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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ok.... we have arranged a meet for saturday night, im pretty nervous about it (h) as its our first meet with a couple. we havent played with anyone before and im soooooo nervous!. im excited to play and have fun but i dont want my nerves to get in the way, can anyone give me any advice.

h x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was the same when i had my first meet, butterflies n felt sick, but was ok once we met the couple, just chatted at first n then had some fun, now when i think back i wonder what all the fuss was about lol

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

take your time

relax

don't drink too much

be comfortable and confident to set agreed boundaries between yourselves and the other party/parties

and right upto the last minute, feel free to say NO, you have changed your mind xx

xx

have fun and good luck xx

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

it will be FAB x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

go at your own pace, and if that's the male of the couple writing, don't have too much booze, in fact don't touch any if you are going to play. You can have a drink when it's over, lol.

most of all enjoy it and don't let yourself get pressured into anything.

have a great meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we had our first meet sat just gone i had so much nerves the worst bit for me was from the pub to the house. they made us feel so welcome and we were honest and told them it was our first. we were glad we did one we started it was same room sway after a few mins i started to relax watching himself with another women was a turn on for me and i enjoyed the night i was glad i was sober too for it. good luck and i hope you be ok they do go away and u be on a high for ages afterwards have fun ok

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

aww thanks guys your all so nice, to be honest i feel a bit silly having nerves in the first place but seems like everyone goes through it!. im sure soon il have my swinger wings haha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't feel silly- we all have those nerves.....it creates a better night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't feel silly- we all have those nerves.....it creates a better night "

I agree the apprehension adds to the excitement, as long as your all relaxed and know each others boundries you will be fine, enjoy yourselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont worry about it every body still get nerves i reckon so its naturally to have them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its totally natural as everyone so far as said.

If we ever don`t get nervous or "butterfies", it`ll be the time to stop swinging.

Enjoy.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Exactly - may you always get those nerves!

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By *ue care and attentionWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

Make sure you have a code word in case either of you does not want to play but is too embarassed to say.

Also, get someone to call you an hour after you meet...if all's going well you can ignore the call, if it's going pear shaped you have the excuse to leave...baby sitter etc

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

We have been swinging for about two years, but still get nervous now! I think if we ever get complacent about meeting we will give it up.

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

go at what you feel comfortable with and avoid alcohol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you say dont have alcohol. I can understand not having loads, especially from a guys point of _iew, but wouldnt you agree that a couple might put you at ease? I mean a couple...not a skin full.

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

just remember everyone has a first time and as so many have already said take your time, go at your own pace and don't be afraid to say no. But most of all have FUN!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always get nervous every single time we went someone, the day I dont feel nervous and I become blase and it feels like im just going to the supermarket then its got too much. I think its good to have nerves. You just need to go at your own pace and im sure everything will be fab

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