FabSwingers.com forum: Expectations

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it possible to live without any?

Im on a long journey to shift weight and ive no issues admitting i was 30st 6 n half pound when i started ..

After only a loss of 1.5 lb i was truly gutted as i worked hard and wanted more. People were really trying to say 'Its a loss, you should be thrilled' etc but i still was dissapointed in myself because i knew how much of an effort id made to change.

Maybe i expect too much from myself, but is that a bad thing to want to change? I've so much drive and ambition to succeed this time. I do have a few obsticals in my way but even with those factored into things i'm still tough and determined

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

Since turning 40 I have subconsciously relaxed , and my fuck it gene has well and truly kicked in , I am who I am and I'm happy , it's a great philosophy to live by

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By *atcherofmyballsMan
over a year ago

hereford

I applaud you for having the drive and determination to succeed. Keep up the good start and hope you reach your goal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's impossible to live with no expectation at all , whether we realise our expectations or not is a different thing though .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to do whatever makes you happy. If you keep working it will work, just make sure your doing it for the right reasons. To make you happy not others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are young and have to be patient. You learn as you get older to not have high expectations,even down to opening a bag of Cheese and onion walkers. You wait to see if there's more than a handful. Slow and steady is the pace when it comes to weight loss. As long as you're following your recommendations and doing some exercise you will lose it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep it up.....it's taken me since beginning of November to lose 19lb....was going to give up many times,but glad I didn't as I feel much better xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

oh and thats another thing i find hard to deal with when i read in magazines..

'i was a size 32 and not im only a size 10'... after loosing 10 stone in weight to now be a healthy 9 stone.

i must have really really dense heavy fat in my 5ft 3 body to be just under 30 stone and yet can wear some size 24 clothes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sassy, I've been on that same journey, I still am. I can only say that after nearly five years of it, I've discovered that

-if your focus in on the destination, you'll never get there. What's important (for me) is the journey. When I focus on that, I realise that what I've done is changed my life for the better instead of trying to achieve a single goal

- sometimes, I progress slowly, sometimes quickly. Sometimes I make no progress. But I'm still on the journey, and that's what matters.

-I threw away my scales. Obsessing about every pound is pointless. It's how I feel which is important. Nothing is more depressing that reducing hard work and positive change to a numerical value.

- I applied CBT to my relationship with food. It helped me immensely.

-It's ok to fail. The only person who will judge me, who is of any importance, is myself.

I hope this makes sense. I could be talking bollocks as I'm slightly dehydrated!

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

If you live life without expectations you won't be let down and everything's a bonus, OP

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Ignore the magazines.

And well done on starting to lose weight - the first steps are the hardest.

I was just under 29 stone, a size 26 and 5ft 4... 18 stone down and now a size 10-ish.

You have the drive and determination to do it.

Slow weight loss stays off, so think of it in small steps or it becomes overwhelming...

I didn't actually have a goal in mind until fairly recently... til then it was just a process and not an end point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

-It's ok to fail. The only person who will judge me, who is of any importance, is myself.

I hope this makes sense. I could be talking bollocks as I'm slightly dehydrated!

And thats the bit that irks me.. i wanted more from myself especially in the early stages. Having the mass of weight i need to drop i thought id drop more.

a woman in my local weight loss group lost 22 lb in 3 weeks (admitidley she had a baby) and the following week dropped another 5 lb...

i was just pissed off.. id stuck to the plan,, wrote it all down and hadnt taken short cuts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People lose weight differently,don't look at what others are achieving and say to yourself I will achieve. As someone above said don't focus on your goal. Change your menu,substitute and don't tell yourself you're on a diet. Healthy eating is the best approach for you and your child.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ignore the magazines.

And well done on starting to lose weight - the first steps are the hardest.

I was just under 29 stone, a size 26 and 5ft 4... 18 stone down and now a size 10-ish.

You have the drive and determination to do it.

Slow weight loss stays off, so think of it in small steps or it becomes overwhelming...

I didn't actually have a goal in mind until fairly recently... til then it was just a process and not an end point.

xx"

i dont have a goal weight in mind, but id love to just have energy

think id suit a curvatious 16/18 maye maintain that for a while.. re adjust and then start again.

in my head i can not seeing going from my weight straight through to being 9stone (or whatever im supposed to be according to my BMI).. i want smaller more practical goals.

I feel that i do not look as heavy as i am (i hope i've not got body image issues) and people are like 'no way' when i tell them how heavy i am

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People lose weight differently,don't look at what others are achieving and say to yourself I will achieve. As someone above said don't focus on your goal. Change your menu,substitute and don't tell yourself you're on a diet. Healthy eating is the best approach for you and your child. "

luckily i've always been blessed that her diet is packed with veg and fruit so the changes for her arent a great deal

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Your body is adjusting so may take a bit of time to get going...it will happen. I'm eating more healthy and walking loads it just takes time to come off..x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

how much have you lost in total Cute? if i recall correctly you had a massive loss initially.

have you done the measuring thing? i know its cliche but you really do lose inches instead of pounds sometimes.

I'd love your determination to stick to plans etc as i do more exercise than ever before at the moment but am not really seeing the results due to my crap eating!! I really ned to get my head around it

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

If its a lack of energy, then have a close look at your diet and also get a check up with the doc... It might not be the weight that is the issue.

For me, my energy dips massively when I don't drink enough water...

Oh, and according to BMI I still need to lose a good stone and a half yet... its nonsense. But in all fairness, my gp says I exercise too often for the BMI scale to work right.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Perhaps you've got heavy bones

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"how much have you lost in total Cute? if i recall correctly you had a massive loss initially.

have you done the measuring thing? i know its cliche but you really do lose inches instead of pounds sometimes.

on the SW scales im now 29st 7.5 lb

so there was a difference between my own home scales and theres.. so hard to actually say how much ive lost

When i joined SW i offically started at 29st 13 lb..

but prior to that id already lost 13lb on my scales

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

pick one set of scales to pay attention to, and only weigh in once a week... anything more becomes obsessive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If its a lack of energy, then have a close look at your diet and also get a check up with the doc... It might not be the weight that is the issue.

For me, my energy dips massively when I don't drink enough water...

Oh, and according to BMI I still need to lose a good stone and a half yet... its nonsense. But in all fairness, my gp says I exercise too often for the BMI scale to work right. "

Fluid intake is something ive also increased quite a lot.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"pick one set of scales to pay attention to, and only weigh in once a week... anything more becomes obsessive."

i agree

i had to throw my scales out as i weighed myself every day

now i only weigh myself when i can be bothered at the gym lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"pick one set of scales to pay attention to, and only weigh in once a week... anything more becomes obsessive."

yeah i gave mine away now

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Perhaps you've got heavy bones"

haha is there such a thing?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Every journey starts with a single step and it is far better to have a crack at something than to not even make the attempt. Good luck and please let us all know how you get on, as you may be surprised how much encouragement and support you get, lass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loosing weigh is really hard

I've battled with my weight all my life, i have also battled CED, I've been everything from a size 26 to a size 8 in my adult life, I loose weight and put it on so fast and have done every unhealthy trick in the book to aid my loss before getting help

Some people just do have an unhealthy relationship with food and its not always as simple as 'just don't eat it' like people who don't have eating problems think it is

I was quite proud of myself last year when I lost 7 stone to be honest is isn't my greatest weight loss but its the first time in my life I have lost weight purely through diet and excerise, without the aid of laxatives and

and believe me that was a real breakthrough for me

Its bloody hard I know that but it can be done, even if you only loose a pound a week that's just short of 4 stone a years

I wish you luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps you've got heavy bones

haha is there such a thing?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it possible to live without any?

Im on a long journey to shift weight and ive no issues admitting i was 30st 6 n half pound when i started ..

Whatever weight you are now and your target weight reach it sensibly. Too much too fast is dangerous as I'm sure you've heard lots already. If one week you put some back on dont lose heart. Dont set a time scale on it. Just have it as your aim. Best of luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it possible to live without any?

Im on a long journey to shift weight and ive no issues admitting i was 30st 6 n half pound when i started ..

Theres a good chance with your diet/exercise regime that you are putting on muscle whilst shedding fat, Muscle weighs around 3x more than fat so you should go by measurements and body fat readings if its making you paranoid. I've lost 3 stone myself since March after recovering from a nasty injury which left me unable to exercise, so long as you keep to your diet its possible

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thanks for all the kind words of advice n support x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it possible to live without any?

Im on a long journey to shift weight and ive no issues admitting i was 30st 6 n half pound when i started ..

Your doing brilliant

. Keep sight of what you want and follow your dream .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done. Dont give up. Even if you fall 'off the wagon' just think of it as a bit of a blip and not the end of the world.

I struggle with my weight and I know how tough it is to keep your goal in sight.

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

I know where you're coming from. The first 5 weeks or so of the 'changes' I've made I only lost 6lb in total. In the past when I've done slimming world I would have lost 7lb in the first week without getting off the sofa, so to lose so slowly despite eating really well and exercising like crazy was hard to take!

But then I thought, it's still 6lb lost and it's not like I am going to lose all this weight in a matter of months anyway. To use a cliché, it's a marathon not a sprint. Pick up things that weigh

that 1.5lb and see how heavy it is and how much space they take up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get your consultant to show you what a 1.5lb looks like in fat you will be shocked..don't compare their weight loss to yours in group..im the same I only loose small amounts and you always get someone who losses 5 or 6 lb a week but we are all different .Do not be disheartened its a good loss and a steady on. Keep up the good work I know its hard as I'm trying myself..

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