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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You're having a conversation with someone through messaging on here, and you notice that they delete all your previous messages as you're conversing...

Does that ring anyone's alarm bells? It does me a bit...hmmm any views on this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do it to keep my messages nice and tidy. You're thinking too much into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair I do this up to the latest one just so I don't have loads of messages to look at when chatting to a few different people.

On my side it isn't personal, just housekeeping, can't account for others obviously.

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By *each_PittWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

I delete all my messages once I've replied to them. Delete my sent ones too once I see they've been read.

It's just good housekeeping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always delete them as long as you keep the last one they sent you can still see the entire conversation.....

Just keeps your inbox and sent box tidy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I delete all my messeges after they have been read, keeps the mail box tidy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No its normal, just to keep a tidy inbox lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it's housekeeping. They are chatting to you. All you should care about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep mine tidy too...so I would not worry about it...try not to over think stuff on here...will burn your brain...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I delete when I've either replied, or decided I'm not going to bother. I've only got the free membership on here, so if I don't delete the dross, the few special keeper messages I've hung onto will drop off my page. Sorry that rings alarm bells for you. I think you may be reading too much into message deletion. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tidy inbox tidy sex life lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only ever keep the most recent one. There's usually way more than 100 messages in my mailbox, if I want a hope of getting to any at the end, I have to delete some others. I also generally delete my sent messages, equally in-sinister.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

No alarm bells at all....we can often have conversations with 10 or more people at a time so keeping the read section clear is really helpful to keep up....we just drop the latest one into saved...also useful if only 1 of us is online...that way the other can catch up later.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I get that you want to clear up your clutter but this bird is literally deleting messages after reading and then replying back to me? I would've thought you might want to keep recent messages so you can have a look back at them when you're in the moment, that's what I do.

Strange behaviour I think but maybe it's just me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply to ones I want then delete otherwise as others have said you end up with full in box f read messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she's that confident that you'll message her back that she knows she doesn't even need to store your details.... Guess she has her sent items to refer to.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"You're having a conversation with someone through messaging on here, and you notice that they delete all your previous messages as you're conversing...

Does that ring anyone's alarm bells? It does me a bit...hmmm any views on this?

"

No, we generally delete messages after we have read/replied to them. No funny business, just like a tidy inbox and I have a pretty good memory.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I get that you want to clear up your clutter but this bird is literally deleting messages after reading and then replying back to me? I would've thought you might want to keep recent messages so you can have a look back at them when you're in the moment, that's what I do.

Strange behaviour I think but maybe it's just me! "

Sounds like we are talking to the same woman lol

Its definitely not strange at all.

Why keep a message when you can see them all from the latest one??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men don't have to delele msgs as it can take months to get if filled up, women can get their filled up in 1 day lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I get that you want to clear up your clutter but this bird is literally deleting messages after reading and then replying back to me? I would've thought you might want to keep recent messages so you can have a look back at them when you're in the moment, that's what I do.

Strange behaviour I think but maybe it's just me! "

I don't really send dirty chat type messages so no. But you only need to keep the most recent one to see the whole message thread anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're having a conversation with someone through messaging on here, and you notice that they delete all your previous messages as you're conversing...

Does that ring anyone's alarm bells? It does me a bit...hmmm any views on this?

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I always do this..why would it ring alarm bells?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You're having a conversation with someone through messaging on here, and you notice that they delete all your previous messages as you're conversing...

Does that ring anyone's alarm bells? It does me a bit...hmmm any views on this?

I always do this..why would it ring alarm bells?"

That maybe they don't have any intentions of meeting up, instead just charting bullshit to get you all worked up?? Then next time you login they've up and left the site...wouldn't be my first time!

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Been mentioned briefly before but why bother to keep them except for the last one which shows all the message exchanges on that particular message feed? Just scroll through and read, also save the last one and presto, read at leisure and a nice tidy inbox too. Just ignore the deleting stuff, they're talking to you and that's the whole point, you may get a meet out of it.

Him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NOt at all I delete mine as soon as I've read them..wouldn't eve give it a second thought

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By *eMontresMan
over a year ago

Halesowen

Dude, have you not noticed that you can see the entire conversation in the latest message - why keep the older ones?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I delete all my messeges after they have been read, keeps the mail box tidy "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just deleted one I really wanted to keep.

Some would say twat. I say pudgy man fingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some I leave, some I delete.

There's no particular order or reason...

I'm partial to a tidy box though.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I just think they keep a tidy inbox and sent box

Mines an uncontrollable mess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I delete as i'm chatting too. Not just the person i'm talking to but anyone else who messages me as well.

Although not been on here lately so got a stuffed inbox i'm ignoring...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be grateful for it, the ones you want to avoid are the ones who start :

"You know that thing you said 3 years 2 months 6 hours ago on the Monday evening as we were getting ready to go out ...." sort of thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this a first , someone complaining that their messages have been read and replied to ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

MMMmmm..

all these women with tidy boxes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"MMMmmm..

all these women with tidy boxes"

Not me, mine is an out of control mess at the moment

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"I do it to keep my messages nice and tidy. You're thinking too much into it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"MMMmmm..

all these women with tidy boxes

Not me, mine is an out of control mess at the moment "

I said box, not moustache

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"You're having a conversation with someone through messaging on here, and you notice that they delete all your previous messages as you're conversing...

Does that ring anyone's alarm bells? It does me a bit...hmmm any views on this?

"

I don't bother looking. Makes it easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"MMMmmm..

all these women with tidy boxes

Not me, mine is an out of control mess at the moment

I said box, not moustache "

Hey that's perfectly shaped. I've got wax on the ends and everything.

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