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"We do, it is very simple. You can either book a slot or drop-in. Google 'blood service' for the website. Unfortunately we are still coming to terms with the fact that we may have to choose between this or swinging Mr ddc" Yes I've had to wait 12 months before after meeting a bisexual man, which still seems a really outdated system given I could have donated immediately after having sex with 10 heterosexual men who had never used condoms in their lives and been incredibly promiscuous | |||
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" Yes I've had to wait 12 months before after meeting a bisexual man, which still seems a really outdated system given I could have donated immediately after having sex with 10 heterosexual men who had never used condoms in their lives and been incredibly promiscuous " It will be interesting to see if the rules change with the new HIV testing kit. I suspect they don't mind too much about other STIs as they get destroyed during processing. | |||
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"Yes I've had to wait 12 months before after meeting a bisexual man, which still seems a really outdated system given I could have donated immediately after having sex with 10 heterosexual men who had never used condoms in their lives and been incredibly promiscuous " | |||
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"Unfortunately, I was advised not to. I gave blood once in my 20's and passed out. It is not a common reaction." So did I, passed out after giving blood at every pregnancy check up I was advised to give blood to stop it | |||
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" Yes I've had to wait 12 months before after meeting a bisexual man, which still seems a really outdated system given I could have donated immediately after having sex with 10 heterosexual men who had never used condoms in their lives and been incredibly promiscuous It will be interesting to see if the rules change with the new HIV testing kit. I suspect they don't mind too much about other STIs as they get destroyed during processing." They have to screen every donation for HIV among other things anyway, so it would be interesting to see if they did a trial opening donation to gay and bisexual men whether they ended up having to destroy more donations than they do under the current system. | |||
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"I donate regularly. My 50th coming up. Always make an appointment at my donation for next time. I do think they need to be a bit more proactive, its very often a sign outside the venue on the day asking for new donors. Perhaps local media could give free advert in the week leading up to a visit? But then you would have charities etc, expecting the same. A poster or two, especially in places like train/bus stations, colleges etc could be arranged?" think our local one is on a market day ? Don't see why they couldn't send a canvasser up and down the High street | |||
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" Yes I've had to wait 12 months before after meeting a bisexual man, which still seems a really outdated system given I could have donated immediately after having sex with 10 heterosexual men who had never used condoms in their lives and been incredibly promiscuous It will be interesting to see if the rules change with the new HIV testing kit. I suspect they don't mind too much about other STIs as they get destroyed during processing. They have to screen every donation for HIV among other things anyway, so it would be interesting to see if they did a trial opening donation to gay and bisexual men whether they ended up having to destroy more donations than they do under the current system. " | |||
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"I donate regularly, book appointments and go. Its one of the reasons why I will not play with bisexual men. Giving blood is more important to me than a quick shag. I'm waiting for my next local session to get back into cycle as I had to give it 6 months after an operation recently, and that has just passed." Out of curiosity have you ever asked them if being a swinger would exclude you. | |||
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"They have to screen every donation for HIV among other things anyway, so it would be interesting to see if they did a trial opening donation to gay and bisexual men whether they ended up having to destroy more donations than they do under the current system. " Precisely. The new test may not be 100%, but I would have thought it could be used to bring the percentages in line with heterosexual people, if not better. Anything that stops me being accused of being a homophobic bigot whenever I stray into that other forum would be a bonus too. | |||
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"Do you give blood ? Are you on the list ? Do you know when you can donate ? Apparently there's a huge drop in the number of donors over the last ten years. I'd love to donate, but don't know when or where Also you have to make an appointment, or wait three to four hours to do so if you drop in Are they making it easy enough to donate or not ? " No, I have sex with men who are sexually intimate with other men. Therefore I cannot give blood. Despite my blood being in great condition and being a rare type that they are desperate for. | |||
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" Out of curiosity have you ever asked them if being a swinger would exclude you." The rules are quite specific, and vary for men and women. You can find them if you google "who can't give blood" | |||
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"I'm O negative. I really should donate but because of my tattoos I have to go a Year with out any to donate " It's four months now rather than a year. I still find the following guidelines a little odd. "The Advisory Committee on the Safety of Blood, Tissues and Organs (SaBTO) advise that there is insufficient evidence available to be able to determine the impact on blood safety of introducing a system that assesses every individual's behaviour and level of risk rather than applying deferrals to groups. It is also not certain that all people could objectively assess their own level of risk. We appreciate that it can be disappointing for anyone who wishes to donate blood but is not able to meet the current donor selection criteria. We understand that the donor selection criteria around sexual activity can make someone feel as if they are being placed in a 'category', even if they feel that their own sexual behaviour and risk-taking would not be a risk to the blood supply. There is a small possibility that the tests we use to test blood donations before they are used to treat patients may not pick up infections, particularly those which have been recently acquired. Therefore, we must follow deferral rules that estimate risk based on behaviour. We are sorry for any inadvertent offence this causes." So a straight person of either gender who has multiple straight partners is assumed to be a lower risk. Just seems a little outdated to me, especially since all stocks are routinely screened before use. A | |||
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" Out of curiosity have you ever asked them if being a swinger would exclude you. The rules are quite specific, and vary for men and women. You can find them if you google "who can't give blood"" I know the rules are specific bur I was curious if they would actually take your blood if you told them.you regularly had sex with strangers with no idea of thier sexual history. | |||
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" Out of curiosity have you ever asked them if being a swinger would exclude you. The rules are quite specific, and vary for men and women. You can find them if you google "who can't give blood" I know the rules are specific bur I was curious if they would actually take your blood if you told them.you regularly had sex with strangers with no idea of thier sexual history." Multiple partners doesn't bother them, partners from high risk countries or men who have sex with other men does. | |||
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" Out of curiosity have you ever asked them if being a swinger would exclude you. The rules are quite specific, and vary for men and women. You can find them if you google "who can't give blood" I know the rules are specific bur I was curious if they would actually take your blood if you told them.you regularly had sex with strangers with no idea of thier sexual history." 'Don't ask, don't tell' | |||
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" Out of curiosity have you ever asked them if being a swinger would exclude you. The rules are quite specific, and vary for men and women. You can find them if you google "who can't give blood" I know the rules are specific bur I was curious if they would actually take your blood if you told them.you regularly had sex with strangers with no idea of thier sexual history. Multiple partners doesn't bother them, partners from high risk countries or men who have sex with other men does. " which would be the the no idea of these people sexual history bit. Knowing a fair few TV's on here and guys I know that most of the people who claim they don't meet bi guys have veris on display from people who've met or tried to meet with TV's or other men. | |||
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"Do you give blood ? Are you on the list ? Do you know when you can donate ? Apparently there's a huge drop in the number of donors over the last ten years. I'd love to donate, but don't know when or where Also you have to make an appointment, or wait three to four hours to do so if you drop in Are they making it easy enough to donate or not ? " Im an O and give reguarly,if you visit blood.co.uk it tells you where the places to donate are ans when.You can even book an appointment now. | |||
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"I know the rules are specific bur I was curious if they would actually take your blood if you told them.you regularly had sex with strangers with no idea of thier sexual history. 'Don't ask, don't tell'" That's the attitude we're discovering sadly. Or even "If asked, lie, but call it 'hiding ones sexuality'" Thx: we're still new to this malarkey, and that's why I said we may end up having to choose. I'm pretty sure I'd be able to spot if the person I was having sex with turned out to be a bisexual man and not a woman. The rules for Mrs ddc are different, and allow a little leeway. | |||
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" Out of curiosity have you ever asked them if being a swinger would exclude you. The rules are quite specific, and vary for men and women. You can find them if you google "who can't give blood" I know the rules are specific bur I was curious if they would actually take your blood if you told them.you regularly had sex with strangers with no idea of thier sexual history. Multiple partners doesn't bother them, partners from high risk countries or men who have sex with other men does. " Hence my post above. It's a system that relies on people being open and honest. What's to stop anyone saying no to any question that would prevent them from donating? If you're in a category that prevents you donating according to the guidelines yet have been fully tested and cleared, had no sexual contact with anyone for months - yet nine months ago did something to fall foul of the rules - is your blood any less worthy than someone else? A | |||
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" Yes I've had to wait 12 months before after meeting a bisexual man, which still seems a really outdated system given I could have donated immediately after having sex with 10 heterosexual men who had never used condoms in their lives and been incredibly promiscuous It will be interesting to see if the rules change with the new HIV testing kit. I suspect they don't mind too much about other STIs as they get destroyed during processing. They have to screen every donation for HIV among other things anyway, so it would be interesting to see if they did a trial opening donation to gay and bisexual men whether they ended up having to destroy more donations than they do under the current system. " . No I don't think that's an issue. Its more the fact that hiv can take 6 months to show up on a test after infection so they air on the side of caution that somebody may have contracted it 3 months before donation and the test would be negative! | |||
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"Unfortunately, I was advised not to. I gave blood once in my 20's and passed out. It is not a common reaction." The same happened to my wife and they told her she needed it more than they did. I used to go, but have got out of the habit. I should really as I have a rare blood group, so rare I can't recall what it is. | |||
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"I think the fact that they won't take tattoos says something about the piss poor standards used by some tattooists" I think they need to find a way to screen and potentially clean the blood before use so people who get tattoos or are on medication can donate | |||
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"I think the fact that they won't take tattoos says something about the piss poor standards used by some tattooists I think they need to find a way to screen and potentially clean the blood before use so people who get tattoos or are on medication can donate " . They probably never thought of that! | |||
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"Unfortunately, I was advised not to. I gave blood once in my 20's and passed out. It is not a common reaction. The same happened to my wife and they told her she needed it more than they did. I used to go, but have got out of the habit. I should really as I have a rare blood group, so rare I can't recall what it is." . It doesn't make any difference anyhow, in an emergency they give everyone o negative So if your o negative... Get donating | |||
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" Yes I've had to wait 12 months before after meeting a bisexual man, which still seems a really outdated system given I could have donated immediately after having sex with 10 heterosexual men who had never used condoms in their lives and been incredibly promiscuous It will be interesting to see if the rules change with the new HIV testing kit. I suspect they don't mind too much about other STIs as they get destroyed during processing. They have to screen every donation for HIV among other things anyway, so it would be interesting to see if they did a trial opening donation to gay and bisexual men whether they ended up having to destroy more donations than they do under the current system. . No I don't think that's an issue. Its more the fact that hiv can take 6 months to show up on a test after infection so they air on the side of caution that somebody may have contracted it 3 months before donation and the test would be negative! " But that could equally happen to a donation from a straight person who has HIV. All other things being equal (age, background, travel history, drug use etc) is it still the case that gay and bisexual men are more likely to have HIV than heterosexual men? If it is then I can see the logic. If it's not then it's illogical. | |||
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"I donate regularly, book appointments and go. Its one of the reasons why I will not play with bisexual men. Giving blood is more important to me than a quick shag. I'm waiting for my next local session to get back into cycle as I had to give it 6 months after an operation recently, and that has just passed. Out of curiosity have you ever asked them if being a swinger would exclude you." We had a chat about my sexual history, and I was open about being bi-sexual - but I have had 2 sexual partners in the last 18 months, one is my lover - we were both tested before making the decision to stop using condoms (we have known each other a very long time, know each others sexual history) and the other I was safe with every time. So perhaps not a prolific swinger - but yes open and honest about my lifestyle when it would have an impact on others. | |||
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" So a straight person of either gender who has multiple straight partners is assumed to be a lower risk. Just seems a little outdated to me, especially since all stocks are routinely screened before use. A " I agree | |||
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"I know the rules are specific bur I was curious if they would actually take your blood if you told them.you regularly had sex with strangers with no idea of thier sexual history. 'Don't ask, don't tell' That's the attitude we're discovering sadly. Or even "If asked, lie, but call it 'hiding ones sexuality'" Thx: we're still new to this malarkey, and that's why I said we may end up having to choose. I'm pretty sure I'd be able to spot if the person I was having sex with turned out to be a bisexual man and not a woman. The rules for Mrs ddc are different, and allow a little leeway." You not having sex with a man isn't the issue really, your wife having sex with a man who says he is straight but isn't and then you having sex with your wife could cloud the issue though. I am surprised they have not asked whether people are swingers to be honest as we are all taking risks even playing safe as we can. | |||
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" So a straight person of either gender who has multiple straight partners is assumed to be a lower risk. Just seems a little outdated to me, especially since all stocks are routinely screened before use. A I agree " Also don't understand why escorts can't but swingers can, besides the money what's the difference? HIV and HepB don't understand the exchange of cash | |||
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"Unfortunately yes, gay and bisexual men tend to be more promiscuous and are still at higher risk than heterosexual ones." Whoever decided that clearly hasn't been on fab and seen all the married men playing away | |||
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"Unfortunately yes, gay and bisexual men tend to be more promiscuous and are still at higher risk than heterosexual ones." on a swingers site | |||
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" So a straight person of either gender who has multiple straight partners is assumed to be a lower risk. Just seems a little outdated to me, especially since all stocks are routinely screened before use. A I agree " It's based on simple statistics and probability. (If only they taught these sorts of things in school. They could use sweets for example... ) | |||
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"Yes i donate I also believe that unless on medical grounds it should be opt out not opt in as how many of folk too selfish and or lazy to donate would accept donated blood to save a life of a loved one. As for scared of needle bit I am not keen and feel sick when I see the needle but man up and do it because a pint of my blood could help someone live price well worth paying. Also if folk are in hospital for operations or a stay over subject to health being okay then blood should be donated especially if having blood taken for tests." A lot of people on this thread have said they would but the blood transfusion service won't let them. I am on medication so they won't let me even though I am AB and they want it. They need to work out how to clean blood because pretty soon there will be no one left who isn't on meds, hasn't had anal sex or doesn't get regular tattoos and then the poop will hit the fan | |||
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"Do you give blood ? Are you on the list ? Do you know when you can donate ? Apparently there's a huge drop in the number of donors over the last ten years. I'd love to donate, but don't know when or where Also you have to make an appointment, or wait three to four hours to do so if you drop in Are they making it easy enough to donate or not ? " I have done in the past, but i'm ashamed to say not in a few years. The story did actually make me think back to when I last did it, and reminded me to find out where my local centre is now that I'm living in a different town. | |||
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"I know the rules are specific bur I was curious if they would actually take your blood if you told them.you regularly had sex with strangers with no idea of thier sexual history. 'Don't ask, don't tell' That's the attitude we're discovering sadly. Or even "If asked, lie, but call it 'hiding ones sexuality'" Thx: we're still new to this malarkey, and that's why I said we may end up having to choose. I'm pretty sure I'd be able to spot if the person I was having sex with turned out to be a bisexual man and not a woman. The rules for Mrs ddc are different, and allow a little leeway. You not having sex with a man isn't the issue really, your wife having sex with a man who says he is straight but isn't and then you having sex with your wife could cloud the issue though. I am surprised they have not asked whether people are swingers to be honest as we are all taking risks even playing safe as we can." No, it wouldn't matter if he was just having sex with his wife. But his wife in that situation *would not* be able to give blood. If a woman has slept with a man in the past 12 months who has had oral or anal sex with another man in the previous 12 months, then she cannot give blood. It doesn't go further down the chain to her husband. | |||
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" If a woman has slept with a man in the past 12 months who has had oral or anal sex with another man in the previous 12 months, then she cannot give blood. It doesn't go further down the chain to her husband." That assumes she knows about it. I would guess some don't and continue to give blood in ignorant bliss. | |||
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"Do you give blood ? Are you on the list ? Do you know when you can donate ? Apparently there's a huge drop in the number of donors over the last ten years. I'd love to donate, but don't know when or where Also you have to make an appointment, or wait three to four hours to do so if you drop in Are they making it easy enough to donate or not ? " I give blood every 12 weeks (16 for women, I believe). I never make a 'next' appointment - as I always find a place (locally-ish) that I can donate. This means I can donate 4 times a year. I tend to find myself using drop-in sessions - the wait is between 5 minutes and an hour without an appointment YMMV. Occasionally, I'll book an appointment. Check out blood dot co dot uk - or use your favourite search engine. To my mind - it's easy. | |||
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