FabSwingers.com forum: Interracial

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?"

I'd find that an uncomfortable term personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not something i would say

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Does have a 1950's sound to it.

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By *ames GentlyMan
over a year ago

cannock

I feel the comment is unnecessary and offensive I feel the author wanted to provoke a response. It's not funny it's offensive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?"

What if a black woman gets sex from a white guy? Have you got a name for that as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What dreadful turn of phrase.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

What if a black woman gets sex from a white guy? Have you got a name for that as well "

'Expected Norm'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god......

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

From what I have read on the internet, that word is sometimes used by people who are interested in interracial cuckolding. I am curious to learn if that word is used more generally.

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

What if a black woman gets sex from a white guy? Have you got a name for that as well "

Tippexed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I've seen it on lots of guys profiles

I avoid men who use terms like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From what I have read on the internet, that word is sometimes used by people who are interested in interracial cuckolding. I am curious to learn if that word is used more generally."

I think you'll find it's more acceptable in the interracial cuckolding scene, but even then i wouldn't use it.

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

it,s used often on another site i want to be blacked or the first time my wife got blacked

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

To me personally, no it isn't acceptable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?"

Wtf , You are joking right ?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

The OP does post some unusual threads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U takin the piss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

What if a black woman gets sex from a white guy? Have you got a name for that as well

Tippexed

Well then I have been tippexed over and over again

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

*As Mrs Doyle*

"Are you being a little bit racist now, OP?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats actually grossly offensive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

In the interracial cuckolding scene, it seems acceptable to utilize that particular word.

However, from reading the responses on this thread, I infer that a small number of people consider that word to be controversial.

Personally, I don't understand why some people consider that word to be controversial? What is wrong with it?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"In the interracial cuckolding scene, it seems acceptable to utilize that particular word.

However, from reading the responses on this thread, I infer that a small number of people consider that word to be controversial.

Personally, I don't understand why some people consider that word to be controversial? What is wrong with it?"

If you need to ask, there's no point in explaining, tbh

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In the interracial cuckolding scene, it seems acceptable to utilize that particular word.

However, from reading the responses on this thread, I infer that a small number of people consider that word to be controversial.

Personally, I don't understand why some people consider that word to be controversial? What is wrong with it?

If you need to ask, there's no point in explaining, tbh"

If you don't want to explain it, then there is no point in you continuing to comment on this thread.

I did not invite you to come here. Considering you dislike this thread, I suggest that you invest you time commenting on another thread. Also, I do not value your opinion anyway. Therefore, there is no point in telling me what you think because I do not want to read it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The OP does post some unusual threads. "

What do you consider to be unusual about this thread? I don't understand?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In the interracial cuckolding scene, it seems acceptable to utilize that particular word.

However, from reading the responses on this thread, I infer that a small number of people consider that word to be controversial.

Personally, I don't understand why some people consider that word to be controversial? What is wrong with it?"

Controversial because it's singling out someone by their skin colour. In my opinion at least. It's an old fashioned concept anyway.

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By *ornyharry39Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Would love a black lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In the interracial cuckolding scene, it seems acceptable to utilize that particular word.

However, from reading the responses on this thread, I infer that a small number of people consider that word to be controversial.

Personally, I don't understand why some people consider that word to be controversial? What is wrong with it?

If you need to ask, there's no point in explaining, tbh

If you don't want to explain it, then there is no point in you continuing to comment on this thread.

If you didn't want to hear others' point of view then why post in a PUBLIC forum?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In the interracial cuckolding scene, it seems acceptable to utilize that particular word.

However, from reading the responses on this thread, I infer that a small number of people consider that word to be controversial.

Personally, I don't understand why some people consider that word to be controversial? What is wrong with it?

Controversial because it's singling out someone by their skin colour. In my opinion at least. It's an old fashioned concept anyway."

I have had the opportunity to peruse many profiles on fabs. It is not uncommon for people to express their preference regarding ethnicity. Technically, they are 'singling' people out based on skin colour. Am I correct to infer that you consider these profiles to be controversial?

Marriage is an old fashioned concept but people still do it. If it is perceived as being old, does that mean it is wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In the interracial cuckolding scene, it seems acceptable to utilize that particular word.

However, from reading the responses on this thread, I infer that a small number of people consider that word to be controversial.

Personally, I don't understand why some people consider that word to be controversial? What is wrong with it?

Controversial because it's singling out someone by their skin colour. In my opinion at least. It's an old fashioned concept anyway.

Marriage is an old fashioned concept but people still do it. If it is perceived as being old, does that mean it is wrong?"

To your first point - no. It's personal preference. But on those profiles, how many people say that they wish to be "blacked up?"

And yes, marriage is an old fashioned concept. But - outside of homophobia related to gay marriage - how many people get offended by it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?"

If she had a threesome with a black guy and a white guy would you call her a 'zebra'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Controversial because it's singling out someone by their skin colour. In my opinion at least. It's an old fashioned concept anyway."

Yes, this.

It also plays on the perceived 'exoticism' and 'otherness' of people of colour. This isn't a good thing, because it reinforces certain stereotypes which - amongst other things - filter down to young people and make them believe that they have to present themselves a certain way. (Black men are always aggressive, asian women are always subservient, etc).

It just makes me think that people are a bit behind the times, and unlikely to be someone I have much in common with.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I've seen it on lots of guys profiles

I avoid men who use terms like that"

It's a term that some think sounds good... Bet it turns off more people than it turns on

Me personally... It's a term I detest

It's another example of how language is important in expressing preference

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Just watch the last 10 mins of this...

http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/p02qs82x/frankie-boyles-election-autopsy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

I'd find that an uncomfortable term personally."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

If she had a threesome with a black guy and a white guy would you call her a 'zebra'?

Lucky,I'd say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen it on lots of guys profiles

I avoid men who use terms like that

It's a term that some think sounds good... Bet it turns off more people than it turns on

Me personally... It's a term I detest

It's another example of how language is important in expressing preference

Welcome back _abio

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is a term even necessary ???!!!! if she had sex an Asian guy would you refer to her as being P*&?ied

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

What if a black woman gets sex from a white guy? Have you got a name for that as well

Tippexed

Ha ha - whitewashed?!

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"In the interracial cuckolding scene, it seems acceptable to utilize that particular word.

However, from reading the responses on this thread, I infer that a small number of people consider that word to be controversial.

Personally, I don't understand why some people consider that word to be controversial? What is wrong with it?

If you need to ask, there's no point in explaining, tbh"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

If she had a threesome with a black guy and a white guy would you call her a 'zebra'?

I know it's a serious thread but

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?"

Personally I don't find it acceptable, no.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

Not cool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

If she had a threesome with a black guy and a white guy would you call her a 'zebra'?

I know it's a serious thread but

It was supposed to be ironically humorous. I find the term laughable, hence the mockery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?"

How bloody ridiculous!!!!

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"From what I have read on the internet, that word is sometimes used by people who are interested in interracial cuckolding. I am curious to learn if that word is used more generally."

a simple browse through relevant profiles would have assuaged your curiosity perhaps..

however probably not as much 'fun' for you maybe..

just for the record today i have been wet..

flaming June and all that..

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"In the interracial cuckolding scene, it seems acceptable to utilize that particular word.

However, from reading the responses on this thread, I infer that a small number of people consider that word to be controversial.

Personally, I don't understand why some people consider that word to be controversial? What is wrong with it?

If you need to ask, there's no point in explaining, tbh

If you don't want to explain it, then there is no point in you continuing to comment on this thread.

You won't value you my opinion either, on past form. It's offensive. Just as white people "blacking up" is offensive. I have never heard the term and it smacks of fetishising sex with a black person, just for their colour. Some people do this and some black people are complicit with it.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

If she had a threesome with a black guy and a white guy would you call her a 'zebra'?

I know it's a serious thread but

It was supposed to be ironically humorous. I find the term laughable, hence the mockery."

I know sometimes people can get a little overly sensitive about race related issues but it's probably best to avoid, even in jest, remarks that may be taken badly.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

If she had a threesome with a black guy and a white guy would you call her a 'zebra'?

I know it's a serious thread but

I'm a zebra. Who knew?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?"

I've never heard anyone I know use this term.

It sounds racist to me.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

If she had a threesome with a black guy and a white guy would you call her a 'zebra'?

I know it's a serious thread but

It was supposed to be ironically humorous. I find the term laughable, hence the mockery.

I know sometimes people can get a little overly sensitive about race related issues but it's probably best to avoid, even in jest, remarks that may be taken badly."

Overly sensitive is one of those terms that make me overly sensitive. My reason for this is it diminishes the real racism some of us still experience every day. We have reason to be sensitive.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"In the interracial cuckolding scene, it seems acceptable to utilize that particular word.

However, from reading the responses on this thread, I infer that a small number of people consider that word to be controversial.

Personally, I don't understand why some people consider that word to be controversial? What is wrong with it?

If you need to ask, there's no point in explaining, tbh

If you don't want to explain it, then there is no point in you continuing to comment on this thread.

You invited everyone onto this thread just by starting it. You also specifically asked people for their opinion of the term. That's what people are giving you and for the most part it seems like they don't like it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have no time and will never have time for racists, I have always ignored them but as i have got older i am starting to think is that the right approach

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

If she had a threesome with a black guy and a white guy would you call her a 'zebra'?

I know it's a serious thread but

It was supposed to be ironically humorous. I find the term laughable, hence the mockery.

I know sometimes people can get a little overly sensitive about race related issues but it's probably best to avoid, even in jest, remarks that may be taken badly.

Overly sensitive is one of those terms that make me overly sensitive. My reason for this is it diminishes the real racism some of us still experience every day. We have reason to be sensitive.

I can't walk in your shoes so I don't always know but if the term offends or upsets than I am genuinely sorry and won't use it again.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

If she had a threesome with a black guy and a white guy would you call her a 'zebra'?

I know it's a serious thread but

It was supposed to be ironically humorous. I find the term laughable, hence the mockery.

I know sometimes people can get a little overly sensitive about race related issues but it's probably best to avoid, even in jest, remarks that may be taken badly.

Overly sensitive is one of those terms that make me overly sensitive. My reason for this is it diminishes the real racism some of us still experience every day. We have reason to be sensitive.

I can't walk in your shoes so I don't always know but if the term offends or upsets than I am genuinely sorry and won't use it again."

Thanks. It's very close to the oft used "pulled the race card" without going the full "I'm not racist but...".

I understand people don't get why I am so particular about language but we use language to convey our thoughts, feelings and ideas. As this thread shows.

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By *huramMan
over a year ago

London

If there weren't women who had a fetish for sex with a black man, I'd still be a virgin.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"If there weren't women who had a fetish for sex with a black man, I'd still be a virgin.

Might they not just enjoy men, regardless of their colour?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Even the term 'interracial' is misleading - we're all the same race.

Human.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In the interracial cuckolding scene, it seems acceptable to utilize that particular word.

However, from reading the responses on this thread, I infer that a small number of people consider that word to be controversial.

Personally, I don't understand why some people consider that word to be controversial? What is wrong with it?"

We think you will find that it isn't just a small number of people that consider that word to be controversial.

Just curious, but is there any link between this thread and you hiding your profile?

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

If she had a threesome with a black guy and a white guy would you call her a 'zebra'?

I know it's a serious thread but

It was supposed to be ironically humorous. I find the term laughable, hence the mockery.

I know sometimes people can get a little overly sensitive about race related issues but it's probably best to avoid, even in jest, remarks that may be taken badly.

Overly sensitive is one of those terms that make me overly sensitive. My reason for this is it diminishes the real racism some of us still experience every day. We have reason to be sensitive.

I can't walk in your shoes so I don't always know but if the term offends or upsets than I am genuinely sorry and won't use it again.

Thanks. It's very close to the oft used "pulled the race card" without going the full "I'm not racist but...".

I understand people don't get why I am so particular about language but we use language to convey our thoughts, feelings and ideas. As this thread shows.

I do understand that it's important what language we use because it does, as you say, conveying our thoughts and feelings. Having re read what I originally wrote I think you have every right to point out to me that it was wrong. It was conveying a meaning other than the one I wanted to convey. I hope I don't make the same mistake again.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Just watch the last 10 mins of this...

http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/p02qs82x/frankie-boyles-election-autopsy"

Bump

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"If there weren't women who had a fetish for sex with a black man, I'd still be a virgin.

Not all women will see it as a fetish though, its just good interaction between people attracted to each other..

the term used by the OP is the issue, looking at it in the same light people dont say we had a meet and the lady was 'gingered' or 'asianed, chinked' etc..

apologies for using those terms..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Just watch the last 10 mins of this...

http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/p02qs82x/frankie-boyles-election-autopsy

Bump"

Give us a moment. It's taken me 10 minutes to work out the parental guidance instructions.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"Just watch the last 10 mins of this...

http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/p02qs82x/frankie-boyles-election-autopsy

Bump"

Oh alright then, I'll go take a look. Better be worth 10 mins of my life.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Just watch the last 10 mins of this...

http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/p02qs82x/frankie-boyles-election-autopsy

Bump

Oh alright then, I'll go take a look. Better be worth 10 mins of my life.

It is. Thanks for posting this as I hadn't seen it when it was on air.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Just watch the last 10 mins of this...

http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/p02qs82x/frankie-boyles-election-autopsy

Bump

Oh alright then, I'll go take a look. Better be worth 10 mins of my life.

Watch the whole thing - it's good - but the last 10 mins is devoted to 'Britain is a racist society' discuss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In the interracial cuckolding scene, it seems acceptable to utilize that particular word.

However, from reading the responses on this thread, I infer that a small number of people consider that word to be controversial.

Personally, I don't understand why some people consider that word to be controversial? What is wrong with it?

We think you will find that it isn't just a small number of people that consider that word to be controversial.

Just curious, but is there any link between this thread and you hiding your profile?"

Hiding his profile might be due to his lib dem post a few days ago.

Or any of the apparently argumentative, dare I say bigoted, one sided or deliberately provocative threads he starts.

Always good value though....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I frequently have sex with black men,if somebody said you've been blacked I would find it extremely offensive. Black men aren't a fetish or a little treat to myself,they are men and nothing more to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?"

No. It is offensive and antiquated. Far too Minstrel Show. As you well know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I motion the OP be black-balled.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"Just watch the last 10 mins of this...

http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/p02qs82x/frankie-boyles-election-autopsy

Bump

Oh alright then, I'll go take a look. Better be worth 10 mins of my life.

Watch the whole thing - it's good - but the last 10 mins is devoted to 'Britain is a racist society' discuss. "

Well that's 44 min 59 secs I'm never going to get back again

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Just watch the last 10 mins of this...

http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/p02qs82x/frankie-boyles-election-autopsy

Bump

Oh alright then, I'll go take a look. Better be worth 10 mins of my life.

Watch the whole thing - it's good - but the last 10 mins is devoted to 'Britain is a racist society' discuss.

Well that's 44 min 59 secs I'm never going to get back again"

I only directed you to watch the last 10 mins in regards of this thread.

Did u not enjoy Mr Boyle?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Just watch the last 10 mins of this...

http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/p02qs82x/frankie-boyles-election-autopsy

Bump

Oh alright then, I'll go take a look. Better be worth 10 mins of my life.

Watch the whole thing - it's good - but the last 10 mins is devoted to 'Britain is a racist society' discuss.

Well that's 44 min 59 secs I'm never going to get back again"

Do we ever get time back? I take it from the form of words that you didn't take anything useful from that discussion then? It reinforced the importance and value of the words we use around race, if nothing else.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I motion the OP be black-balled. "

Mentally, I have him purple-balled first.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"Just watch the last 10 mins of this...

http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/p02qs82x/frankie-boyles-election-autopsy

Bump

Oh alright then, I'll go take a look. Better be worth 10 mins of my life.

"
Watch the whole thing
" - it's good - but the last 10 mins is devoted to 'Britain is a racist society' discuss.

Well that's 44 min 59 secs I'm never going to get back again

I only directed you to watch the last 10 mins in regards of this thread.

Did u not enjoy Mr Boyle?"

I didn't say I didn't enjoy it but you did actually suggest the whole thing to.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"...the last 10 mins is devoted to 'Britain is a racist society' discuss. "

Whilst interesting, doesn't the saddest bit come at the end? "Ha, ha, ha, that's okay, we're a racist society then" and not even ashamed to admit it.

Mr ddc

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"Just watch the last 10 mins of this...

http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/p02qs82x/frankie-boyles-election-autopsy

Bump

Oh alright then, I'll go take a look. Better be worth 10 mins of my life.

Watch the whole thing - it's good - but the last 10 mins is devoted to 'Britain is a racist society' discuss.

Well that's 44 min 59 secs I'm never going to get back again

I did enjoy it and may even have learn something from it but currently just taking in the humour side of it.

Note to self: remember to put

and LOL on comments

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"...the last 10 mins is devoted to 'Britain is a racist society' discuss.

Whilst interesting, doesn't the saddest bit come at the end? "Ha, ha, ha, that's okay, we're a racist society then" and not even ashamed to admit it.

Mr ddc"

It's sad and it underlined the point being made exactly.

The clip from Australia with the twins made me smile and grimace at the same time: we have twins in a similar position and as they get older I wonder how different their life experiences are going to be just because they have different colours.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"...the last 10 mins is devoted to 'Britain is a racist society' discuss.

Whilst interesting, doesn't the saddest bit come at the end? "Ha, ha, ha, that's okay, we're a racist society then" and not even ashamed to admit it.

Mr ddc"

It was political satire, there maybe something to learn from it but I wouldn't change my political out look just based only on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a pretty popular adult firm that use that and I guess I'd never looked at the meaning any deeper than that. They don't do cuckolding, just normal interracial but in the context of the OP I would say it is grossly inappropriate and somewhat offensive to most.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"...the last 10 mins is devoted to 'Britain is a racist society' discuss.

Whilst interesting, doesn't the saddest bit come at the end? "Ha, ha, ha, that's okay, we're a racist society then" and not even ashamed to admit it.

Mr ddc

It was political satire, there maybe something to learn from it but I wouldn't change my political out look just based only on it."

I would wonder at anyone changing their political outlook based on one exposure to a comedy show. However, if it makes someone look further, take on the arguments and then find their views change then that's worth the 44 minutes.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I thought blacking was that stuff you put on old fashioned stoves. Am I showing my age?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"...the last 10 mins is devoted to 'Britain is a racist society' discuss.

Whilst interesting, doesn't the saddest bit come at the end? "Ha, ha, ha, that's okay, we're a racist society then" and not even ashamed to admit it.

Mr ddc"

Like the d*unk, admitting you have a problem is the first step to dealing with it.

I didn't think it particularly funny, just indicative.

I might be conflating the issue but see what shit people have to put up with in sunny Zummerset...

http://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2015/may/24/police-didnt-see-deen-as-victim-bristol-hate-crime?CMP=share_btn_fb#comments

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I thought blacking was that stuff you put on old fashioned stoves. Am I showing my age?

Yes you are, and just goes to prove the site shouldn't limit the age to 99.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I thought blacking was that stuff you put on old fashioned stoves. Am I showing my age?

Yes you are, and just goes to prove the site shouldn't limit the age to 99.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?"

I hope it is OK to ask this question OP.

Can you explain the whole concept of BBC from the perspective of a black person to a white Englishman?

Whilst I can (sort of) see the fantasy in the context of the American South, surely the English equivalent would be more a Lady Chatterley gardener or hunky stable-lad thing, à la Diet Coke ad. Is it just a false construct, fed by American porn, so you can get more 'action'?

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it acceptable for a woman who has sought out "black guys" purely because of the "black" to say that she herself has been blacked?

I know of one who does and sees it, somewhat, as a badge of honour. Is she right or wrong to do so?

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By *ocksalt69Man
over a year ago

cardiff

PENIS is PENIS....be it green,orange, light black,dark white even colourless!Jezzz

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Is it acceptable for a woman who has sought out "black guys" purely because of the "black" to say that she herself has been blacked?

I know of one who does and sees it, somewhat, as a badge of honour. Is she right or wrong to do so?"

I'd say wrong, for all the reasons I and others have given above.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"PENIS is PENIS....be it green,orange, light black,dark white even colourless!Jezzz

If it's green then it's not coming near me.

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By *erdita Von TeaseWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

"PENIS is PENIS....be it green,orange, light black,dark white even colourless!Jezzz

A green penis? Makes me think of kermit or Orville the duck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?"

If a woman I'd fornicated with used that terminology I'd ensure she'd know what 'blacked out' meant too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

If a woman I'd fornicated with used that terminology I'd ensure she'd know what 'blacked out' meant too

I infer from your hostile comment that you would attack a woman for using that word in your company. Moreover, you seem to be rather proud of what you would do.

People have the right to defend themselves when they are in physical danger. However, you have absolutely no right to attack someone because they said something that you disagree with.

I sincerely hope that every single woman and couple on fabs reads your comment because they deserve to know that you are a violent and dangerous man.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"PENIS is PENIS....be it green,orange, light black,dark white even colourless!Jezzz

A green penis? Makes me think of kermit or Orville the duck

Birds don't have a penis. (and that's not a joke)

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

If a woman I'd fornicated with used that terminology I'd ensure she'd know what 'blacked out' meant too

I think that might be going a little too far. I don't think threats of violence are really the way forward.

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By *erdita Von TeaseWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

"PENIS is PENIS....be it green,orange, light black,dark white even colourless!Jezzz

A green penis? Makes me think of kermit or Orville the duck

Birds don't have a penis. (and that's not a joke)"

Well fuck a duck ( or not in that case!)

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By *hocolate007Man
over a year ago

london

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

What if a black woman gets sex from a white guy? Have you got a name for that as well

Tippexed

Well then I have been tippexed over and over again

you are sexy as fuk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

If a woman I'd fornicated with used that terminology I'd ensure she'd know what 'blacked out' meant too

I infer from your hostile comment that you would attack a woman for using that word in your company. Moreover, you seem to be rather proud of what you would do.

People have the right to defend themselves when they are in physical danger. However, you have absolutely no right to attack someone because they said something that you disagree with.

I sincerely hope that every single woman and couple on fabs reads your comment because they deserve to know that you are a violent and dangerous man."

Your posts and responses just get better and better.

Infer from that what you like.

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By *hocolate007Man
over a year ago

london

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?"

lol i see what you trying to do here op, tryin to provoke an uprising is it ? Lol Get over yourself, this is a swingers site, you might get lucky someday hopefully

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"What dreadful turn of phrase. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

lol i see what you trying to do here op, tryin to provoke an uprising is it ? Lol Get over yourself, this is a swingers site, you might get lucky someday hopefully"

Burn!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

If a woman I'd fornicated with used that terminology I'd ensure she'd know what 'blacked out' meant too

I infer from your hostile comment that you would attack a woman for using that word in your company. Moreover, you seem to be rather proud of what you would do.

People have the right to defend themselves when they are in physical danger. However, you have absolutely no right to attack someone because they said something that you disagree with.

I sincerely hope that every single woman and couple on fabs reads your comment because they deserve to know that you are a violent and dangerous man."

Shall we try to switch the attention to someone else?

Good try OP.

Shame you started such a distasteful and offensive thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

If a woman I'd fornicated with used that terminology I'd ensure she'd know what 'blacked out' meant too

I infer from your hostile comment that you would attack a woman for using that word in your company. Moreover, you seem to be rather proud of what you would do.

People have the right to defend themselves when they are in physical danger. However, you have absolutely no right to attack someone because they said something that you disagree with.

I sincerely hope that every single woman and couple on fabs reads your comment because they deserve to know that you are a violent and dangerous man."

Lol... I do have to laugh, it was such a tongue and cheek comment. I know what I am and that's definitely not violent! Closest I've come to hitting a woman is slapping her with my cock!

pardon me if I offended anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

If a woman I'd fornicated with used that terminology I'd ensure she'd know what 'blacked out' meant too

I infer from your hostile comment that you would attack a woman for using that word in your company. Moreover, you seem to be rather proud of what you would do.

People have the right to defend themselves when they are in physical danger. However, you have absolutely no right to attack someone because they said something that you disagree with.

I sincerely hope that every single woman and couple on fabs reads your comment because they deserve to know that you are a violent and dangerous man.

Lol... I do have to laugh, it was such a tongue and cheek comment. I know what I am and that's definitely not violent! Closest I've come to hitting a woman is slapping her with my cock!

pardon me if I offended anyone

I think only one person didn't see it as tongue in cheek.

Or should that be cock in cheek?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never heard of it, never seen the phrase on here and would never use it

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

If a woman I'd fornicated with used that terminology I'd ensure she'd know what 'blacked out' meant too

I infer from your hostile comment that you would attack a woman for using that word in your company. Moreover, you seem to be rather proud of what you would do.

People have the right to defend themselves when they are in physical danger. However, you have absolutely no right to attack someone because they said something that you disagree with.

I sincerely hope that every single woman and couple on fabs reads your comment because they deserve to know that you are a violent and dangerous man.

Lol... I do have to laugh, it was such a tongue and cheek comment. I know what I am and that's definitely not violent! Closest I've come to hitting a woman is slapping her with my cock!

pardon me if I offended anyone

I think only one person didn't see it as tongue in cheek.

Or should that be cock in cheek?

TBH I wasn't sure myself. It wouldn't be the first time someone has said something along those lines in these forums but meant it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

If a woman I'd fornicated with used that terminology I'd ensure she'd know what 'blacked out' meant too

I infer from your hostile comment that you would attack a woman for using that word in your company. Moreover, you seem to be rather proud of what you would do.

People have the right to defend themselves when they are in physical danger. However, you have absolutely no right to attack someone because they said something that you disagree with.

I sincerely hope that every single woman and couple on fabs reads your comment because they deserve to know that you are a violent and dangerous man.

Lol... I do have to laugh, it was such a tongue and cheek comment. I know what I am and that's definitely not violent! Closest I've come to hitting a woman is slapping her with my cock!

pardon me if I offended anyone

I think only one person didn't see it as tongue in cheek.

Or should that be cock in cheek?

TBH I wasn't sure myself. It wouldn't be the first time someone has said something along those lines in these forums but meant it."

It's pretty obvious, judging by this guy's other posts, he's an amiable man.

So really nothing to be unsure about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

What if a black woman gets sex from a white guy? Have you got a name for that as well "

CREAMED

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where's kool boss gone, I miss that guy.

I bet he's over on the other thread having another go at Nick Clegg......

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Where's kool boss gone, I miss that guy.

I bet he's over on the other thread having another go at Nick Clegg......"

Having a pee? Having sex? Gone to bed? Lurking and waiting for someone to post something he can appear to condone and be superior about?

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"Where's kool boss gone"

Don't know, but I'm wondering if I should apologise for asking my question as it's been quietly ignored, and I'm worried I may have offended him and/or others.

That's the thing I miss most about being a kid: simply being able to ask questions purely out of curiosity, without fear of causing offence.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Where's kool boss gone

Don't know, but I'm wondering if I should apologise for asking my question as it's been quietly ignored, and I'm worried I may have offended him and/or others.

That's the thing I miss most about being a kid: simply being able to ask questions purely out of curiosity, without fear of causing offence.

Was your question about being a black male? Is the OP black?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Where's kool boss gone, I miss that guy.

I bet he's over on the other thread having another go at Nick Clegg......

Having a pee? Having sex? Gone to bed? Lurking and waiting for someone to post something he can appear to condone and be superior about?

Did you see his Nick Clegg thread?

I was compulsive viewing....

He's a funny lad ain't he.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Where's kool boss gone

Don't know, but I'm wondering if I should apologise for asking my question as it's been quietly ignored, and I'm worried I may have offended him and/or others.

That's the thing I miss most about being a kid: simply being able to ask questions purely out of curiosity, without fear of causing offence.

"
.

Mr DDC....I presumed you were dyslexic for months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Where's kool boss gone

Don't know, but I'm wondering if I should apologise for asking my question as it's been quietly ignored, and I'm worried I may have offended him and/or others.

That's the thing I miss most about being a kid: simply being able to ask questions purely out of curiosity, without fear of causing offence.

Was your question about being a black male? Is the OP black?"

His avatar is black. Oh, hold on. .........

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Where's kool boss gone, I miss that guy.

I bet he's over on the other thread having another go at Nick Clegg......

Having a pee? Having sex? Gone to bed? Lurking and waiting for someone to post something he can appear to condone and be superior about?

Did you see his Nick Clegg thread?

I was compulsive viewing....

He's a funny lad ain't he.

No I read one political thread the OP started and then avoided all others. The race element of the title suckered me in on this one.

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By *huramMan
over a year ago

London

"I hope it is OK to ask this question OP.

Can you explain the whole concept of BBC from the perspective of a black person to a white Englishman?

Mr ddc

It's a difficult question to answer.

Why is one person attracted to another?

Do some see black men as forbidden fruit?

Do some see black men as having more masculinity and a larger penis?

Do some see black men as dangerous?

Do some see black men simply as nothing more than a man?

Are interracial porn, Hip-Hop, RnB and Reggae cultures influencing factors?

I don't know.

Hell I've spoken to openly racist people who think that women sleep with foreign men, foreign includes British born blacks and Asians, because a foreigner is an invader and therefore viewed as more powerful than the indigenous men who have allowed them to invade.

(This honestly is a theory I have heard)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont think its right but you hear the phrase in porn interracial porn. But no definitely not a word i use or like

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"I hope it is OK to ask this question OP.

Can you explain the whole concept of BBC from the perspective of a black person to a white Englishman?

Mr ddc

It's a difficult question to answer.

Why is one person attracted to another?

Do some see black men as forbidden fruit?

Do some see black men as having more masculinity and a larger penis?

Do some see black men as dangerous?

Do some see black men simply as nothing more than a man?

Are interracial porn, Hip-Hop, RnB and Reggae cultures influencing factors?

I don't know.

(This honestly is a theory I have heard)"

Thanks Thurum

But while I can understand playing up the massive member line, isn't much of the rest incredibly self-demeaning, in effect playing up to negative stereotypes just so the OP can get his leg over?

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Ah! A take on the very popular and relatively new US porn company 'blacked.com'. Don't like it but the porn industry especially US interracial porn is very different to everyday stuffs let alone this place for a multitude of reasons.

Him.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"Ah! A take on the very popular and relatively new US porn company 'blacked.com'.."

Oooh, interesting.

The OP has a little history plugging US interracial porn sites...

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By *huramMan
over a year ago

London

"Thanks Thurum

But while I can understand playing up the massive member line, isn't much of the rest incredibly self-demeaning, in effect playing up to negative stereotypes just so the OP can get his leg over?"

OP was just trolling for fun.

People shouldn't bite so easily.

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?"

I think 'blessed' is a more appropriate term? Good evening, sorry to have been away .... but work, work and work .... now it's time for bed so I can get up for work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Where's kool boss gone, I miss that guy.

I bet he's over on the other thread having another go at Nick Clegg......

Having a pee? Having sex? Gone to bed? Lurking and waiting for someone to post something he can appear to condone and be superior about?

Did you see his Nick Clegg thread?

I was compulsive viewing....

He's a funny lad ain't he.

No I read one political thread the OP started and then avoided all others. The race element of the title suckered me in on this one.

I think it was titled the rise and fall of Nick Clegg. Highly recommended. It was just brilliant in its extremes.

Funny what draws us into threads.

Intriguing bunch aren't we....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah! A take on the very popular and relatively new US porn company 'blacked.com'..

Oooh, interesting.

The OP has a little history plugging US interracial porn sites..."

I thought it was him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Controversial because it's singling out someone by their skin colour. In my opinion at least. It's an old fashioned concept anyway.

Yes, this.

It just makes me think that people are a bit behind the times, and unlikely to be someone I have much in common with."

People of colour maybe objectified on their ethnicity and the stereotypes associated with it. What is the problem with that?

Some men objectify blonde women with big boobs because of the popular stereotypes associated with them. Are these men behind the times and would you prefer to dissociate yourself from them because of it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why is a term even necessary ???!!!! if she had sex an Asian guy would you refer to her as being P*&?ied

Perhaps some people are aroused by interracial sex. Maybe they choose to utilize that word because they regard it as a convenient way to talk about their sexual preference with other people who have the same preference.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In the interracial cuckolding scene, it seems acceptable to utilize that particular word.

However, from reading the responses on this thread, I infer that a small number of people consider that word to be controversial.

Personally, I don't understand why some people consider that word to be controversial? What is wrong with it?

If you need to ask, there's no point in explaining, tbh

If you don't want to explain it, then there is no point in you continuing to comment on this thread.

I completely disagree with you.

Why do you think you are in a position of authority to dictate what people can and cannot consider erotic?

You cannot seriously expect those who have a fetish for ethnicity to change their preference just because it does not conform to your sanctimonious moral rules.

The reality is that it is non of your concern if other people choose to engage in fetishism that is based largely on ethnicity.

You have no authority here.

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

(This honestly is a theory I have heard)

Thanks Thurum

But while I can understand playing up the massive member line, isn't much of the rest incredibly self-demeaning, in effect playing up to negative stereotypes just so the OP can get his leg over?"

On a different site I (Risky) occasionally visit, it is quite common to hear about someone being blacked. However it is also quite common to get comments by people with a user name along the the lines of "whiteboi" to go on about how all white women should be bred by the superior black man...

Many of the black guys on there ignore such comments but others encourage such talk...

I am pretty sure that many of the people on that type of site are just fantasists...

As someone pointed out this appears to be a predominantly American thing...

Personally it's not something we would say but think if it's used in the right context, at the right time with the right people, it's not an issue. Clearly it should be kept for those times and more specialist websites...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Popcorn, popcorn, get your popcorn here.........

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over a year ago

"Popcorn, popcorn, get your popcorn here........."
is it sweet? pulls up chair

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Would love to join in with the debate, but luckily I have work to go to. Having lived in the USA, been married to an African American and had three children with him, perhaps I am a little more qualified than many. I think to a certain extent for the black community in the US it is about taking the offensive language back, owning it, especially when for many racial prejudice is still the reality to an entirely different extent and nature than here in the UK. My marriage suffered because of racial tension, even in liberal Los Angeles, never mind the southern states, it is endemic there .... hence the reaction. See y'all at seven pm when I am back from work .....

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"Ah! A take on the very popular and relatively new US porn company 'blacked.com'..

Oooh, interesting.

The OP has a little history plugging US interracial porn sites..."

Noted!

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?"

Never the sort of term I would use, and frankly hearing it would put me off a couple.

I believe that race should be viewed as nothing more than a skin colour, in the same way that eyes are brown, blue, green, whatever. We can all be partial to certain characteristics....I love darker skins (from olive to almost jet black and I also have a thing for pale green or hazel eyes). What race the person is who is blessed with these features is irrelevant....I can also love flawless, porcelain white skin btw..

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"Controversial because it's singling out someone by their skin colour. In my opinion at least. It's an old fashioned concept anyway.

Yes, this.

It just makes me think that people are a bit behind the times, and unlikely to be someone I have much in common with.

People of colour maybe objectified on their ethnicity and the stereotypes associated with it. What is the problem with that?

Yes

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

Well this thread obviously caused a stir which is obviously what was intended

I personally thought it was a pathetic question and uncalled for but I've heard worse and not everyone on this site is polite and respectful

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"In the interracial cuckolding scene, it seems acceptable to utilize that particular word.

However, from reading the responses on this thread, I infer that a small number of people consider that word to be controversial.

Personally, I don't understand why some people consider that word to be controversial? What is wrong with it?

If you need to ask, there's no point in explaining, tbh

If you don't want to explain it, then there is no point in you continuing to comment on this thread.

I completely disagree with you.

Why do you think you are in a position of authority to dictate what people can and cannot consider erotic?

You cannot seriously expect those who have a fetish for ethnicity to change their preference just because it does not conform to your sanctimonious moral rules.

The reality is that it is non of your concern if other people choose to engage in fetishism that is based largely on ethnicity.

You have no authority here."

I'm not claiming authority. I was clear you wouldn't want my opinion. Why are you claiming authority on what other people should think on this matter?

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Oops, wrong button, hang on a mo

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"You cannot seriously expect those who have a fetish for ethnicity to change their preference just because it does not conform to your sanctimonious moral rules."

Actually you'd be surprised what you can change by engaging in debate: drink-driving, smoking, women priests, various sexual acts (which I can't even name without a cushion for the naughty-step). Obviously sexism and racism still have a long way to go, but we have at least moved on from the 1970s.

I think the real problem here OP, is that in promoting a fetish for your own gain, you allow others to say that their own views are simply 'sauce for the gander', thereby, in effect, damaging the life-chances of all black children.

It is a free world, you can do what you like, but as always, you have to be aware of the consequences.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

You have no authority here."

Why am I now thinking of those robots in Robocop?

You have 10 seconds to comply....

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By *layer oneMan
over a year ago

mirfield

You have no authority here.

Why am I now thinking of those robots in Robocop?

You have 10 seconds to comply.... "
"am ocp,"

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By *hocolate007Man
over a year ago

london

"Controversial because it's singling out someone by their skin colour. In my opinion at least. It's an old fashioned concept anyway.

Yes, this.

It just makes me think that people are a bit behind the times, and unlikely to be someone I have much in common with.

People of colour maybe objectified on their ethnicity and the stereotypes associated with it. What is the problem with that?

lol i can see this little boy hasnt got anything better to do. Be honest son, why have you got an issue with bbc ? Did your gf or wife dump you for a black guy or something ?

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By *hocolate007Man
over a year ago

london

"Controversial because it's singling out someone by their skin colour. In my opinion at least. It's an old fashioned concept anyway.

Yes, this.

It just makes me think that people are a bit behind the times, and unlikely to be someone I have much in common with.

People of colour maybe objectified on their ethnicity and the stereotypes associated with it. What is the problem with that?

and by saying ' people of colour ' , are all human beings not coloured ? Or is there a certain race thats colourless ( eg air is colourless ) , apply logic and reasoning to your thinking and u wont sound lame . No human being is defined by a colour, plain simple fact is that we are all humans. You remind me of the last league of the racist bunch of the 40s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't make up my mind if the ops terminology is bad or not, but is it any worse than a girl or guy wanting a BBC or is that seen as a positive terminology therefore acceptable, just asking

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Controversial because it's singling out someone by their skin colour. In my opinion at least. It's an old fashioned concept anyway.

Yes, this.

It just makes me think that people are a bit behind the times, and unlikely to be someone I have much in common with.

People of colour maybe objectified on their ethnicity and the stereotypes associated with it. What is the problem with that?

lol i can see this little boy hasnt got anything better to do. Be honest son, why have you got an issue with bbc ? Did your gf or wife dump you for a black guy or something ?"

You do not know me. Therefore, I strongly recommend that you should STOP acting like you know my motivations for writing this thread.

I simply asked a question in the forum and there is nothing wrong with that. I have not broken any of the forum rules. I did not personally invite you to come on this thread and make a comment. If you dislike the thread, I recommend that you either compose one of your own or comment on another.

I have read the comments you have posted here and I regard you as a rather ignorant man who is deliberately trying to ruin the thread by posting mischievous comments. Your comments are about me as a person and not the question in the original post. I am the OP. However, I did not put MYSELF on a platform for people to debate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Controversial because it's singling out someone by their skin colour. In my opinion at least. It's an old fashioned concept anyway.

Yes, this.

It just makes me think that people are a bit behind the times, and unlikely to be someone I have much in common with.

People of colour maybe objectified on their ethnicity and the stereotypes associated with it. What is the problem with that?

lol i can see this little boy hasnt got anything better to do. Be honest son, why have you got an issue with bbc ? Did your gf or wife dump you for a black guy or something ?"

I also have blocked you. If you make another attempt to communicate with me in the forum, I will report you for breaking forum rules. Stay away from me and stay away form my threads because you are not welcome.

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By *hocolate007Man
over a year ago

london

"Controversial because it's singling out someone by their skin colour. In my opinion at least. It's an old fashioned concept anyway.

Yes, this.

It just makes me think that people are a bit behind the times, and unlikely to be someone I have much in common with.

People of colour maybe objectified on their ethnicity and the stereotypes associated with it. What is the problem with that?

lol i can see this little boy hasnt got anything better to do. Be honest son, why have you got an issue with bbc ? Did your gf or wife dump you for a black guy or something ?

You do not know me. Therefore, I strongly recommend that you should STOP acting like you know my motivations for writing this thread.

get the violins out cos the op is throwing a tantrum lol, son you put yourself on a platform to be ridiculed the minute you posted a thead that lacked common sense or logic. How would you feel if you were stereotyped as stupid for trying to defend a senseless irrelevant thread huh lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are all human beings. I do not/cannot understand or be part of anything that treats as different (whether superior or inferior) a fellow human being because of the colour of their skin....or their gender or sexuality.

In a supposed liberal and educated society there should be no place for discrimination yet there is, daily and so much behaviours gets swept under the carpet because people turn a blind eye and let things pass. Things get passed off as just how it is instead of being challenged.

I suspect that this thread was created to cause trouble and strife but if one person thinks about racism in a different way because of it and if it challenges people's prejudices then maybe it's worth it.

The original premise was discussing behaviour in a specific cuckold situation. Now tbh I don't understand the whole derogatory angle of cuckolding anymore than I understand racism. I am sure that in a very small percentage of the cuckolding scenarios, which are a small percentage of sexual interactions then maybe, just maybe all three parties will find that language acceptable.

I think there is a subtle difference between having a specific sexual preference (older/younger/BBC/pneumatic blonde) and being racist or sexist. The difference is how that manifests itself and the stereotyping involved. Only the people involved know the true meanings and intentions. We need to challenge ourselves as well as others.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"Controversial because it's singling out someone by their skin colour. In my opinion at least. It's an old fashioned concept anyway.

Yes, this.

It just makes me think that people are a bit behind the times, and unlikely to be someone I have much in common with.

People of colour maybe objectified on their ethnicity and the stereotypes associated with it. What is the problem with that?

lol i can see this little boy hasnt got anything better to do. Be honest son, why have you got an issue with bbc ? Did your gf or wife dump you for a black guy or something ?

I think you'll find that if you start a thread anyone can comment on them and that they are aloud to comment on your posts within the thread whether they are blocked or not. In reality the only thing they are not aloud to do is ask you why you blocked them.

If you don't want people to comment on your posts and threads don't start them and don't post to any. Beyond that you can not complain just because you don't like what they say.

I would suggest that, if someone makes remarks you are not happy with, you counter their argument and make your own point. Trying to tell people that they should not make their points because you never invited them onto the thread just makes you look a bit silly (Don't take that as a personal attack). And if you feel they have attacked you personally I would suggest you ignore it. People will judge for themselves on the value of any comments made. Just make your own point more clear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

@OP

Last time I checked posting a topic did not give you ownership of it or the right to say who used it and who doesn't.

You make a choice to post the thread and choose the topic. In your case these tend to be controversial topics as opposed to what someone had for breakfast. You reap what you sow. You sow discord and fan the flames and you wonder why people react? Really?

It may be funny and a bit of mischief for you but racism is a massive part of life in the world today and negatively affects people.

It is very difficult to differentiate between a person and their opinions. They are normally one in the same. So, yes, people will assume that from your posts, that you are a trouble stirrer. They may wonder if you are also racist.

If you feel misunderstood by everyone on here then maybe it's time to look at the common factor, which is you.

Oh and by the way I have spared you the effort of blocking me....I have beaten you to it.

Btw, I also expect that any sensible moderator will see your method of blocking someone then threatening them with reports if they respond on your threads for the artifice it clearly is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't make up my mind if the ops terminology is bad or not, but is it any worse than a girl or guy wanting a BBC or is that seen as a positive terminology therefore acceptable, just asking "

Is it his terminology or is he parroting what he has seen and asking if we thinks it's acceptable? I'm referring to his opening post.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Strolls off to add another exclusion clause to FORUM INSURANCE. Ruddy paperwork.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Strolls off to add another exclusion clause to FORUM INSURANCE. Ruddy paperwork.

I don't know how you keep up with the paperwork. So much of it.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Strolls off to add another exclusion clause to FORUM INSURANCE. Ruddy paperwork.

Did you not have a fire starter clause already.... Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?"

If a white guy says anything like that it's deemed offensive.... Yet a black guy can call anyone a nigge and that's seen as fine and dandy.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Controversial because it's singling out someone by their skin colour. In my opinion at least. It's an old fashioned concept anyway.

Yes, this.

It just makes me think that people are a bit behind the times, and unlikely to be someone I have much in common with.

People of colour maybe objectified on their ethnicity and the stereotypes associated with it. What is the problem with that?

lol i can see this little boy hasnt got anything better to do. Be honest son, why have you got an issue with bbc ? Did your gf or wife dump you for a black guy or something ?

Knits fingers across chest and purses lips...... "Someone's tired".

OP, as I'm sure you know very well, blocking someone doesn't stop them contributing to your thread.

Posting within the thread, unless specifically designed to contact you personally, is not the same as communicating with you. Report to the mods if you wish, I doubt they will be overly concerned.

Regrettably for you, telling people they aren't welcome on your threads or are not allowed to contribute won't make a blind bit of difference.

As another contributor has said, if you don't like the responses, don't post deliberately argumentative and contentious threads and don't throw your toys out and have a hissy fit when someone doesn't share your views.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

If a white guy says anything like that it's deemed offensive.... Yet a black guy can call anyone a nigge and that's seen as fine and dandy....... "

That is another of those stereotypes.... I bet you will find as many people that tolerate that word as abhor it

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Controversial because it's singling out someone by their skin colour. In my opinion at least. It's an old fashioned concept anyway.

Yes, this.

It just makes me think that people are a bit behind the times, and unlikely to be someone I have much in common with.

People of colour maybe objectified on their ethnicity and the stereotypes associated with it. What is the problem with that?

lol i can see this little boy hasnt got anything better to do. Be honest son, why have you got an issue with bbc ? Did your gf or wife dump you for a black guy or something ?

You assert ownership of the thread?

I thought you could own the OP and your opinion but once it's out there on a public forum it's open to everyone.

I'm blocked by loads of people but that doesn't stop them posting on threads I have started. As long as they are not trying to get around a block it's a public space.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

OP - what did you expect to occur when you posted this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Controversial because it's singling out someone by their skin colour. In my opinion at least. It's an old fashioned concept anyway.

Yes, this.

It also plays on the perceived 'exoticism' and 'otherness' to of people of colour. This isn't a good thing, because it reinforces certain stereotypes which - amongst other things - filter down to young people and make them believe that they have to present themselves a certain way. (Black men are always aggressive, asian women are always subservient, etc).

It just makes me think that people are a bit behind the times, and unlikely to be someone I have much in common with.

People of colour maybe objectified on their ethnicity and the stereotypes associated with it. What is the problem with that?

lol i can see this little boy hasnt got anything better to do. Be honest son, why have you got an issue with bbc ? Did your gf or wife dump you for a black guy or something ?

Knits fingers across chest and purses lips...... "Someone's tired".

OP, as I'm sure you know very well, blocking someone doesn't stop them contributing to your thread.

Posting within the thread, unless specifically designed to contact you personally, is not the same as communicating with you. Report to the mods if you wish, I doubt they will be overly concerned.

Regrettably for you, telling people they aren't welcome on your threads or are not allowed to contribute won't make a blind bit of difference.

Jesus Christ u wanna grow up, he made a statement, u didn't like it, get over it, it's supposed to be fun on here, but good god this thread is longer than the hobbit book.....

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?

If a white guy says anything like that it's deemed offensive.... Yet a black guy can call anyone a nigge and that's seen as fine and dandy....... "

Who says? I don't think it's fine and dandy and I know other black people who agree with me.

I understand the reclaiming of language movement but I argue that you cannot use it and expect others not to. It's either reclaimed and redefined or it remains offensive and left to be used by those wanting to cause offence.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I regard myself as being a rather intelligent person who can articulate himself rather well. I have a brain and I consider various things in life. I don't create threads on what I had for breakfast because that is too trivial for me.

I really enjoy politics and I like discussing it. I have my own opinions and I will always be resolute in defending them because far too many people are willing to prostitute themselves for popularity.

I do not own the thread. However, I do not see the value in someone investing their time commenting on a thread that they dislike. Surely, it is more productive to invest your time on a thread that you enjoy! I have never invited anyone to come and comment on my thread. Therefore, people should not blame me because they dislike the content. It is not my responsibility to write threads that people will enjoy. If I dislike a thread, I either comment on another or create my own.

Like it or not, in the interracial scene, that controversial word is used. Some of the people who have posted here have confirmed that. Irrespective if it is convenient with some people here, that is a fact.

In my original post, I just asked if other people thought it was acceptable to use that word. That neither makes me racist nor prejudice. I was just asking a question because it interests me. I was looking forward to discussing it. however, discussing something requires a good vocabulary and the ability to be able to articulate yourself well. Unfortunately, not everyone in the forum can do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did not put MYSELF on a platform for people to debate."

Your initial post says;

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?"

You have posed a question and invited a response.

I would respectfully suggest that you have indeed put YOURSELF on a platform for people to debate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did not put MYSELF on a platform for people to debate.

Your initial post says;

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?"

Will be glad when thread reaches maximum messages and closed, few more to go....keep going....

You have posed a question and invited a response.

I would respectfully suggest that you have indeed put YOURSELF on a platform for people to debate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Strolls off to add another exclusion clause to FORUM INSURANCE. Ruddy paperwork.

Did you not have a fire starter clause already.... Lol"

I think this may come under serial arson

And also the clause covering copy cat fires in the same vicinity

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I did not put MYSELF on a platform for people to debate.

Your initial post says;

"If a woman has had interracial sex with a black guy, is it acceptable to say that she has been 'blacked'?"

You have posed a question and invited a response.

I would respectfully suggest that you have indeed put YOURSELF on a platform for people to debate.

I disagree.

The question was not about me. therefore, I did not put myself up for debate.

I put the 'word' up for debate and only that.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I regard myself as being a rather intelligent person who can articulate himself rather well. I have a brain and I consider various things in life. I don't create threads on what I had for breakfast because that is too trivial for me.

People have commented on whether they think it is acceptable or not. They have stated why they find it unacceptable. How is that not engaging in debate?

I am sure those YOU think don't have a good vocabulary and the ability to articulate themselves care deeply that that is your dismissal of them and their opinion.

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over a year ago

"Controversial because it's singling out someone by their skin colour. In my opinion at least. It's an old fashioned concept anyway.

Yes, this.

It just makes me think that people are a bit behind the times, and unlikely to be someone I have much in common with.

People of colour maybe objectified on their ethnicity and the stereotypes associated with it. What is the problem with that?

lol i can see this little boy hasnt got anything better to do. Be honest son, why have you got an issue with bbc ? Did your gf or wife dump you for a black guy or something ?

Knits fingers across chest and purses lips...... "Someone's tired".

OP, as I'm sure you know very well, blocking someone doesn't stop them contributing to your thread.

Posting within the thread, unless specifically designed to contact you personally, is not the same as communicating with you. Report to the mods if you wish, I doubt they will be overly concerned.

Regrettably for you, telling people they aren't welcome on your threads or are not allowed to contribute won't make a blind bit of difference.

Jesus Christ u wanna grow up, he made a statement, u didn't like it, get over it, it's supposed to be fun on here, but good god this thread is longer than the hobbit book....."

Interesting, so by your rational;

I made a statement, you didn't like it. So maybe you should get over it?

See how this works?

Where's the glass houses emoticon thingy whatsit.......

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

People have commented on whether they think it is acceptable or not. They have stated why they find it unacceptable. How is that not engaging in debate?

I am sure those YOU think don't have a good vocabulary and the ability to articulate themselves care deeply that that is your dismissal of them and their opinion.

Unfortunately, some people have choose to debate me rather than the original post. The language that was directed towards me was unacceptable and sometimes rather abusive. How can that be considered a high quality debate. to the best of my knowledge, debating does not involve personally attacking someone because you disagree with that they are saying.

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over a year ago

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

People have commented on whether they think it is acceptable or not. They have stated why they find it unacceptable. How is that not engaging in debate?

I am sure those YOU think don't have a good vocabulary and the ability to articulate themselves care deeply that that is your dismissal of them and their opinion.

I would counter that your comments on individuals have been rude and dismissive. Tit for tat on abuse does not make for a good debate but you telling people to get out of your thread is not debating and puts you at the centre of the discussion, rather than your question.

Your question was answered and when the answer did not concur with your view on the use of the language some of us find offensive and racist you told those people to stay out of your thread. That's not a debate about the subject.

Practice what you preach and you might get the debate you want.

As my old vicar used to say, point one finger at someone else and you point three at yourself. It's something I remember every time I point a finger, here or elsewhere. I am happy to own what the other three fingers pointing back at me might say. Are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" "I regard myself as being a rather intelligent person who can articulate himself rather well. I have a brain and I consider various things in life."

That is nice to know. That doesn't make you a better person than any of us or any different.

" "I really enjoy politics and I like discussing it. I have my own opinions and I will always be resolute in defending them"."

Very good. So you should. Surely though, as a self proclaimed intellect who enjoys politics you understand the concepts of free speech, differences of opinion, being able to cogently argue and support your points. Oh and the intrinsic value of free speech.

" "far too many people are willing to prostitute themselves for popularity."."

So are you actually saying that those of us who have responded are lying about being offended or are all closet racists really?

I doubt it. I think that more worrying are people who cause trouble for troubles sake and seek attention in harmful ways, harmful not just to them but others too!

" "I do not own the thread. However, I do not see the value in someone investing their time commenting on a thread that they dislike. Surely, it is more productive to invest your time on a thread that you enjoy!"."

Yes, if you had posted about toast or car colour. Casual racism and casual assumptions are there to be challenged and discussed.

I would never leave a casual racist comment to pass unanswered or unchallenged in real life, why should I here?

" "I have never invited anyone to come and comment on my thread"."

Really? I do believe that asking a question counts as inviting comment.

" "Like it or not, in the interracial scene, "

Wtf! Where did aliens come into this?

" "In my original post, I just asked if other people thought it was acceptable to use that word. That neither makes me racist nor prejudice. I was just asking a question because it interests me. I was looking forward to discussing it. however, discussing something requires a good vocabulary and the ability to be able to articulate yourself."

None of your responses have been particularly articulate or classifiable as debate!

There is no need to be condescending towards others who use language differently to you. The content of the argument is clear, even if it is not couched in the terms you prefer.

You may or may not claim to believe what you posted but seeking answers only from those who agree implies that you want it to be supported.

I suggest that if you are such a proponent on free and open debate about controversial subjects pop down to speakers corner and get brave when there isn't a screen to hide behind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As my old man used to say "if it smells like shit it probably is shit "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How can that be considered a high quality debate"

Now thats a damn good question, how indeed when you yourself said;

"Also, I do not value your opinion anyway. Therefore, there is no point in telling me what you think because I do not want to read it."

Not much room for high quality debate there.....

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

It's a shame this will get to 175 and you will invariably get away scot free without this being challenged... Because it is total pish

The only people you have decided to converse with in this thread are those who you have deemed to agree with you... Or those you have deemed to have abused you to deflect attention

Every one else you decided to ignore

Your style on here and in the controversial post you put up remind me of the first five words of the song "fire starter" by the prodigy and I think you get a massive rise from rubbing people off the wrong way

P.s no need to worry about blocking me... I did that a long time ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

People have commented on whether they think it is acceptable or not. They have stated why they find it unacceptable. How is that not engaging in debate?

I am sure those YOU think don't have a good vocabulary and the ability to articulate themselves care deeply that that is your dismissal of them and their opinion.

Practice what you preach and you might get the debate you want.

I am confident that I have not directed any abusive or nasty language towards anyone. I have a good vocabulary and I utilise it.

I advised one particular user to go away because he was directing silly and nasty insults towards me. I have happy to debate with people who have a different view to me. However, I will refuse to debate and associate myself with silly nasty people. I am entitled to defend myself.

You have a different view to mine and I am here debating it with you in a respectful way.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

People have commented on whether they think it is acceptable or not. They have stated why they find it unacceptable. How is that not engaging in debate?

I am sure those YOU think don't have a good vocabulary and the ability to articulate themselves care deeply that that is your dismissal of them and their opinion.

I don't doubt your intelligence and, when you write to the point, your arguments are quite well articulated. However you spend far too much effort arguing with people about what they are saying about you and not on the subject.

You should not be surprised that if you post on a controversial subject some will assume that you actually support the controversial side of the issue you are putting forward. If you don't you really should make that clear.

You also should not be surprised, when something is controversial, that many will wonder why you are asking.

However, I would stress again, if you stick to the subject and make your point and mostly disregard any personal comments directed at you, you may find people will listen to what you have to say.

As it stands currently I'm really not sure whether you are saying it's ok to use such a term; sometimes it's Ok to use such a term in some contexts and situations; just asking if everyone else thinks it's Ok to use such a term and, if so, when. You've lost the point of what you were trying to say in an argument about whether others should post on your thread.

The one thing I am getting from you is you don't like it when people don't agree with you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't doubt your intelligence and, when you write to the point, your arguments are quite well articulated. However you spend far too much effort arguing with people about what they are saying about you and not on the subject.

You also should not be surprised, when something is controversial, that many will wonder why you are asking.

However, I would stress again, if you stick to the subject and make your point and mostly disregard any personal comments directed at you, you may find people will listen to what you have to say.

The one thing I am getting from you is you don't like it when people don't agree with you."

Providing I am not breaking any of the forum rules, I am allowed to compose a thread on whatever I want. Before I compose a thread, I do not consider what other people regard as interesting or controversial because I do not have to. Why should I have to think about what other people may consider to be controversial or not? Other people do not consult me on what they write so why should I have to consult or pander to other people? It is not my responsibility to write threads that people will like. People are capable of writing their own threads.

I did not create this thread as a platform to inform people of my views. I created it to discover other peoples views. Unfortunately, some sinister people utilised the thread to attack me because they disagreed with the content of it.

People are entitled to disagree with me. I do not consider this a problem providing they are willing to have a sensible debate and debate the subject rather than me. Personally, I believe I have the right to tell people to leave me alone if they are directing personal insults at me.

Thank you for your kind words. I will take your advice into consideration.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

But surly the whole point of creating a thread is to discuss it with other posters so it makes sense that you do that in a way that does not just annoy people. I'm not telling what you have to do, you are free to do what you like. I'm just suggesting that a different approach may give a better result.

Well you got other people views and you should not be surprised that they have also taken a view on you to. Arguing with then that their view on you is incorrect is just a waste of time. Don't go there. Better to show them they are wrong about you by what you say and do.

If you really want to have a reasonable debate then stay reasonable yourself. Don't engage in the personal argument even if others are. As I said before, most people will be able to judge for themselves who is reasonable and who is right (they are not always the same) but as soon as you start to argue personally with people you no longer look reasonable and start to loose the argument.

Thank you for your kind words. I will take your advice into consideration

No problem. I might even show you how to always get the last word one day if you don't already know. LOL

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

" I might even show you how to always get the last word one day if you don't already know. LOL"

Surely only the mods can ALWAYS have the last word (if they choose)?

Besides, it's not really a fair debate if he can't, and you're better than that.

Mr ddc

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