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jumping to conclusions/assumptions

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Isn't it annoying when people jump to conclusions/assumptions without really knowing you/the situation?

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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Yep.

It'll never stop though.

A

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I form opinions about people all the time, mostly over the test of time I am right.

Occasionally, I am wrong but care very little as I am not here for longevity or life long contact

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By *orthLincsIronCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Is this thread aimed at us?

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

There's a guy at work who does this all of the time then rants away because he's absolutely right in his mind and doesn't need hardly any of the facts. Pretty sure he'd believe he would have solved the enigma code with barely any info at all. A thoroughly irritating individual who'll never change, some folk just can't help themselves I assume/conclude.

Him

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

To err is to be human

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By *ll-Knight-longMan
over a year ago

Derby/Notts(Long Eaton)

We all make assumptions and opinions of other people and even not being honest with ourselves...that's life so I live and let live and assume nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't it annoying when people jump to conclusions/assumptions without really knowing you/the situation? "

It's completely natural to make quick conclusions or assumptions, I suggest it's instinctive. People have to make a conscious effort to reprogram some elements of that natural reaction.

As I have got older and wiser I have learnt to be less annoyed by how others may perceive me especially if their peception cannot effect me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What really matters is how you perceive the assumptions and as on here we are just up for fun , it matters not one bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To Assume is to make ASS of U and ME! Lol like to give people a chance as much as possible because I was teased most of my life with incorrect narrow minded assumptions xx

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By *ayOrwell1984Man
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

The problem is that too many people make assumptions and assume they are correct.

They never factor in that they might be wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't it more that people tend to apply new information to what it means to them not the person its about

Forums are bad for it as there is no emotion in text so people naturally read and convert the meaning to suite their experience\knowledge.

As said the key is the ability to accept wrong and change _iew

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep.

It'll never stop though.

A"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. Although it does make me smile when the people who rant about others making assumptions, make the biggest ones themselves

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells

Na

It's real life

But occasionally it's annoying sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perception is reality to many

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best thing to do is not to get drawn into it, if the person thinks something why bother trying to argue. I couldnt give a fuck what someone thinks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't it annoying when people jump to conclusions/assumptions without really knowing you/the situation? "

Oh yes happens a lot on here but let em get on with it I say ..You know yourself wouldn't worry what a load of strangers in a forum assume.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst we're unable to swing we have a message on our profile saying as such. The assumption that we're often met with is that the "real reason" why we're not swinging is because we're undecided Just to make it clear... WE'RE NOT UNDECIDED. We're just snowed under by "real life" at the mo... no that isn't code for saying we're undecided... it's the actual reason.

In a recent PM we were told that we're timewasters (bearing in mind that this was in reply to them giving us a wink and us messaging back a polite "hi" so no actual timewasting at all)... but that's the whole point of putting our non-swinging status clearly on our profile so that we don't waste anyone's time Some people are just out to be offended, to be judgemental, and to make a total arse of themselves

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

To make an assumption is to make an ass out of umption or something.

It was funnier in my head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry...thought this thread was about something else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't it annoying when people jump to conclusions/assumptions without really knowing you/the situation? "

No it doesn't annoy me at all. I actually quite like it.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

[Removed by poster at 05/06/15 13:32:56]

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

And I don't believe a lot of the online personas

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By *dinMan
over a year ago

Nr Biggleswade

Those type of opinions which start with the words

Im not being funny,But!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Isn't it annoying when people jump to conclusions/assumptions without really knowing you/the situation? "

No. Thoughts of people who don't know me personally are insignificant to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst we're unable to swing we have a message on our profile saying as such. The assumption that we're often met with is that the "real reason" why we're not swinging is because we're undecided Just to make it clear... WE'RE NOT UNDECIDED. We're just snowed under by "real life" at the mo... no that isn't code for saying we're undecided... it's the actual reason.

In a recent PM we were told that we're timewasters (bearing in mind that this was in reply to them giving us a wink and us messaging back a polite "hi" so no actual timewasting at all)... but that's the whole point of putting our non-swinging status clearly on our profile so that we don't waste anyone's time Some people are just out to be offended, to be judgemental, and to make a total arse of themselves "

So no chance of a quick fuck then ?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Isn't it annoying when people jump to conclusions/assumptions without really knowing you/the situation? "

It's unfair but human nature. I've had assumptions made about me but all it made me think was that the people making the assumption were the idiots, not me. Making judgments is wrought with pitfalls.

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Hmmm i sort of live in a world with this attitude, witch hunting religious/self righteous hypocrites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People always judge a book by its cover, Its not until they look on the inside do they find the true character

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So no chance of a quick fuck then ? "

Lol you just want us on your trophy shelf Who knows what the future holds when our lives finally fucking settle down again

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's standard for the human mind. We are meaning creating and associating animals. Looking for patterns we recognizse all the time, mostly unconsciously - so that we don't learn the same things over and over. It's brain efficiency at its best.

Depending on how much conscious thought we implement, we have abilities to determine and decide otherwise to habitual inclinations. Most of us are lazyish and don't expend much brain effort.

It's easy to see how prejudices get propagated.

I like to give people the chance to reveal themselves.

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