guy in the face once for putting his hand up my skirt while I was onstage

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The creeps on buses and trains, the guys in the bar who rub past you when there's tons of space, those ones. What's your response?

Personally they get dogs abuse from me so everyone in the place can hear.

Grab there wrist, hold it up and ask who this belongs to because it was touching you.

Yup I'm a performer and get grabbed in the boob and gentials a lot. I tend to twist their wrist and shout in their face until I get an apology.

Kicked a guy in the face once for putting his hand up my skirt while I was onstage

Now this is weird! I was a stripper 20 years ago when yhe money was outrageous but back then there were faaaar less creeps! I did a weekend slot for a friend who needed me to fill in 2 years ago. I was looking forward to it tbh! I was a wee bit nostalgic! I did 20 minutes on atage before i told my friend i was leaving. The men were disgusting. They seemed to think because they paid a cover fee that the girls were there for whatever they wanted. I wonder what happened in the last 20 years.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

"The creeps on buses and trains, the guys in the bar who rub past you when there's tons of space, those ones. What's your response?

Personally they get dogs abuse from me so everyone in the place can hear.

Grab there wrist, hold it up and ask who this belongs to because it was touching you.

Yup I'm a performer and get grabbed in the boob and gentials a lot. I tend to twist their wrist and shout in their face until I get an apology.

Kicked a guy in the face once for putting his hand up my skirt while I was onstage

Age of entitlement

I'm fully clothed onstage but shouldn't matter either way. No invite, no grabby

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I get annoyed with the random touch or squeeze at parties. Atone still feel they dont need to ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The creeps on buses and trains, the guys in the bar who rub past you when there's tons of space, those ones. What's your response?

Personally they get dogs abuse from me so everyone in the place can hear.

Grab there wrist, hold it up and ask who this belongs to because it was touching you.

Yup I'm a performer and get grabbed in the boob and gentials a lot. I tend to twist their wrist and shout in their face until I get an apology.

Kicked a guy in the face once for putting his hand up my skirt while I was onstage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wonder what happened in the last 20 years."

The adverse effects of the internet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When there is a big pair of tits or arse in the way sometimes its difficult, i doubt anyone in this day would do it on purpose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id be a right slut if i was a woman

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When there is a big pair of tits or arse in the way sometimes its difficult, i doubt anyone in this day would do it on purpose"

Read my posts here. They do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im far too violent when it comes to stuff like this. Punched a guy in the throat that thought it would be funny to try and a bit too friendly waiting at a bar, him flapping on the floor being unable to breathe was a pleasant sight. Doubt hes tried that move with another person

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Id be a right slut if i was a woman "

This is an attitude i can't even get my head around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"im far too violent when it comes to stuff like this. Punched a guy in the throat that thought it would be funny to try and a bit too friendly waiting at a bar, him flapping on the floor being unable to breathe was a pleasant sight. Doubt hes tried that move with another person

Are you for real? And if a guy did that to you......?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you for real? And if a guy did that to you......?"

Define try, must have been quite an aggressive attack to justify that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you for real? And if a guy did that to you......?

Define try, must have been quite an aggressive attack to justify that"

sorry but im no door mat and if a man that i do not know tries to force his fingers inside my vagina in a night club then im going to take action and not just stand there like a victim

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sorry but im no door mat and if a man that i do not know tries to force his fingers inside my vagina in a night club then im going to take action and not just stand there like a victim"

agreed, no justification for that,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The creeps on buses and trains, the guys in the bar who rub past you when there's tons of space, those ones. What's your response?

Personally they get dogs abuse from me so everyone in the place can hear.

I'm clumsy so it's not so much a rub up a giant you but turn around without realising there's a helmet clipped to my backpack and knock you all over ^_&"

Yeah I know how that feels!

Remember when we went to almost famous when we went away for the weekend and a bloke groped my bum when we were walking up the stairs? I wish I could've kicked him now -.-

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When there is a big pair of tits or arse in the way sometimes its difficult, i doubt anyone in this day would do it on purpose"

Dude your not helping.

All comments like this does is reinforce stereo types.

Everyone deserves the right to be treated with respect regardless of sex.

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton

At a slight tangent, if a husband and wife are in bed together and the husband reaches out and touches his wife's breast, on purpose but uninvited, is that groping or intimacy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So where do men aim for you to brush past you when there is plenty of room and what do they brush past you with?

Steady on. You can't grab someone by the wrist. That's assault. "

And trying to touch someone in an inappropriate area is sexual assault, I think its justified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At a slight tangent, if a husband and wife are in bed together and the husband reaches out and touches his wife's breast, on purpose but uninvited, is that groping or intimacy?"

I'd always touch gently somewhere more neutral on the body and wait for them to open up and give bodily consent before touching my partners anywhere more intimate.

But that's just me. And them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At a slight tangent, if a husband and wife are in bed together and the husband reaches out and touches his wife's breast, on purpose but uninvited, is that groping or intimacy?"

It depends on their relationship. If they are having problems and the relationship has broken down, then it can be considered groping and/ or sexual assault.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any man or boy who has touched me uninvited tends to limp away. It makes them reconsider doing it again."

Remind me to get you to sign a consent forms :p

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton

"At a slight tangent, if a husband and wife are in bed together and the husband reaches out and touches his wife's breast, on purpose but uninvited, is that groping or intimacy?

I'd always touch gently somewhere more neutral on the body and wait for them to open up and give bodily consent before touching my partners anywhere more intimate.

But that's just me. And them."

But if your partner went for your breasts first, would you regard that as inappropriate or be pleased for the opportunity to reciprocate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The creeps on buses and trains, the guys in the bar who rub past you when there's tons of space, those ones. What's your response?

Personally they get dogs abuse from me so everyone in the place can hear.

Grab there wrist, hold it up and ask who this belongs to because it was touching you.

I went to a guy bar and didn't get groped once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At a slight tangent, if a husband and wife are in bed together and the husband reaches out and touches his wife's breast, on purpose but uninvited, is that groping or intimacy?

I'd always touch gently somewhere more neutral on the body and wait for them to open up and give bodily consent before touching my partners anywhere more intimate.

But that's just me. And them."

Lol all we wanna do when we go to bed is sleep, maybe that's just our age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a guy shove his face into my cleavage one night at a club, A quick knee in the balls sorted him out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Okay so if a woman tries feeling my arse or my crotch, its right for me to get aggressive with her? It should be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Okay so if a woman tries feeling my arse or my crotch, its right for me to get aggressive with her? It should be "

You get alot of women wanting to grab your arse then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Okay so if a woman tries feeling my arse or my crotch, its right for me to get aggressive with her? It should be "

Apparently so. There's some horrible violent people about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Okay so if a woman tries feeling my arse or my crotch, its right for me to get aggressive with her? It should be

You get alot of women wanting to grab your arse then? "

Yeah they do and its not something im fond of especially from a randomer in town but apparently you're not allowed hit woman no matter what but they're allowed hit men... Makes a lot of sense doesnt it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Okay so if a woman tries feeling my arse or my crotch, its right for me to get aggressive with her? It should be

You get alot of women wanting to grab your arse then?

On that occasion I'd told the guy to back off several times, evidently didn't get the message and was warned. His stupidity.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Depends how good looking he was....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I can tell it's an accident I ignor it. But I do get quite a few guys groping my breasts in public. I usually retaliate in some form, mainly to embarrass them. I have smacked a guy before now because he felt the need to grab both my breasts for a while in a club, he then apologised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Living in the country I am always grateful for the odd fumble......

Seriously though it's when guys don't find me attractive I will worry.... I use to pinch guys bums all the time when l was a barmaid nobody minded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So where do men aim for you to brush past you when there is plenty of room and what do they brush past you with?

Steady on. You can't grab someone by the wrist. That's assault.

And trying to touch someone in an inappropriate area is sexual assault, I think its justified"

If you read back up you'll get the context of my post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you're not allowed hit woman no matter what but they're allowed hit men... Makes a lot of sense doesnt it"

its a very good point,

i agree women need to protect themselves,

i agree no man should ever hit a woman regardless,

i agree this is a double standard,

it totally does not stand up to scrutiny, but it isnt wrong really

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Depends how good looking he was....

Comments like this don't help either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So where do men aim for you to brush past you when there is plenty of room and what do they brush past you with?

Steady on. You can't grab someone by the wrist. That's assault.

And trying to touch someone in an inappropriate area is sexual assault, I think its justified

If you read back up you'll get the context of my post. "

I don't see any context, just words

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By *hocolate007Man
over a year ago

london

"The creeps on buses and trains, the guys in the bar who rub past you when there's tons of space, those ones. What's your response?

Personally they get dogs abuse from me so everyone in the place can hear.

Grab there wrist, hold it up and ask who this belongs to because it was touching you.

Sorry to bug you but your above text is a bit confusing, whats the difference between an accident and an accident. And how does one walk around in your body ?????? Once again sorry for bugging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you're not allowed hit woman no matter what but they're allowed hit men... Makes a lot of sense doesnt it

its a very good point,

i agree women need to protect themselves,

i agree no man should ever hit a woman regardless,

i agree this is a double standard,

it totally does not stand up to scrutiny, but it isnt wrong really"

You say that when ones coming at you with a knife.

We can even carve it into your headstone if you like "at least I didn't hit her"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Living in the country I am always grateful for the odd fumble......

Seriously though it's when guys don't find me attractive I will worry.... I use to pinch guys bums all the time when l was a barmaid nobody minded

I was waiting for someone to add a little balance to an otherwise imbalanced thread, - good on you!!

Ye perv!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it wouldnt say that,

it would say, "restraining her until the police came, didnt work"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And look how the conversation has changed! From men groping a woman and being at fault to women being at fault because men think they can't hit them.

Men and women live in very different worlds.

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By *vsnikkiTV/TS
over a year ago

Limavady

"Okay so if a woman tries feeling my arse or my crotch, its right for me to get aggressive with her? It should be

You get alot of women wanting to grab your arse then?

No, you shouldn't hit women. You shouldn't hit men either. Women shouldn't lash out either.

Verbal responses are often more effective anyway. Use police if necessary. Don't get physical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And look how the conversation has changed! From men groping a woman and being at fault to women being at fault because men think they can't hit them.

Men and women live in very different worlds."

My point was if you saw a guy battering the face of a woman because she pinched his arse would you think she deserved it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know. Embarrassing ain't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it wouldnt say that,

it would say, "restraining her until the police came, didnt work""

Ever tried restraining someone who's armed and trying to kill you without blows?

Cause trust me it doesn't work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it wouldnt say that,

it would say, "restraining her until the police came, didnt work"

Ever tried restraining someone who's armed and trying to kill you without blows?

Cause trust me it doesn't work.

an extreme example but ok,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my friend grabs them by the balls and Push's them to the ground, then shows them up!

they never get up!

she took a shotgun of a guy who burst in the pub she worked!coz the qwiz was on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And look how the conversation has changed! From men groping a woman and being at fault to women being at fault because men think they can't hit them.

Men and women live in very different worlds.

My point was if you saw a guy battering the face of a woman because she pinched his arse would you think she deserved it"

I am a firm believer in approriate responses. When the stranger at the bar kissed me, i slapped his face. When the guy dropped money in my cleavage and had his fingers in my bra, i twisted his wrist til he cried. Now when exactly should i have stopped him and how? I have NEVER touched a stranger inappropriately and if a women were to geel ur ass i would expect you to remove hwr hand strongly. What you men dont understand is that as men you are physically more intimidating. You are steonger and taller so an inappropriate touch from you, immediately shocks us. I am 5'4". Most men are stronger and bigger than me. Noone gas the right to touch anyone but until you have walked down the atreet as me, you have NO IDEA how you will feel when men leer, shout, stand infront of you in the street to stop you walking. You juat can't gwt it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sorry for the bad typing! My new phone is causing me problems!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Living in the country I am always grateful for the odd fumble......

Seriously though it's when guys don't find me attractive I will worry.... I use to pinch guys bums all the time when l was a barmaid nobody minded

I was waiting for someone to add a little balance to an otherwise imbalanced thread, - good on you!!

Ye perv!!

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends how good looking he was....

Comments like this don't help either."

Don't help what, - your argument?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Depends how good looking he was....

Comments like this don't help either.

Don't help what, - your argument?

It doesn't help women who don't want to be sexually assaulted by strangers. I just assumed that was the majority. Excuse me if i'm wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could always invest in a panic alarm, take self defence classes or take photo evidence and report them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it wouldnt say that,

it would say, "restraining her until the police came, didnt work"

Ever tried restraining someone who's armed and trying to kill you without blows?

Cause trust me it doesn't work.

an extreme example but ok, "

People coming at you with a knife are generally going to kill you if they get the chance even if they don't mean to you'd be surprised just how many arteries you've got spread about in places the movies show it perfectly fine to get shot or stabbed in.

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By *hocolate007Man
over a year ago

london

"Id be a right slut if i was a woman

This is an attitude i can't even get my head around.

loosen up, he was just messing around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

did anyone else mention knifes on this thread though,

not really comparable

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You could always invest in a panic alarm, take self defence classes or take photo evidence and report them.

Or i could just expect not to be groped and assualted by men when i'm walking around. Wouldn't that be nice?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Id be a right slut if i was a woman

This is an attitude i can't even get my head around.

loosen up, he was just messing around"

Yeah we women need to get a sense of humour about these things don't we?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You could always invest in a panic alarm, take self defence classes or take photo evidence and report them.

Or i could just expect not to be groped and assualted by men when i'm walking around. Wouldn't that be nice?"

Are you ever accidentally groped by women?

Just askin'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"did anyone else mention knifes on this thread though,

not really comparable "

it was in response to you rather stupid statement that a man should never hit a woman regardless of the situation.

Having been in that situation I can say yeah you fucking hit them and even then don't think you're coming away from it without losing some skin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its clear you are talking from experience and applied what i said to what is relevant to you,

see you point, end it here shall we

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You could always invest in a panic alarm, take self defence classes or take photo evidence and report them.

Or i could just expect not to be groped and assualted by men when i'm walking around. Wouldn't that be nice?

Are you ever accidentally groped by women?

Just askin'.

Theres no such thing as an accidental grope. And no. A woman has never touched me inappropriately.

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By *hocolate007Man
over a year ago

london

"Living in the country I am always grateful for the odd fumble......

Seriously though it's when guys don't find me attractive I will worry.... I use to pinch guys bums all the time when l was a barmaid nobody minded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its clear you are talking from experience and applied what i said to what is relevant to you,

see you point, end it here shall we"

Fair enough. And yeah aim for the gut though not the face got a still be a little bit of a gent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not even slightly funny pal

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

"So where do men aim for you to brush past you when there is plenty of room and what do they brush past you with?

You have a lot of bad luck .. as in wrong place at wrong time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you work in a kitchen?

I bet you've seen a few sausages and black puddings in your time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So where do men aim for you to brush past you when there is plenty of room and what do they brush past you with?

You have a lot of bad luck .. as in wrong place at wrong time"

Ive lived all over europe and since i turned 17 men have been doing it all my life. I dont know why. I seem to attract that kind of arsehole mentality. New york is the worst but the uk is in the top 3. I know its not just me because i see the same pricks shout the same shit or go rub up against another woman after me, i just dont understand how these men think its ok. Did their parents not tell them that was unnacceptable behaviour or do they think they're just so goddamn amazing that every woman would beg them for their attention?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So where do men aim for you to brush past you when there is plenty of room and what do they brush past you with?

You have a lot of bad luck .. as in wrong place at wrong time

Methinks you do protest too much, you love it really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So where do men aim for you to brush past you when there is plenty of room and what do they brush past you with?

You have a lot of bad luck .. as in wrong place at wrong time

Methinks you do protest too much, you love it really. "

I'm getting banned from the forum and i dont care. Go fuck yourself.

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