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Trying to be genuine on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Right so I'm having a bit of a problem.

I know this website is full of single guys looking for fun and the odds of me being able to stand out are greatly reduced when some single woman get hundreds of messages daily.

But I send out messages to people i'm interested in meeting and they always get read. I try to be genuine in them, but I don't know if i'm coming across too keen or creepy :/

Anyone got any tips?

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

Join an adult club

Much easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What sort of messages are you sending?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What sort of messages are you sending?"

Just complementing their pictures and then saying that I would be interested in meeting sometime.

I normally attach a picture as well.

I'm a verified user as well :-/

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock


"What sort of messages are you sending?

Just complementing their pictures and then saying that I would be interested in meeting sometime.

I normally attach a picture as well.

I'm a verified user as well :-/"

Only photo verified though?

Maybe increase your chances if you get a meet verification?

Or even a webcam veri?

If you are struggling to get a 1 to 1 meet then go along to a social event, many are organised here on the forum, then you can get meet veris, and make a few contacts at the same time.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

No genuine person has to try to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I'm creeped out by your profile intro. The bit about wanting to suck on a ladies clit right now. So if your messages are like that then maybe it's that.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Keep trying to be genuine .. Once you've got that faked you'll be fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What sort of messages are you sending?

Just complementing their pictures and then saying that I would be interested in meeting sometime.

I normally attach a picture as well.

I'm a verified user as well :-/"

Instant delete. This approach may work on some but saying that you want to meet straight away when we haven't even chatted tells me that you will meet/fuck anything off here as long as their pics are ok. Comes across as desparate.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Judging by your negative profile, I'd go for creepy messages.

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

Sorry, profile is still not great. And if you've blocked guys there's no point putting that stupid statement on the end.

Also, you're 21. The average age of people on here has got to be what? 40?

Personally I never go with anyone younger and bear in mind you might be the same age as some peoples' kids.

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Think its another not right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And get rid of the bisexual comment as I read that and thought perhaps you like gay sex. Maybe say something along the lines that you are interested in meeting couples, comfortable to play in a males presence but not interested in playing with one, just pleasuring the lady

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

What's 'genuine' OP ?

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No genuine person has to try to be. "

Just what I was thinking....you either are genuine or you aren't. You can't "try to be".

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Theres countles threads offering generic profile advice... Theres probably the same number about messages as well,

Happy reading

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe your trying too hard to be genuine

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Post a couple of your typical messages - minus any identifying recipients info, so we can comment on whether you seem creepy, as you state.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If you've blocked single men, remove all the stuff about gay and bi sex. It's negative and off-putting.

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By *edsBonkingMan
over a year ago

Near MK

Genuine and polite ( always ) here, but very little or no luck. Just trying to be patient. I suppose an adult club is the only alternative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you've blocked single men, remove all the stuff about gay and bi sex. It's negative and off-putting. "

This Also, don't type in capitals on your profile, it comes across as shouty, aggressive and attention seeking

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

6 pics all the same more or less. The suck a clit bit sounds crude. The no bi-guys and no transgender full stop just sounds ranty.

Improvements - variety in pics, re-word to what makes you 'you' how do you stand out as a person?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having a rant about single men when you have blocked them is pointless and makes you look a bit daft and unnecessarily aggressive

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Genuine and polite ( always ) here, but very little or no luck. Just trying to be patient. I suppose an adult club is the only alternative. "

Your profile says not looking for meets!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guess trying to be genuine is too hard for some.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Guess trying to be genuine is too hard for some. "

He's genuinely UNLOS.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's y I don't search, cos fab is a womans world lol. We are all genuine op, its not about that, just a lack of women. Unless some are willing to travel hundreds of miles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are loads of genuine and lovely people on here, but you do have to wade through the 'shallows' to get to the 'deep' keep looking

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