FabSwingers.com forum: why

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i know its another pop at single guys thread, and i know not all are the same.

But we have just had friend invites from two separate guys, no message or wink, even tho our profile says we arent really looking for men atm.

My question is, what do they hope to achieve other than make people cross???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are trying to be added to your friends list.

I am on module two rocket science.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"They are trying to be added to your friends list.

I am on module two rocket science."

well what they want is to perv our private pics, understand that, but to send an invite without a message just results in them getting blocked, i cant see the gain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They are trying to be added to your friends list.

I am on module two rocket science."

The hot flushes are adling my brain Granny...it took me a couple of minutes to get your post!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oooooooo Im on the end of thos Sass...... Perversly I enjoyed them.

Could do with keeping them for the winter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bloody chancers! the lot of them! he he he

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Trying their hand/ chancers/ what have they got to lose.

All of the above is from the OH who says most men will do it and he thinks why not.....it may get them noticed.

For most women it gets their backs up , funny old world eh.

Anyway, we have 95 adds for friends and 76 winks waiting to be cleared......we ignore them and delete when I get round to it.

It's easy....two clicks and they are gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lack of IQ mainly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really struggle to see why this winds peeps up...accept or ignore...whats the big deal..?????

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

it doesnt wind us up just cant see what they have to gain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway, we have 95 adds for friends and 76 winks waiting to be cleared......we ignore them and delete when I get round to it.

Was just about to send you a wink too. I better not....

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"it doesnt wind us up just cant see what they have to gain."

You may look at their profiles, see something you like, add them to see their private gallery?

You add them, they get to perv your private pictures?

You add them, they get to see your facial pictures and THEN decide whether or not to message you.

etc.

I go through mine once a week.

No big deal

It's a function the site gives people. If you don't like it, ignore them...... or join another site.

Simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i know its another pop at single guys thread, and i know not all are the same.

But we have just had friend invites from two separate guys, no message or wink, even tho our profile says we arent really looking for men atm.

My question is, what do they hope to achieve other than make people cross???"

I could say the same about couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

jeeze does it really matter??? if you dont want to be their friends dont accept the invite, if it makes u feel better block their asses!!

what do u hope to gain from posting this thread??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it doesnt wind us up just cant see what they have to gain."

Maybe they can't see what they have to loose?

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"jeeze does it really matter??? if you dont want to be their friends dont accept the invite, if it makes u feel better block their asses!!

what do u hope to gain from posting this thread??"

I don't think it is that simple! Yes we could just delete and block as we do, but the question was "What do they hope to gain?"

Well we all know what they hope to gain, but usually don't. What they do though is ruin it for the few genuine guys who actually have respect for peoples wishes.

What I can't understand even more than the mind of the rude single guys is why you feel the need to berate someone for asking a civil question in a civil manner!

What do they hope to gain??? Perhaps others views on the subject in an equally civil tone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's not just single guys but couples as well..We get invites from couples down South and am certain will never see them..we don't just accept people but prefer either to chat or meet and then accept..is on our profile but most just send.. Why?? But I try always to reply and say sorry not accepting we don't know you sorry...usually they blocks after that..laughs H.

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By *ev and TrevCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

We don't play with single guys ever and the 1st line of our profile states as much. The 2nd line states that the only single guys we add as friends are those we have met at a party or social. Yet still we get at least 2 requests a day.

Profile also says that we only add people who we have spoken to in chat or messaged and there is no point adding us if you live the other side of the country as we are never going to meet. Yet still we get requests from people who live 100's of miles away or that we have had no contact with so this isn't only a single guy phenomenom.

Does it bother us? Nope we just delete and move on!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Anyway, we have 95 adds for friends and 76 winks waiting to be cleared......we ignore them and delete when I get round to it.

Was just about to send you a wink too. I better not....

lol sorry, we always ignore them, we like mails instead

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Anyway, we have 95 adds for friends and 76 winks waiting to be cleared......we ignore them and delete when I get round to it.

Was just about to send you a wink too. I better not....

lol sorry, we always ignore them, we like mails instead

Not always!

xxx

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

lol we do......I only noticed yours because I was nosing on your profile and it popped up

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Here's how it works Chaps:

Step 1: Do a search for women between 18 and 99 within 500 miles.

Step 2: Wink them all

Step 3: Add them all as friends

Step 4: Two days later send them all an angry cut-and-paste email asking why they didn't wink or add you.

Step 5: Repeat Steps 1 to 4 at random over several weeks.

Step 6: Post angry rant about women on forum, make it especially offensive.

Step 7: Find yourself on more peoples Blocked list than Gary Glitter.

Step 8: Allow all these women to discover wonderful polite and attentive little me as you clear off to haunt somewhere else....

Did I miss anything?

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"lol we do......I only noticed yours because I was nosing on your profile and it popped up

It always pops up when I see your profile pics!

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Does receiving a friends invite that can be easily deleted at the click of a button really make you angry?

I suppose that the people sending them send out loads in the hope that someone may accept them along the line,no other reason to so it.....unless it turns them on to know it has you feeling angry when you look at it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not everyone gets angry is why...some of us take them in the spirit in which they are intended.

I'm sure when a man is clicking 'send' it's not done with malice!

I have actually got chatting to some people that send a wink, I sometimes think it's a courteous thing to do and I appreciate that some folk just don't know how to send that initial letter...or they've read threads bemoaning single men who send unsolicited mail and think it a good alternative.

It takes but 1 second to click 'delete all'...not sure how such a swift action can invoke anger...in fact...you can totally ignore the winks and friend invites if you want...they're separate pages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a fair point and an issue that I've fallen foul of myself.

Sometimes, I'm too tired to write an email (I try and not copy and paste) and it just seems an easy option to send a friend invite to see if there is any interest there. Why else is that function provided?

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

lol you prob find that most are not gen or no pics of ther face they just wnt to see your private pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just having a wild guess here, and it is a wild guess so apologies if I'm wrong but ..

Maybe they just want to look at your private pics ?

Just a guess mind you, I'm sure there's a much less sinister explanation, just I can't quite think what it may be at this moment in time.

Oh and before I go, why does it bother you, it obviously must or you'd not have posted this thread....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nothing wrong with winkers lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"jeeze does it really matter??? if you dont want to be their friends dont accept the invite, if it makes u feel better block their asses!!

what do u hope to gain from posting this thread??

I don't think it is that simple! Yes we could just delete and block as we do, but the question was "What do they hope to gain?"

Well we all know what they hope to gain, but usually don't. What they do though is ruin it for the few genuine guys who actually have respect for peoples wishes.

What I can't understand even more than the mind of the rude single guys is why you feel the need to berate someone for asking a civil question in a civil manner!

What do they hope to gain??? Perhaps others views on the subject in an equally civil tone?

this type of question is asked daily ... why does no-one read the profile, why do i get mails from ppl that arent in my criteria, why do we get winks when we say no winks and at the end of the day WHY MOAN?? delete the mail, delete the winks and move on... it is not just single blokes that are guilty of this couples and single fems are too but at the end of the day if you dont like it DELETE!!

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

"I think it's a fair point and an issue that I've fallen foul of myself.

I find this interesting. Isnt it like going into a pub and asking everyone to be your friend without chatting with them first. Its that a bit sad tho?(to me it seems lit) Surely its better to chat to the person and get to know them a touch and then ask to be a friend??

Same applies in my eyes to this site.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"this type of question is asked daily ... why does no-one read the profile, why do i get mails from ppl that arent in my criteria, why do we get winks when we say no winks and at the end of the day WHY MOAN?? delete the mail, delete the winks and move on... it is not just single blokes that are guilty of this couples and single fems are too but at the end of the day if you dont like it DELETE!! "

So what you are saying is that if the subject has come up before, look it uip on search and don't post again? The forum would be empty after a couple of weeks!

Also, the forum is here for everyone and if I want to post about something that has been discussed before, I can.. If you don't like it you don't have to read or answer it.

So if you don't like this question, move on to the next!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

No, they are probably saying they are bored of hearing it. As you so rightly say, they are allowed to say that on a public forum.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm just having a wild guess here, and it is a wild guess so apologies if I'm wrong but ..

Maybe they just want to look at your private pics ?

Just a guess mind you, I'm sure there's a much less sinister explanation, just I can't quite think what it may be at this moment in time.

Oh and before I go, why does it bother you, it obviously must or you'd not have posted this thread....

if you read my earlyer reply you would know that it doesnt i was just asking what they hope to gain. I was hoping for some sensable answers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny, I thought my answer was quite sensible ... you asked a question and I gave a reply, which in fairness is most likely to be the nearest answer to the truth.

Ok I was being sarcastic becuse in all honesty I suspect you already know what the answer was to your original question is, so I conclude that it must bother you in some way shape or form, otherwise you'd not have posted the thread.

You see it doesn't bother us that we get unsolicited friends requests, we just delete them as and when we remember to do so ... but if we were bothered, we most likely do as you have and start a thread about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what you are saying is that if the subject has come up before, look it uip on search and don't post again? The forum would be empty after a couple of weeks!

Also, the forum is here for everyone and if I want to post about something that has been discussed before, I can.. If you don't like it you don't have to read or answer it.

So if you don't like this question, move on to the next!"

not quite sure why you felt the need to comment as you did, im sure you are aware thats not what i was saying but hey each to their own, if it makes you feel better bash on, happy forum posting.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

Same applies in my eyes to this site.

But in a pub, you come face to face with the person asking to be your friend. You see them in the flesh.

On an internet site, you have to take the profile on trust, maybe get to know them a little before you get a facial picture and then think...... holy shit, I'm not going near that minger!

At the end of the day, I would rather see a facial picture immediately, to guage whether or not I am going to even enter into conversation with them about the possibility of meeting.

Many on here say that it's all about personality............

I say Bollox.

You have to have some kind of sexual attraction to the asthetics before personality even comes into it.

I will carry on asking for friends invites so I can see pictures, facial/body type/size etc before entering into chat. Otherwise I could be gassing away to someone I wouldn't go near, even with a 10ft barge pole.

Each to their own.

You know where the delete and block buttons are.......

USE THEM.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But in a pub, you come face to face with the person asking to be your friend. You see them in the flesh.

On an internet site, you have to take the profile on trust, maybe get to know them a little before you get a facial picture and then think...... holy shit, I'm not going near that minger!

At the end of the day, I would rather see a facial picture immediately, to guage whether or not I am going to even enter into conversation with them about the possibility of meeting.

Many on here say that it's all about personality............

I say Bollox.

You have to have some kind of sexual attraction to the asthetics before personality even comes into it.

Each to their own.

You know where the delete and block buttons are.......

USE THEM."

i'm not sure whether you're for or against friends requests here!

..can i also say, I don't even ask to see a face pic unless i'm interested in meeting the person...as that's where the attraction lies with me, in the person...and the reason i ask for a pic is that i don't want to go meet someone if i don't know what they look like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

because us men (mark) are neanderthals and see a woman and think ooh ooh wink wink message lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"because us men (mark) are neanderthals and see a woman and think ooh ooh wink wink message lol"

lol x

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"No, they are probably saying they are bored of hearing it. As you so rightly say, they are allowed to say that on a public forum."

Yep! But then to OP also has the right to post this thread! And I also have to right to post my reply... Could go on all day!

Guess what I am really trying to say and TandS were just there when I saw this... (no slight intended)

We get preached about by some on here about tolerance. This site seems to tolerate those who IMHO bring the site into disrepute, such as those cheating on a partner, but we can't tolerate someone asking a simple question on the forum?

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"because us men (mark) are neanderthals and see a woman and think ooh ooh wink wink message lol"

Thats the best response on this thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"because us men (mark) are neanderthals and see a woman and think ooh ooh wink wink message lol"

very good

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"No, they are probably saying they are bored of hearing it. As you so rightly say, they are allowed to say that on a public forum.

Yep! But then to OP also has the right to post this thread! And I also have to right to post my reply... Could go on all day!

Exactly the point of my post......ANYONE can post and ANYONE can ignore if they don't like it.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

But in a pub, you come face to face with the person asking to be your friend. You see them in the flesh.

On an internet site, you have to take the profile on trust, maybe get to know them a little before you get a facial picture and then think...... holy shit, I'm not going near that minger!

At the end of the day, I would rather see a facial picture immediately, to guage whether or not I am going to even enter into conversation with them about the possibility of meeting.

Many on here say that it's all about personality............

I say Bollox.

You have to have some kind of sexual attraction to the asthetics before personality even comes into it.

Each to their own.

You know where the delete and block buttons are.......

USE THEM.

i'm not sure whether you're for or against friends requests here!

I'm for them.

And our profile states that anyone who gets in touch with us must send a facial picture and a cock picture when they message.

If we get in touch with someone, we will ask for a friends invite or, if I'm feeling very brave, will write a message and attach a picture.

But to be honest, we get loads of friends invites and the first thing I do is look at the pictures attached to the profile.

No pictures...... deleted

Don't like the look of their picture .... deleted

Small cock on picture...... deleted

I then go through the profile and see if they match what we are looking for.

If they don't ........ deleted.

If they do...... accept friends invite.

takes 2 mins to see their private gallery and if you don't like whats in there, 10 seconds to delete the friends link.

We also never keep friends who we have never met, unless we are forum buddies and will be meeting at a social in the future.

Like I said earlier, I tend to have a clear out once a week.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"because us men (mark) are neanderthals and see a woman and think ooh ooh wink wink message lol

Thats the best response on this thread

And probably nearest to the truth

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Same applies in my eyes to this site.

But in a pub, you come face to face with the person asking to be your friend. You see them in the flesh.

On an internet site, you have to take the profile on trust, maybe get to know them a little before you get a facial picture and then think...... holy shit, I'm not going near that minger!

At the end of the day, I would rather see a facial picture immediately, to guage whether or not I am going to even enter into conversation with them about the possibility of meeting.

Many on here say that it's all about personality............

I say Bollox.

You have to have some kind of sexual attraction to the asthetics before personality even comes into it.

Each to their own.

You know where the delete and block buttons are.......

USE THEM."

Mad your totally right on the internet it is a bit different. I dont bother asking for friend invites to see face pic to judge as you rightly say if I would be interested in getting to know them more as a face/body pic can easily be attatched to any initial message.

If I get an interesting message from a person that has clearly read my profile then am far more inclined to want to see a face pic.

If I get mail from someone that hasnt bothered to read my profile or made any effort to their profile...then I wont be interested in even seeing their face.

So for me personality does come very high up on my list. I wouldnt meet a man who had no personality and was boring to me if he was the most handsome looking sexy man. Did meet a very very sexy man in so many ways(he did love himself)and spent all the time talking about him. Needless to say we didnt click or have great fun and soon got bored with his way even though he is very good looking.

But yes,delete and block is the normal thing for me now,if not interested and dont want to be mailed again by them.

I am attracted to personality and looks together.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

But yes,delete and block is the normal thing for me now,if not interested and dont want to be mailed again by them.

I am attracted to personality and looks together."

You are lucky. I wish I could be like that sometimes.

For me, it's about whether I have a sexual attraction to them because we only do 1 off's.

In the house

Cor he's nice

10 min chat (he might get a coffee if I'm feeling generous)

Shag his brains out

Send him home (again with a coffee if I'm feeling extra nice).

I personally ( and this is the way we swing), don't want to shag them again, don't even particularly want to know their name, and don't want long drawn out conversations with them about politics or who's died this week in Eastenders.

We use single men, as much as they use women.

Therefore, for us, what they look like is as far as I go with making a decision on whether to meet.

Odd maybe, but we have a huge amount of friends, and we don't need any more.

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By *yloned_tgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Rugby area

May I ask a question please?

I wonder how you feel about this "type of single man"?

I certainly would`nt dream of sending a friend request,without a previous message.But I wonder if I might appeal to ladies and /or some men!

I know you cant answer for everyone,as we are all different,thank God!

ruth.x

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