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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am a big believer that respect should be given

but

should it be earnt or automatically given, even if you don't get it back?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I will offer complete respect to people who I believe deserve it. There are some people in this world that I have zero respect for and they me. I am cool with that.

I don't need their respect.

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By *orthLincsIronCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Respect should be earned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't get it back be the better person but remember not to deal with that person again

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I respect those that respect me

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Respect from the outset, treat others as you wish to be treated, be an ass and you lose that respect.

Him.

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By *ipswingCouple
over a year ago

portrush


"Respect from the outset, treat others as you wish to be treated, be an ass and you lose that respect.

Him."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think earned respect is different to the type of respect you show others upon meeting them.

I show respect to everyone when I first meet them but they can do or say something that will destroy that respect. It doesn't, however, stop them from earning my respect later down the road.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will reapect someone until they prove they do not deserve it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you don't get it back be the better person but remember not to deal with that person again"

or do deal with them respectfully regardless. It does their nut in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always give respect if I don't get it back I try keep calm and not worry. However sometimes I just blow.

If someone doesn't give me respect from the off I won't give them the time of day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you don't get it back be the better person but remember not to deal with that person again

or do deal with them respectfully regardless. It does their nut in "

agree

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante


"I am a big believer that respect should be given

but

should it be earnt or automatically given, even if you don't get it back?"

Personally I always give and show respect....then it's down to the recipient to deserve it continuing

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

Respect is generally earned for me, show time and again you are worthy of it and it's yours.

But I treat everybody as initially neutral regardless of what I've been told about them.

If you show that you deserve no respect you get none.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Respect is worth little if it isn't mutual - if you respect someone who doesn't respect you, how many times will you let them abuse you before that respect for them is lost?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Respect is worth little if it isn't mutual - if you respect someone who doesn't respect you, how many times will you let them abuse you before that respect for them is lost?"

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Respect is worth little if it isn't mutual - if you respect someone who doesn't respect you, how many times will you let them abuse you before that respect for them is lost?"

Sometimes it isn't about mutual respect - it can be about disliking someone as much as they dislike you but not giving them the satisfaction of seeing your feathers ruffled.

This works best in scenarios you're regularly exposed to but can't easily escape from - a work setting for example.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think earned respect is different to the type of respect you show others upon meeting them.

I show respect to everyone when I first meet them but they can do or say something that will destroy that respect. It doesn't, however, stop them from earning my respect later down the road."

Even if someone was disrespectful to me I'll still be respectful of them.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Once you have abused my respect don't expect me to give it back again.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I think earned respect is different to the type of respect you show others upon meeting them.

I show respect to everyone when I first meet them but they can do or say something that will destroy that respect. It doesn't, however, stop them from earning my respect later down the road."

Exactly - I think every stranger should be given a basic level of respect by default.

An additional depth of respect can be earned, but if I lose respect for someone, it is hard to regain.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

I try to treat all people with respect whether I believe they deserve it or not. I think it makes me a better person and, when they don't show it back, shows them for what they truly are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I try to treat all people with respect whether I believe they deserve it or not. I think it makes me a better person and, when they don't show it back, shows them for what they truly are."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The right thing to do is to treat every single person with respect. If you don't get it back then you know where you stand. Because if every person took the _iew that respect needs to be given before we give it. Then nobody would be respecting anyone ever, would they? .

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

Everyone should be afforded a certain level of respect, the right to keep it, gain more or lose it, should be earned.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Respect from the outset, treat others as you wish to be treated, be an ass and you lose that respect.

Him."

That's my creed too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think earned respect is different to the type of respect you show others upon meeting them.

I show respect to everyone when I first meet them but they can do or say something that will destroy that respect. It doesn't, however, stop them from earning my respect later down the road."

Ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Respecting others is my default position. Just because I may respect someone doesn't mean I necessarily agree with everything they say or do.

I have no problem respecting an abnoxious bigot, I just don't necessarily respect their abnoxious or bigoted _iews.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"Respecting others is my default position. Just because I may respect someone doesn't mean I necessarily agree with everything they say or do.

I have no problem respecting an obnoxious bigot, I just don't necessarily respect their obnoxious or bigoted _iews."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Respecting others is my default position. Just because I may respect someone doesn't mean I necessarily agree with everything they say or do.

I have no problem respecting an abnoxious bigot, I just don't necessarily respect their abnoxious or bigoted _iews."

Me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I show respect to everyone untill I feel they no longer deserve my respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Respect is the default setting everyone gets

Not every inputs the minimal requirements to keep it

Should be earnt through mutural courtesy and trust,

Basically no dicks

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By *nfinity1Man
over a year ago

Near Bournemouth


"Respect should be earned "

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Earned definately.

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Mutual respect a must ... Once it's gone that's it ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The right thing to do is to treat every single person with respect. If you don't get it back then you know where you stand. Because if every person took the _iew that respect needs to be given before we give it. Then nobody would be respecting anyone ever, would they? . "

That's the way the world seems to be going though.

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By *airy_HettyWoman
over a year ago

Greater London


"Respect from the outset, treat others as you wish to be treated, be an ass and you lose that respect.

Him."

100% agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Respect from the outset, treat others as you wish to be treated, be an ass and you lose that respect.

Him."

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By *huramMan
over a year ago

London

In a sane, decent society.

Good manners, the right attitude and politeness will earn respect.

Bad manners, a nasty attitude and impoliteness will earn disrespect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In a sane, decent society.

Good manners, the right attitude and politeness will earn respect.

Bad manners, a nasty attitude and impoliteness will earn disrespect."

In a sane, decent society, no one would be disrespected.

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By *huramMan
over a year ago

London

The disrespectful should be disrespected until they learn how to behave respectfully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand the question? Surely everyone should just be nice to everyone, and get along?

What's all this nonsense about earning respect? What does that even mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Earned definately."

So if I think the same as you. You won't respect me until I earn it. I won't respect you until you earn it. Therefore from the beginning we don't respect each other.

God I would hate to live in a world where everyone thought that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Earned definately.

So if I think the same as you. You won't respect me until I earn it. I won't respect you until you earn it. Therefore from the beginning we don't respect each other.

God I would hate to live in a world where everyone thought that way. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's that straight forward; I give a little respect automatically (courtesy) but this is quite swiftly lost or built upon.

Proper, respect in its full sense is most definitely earned.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"I don't think it's that straight forward; I give a little respect automatically (courtesy) but this is quite swiftly lost or built upon.

Proper, respect in its full sense is most definitely earned."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Respecting others is my default position. Just because I may respect someone doesn't mean I necessarily agree with everything they say or do.

I have no problem respecting an abnoxious bigot, I just don't necessarily respect their abnoxious or bigoted _iews."

What defines a persons personality if not their _iews?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm interesting one. I can behave respectfully towards someone I don't respect, I can behave disrespectfully to someone I respect and any other combination of those too. I endeavour to be respectful to others no matter what but sometimes I fail. I expect they will too with me. On the whole I avoid people I find it hard to respect.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Earnt. Not an automatic thing at all.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Aretha Franklin - Respect [1967] (Original Version)

www.youtube.com/watch?v=6FOUqQt3Kg0

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Courtesy, I give freely.

Respect has to be earned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's that straight forward; I give a little respect automatically (courtesy) but this is quite swiftly lost or built upon.

Proper, respect in its full sense is most definitely earned."

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By *lackbirdtimestwoWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

I respect everyone I come across until they prove me wrong,,, I do get disappointed sometimes,,, such is life

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Respect for others is given as standard by me, to a publicly acceptable level. I may lower this, if others demonstrate their diminished respect for me.

Our societal norms are to show some respect automatically. We don't push into others whilst walking, speak our thoughts aloud, without censorship etc. We are social animals and able to think before acting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Respects my default but, if betrayed, it's gone for good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Respect for me as to be earned ,courtesy however is given freely

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