FabSwingers.com forum: Polite to reply but is it more trouble?

By *ollypops181 OP Woman
over a year ago

exmouth

Everyone knows that the girls on here get a lot of messages and it's hard to reply to all but I hear constantly that guys would prefer a polite 'no thanks' than no reply.

Now that I'm not getting hundreds of msgs a day, I gave it a try today (normally if not interested I just don't reply). And wow! Instead of that being the end of it, I got more msgs back!

Mainly of the type 'well I can be what your looking for' or 'well can I have a pic anyway' etc etc. So is it best just to ignore? Surely no one has the time to continue these rather pointless conversations??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clever girls use filters.

I reply to all first messages. Had very very few rude replies. No issues whatsoever. Reply once and no need to reply again (if my answer was a no thanks).

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By *ollypops181 OP Woman
over a year ago

exmouth

I have filters up. And I tried just not replying a second time and three guys in the space of a few minutes replied again with more arguments to why I was wrong. Iv had to resort to blocking, but I don't like doing that, it feels a little mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clever girls use filters.

I reply to all first messages. Had very very few rude replies. No issues whatsoever. Reply once and no need to reply again (if my answer was a no thanks)."

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I have filters up. And I tried just not replying a second time and three guys in the space of a few minutes replied again with more arguments to why I was wrong. Iv had to resort to blocking, but I don't like doing that, it feels a little mean

Blocking is just like filtering.

Only permanent - which in many cases is a godsend!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree, they say they want a polite no thanks, but then they not happy when they receive one, and just opens a can of worms.

My profile says I like men with hair, so if your bald or have cropped hair don't message me, and guess what most if my mail is from bald short haired men, wastes my time and there's

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich

Vigorous use of filters

However,unless your going to block EVERY guy,you`re still going to get loads..

Theres some really nice guys here so I do believe in giving them a chance to show they are worthy of my time and a possible meet.

I pretty much reply to all my (hundreds of)messages,then just block any that arent listening/havent bothered to read profile..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is blocking considered mean? I don't understand that mentality at all. It doesn't hurt anybody.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Mainly of the type 'well I can be what your looking for' or 'well can I have a pic anyway' etc etc. So is it best just to ignore? "

Sadly it is the easiest way to avoid endless pointless if not rude replies I am afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit I have been guilty of sending a response to a 'no thanks' in the past -

I always send just one more note to thank them for letting me know (as that's rare) and wish them all the best going forwards (I certainly don't try anything more on or try to get anyone to change their mind as I respect their views)

If they have been polite enough to send a 'thanks but no thanks' I want to be polite back. Then leave it at that! (I accept that for some this may be one message too many but I hope I haven't caused any problems in the past)

I guess it's all down to what's in the further messages - some guys may see any form of response as the door being left slightly ajar for them to try again and it must wind the ladies up properly!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I'll stick to ignoring. I still manage to get repeat messages even then so god knows what would happen if I started replying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to reply no thanks but rarley do anymore. Men can't take no for an answer on here. And a lot of them just get abusive when you reject them. Why waste your time?

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By *ollypops181 OP Woman
over a year ago

exmouth

I replied to a younger guy earlier telling him thanks but no thanks, he asked why, I decided to reply again (mistake 1) and explain, I told him I'm only really into doms (mistake 2), not exclusively just a preference and what he was offering was a bit soft. And he relied (no bloody joke):

' fucking come here so I can rape the shit out of you!'

I mean seriously, this is what u get for being nice??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im abit of a newbie to the site and tbh i understand what your saying. By replying i guess you are opening the door for them to hassle you as they might take you reply the wrong way but by not replying i think is kind of unfair tbh. If a guy writes you a decent message other than just hi fancy a shag etc then i would feel that even if your not interested a message back saying no thanks not my type etc would be Really kind. i have written my fair share of decent messages just to have them deleted and it kind of makes you give up Writing decent messages just to have them deleted. i always reply to my inboxes but then again im lucky to have 1 a week. From what i have heard , women get flooded so fair shout if you cant reply to all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is blocking considered mean? I don't understand that mentality at all. It doesn't hurt anybody."

Exactly this

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By *empted123Man
over a year ago

Wirral

I don't mind a no reply its not the end of the world.Its sad that some men are abusive on here but they are not proper swingers in my opinion.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I reply to all first messages. Had very very few rude replies. No issues whatsoever. Reply once and no need to reply again (if my answer was a no thanks)."

This pretty much, except we reply to most first messages.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Why is blocking considered mean? I don't understand that mentality at all. It doesn't hurt anybody.

Exactly this

Just the occasional ego!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I feel a reply should carry a disclaimer:

The decision of the panel is final and no correspondence will be entered into.

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By *ollypops181 OP Woman
over a year ago

exmouth

"I feel a reply should carry a disclaimer:

The decision of the panel is final and no correspondence will be entered into.

Don't understand how any body can think, begging,bullying, bribing might help change said opinion.

Also if I don't want to talk/ screw you, chances are Im not going to send u free porn!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a guy i always ask politely for a response. If I am not for them I accept it and move on. There are numerous females here who I dont find attractive once we have shared face pics. Guys be polite about it. If theres no attraction dont try and change someones mind it screams desperation

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich

"Why is blocking considered mean? I don't understand that mentality at all. It doesn't hurt anybody."

If your horse was lame , youd put it out of its misery..

Hence blocking..its the kindest thing to do

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich

"I replied to a younger guy earlier telling him thanks but no thanks, he asked why, I decided to reply again (mistake 1) and explain, I told him I'm only really into doms (mistake 2), not exclusively just a preference and what he was offering was a bit soft. And he relied (no bloody joke):

' fucking come here so I can rape the shit out of you!'

I mean seriously, this is what u get for being nice??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ignore and my block list is extensive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone doesn't reply I move on. If they reply with a no thanks I'll reply back thanking them for the courtesy of the reply and wish then well. Much like someone said earlier. I've never once questioned why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clever girls use filters.

I reply to all first messages. Had very very few rude replies. No issues whatsoever. Reply once and no need to reply again (if my answer was a no thanks)."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't mind a no reply its not the end of the world.Its sad that some men are abusive on here but they are not proper swingers in my opinion."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do love a reply to say no thanks but I appreciate it's difficult. I personally don't see why these men just don't get the message! If someone doesn't reply they aren't interested simples. I also don't think getting blocked is mean, I don't mind it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

' fucking come here so I can rape the shit out of you!'

I mean seriously, this is what u get for being nice??

I hope you reported him. Admin are very good at sorting people like that. x

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By *lackgrapeMan
over a year ago

Purley

"Everyone knows that the girls on here get a lot of messages and it's hard to reply to all but I hear constantly that guys would prefer a polite 'no thanks' than no reply.

Now that I'm not getting hundreds of msgs a day, I gave it a try today (normally if not interested I just don't reply). And wow! Instead of that being the end of it, I got more msgs back!

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

If i reply with no thanks and the questions of why not begin,i block straight away.I also block if people message again after a no at a later date.Blocking isn't rude its a good tool .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If i reply with no thanks and the questions of why not begin,i block straight away.I also block if people message again after a no at a later date.Blocking isn't rude its a good tool . "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't reply to all , I use to but the messages that came after asking why or calling me names put paid to that so yes I find it more trouble. I also get put off by the ' if I send you a message at least be polite and reply even if it's a no ' on some guys profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first joined 5 year ago I replied to every msge after awhile I thought jeez all I'm doing is saying a polite no thanks. So its written in my profile now and as been in all my other profiles.8f I don't reply I'm not interested.More time now to chat to peeps I want to meet flirt N perv

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm still a newbie and I get hundreds of messages , occasionally ill reply with a "no thanks" depending on the effort they've made with their message but I mostly just delete and ignore . I'd be here forever replying to them all .

I do get repeat messages off guys ive ignored as well , everything from " am I not you type, don't you want my cock, babe ? You there ? To messages like "go find some one else to fuck then you slut"

I have quite an extensive block list already ! Even had someone message 5 times despite being deleted and the last time he was offering me cash ! Reported and blocked straight away .

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