FabSwingers.com forum: No

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When you get the why question asked after you say no thanks

i ask the same thing now

"do you ask someone in the pub or bar you asked out and said no for a reason"

they come back and usually say "no i don't"

and i reply you have the answer

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I know rejection stings and we all get it. some block and move on but i prefer only block the people

who are abusive and numptys

but read a profile see if you meet the criterias if messaging could save a rejection or a deleted mail

i wish some people actually reads profiles

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

I find reading the profile does save a lot of trouble all round. I also find a polite thank you when someone says no (even without a reason) is the best way to deal with it.

I've never understood the abusive message thing that seems to go on a lot on the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regard it as a cry for constructive feedback. Some folk just don't have that self-analytical mind. Enlighten and be brutally sincere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If some people can not take rejection then should not be on this site

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Regard it as a cry for constructive feedback. Some folk just don't have that self-analytical mind. Enlighten and be brutally sincere. "

how when they have nothing on the profile or photos!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I normally just say because you arent my type. If they still ask why I just ignore it. Unless im in a bad mood..

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

I think both these gents have the right ideas and I bet both do well with the ladies in here.l.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our profile is hidden now because all it said was not meeting, please don't message us for meets. Mrs is poorly. Only here for forums. Status updates also said not meeting just chatting to friends.

Low and behold the 20+ messages a day asking for meets and saying things like "wow, love the profile" lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't even reply now. some guys message me back a week later saying remember our chat last week? and all i did was reject them and not really have a conversation.

I get what you're saying though, don't understand why guys want to be told they're too *whatever* and you personally don't want them (coz your taste is different to anyone elses as well).

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I usually delete if they ask and then block if there is any more contact.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't even reply now. some guys message me back a week later saying remember our chat last week? and all i did was reject them and not really have a conversation.

I get what you're saying though, don't understand why guys want to be told they're too *whatever* and you personally don't want them (coz your taste is different to anyone elses as well)."

i use private notes copy and past the date and time

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"I don't even reply now. some guys message me back a week later saying remember our chat last week? and all i did was reject them and not really have a conversation.

I get what you're saying though, don't understand why guys want to be told they're too *whatever* and you personally don't want them (coz your taste is different to anyone elses as well).

i use private notes copy and past the date and time "

I love finding a profile note ive written

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By *ythenshawefredMan
over a year ago

stockport

"I find reading the profile does save a lot of trouble all round. I also find a polite thank you when someone says no (even without a reason) is the best way to deal with it.

I've never understood the abusive message thing that seems to go on a lot on the site."

I try similar usually 'ok no worries, good luck x' which has on occasion actually sparked more conversation not always towards a meet but a bit of a social chat doesn't hurt anybody

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I normally just say because you arent my type. If they still ask why I just ignore it. Unless im in a bad mood..

I'm.the same

But after my no thank you good luck.. I get something like how fatty as you can be so fussy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm.the same

But after my no thank you good luck.. I get something like how fatty as you can be so fussy

yet i wonder if they would say that in a bar or club after being rejected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm.the same

But after my no thank you good luck.. I get something like how fatty as you can be so fussy

yet i wonder if they would say that in a bar or club after being rejected "

I always think that, apply the same on here to a club, man; would you like a drink? woman; No thanks, man; well f*ck you, didn't want to buy a fat cow like you a drink anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm.the same

But after my no thank you good luck.. I get something like how fatty as you can be so fussy

yet i wonder if they would say that in a bar or club after being rejected

I always think that, apply the same on here to a club, man; would you like a drink? woman; No thanks, man; well f*ck you, didn't want to buy a fat cow like you a drink anyway

i think throwing what i ask in my reply stumps them, as on here i never get abuse just "fair point"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't even reply now. some guys message me back a week later saying remember our chat last week? and all i did was reject them and not really have a conversation.

I get what you're saying though, don't understand why guys want to be told they're too *whatever* and you personally don't want them (coz your taste is different to anyone elses as well).

i use private notes copy and past the date and time "

I can't be bothered...

and there is also my honest reply in why i don't hardly message back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm.the same

But after my no thank you good luck.. I get something like how fatty as you can be so fussy

yet i wonder if they would say that in a bar or club after being rejected "

One guy do it something similar in club for me after when he was rejected.

I waited a few min, I ve bought Bloody Mary, and I gave him saying you wish to try how sweet and spicy that fatty is,enjoy.

His face..Priceless Because he was with few other friends

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm.the same

But after my no thank you good luck.. I get something like how fatty as you can be so fussy

yet i wonder if they would say that in a bar or club after being rejected

One guy do it something similar in club for me after when he was rejected.

I waited a few min, I ve bought Bloody Mary, and I gave him saying you wish to try how sweet and spicy that fatty is,enjoy.

His face..Priceless Because he was with few other friends

my oneliners are classic too

i was called fat once and i wont pull

i answered

"but didnt you find me attractive and asked me out and yes im fat but your attitude will always be usly"

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By *onyneMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

A no is a no...Never any point in dragging out any 'why' questions...

Responding to all messages is less of an issue for single men who don't get [well, presumably!] much unsolicited mail, but doubtless a pain in the arse for those that do.

I don't write to many people at all, but this is how I would presume things...

A reply with invitation to chat - Chat!

A no thanks reply - A brief reply back from me saying thanks and best wishes

No reply - Means not interested - if that is not right and I do get a later reply, then fair enough...

That's about it I would imagine. For me anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm.the same

But after my no thank you good luck.. I get something like how fatty as you can be so fussy

yet i wonder if they would say that in a bar or club after being rejected

One guy do it something similar in club for me after when he was rejected.

I waited a few min, I ve bought Bloody Mary, and I gave him saying you wish to try how sweet and spicy that fatty is,enjoy.

His face..Priceless Because he was with few other friends

my oneliners are classic too

i was called fat once and i wont pull

i answered

"but didnt you find me attractive and asked me out and yes im fat but your attitude will always be usly""

I advise abusive guys to get an adult to help pick the dummy up they just clearly spat out and redirect them to the ceebeebies website as it would be more appropriate for silly little boys as this is a site for adults!

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

I don't think I have ever been asked why I won't meet them after saying no.

Getting 'oh come on bae/hun/darlin *add your irritant of choice, I'm good we will have fun' on the other hand. Get loads of those til I block them!

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